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your first mistake is treating transmasc / transfem like inherent opposites. your second mistake is treating man / woman in general like opposites but you all are not ready for that convo.

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You should draw that girl with missing teeth. You should draw that girl with a crooked nose. You should draw that girl with a double chin. You should draw that girl with fat on her body. You should draw that girl with a buzz cut. You should draw that girl with large eyebrows. You should draw that girl with a lazy eye. You should draw that girl with large nostrils. You should draw that girl smiling with gums. You should draw that girl with body hair. It's enrichment for her, treat her right

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yeah you're "punk" but are you normal about deformed people?

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oh uh, *girlboyifies your favourite male character* yeah, he's a woman now. but don't worry, she's also still a man. but she IS a woman, but he's ALSO a man

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MEN IN SKIRTS

The gender envy!

The attractiveness!

The ahdjsnavsusbskajbdnakznx!

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I love you, gnc monogender cis men

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being cisgender is just not an option for a lot of intersex people.

i was never given the option to be cisgender anything. every part of me that deviated from what a girl or boy "should" look like spelled trouble. because i dressed and acted very masculine, before puberty, people called me a bulldyke, a butch lesbian, a "girl pretending to be a boy" and "not a real boy". i was never "feminine enough" to be a woman.

after puberty hit, i started growing a beard, and my shoulders and chest got broader and more square. my body became more "masculine", so suddenly, i was labeled as a "boy pretending to be a girl" and "not a real girl". after I started testosterone, i haven't stopped being called a faggot, a fairy, a sissy or a pansy because i'm not "masculine enough" to be a man despite being a bear.

there's no winning in the eyes of a society that's so focused on binary this-or-that choices. i had no hand in the matter, this all happened way before I started testosterone HRT. in fact, even when i was placed on estrogen HRT to try to "correct" my intersex traits and symptoms, i still wasn't gendered or seen as a cis woman. i was still the same tranny bulldyke. no matter what i do, my intersex and transsexual traits will always be weaponized against me; whatever sounds the "worst" at the time, or whatever invalidates what i want.

in order to liberate trans people from this struggle, we must also liberate intersex people, for our struggles are virtually one in the same. our fight for body and identity autonomy is shared. it will always be impossible for me and other intersex people to be viewed as cis anything while white American society remains focused on pointing out the "differences" between men and women, instead of embracing the similarities we all can and do have.

intersex and trans people owe it to one another to disassemble these dangerous attitudes and shut them down when and where possible. it's not only trans people who face this struggle- intersex people deal with never being able to pass or be clocked as their actual gender from birth a lot of the time. people MUST understand that women and men come in all types of bodies, shapes and sexes, whether or not they chose to look like that. and whether or not they chose doesn't matter, they deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, which means being gendered correctly despite how they look or sound.

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as someone who detransitioned and now identifies as gnc i will never ever understand other detrans people who hate the trans community. like they loved you. they loved you when no one else would. i am forever grateful for the guys and dolls in my life personally. i will love them and fight alongside them until i die

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Tomboy - A girl (or nby) who behaves in a typically masculine/boyish manner

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Janegirl - A boy (or nby) who behaves in a typically feminine/girlish manner

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I genuinely do not believe there’s a more terminally online take than “feminine women are more oppressed than gnc women”

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Growing out my hair not in a traditionally feminine gender-conforming way but in a baggy clothes don’t give a fuck skater boy kinda way

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Where the new gender-neutral bathroom at 👀👀👀

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I’m so sorry to all the gnc people whom I have awkwardly stared at in public. I was simply admiring how cool and handsome and beautiful you were, but was too shy to tell you. I’m so sorry

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Terfs really think that demanding protection for gnc cis girls while also calling for murder of trans men,,, Does something.

Like the line between gnc cis and trans is not a straight clean cut line, and you will very rarely if ever be able to tell exactly where a visibly queer/gnc person falls at a first glance. There's so much gray area.

There's cis women who use he/him and cis men who call themselves "girl" names. There's self ID-ing cis drag queens who use different pronouns based on their persona and butches who call themselves daddy and sir. There's people who you'd think are clearly nonbinary because of how they present and describe their gender but who just don't ID that way. There's every shade of grey imaginable between cis gnc and trans.

So where do they draw the line? What is acceptable gender nonconformity and what makes you an evil trans infiltrator? Is it changing your pronouns? Your name? Self ID-ing as trans? Dressing """too""" gnc? Visibly not passing as your AGAB anymore? Is it not adhering to the suffocating white supremacist beauty standard? Being fat or disabled or black?

Do cis women who look like trans men or nonbinary people at a first glance deserve all the physical, emotional, and sometimes even sexual violence that they throw at trans people? What about cis men who look like trans women or nonbinary people?

When do gnc queers go from supposedly being backbones of the community that we need to protect, to evil freaks that need to be beaten and raped and murdered the same way cishet homophobes want all queer people treated, cis gay terfs included?

GNC cis queers absolutely deserve better, but terfs are complete fucking hypocrites when they imply that they want to protect gnc cis queers and then call a cis woman a tranny for having a big nose.

I could go on about terf hypocrisy (just like how they're supposedly champions for sexual assault victims who also regularly wish for trans people to be correctively raped) but I'll keep this post to one point for now. It's just something I noticed that makes me mad but honestly that's on me for ever expecting terfs to make any kind of fuckin sense.

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I think if I were a better writer I could properly articulate why using the word femmes in place of woman feels so alienating to me rather than inclusive. It's probably something to do with conflating the concept of woman/womanhood with femininity that feels so off to me, as if certain types of women aren't as welcome as others.

Unfortunately I don't have a catchy naming solution to this admittedly very small issue, just a thing that kinda sucks.

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ok ive gotten a few asks like these so to recap-

if you are a cis woman going by he/they, i love you and youre not transphobic

if you’re a cis woman who wears a binder, i love you and youre not transphobic

if youre a cis woman who wants phalloplasty, i love you and youre not transphobic

youre gnc and im trans. we do the same things. i think it’s cool that we share these experiences. youre not being transphobic or invading in spaces youre not welcome.