fae-realm-palace

[fae-realm-palace]

Omg it's sage

SOCIALIZER: an alter who’s job is to handle/help with socialization.

coined by: beetle

tags: @radiomogai

[fae-realm-palace]

Honestly I don't give a fuck what kind of system/plural we are

I don't give a fuck about if we use I or we when referring to the entire system

Just genuinely I'm done caring and worrying about what labels fit right it's fucking draining

There's more than one entities inside this singular body that's all I care about

I'm tired of worrying about what the right or wrong way of being a system is or what terms are correct

I'm tired of always worrying about labels I'm just going to use my own terms and whatever ones are ones others make that feel right to use

Fuck labels and terms considered "the correct ones you should use" I'll mix and match however I want it's exhausting trying to be a system in a way that makes others happy

Who's fronting? No fucking idea half the time, the other half a majority of the system is co-coning cause the only part of our headspace that is constantly stable is the fronting room

How can I tell there are more alters that haven't been discovered yet? A hunch and the fact that we still don't feel complete hell if I want to I'll make them exist

How come alters I haven't discovered yet can front? Just cause they refuse to let us know who they are doesn't mean they don't exist

[fae-realm-palace]

How is one syspunk and anti-endo? It makes no sense.

You can not be a syspunk, or punk in general, if you are anti-endo. Endogenics are not ableist, and not all endos have no trauma. Endogenic just means they have not formed their system due to trauma, or solely due to it.

Traumaendo, Willogenic, Endogenic, Tulpa, etc.? All valid. Systems are systems.

Plural is an endogenic coined term! Plural is not always a CDD.

[fae-realm-palace]

Detangled new alters, will update intro post soon after figuring them out a bit more

New alters:

Milo(me)

Pixel

Atlas

Going to try and discover a few more if we can we've felt like we've been in a brain fog for months with a headache they just wouldn't go away, after having been detangled things are a lot more clear for us and our head hurts less

[fae-realm-palace]

”I want to know your headcount” “I want to know who’s fronting” so do I, get in line

[fae-realm-palace]

terfs would lose their minds if they were exposed to 2000s-2010s "a girl can do anything a boy can do, including beating them at sports" messaging like why are you all acting like nobody has ever said this and that it's radical to think that women aren't inherently worse at things. open your mind. read some feminist theory. touch some grass. the most basic banal middle-class white woman feminism of the 2010s looks fucking radical and visionary compared to the misogynistic victimization complex y'all are peddling

[fae-realm-palace]

I am getting very sick of people trying to police my system.

“You can’t have endogenic parts ENDOS aren’t real!” Yes, they are, they’ve been around for a very long time. Which you would have known that if you did just the tiniest bit of research instead of being so close minded and thinking that we’re trying to take your space away from you.

“You shouldn’t let Littles post online!” Actually, that isn’t your call to make. We let our Littles post online because we take precautionary measures to make sure that they are safe. It’s not your decision whether to let our Littles online.

“You’re not a real system! Systems don’t form Fictives from such recent sources of media.” Well, that is completely wrong. They conform from whatever media they grasp on to. For us it’s important to let them form with whatever they feel comfortable with as long as it isn’t harming us. You can’t control what they form off of.

“There is absolutely no way you have that many Headmates! How the hell do you even function?” Well, different people have different experiences just because someone has 400+ parts doesn’t make them any less of a system. 

What I’m trying to say is it’s not your responsibility/job to police other systems experiences. At the end of the day we all have our own lives, and should probably focus on making sure we ourselves are OK rather than judge and invalidate other people’s lived experiences.

[fae-realm-palace]

as a traumagenic system we actually love bah blogs because they help us flesh out our less defined headmates & fragments. it's really cool! thank you all bah blogs!

[fae-realm-palace]

So this is our take on system terminology. We saw a post the other day saying that the asker was fine with endogenic systems, but thought that endogenics shouldn't use "system" or "plural" and should instead create their own terms. Let me say this nice and loud for the people who need somebody to shout through a bullhorn before they pay attention:

PLURAL IS AN ENDOGENIC TERM. SYSTEM IS A COMMUNITY TERM. THE MEDICAL TERM IS MULTIPLE.

[Pt Plural is an endogenic term. System is a community term. The medical term is multiple.]

You can really tell when people have put in zero effort to learn about the history of some of the terminology they use. "System" has always been a community term, going back to at least the 1990s. It has always been used by both traumagenic and endogenic systems. "Plural" was coined in the late 1990s or early 2000s as an alternative to "natural multiple." The thinking was that referring to what are now called endogenic systems as "natural multiple" systems not only tied them too closely to medical terminology, but also implied that there was something unnatural about what are now called traumagenic systems. The term "plural" was coined by natural multiples in order to distance non-disordered systems from medical terminology.

Once more: Plural was coined by natural multiples (endogenic systems) to distance themselves from the more medical terminology "multiple systems."

If you're out here saying endogenic systems should coin their own terms to separate them from the medicalized system community, THEY ALREADY DID! [pt They already did!] If you want a separate term for disordered systems, your term is "multiple."

Please for the love of everything do some research! This is why the endogenic community gets pissed about the terminology debates. The answers to your assertions are right there. Take five seconds to make sure your argument isn't entirely ignorant of the history of the system community as a whole. I'm so sick of this and I'm not even 100% endogenic. You have the entire internet at your fingertips. Use it.

I will add citations and links later today or tomorrow. I just got off work and am very tired and have a bunch of housework to do. This has just been nagging at me in the back of my head for like three days now. If anyone else would like to add sources, be my guest.

[fae-realm-palace]

Hot take, endogenic plurality isn't that hard to understand once you stop trying to be the "perfect plural".

What I mean by this is, once you stop holding yourself to the highest of standards and comparing yourself to other plurals in regards to trauma, who seems more "real", and who experiences plurality the "right way", it's a lot easier to accept and learn about endogenic plurality's existence.

We used to be this way. We used the be anti-endogenic and actually had a pretty significant following (around 700) on Tiktok at one point but we realized it was destroying our self-esteem and making us extremely anxious every time we posted something that didn't align perfectly with our mutuals and followers idea of what plurality is. Once we took a step back, we learned more organically about plurality, joined endo-safe spaces, and met loads of wonderful people and learned a lot just by asking questions and lurking lol. It was a huge weight off our back and we don't feel nervous posting anymore because we know the people we truly care about will be loving and understanding c:

It's not that hard to just be understanding.

Live and let live <3

-Bug (🐛)

[fae-realm-palace]

"endos make a mockery of REAL systems" "ace people make a mockery of REAL queer people" "nonbinary people make a mockery of REAL trans people" "self-diagnosed people make a mockery of REAL disabled people" "bisexuals make a mockery of REAL gay people" "non-dysphoric trans people make a mockery of REAL trans people" "trans lesbians make a mockery of REAL lesbians"

arent you tired? arent you tired? arent you tired?

[fae-realm-palace]

A doodle one of us made as a visual aid to help compare with another system how it feels like it works

[fae-realm-palace]

reblog if endos are real systems because a system is your brain's weird way of coping and trauma isnt the only thing that could require that much hardcore coping.

ofc you dont even have to interact this is just a lil informative post

[fae-realm-palace]

Does anyone know of any good games for littles? We're trying to find some so they have something to play when they front

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These are really cool we might make our own version of these

Updated "terms we use" list:

Stardust - fragment

Protostar - partially formed

Star(mate) - fully formed/average headmate

Starship - body

Starverse - system

Cockpit - front

Cabins - headspace

Sector - layer

Occupation - role

Head pilot - host

Piloting - fronting

Constellation - subsystem

AGAIN, YOU ARE FREE TO GET INSPO OR STEAL THESE!

[fae-realm-palace]

how many times does it have to be said?

plural is an explicitly pro endo term, coined by endogenic systems to be a word explicitly for endogenics and pro endos. do not use the word plural or the plural tags if you are anti endo. use multiple instead.

still cannot believe you have the audacity to say we invade your spaces and steal your terminology, and then turn around and use our own word, made because you were whining about us filling your space.

i repeat: if you are anti endo, do not use the word plural or the plural tags.

[fae-realm-palace]

Reconnecting with an old friend we haven't talked to in a long time Teresa is ecstatic cause the friend used to be her bffl when she was the host

Little bit worried that reconnecting might make Tanner more active since he was formed because of things that happened in the friendship