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i saw a sub/dub comparison of this scene on youtube years ago and it has refused to leave my mind ever since so i'm recreating it here since i can't find the original video anymore

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It's pride month, so I feel like I should get a free pass to complain about this.

Being an aspec, nonbinary, feminine transmasc who at one point in time identified as mspec, I feel like some people don't take exclusionism as seriously as they should. Specifically, I'm referring to the attitude that some people have where they dismiss exclusionism as only ever being immature, trivial discourse on all sides.

"I don't give a damn if [identity] should be allowed under the queer umbrella because I'm an adult who has bills to pay/there are bigger, more important issues to contend with and we need all of the people we can get to fight for our cause/I don't care who's more or less oppressed because we should all be fighting that oppression together."

Okay, that's nice for you, but I don't think those of us who are the ones being excluded really have the luxury of not giving a damn. We get accused of being fakers and traitors at every turn. We have to constantly justify our presence within the community. How are we going to be able to stand up against oppression if people within our own community refuse to stand beside us?

I'm especially frustrated by the "I don't care who's more oppressed" attitude, because it has never been about that. We’re not the ones making it a competition — the gatekeepers are. They’re the ones insisting we don’t belong. And somehow we get framed as the ones trying to center ourselves or play oppression olympics. All we want is for people to acknowledge the exclusion and erasure we’re facing for what it is — real, harmful, and ongoing. But nobody will. They'll insist that it's actually somehow beneficial to us, or that we're making it up or imagining it, or that maybe it is oppression but not the kind we think it is (because obviously we aren't smart enough to tell), and does it even really count if the bigot was mistaken about our identity and just picked whatever slur they thought would hurt the most?

I think it's particularly frustrating because I know that a good portion of these "I don't care" people are more on the side of the excluded than the gatekeepers, but choosing not to say or do anything about it just feels kind of insulting. Like, I guess I appreciate that they're refusing to engage with the gatekeepers and their bullshit, but they're also refusing to acknowledge our struggles, and they're even sometimes inadvertently giving credence to the gatekeepers' incorrect assumptions about us. Like, by saying you "don't care who's more oppressed," you're giving credence to the idea that we truly think we're more oppressed! That's not what we think! See above!

Like, is it often immature, petty, trivial discourse? Yes, it is. The gatekeepers have been successfully turned against members of their own community, and if you follow the thread back far enough, they were often converted to bigotry through homophobes and transphobes who want to divide and conquer the queer community by proxy. They're 4channers in woke hats. But I also sort of feel like the "I don't care" crowd almost blames us, the excluded, for how we're being treated? They're kind of giving the "just ignore the bullies and they'll leave you alone" advice to us that guardians give children which we all know is bullshit that doesn't work at all. This shit doesn't ever stop until enough people say "you're being a fucking asswipe" to the instigators.

So, when we see this:

can we just do our fucking part and nip it in the bud, please? Please, for fuck's sake, please?

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this might be one of the worst things anyones ever said to me

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age play is not pedophilic in nature. cosplaying a kids show character and making adult content isn’t pedophilic in nature. being attracted to an adult doing these things is NOT pedophilic in nature. being with an adult who “looks young” is NOT pedophilic in nature.

it is ONLY pedophilic if a real child is involved, fucking stop calling people predators over what they do with other adults

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The newest additions to my collection! ⚡ Bonita Femur 🦋 (came in the box, so mint condition), Scare-adise Island Frankie 🏝️ and a lunch box set! 🍱 I at first intended to use the lunch box and water bottle, especially when I was going to get a job and have regular lunch breaks - but then I started to worry about microplastics so that plan is on hold for now 💀 But!! I'm eek-scited with possible new additions - black & white Skull Shores Frankie and a book bag from G1 era (I will use the bag for sleepovers and grocery shopping, and maybe for work when I get a job) 🖤

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DO NOT SUPPORT SALVATION ARMY 

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it has been a week since the FDA issued a notice about sacred tattoo ink tattoo inks contaminated with sepsis-causing bacteria, and I went and looked to see if they have actually been recalled by the company that manufacturers them.

instead I found an example of why you should not rely on these news summaries, and why that "may contain inaccuracies" is the most important thing there.

the FDA does not issue recalls for tattoo inks, even if they can REALLY hurt you. tattoo ink recalls are voluntary. the tattoo inks are still on the shelves. up to half of tattoo inks sold in the united states are contaminated with microbes. and most studied inks lie about their ingredients. because nobody is fucking stopping them.

although it has correct the part about being advised to avoid these inks, "the FDA has issued a recall" implies that the FDA is taking them off the shelves. the FDA has done, at most, ask really nicely for retailers and artists to stop carrying them. it is completely legal for tattoo artists to continue using them.

this was not a recall.

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The Onion continues to never miss

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the classic Finnish mix of extreme dutifulness and “we will make actual conversation after a silent interaction trial period of 6 weeks, thank you” can be really funny sometimes. told my coworker that I’d like to save the coffee grounds the workplace generated and take them home “for my mushrooms and worms” and she was just like “okei” and dutifully saved every single grounds-filled filter for weeks and weeks. about five weeks into this whole thing, after I thank her for the coffee grounds and tell her my worms must love them because they’re breeding very enthusiastically, she finally asks “so your worms… do they have a purpose or are they just… worms”. like sure I’ll save you all these coffee grounds every single time I drink coffee, 3+ times a day, but god forbid I inquire about your specific worm habits before propriety allows it. you could be eating them for breakfast for all I know but that’s your business

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Day #11 of our very own 25 Days of Stimmas! ⋆⁺₊❅⋆🎄₊❆⋆₊ Prompt: Favorite toy Answer: Monster High ☽ - ✰ - ☾ ☽ - ✰ - ☾ ☽ - ✰ - ☾

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hate people wanting to shut down conversations about transandrophobia say that trans men and mascs "measurably" experience less violence than trans women and fems

one of the core aspects of transandrophobia is erasure. the rates of violence we face cannot be "measurably" different than anything, because the rates of violence we face are deliberately not measured and erased whenever posssible

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You know, rivers catching on fire used to be a regular occurrence.