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I think so many people believe this because 1. they don't many (or any at all) black trans men in real life and 2. they assume, since black cis women get transvestigated so much, that not looking like a "normal, proper" cis woman means looking like a "normal, proper" cis man, but that simply isnt true. there are ways people can physically look that dont fit into society's idea of normal cis men or normal cis women, and nonwhite people are much more likely to look that way than white people. the western ideals of the "normal cis man" and "normal cis woman" are based entirely around whiteness, with the specific purpose of excluding BIPOC in order to dehumanize them. no, quite a lot of brown people dont look particularly cis, because cisness is based in whiteness.

“black trans men have it easier because they pass so easily as men” so I’m gonna need you to look up some statistics really fucking quickly right now

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Trans man: Finds himself and transitions proudly after a childhood of having his identity controlled and forced down, with the help of abusive misgynostic and transphobic systems

These vile fucking idiots:

Calling it sexism and transmisogyny:

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"transmascs can't say tranny" "transmascs can't say faggot" just say you think transmascs are all confused cishet girls who dont belong in the queer community. next youre gonna say we cant say "queer" anymore either

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"theyfab" specifically attacks someone's gender and sex, not their beliefs. it quite literally originated in transmedicalism. fix your heart or die, I don't care

that being said...theyfab is a funny word. yes it is an insult and not a slur, because the people saying it are using it about a behavior that consistently happens from people who act as if their ASAB is ontologically pure/incapable of harm and it is almost always white tme afab people 😭 of course you can argue that cis white men use that defense too but we already have plenty of insults that aren't slurs for them, like pig/cissy/whatever and there's no push on recognizing "dickhead" as a slur

the people using theyfab as an insult/descriptor aren't saying it misogynistically or "haha you were born a WOMAN" they're pointing out the fact they consistently fall back on misgendering themselves and/or being "one of the girls" to get out of trouble or deflect blame, refusing to admit they get privilege on any axis despite being white/"upper middle class"/perceived as cis women or men, and gatekeep "afab issues" from trans women and transfems despite the fact that they go through a lot of the same things even without HRT.

thus is why theyfab is being used as an insult — it's a word created at the crux of a very frustrating issue and the people who would fall under that classification are angry about being called out for that behavior. a saying i like to remember when talking about group-specific discourse is "a hit dog will holler"; embarrassment and anger at problem behavior being pointed out especially in any way that isn't kind and hand-holdy is the worst thing ever, a hate crime, a slur, bigotry, etc.

that brings me to a question i personally have: if theyfab is such a slur, why is it not reclamation-worthy? because the people calling themselves fagdykes and "weird trannies" who are getting mad about being called theyfabs are a circle. you'd think they'd be more upset about being called words used in precedence to assault and murder and not a word some frustrated transfems came up with to describe some real weenie behavior

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also I think it’s funny that I’m a “trans identified female” and/or “confused girl” to TERFs until I say something they really hate. then I’m suddenly a man.

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The whole concept of "trans misogyny exemption" feels like a CIA psyop. Why are we pitting t-girls and t-boys against each other. We should all be kissing and killing billionaires. I don't fuck with you if you feel otherwise.

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i rly rly hate how this site chased so much of its poc userbase away. it feels like i'm hanging out in an ethnostate sometimes

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Can we please stop asking perisex people what's intersexist or not?

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This is EXACTLY why we beg y’all to boycott HP, especially the reboot. Anywho, gonna take advantage of the tag inevitably trending by listing pro-LGBTQ+ groups to support and invest:

Mermaids

The Trevor Project

InterACT

The National Black Justice Coalition

Lavender Phoenix

Black AIDS Institute

GLAAD

National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center

Lambda Legal

Queer the Land

Act Up NY

Human Rights Campaign

FOLX HELP

Feel free to add more charitable organizations below! Oh and one more thing: DO NOT HARASS THE KIDS CAST ON THAT SHOW, or you’re equally as bad as Jowling-Knowling-Rowling.

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the nonbinary character requirement guide

if you're nonbinary and have all of these traits you are still cool imo. i just wish there was more nonbinary variety out there in the public consciousness

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you resisted the forcefemmification beams for too long

Nope. Completely incorrect and wrong.

This is a decision that I made for myself. I made this choice because it's who I want to be. Not because someone else wanted me to for their own pleasure.

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tbh if there's one thing the whole egg discourse has taught me its that tumblr is playing one big game of telephone from hell. half of the people are arguing "its weird to tell someone you already know theyre a girl and that their own thoughts on the matter are irrelevant" and the other half is arguing "its literally fine to tell your friend they can explore their gender if they want" and for some reason they think theyre disagreeing with eachother? yall those two statements can easily coexist

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"transmascs can't say tranny" "transmascs can't say faggot" just say you think transmascs are all confused cishet girls who dont belong in the queer community. next youre gonna say we cant say "queer" anymore either

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this is radfem shit and we do not engage in it in this tag

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as a transmasc i owe my life to intersex people. i find that even when it feels like the entire community has turned against us intersex people have always had our back and for that i would go to war for them

Hell yeah brother 💛💜 🤝 💙💗🤍

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I'm gonna say a thing, if it pisses you off, that's a you problem

The way the lgbtq community treats trans men is no different than how cismen treat ciswomen

Our problems? Dismissed as "not a issue"

Our contributions? Ignored or taken by another group

Our deaths? That's what we get for "being men" (replace men with women and it's the same shit I had to listen to as a teen girl)

Fuck at least when I was still identifying as a girl, both the lgbtq and feminist communities cared about what happened to me. Lovely to see how surface level that care actually is /sar