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be a proud pervert and just send the dm otherwise nothing happens forever

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i know my sissy bf has a tumblr where he thinks he hides all his secret needs and desires… i wonder how long it will take for him to stumble here and find me 🤭🥰

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Something to worship today

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Cute girl, intimidating cock

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Male Subs- here’s why we are losing FemDoms

Male subs, your offer of submission is not the offer you think it is. I’m asking you to be challenged here and really let what I’m about to address sink in with you, because you keep asking where the FemDoms go.

Male subs, you are, genuinely, scaring away FemDoms.

I have known a multitude of women who started on Tumblr as a Domme only to completely remove that identify from both their platform, and ultimately, themselves. There are a million reasons why this happens, but from what I can gather, these are the reasons that stand out to me, in particular.

1. Male subs have defined Female Dominance as existing in only two categories/archetypes: The Vixen/Hotwife Pegger or the Dominatrix Asexual.

Porn has completely ruined the understanding of women existing in Dominance beyond these super clear cut reductive archetypes. Women are seen as existing for the male gaze even within the context of FemDom. Either they are out there fucking strangers for their loser husband or they are in black latex wielding a whip and screaming at you. There’s not any room for nuance and self-expression or complexity. Men haven’t seen me as someone who engages in many kinks beyond chastity, because I’ve been subjected to this narrow, porn-centered view of my sexuality. This keeps FemDoms from Tumblr because they aren’t able to express themselves in ways that feel authentic.

Examples:

"You don't seem like the type to give spankings Goddess!"

"Peg me Goddess!" / "Me Next!"

Posted on non-domme images of a blowjob/creampie: "You should never have to be on your knees" / "You shouldn't have to clean up a man's cum, that's for a sissy maid like me!"

2. Male subs see their submission as being free of force or pushiness. The idea of submission being a gift has caused submissive men to not understand that they are using coercion and pushiness just like their male Dominant counterparts.

When men say that they’d gladly give their key to me, they think that I’m being offered something I would never say no to. When they say they’d love to be pegged by me, they assume that’s a gift to me rather than a choice I would decide about receiving. They will say really pushy things, justifying that pushiness with their submission, because they feel they are offering something that exalts or glorifies the FemDom of their desires. Male subs can be presumptive and inappropriate. This keeps FemDoms from Tumblr because they continue to have to enforce boundaries and even still, feel a lack of agency.

Examples:

"You're making my cage tighter Goddess! Will you let me out to cum?" (not in a dynamic with)

"When are you coming to [male sub's location] so we can play?"

"Will you go to my profile and rate my cock for me?"

"I wish that was MY key!" / "Would you consider locking me up?"

"What if I kidnapped you so I could lick your pussy all day? Teehee!"

3. Male subs can act like “pick me’s” by throwing themselves at any FemDom without any curiosity about her.

There is this attitude towards getting a woman to Dominate you here on Tumblr that seems to amount to: I don’t care who the woman is, so long as she exists and is hot by traditional beauty standards. Male subs are genuinely confused when you challenge them by asking why they are interested in you beyond your Dominance, because they see you as existing solely in that kink space. It’s difficult to explain that if you are looking for something niche, and you want your rocks off, it would be so much better getting a pro as that’s what you’re really needing. Male subs very often aren’t curious or interested at all about a FemDom's humanity, which is extremely important in relationships. Every conversation begins and ends with kink, and they wonder why they then get rates for service. This keeps FemDoms from Tumblr because they move to platforms where they can have a paywall, and honestly, good on them.

Examples:

"I would do anything to have a Mistress like you."

"I would move to your country just to serve at your feet Goddess."

"Obeying You Is My Life’s Goal."

"I don't have any limits, I just want Mistress to tell me what to do."

"I'll come and scrub and wash it 24/7 for you, I'll never leave the attic until the job is done and i'll cook and clean for you and serve you unconditionally. It would take about 75 years!"

4. Male subs are unable to self reflect on poor behavior or ownership of wrongdoing because they are the sub.

If you correct subs online, they fetishize it. It’s infuriating. “Don’t talk to me in that way” becomes something they want to hear. This makes it nearly impossible to determine how to engage on the platform. I had an AMA that went completely off the rails about a week ago because I corrected a man’s behavior online and every submissive male came out of the woodwork to say it was hot to them. There isn’t anything hot about boundaries. When FemDoms through this platform articulate that they’d like better behavior, or they have a complaint, male subs will say that “they’d never hurt the almighty Goddess of sex” completely absolving them of self-reflection. There’s this automatic assumption that everything is play, even firm no’s. This keeps FemDoms from Tumblr because their space is overrun by those who don’t understand consent and that FemDoms can set boundaries for decorum.

Examples:

The apology followed by the instant re-try:

"Apologies Mistress. Would it be alright if I DM'd you about ways I can make up for it?

"Sorry you got offended, I meant no harm. I was just describing a fantasy" OR "It was just a joke."

"You're right Goddess, I ruin EVERYthing :("

"I'm so sorry, is Mommy going to bend me over her knee and punish me?"

5. Male subs think that because they are the ones subject to sexually degrading, lewd, or filthy acts, that means they can share it with FemDoms. It’s still fantasy dumping.

No explanation needed here.

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It's time to push my entire dildo up in your ass

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I know that's all you ever wanted, come to mommy and let me break you into my desired sissy.. give your all to me and let me have full control of your life loser.

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Just send.

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play fighting is so fucking hot, oh no I got pinned down by you on the bed we better not fuck or anything that would be crazy

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Just the way it should be, isn't it ??

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I need a lonely online user to play with

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The best place to be is under my spell✨

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Ready to do what you’re told?