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After reading all my posts on this blog about being at my bottom, it feels so good to be rising up.

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Repost from my new blog.

I don’t trust the person who said they’d go with me to the My Chem show in Sunrise to make it an enjoyable experience for me, not am I very sure he’ll be in my life in a few months.

I still need a ticket; I am buying one one which my next paycheck (I’m leaning more and more towards splurging & asking on Reddit if anyone is willing to unload a standing ticket for a decent price… hey, it doesn’t hurt to ask…) and I still need to book a hotel room. The hotel I’m not so worried about.

The problem is transportation. I need a ride there. Is there anyone out there in the Tampa area who is willing to carpool with me? I figure since it’s months away, we have a while to get to know each other, and we already have one thing in common! I’d help pay for gas, buy snacks, be on time (early!), and I’m a responsible adult who doesn’t want to fuck this up for anyone.

Anyway, if this sounds like something you’d be willing to do, DM me! I’d be so forever grateful. You’d make a fellow fan’s life. 🙂

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I was two days away.

Two days.

And it started again, the same as last time.

Maybe I am doomed.

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I’m way, way, way behind the times with this one, but I just discovered there’s a video for “Professional Griefers”, and not only is Gerard still so Gerard in this, but the little robot cat! Ha! It’s so deviously cute.

This song’s been stuck in my head since I was in the hospital (since June this time...).

Oh, and don’t try to end your life, guys. When you wake up after that, you’ll be glad you “failed”. Maybe not immediately, but you will be. I am.

A little note about my most recent hospitalization: Here’s Gee putting it in the simplest words possible:

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I’m looking at anatomy. More specifically, my own. Nothing dirty. If that’s what you thought, gtfo. I’m not like that.

(Well I can be, but you gotta at least say “hi” first.)

Anyways, I’m looking at my leg, down to my ankle, to my foot. I’m flexible, whatever. This isn’t a kinky thing — I want to learn so much about the human body. More than I already know, which is a lot, compared to the average person who’s not in medicine. I’m not bragging; it’s just a fact about me.

Or any body, really. When I was doing well in life, I went back to school, taking pre-med classes. (While working full time... I managed, for a bit. It’s all downhill after that.)

Yup, stupid me still thought I could be a doctor. Imagine that shit.

Back to my point: in the lab for our class, we dissected parts of several animals almost weekly. Being a vegetarian and a little bit animal right-sy it should have bothered me. And of course, deep down, it did. I don’t like to see anything that once had life — dead.

But nothing I could do was gonna bring these animals back to life, so in the name of science and pure curiosity, because you’re allowed to be curious, and I don’t think most people really accept that, I’d be the one grabbing the scissors and scalpel and going to town. I wanted to learn. I wanted to see. I wanted to give these animals the dignified deaths they deserved, even if I was holding one of their eyes up to my own to compare the size or looking at the massive veins and arteries in their kidneys or liver or hearts, because, fuck, if I were dead, my body would just decay. And so did theirs, in biohazard trash bins, but they served a purpose, alright? I saw something new. I learned. So, thanks, guys; I made sure you didn’t die in vain, and I hope that’s okay. I appreciated you to the end as best I could in the situation I was in. You gotta make the best of things, I’ve been told.

But...

But looking at me is different. If someone were here, I’d look at them. But I’m alone, so it’s just me. And it’s different. Why?

Well, for one, I’m still somehow not dead. So I can move. And see the things making me move, and wonder how my brain is doing it, because I’m not consciously saying “okay, move”.

But I have ankles and legs and feet to study.

Ankles are weird.

The end.

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Yeah, ankles are weird. I can bring mine to my face... kiss them if I wanted to, which I don’t. And maybe it’s ‘cause mine are so thin — I can almost do the whole thumb touching the pinky like thing people do to other people’s wrists... anyway.

There are so many bones. And they all jut out nastily. Obnoxiously. Noticeably. And my foot — I hate feet. I once said, a lot, and people remind me of this on rare occasion where they actually remember me and things I said and did and thought, and the way I was, when I felt I had an identity — fucking confused, sure, but I still had one, back when I was a teenager: “people should just walk around on pegs...”

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You’re allowed to be curious.

Or maybe I haven’t grown up at all — maybe I still am that crazy teen who looked like Avril Lavigne that everyone used to love.

But I still hate feet.

Do you know how many bones are in a foot? I did, but I forget the exact number. It’s a lot.

216 bones in the average human body.

I can suck on each one of my toes. Sick. And not a “oh that’s fucking rad” sick. I mean gross. Disgusting.

But there are so many things to look at besides bones — ligaments, tendons — the things that push and pull to make you mobile. Pale, thin skin on the top, hardened callousness on the bottom. The way it all moves when you flex.

It’s fascinating, and if you don’t think so, you’re the weirdo.

It just reminds me of how much I want to learn and how my life is completely a wreck right now. And whatever, I literally hug my leg up into my face for comfort. It’s nice. Flexible, remember?

Feet are gross. I’m done. It feels like verbal vomiting via text pad at this point.

Afterthought: Hands though.. those are pretty.

🦶🏻🦶🏻

This post obviously didn’t focus 100% on anatomy... if I were reading this (I just went through and read some of my old posts, so, maybe that’s where my mindset is, but..), I’d think “holy shit, there’s a lot here, and this is clearly a disorganized person.

That’s fine. I’ll just hug a leg.

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Dear *****,

We are literary soulmates.

I don’t know you, and I know I never will. It goes both ways — you don’t know me either.

And I’m not a poet, I don’t write songs, but I am a writer. And when I read your words, I feel we are so connected in the way we feel. You’ve laid your emotions out there, so you can’t blame someone for taking them and holding them and relating to them. And not in a creepy, obsessive way; when you find someone in the world who thinks, feels, and expresses the same way you do, well, I think that’s something — notable, at the least.

You’re so raw. Well so am I.

And then you put your music to it, and it’s — unbelievable. That feels like a cheap word, but it’s all I can say. (Guess I’m a shit writer.)

Unfathomable how someone could be so purely talented to take art and throw it out to other people in multiple mediums to consume; that is more than someone like me could ever expect or hope to do.

But I’m just.. a fan. An admirer. You move me, inspire so many, and you know it. And you’re not cocky. It makes it so much better — simultaneously so unreal. I want to know your faults, your flaws, just to bring you back to this mundane, earthly level.

So I pose this random question to you, that you will never see: how do you help an addict? I think you’ve known at least one closely and have done it. Fuck it, I know you have; it’d be pretty hard to deny. Sucks being in the public eye, right? I’d think so. But... how do you aid someone who’s so low? How’d you lift them up? Cause, fuck, I need that. Someone amazing to help. Where does a lonely loser like me even begin to look?

Final note — you are gorgeous. People accuse me for liking you for your looks, but if you read my words above, I think you’ll see that’s not true. It doesn’t change the fact that you are just— ugh. Talented, inspirational, and stupidly attractive. Fuck you.

Signed, just a fan. An insane fan that you’ll never know; lord knows you’re stuffed to the brim with them, and at what point do you ever reach annoyance? Or just bland apathy.

Let me try that again.

— Just a fan.

Yeah, that’s probably enough.

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Ohh, poor Frank. I’ve seen this picture before, but knowing he has, too... I’m dead. Again.

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I’m dying.

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Going back to the start of your solo chapter, you went into debut album stomachaches with the mindset of, ​‘I’m doing this record for me.’ Now, what – or who – is your solo music for?

​“Well, it’s funny… I would say up until 2020 then that holds true! I can’t, I guess, pander to anybody else – that’s a cardinal rule, and once you start doing that you’re already dead in the water. But now, because of 2020, a lot of opportunities have come in to write for other people, and that was something that I never really thought about doing before, but life has dictated what projects have come in. And I’ve found it to be a pretty intriguing and fulfilling undertaking. If nothing else it’s an exercise in how to write songs and music, and how to make people feel a certain way. With a project that just came in, they gave me an idea of, ​‘This is the type of song that we want, and this is what we would like you to convey. Can you write a song like that? Oh, and by the way, you have three days!’ And it’s like, ​‘Oh shit, okay!’ So you figure out how to do that: to write a song in a restricted amount of time that checks all these boxes. And hey, if it works out then they could want it and use it for something, but if not, whatever, it’s a song that I wrote. But I love the challenge of it...”

Has writing for other people taught you anything that you will take with you into future material?

​“Yeah, I think so. Different chord changes evoke different emotions, and I love playing with people that are from different backgrounds than I am, and even have different playing abilities. It makes your brain think in different ways. If you want to become a better basketball player, you should play with people that are better than you, or different from you. With anything that you want to get better at, you have to work those muscles and you have to train, and that kinda stuff throws a curveball and it makes it fun – sometimes you forget that you’re even doing work!”

I don’t know. Knowing Frank is writing music for other people makes me feel delighted for him, because I know how fundamental writing songs is to his very existence. I suppose that’s where his career path is naturally leading him, but knowing there’s potentially material out there that he wrote that isn’t going to be coming out from him makes me sad.

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Day 3: A Song of Springtime

Uhh.. okay. 🤷🏻‍♀️

(How about since I live in Florida, I pick something about the skin being burned off you? No connection to this song being called “Sun”.)

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Day 2: A Song With a Number in the Title

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I think I’m gonna do this. I’d do it on Instagram, but I don’t know how. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Just whatever comes to mind first.

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It’s 7:17pm here in Florida and people are already setting off fireworks. Everyone seems to be super excited for 2021. Well, I’m not.

First of all, nothing is going to change when the clock strikes midnight. No one’s carriage is going to turn back into a pumpkin, no one’s dress is going to turn to rags, but no one’s rags are going to turn into an elegant gown, either. People who are struggling are still going to be struggling. The sick will still be the sick and the rich will still be the rich. I’m going into the new year without a job and facing another possible arrest and jail time. I won’t suddenly be surrounded by friends and a partner isn’t going to appear in front of me, like they’ve been there the whole time. My cat won’t come back to life, just like the hundreds of thousands of lives lost to Covid-19. My mother will still hate me, nothing I do will make any more sense than it has before, my obsessions won’t go away, my mood won’t stabilize, and I’ll still be an alcoholic who’s practically drooling for a drink right now.

Maybe I’m just being cynical, which is typical. And maybe 2021 will bring a change in people’s attitudes that will spark some positivity. For me, I don’t think so. I’ll feel as alone and as shitty as ever. Truthfully, I don’t think I felt the brunt of 2020 because not all that much changed for me. Not seeing friends? I barely have any. I only “dated” one person, and that quickly didn’t work out. Not seeing family? I fucking live with them. Losing a job? I didn’t have one to lose. The highlights of my year? Rocket died, I relapsed, got baker acted for a suicide attempt, slashed my arm open with a box cutter just because I wanted to see blood and ended up with a nasty scar, joined an out-patient hospilitization group that kicked me out after 2 weeks, had to self-isolate for Covid symptoms TWICE, pushed people away who wanted to be close to me, relapsed again, got arrested, went to jail, and now have one eye over the back of my shoulder waiting for my next run-in with the police. I feel yet another relapse coming on, maybe tomorrow, cause there’s no way I’m getting out of here tonight without questions being asked. There’s a Zoom AA meeting in 10 minutes, but I just wanna be alone.

People will say that these things are all my fault because I don’t try. If I didn’t try, I’d be fucking dead, and I have days where I wish that were the case. I think my medications are headed in the right direction, but they’re not perfect, and I can’t wake up in the morning. So that’s a problem. There’s always a goddamn problem with meds. Always.

I guess that’s it for me, now. Maybe I’ll suddenly feel festive and put my New Years shirt on. But not right now. Not right now.

Edit: I put on the fucking shirt.

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Ummm... well this is awkward. He’s gonna get tired of my stupid ass.

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I never thought I’d be so enchanted by a blond hair product model.

Whyyy did I not watch this last night?!? I’ve loved Thursday as long (longer, maybe) as I’ve loved My Chem, but I don’t think I’ve ever seen them. Fuck me.

(I found these on Instagram on coffin_iero’s account.)

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I feel absolutely manic. Everything in my head is spinning. If I close my eyes, it's like all my thoughts are compiled and tangible and spinning around the sides of my brain like a carnival ride. Everything’s going to fast and you can’t make out anything, just like you can’t make out people’s faces when they’re going round and round. I feel joyous and irritated. I want to do a million little things, like make an email address for every twitter name I can think of, even though I don’t have any twitter friends and absolutely no one follows me. I feel nauseous. Like I’m going to puke, but I know I won’t, ‘cause I know what it really feels like when you’re about to puke and it isn’t this. I’m hyper-focused. When I close my eyes, I can see different, random surroundings. And people and animals moving, They’re not real. Animated? Sometimes it’s suspended animation. Maybe. It’s hard to describe it with my eyes open when I only see things when they’re closed. Except for little, tiny black dots. And the swirling waves of blood vessels in my eyes. It’s kinda disgusting, when you think about it. Except, I’ve been thinking a lot about veins and blood and DNA and wondering how much of this craziness flows through them. Is the problem in the chemicals in my head or in the blood in my veins? Is it MY fault, or is the problem in my DNA? Am I the first-born nutjob addict or do I come from a long line of them? I know it doesn’t matter, but I guess I’d just like to know. This nausea is awful. I think maybe in my hurried, disoriented state I ate way too much food. I swear I feel high or drunk but I haven’t touched a thing. AWARE. That’s how I’m feeling. On a plane of hyper-awareness. When I close my eyes, sometimes people talk to me when I have conversations with myself in my head. Like my mind making up people so it’s doesn’t seem so crazy that I’m talking to myself. It’s all word salad, too. Or little phrases that don’t mean a thing out of context, and it IS out of context, because it’s going on in my head and none of it’s real. I just paused and closed my eyes, and I saw a beach. Not the whole beach – just the sand, and a bird walking on it, leaving footprints, but I only saw his yellow legs too. But it’s immersive. It’s like I’m there. I hear music, but nothing’s playing. It’s songs, and they all run together. Sometimes it’s songs that exist, sometimes it’s just nonsense my head makes up. Words strung together that don’t make sense, or even just sounds that I couldn’t recreate with my mouth. How long have I been sitting here? I’ve been taking breaks to use my vape thing and close my eyes and breathe. Sometimes I catch myself forgetting to take a breath. I think I need to take some meds and lay down, or watch some neutral tv. Fuck it; I’m not editing this mess. It is what it is. A mess. I’m a mess.

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What inspired the lyrics to the song "Dear Percocet, I Don’t Think We Should See Each Other Anymore"?

That's, y'know, real life experience. I — I think that [...] coming from a line of, uh, of addiction — here's the thing. Y'know, I think that there's certain things that are inherited traits, right? Um, I feel like, y'know, depression and addiction and things — things of these nature, like sometimes these are, y'know, predetermined for you, y'know, they're in our DNA. And, uh, I know that if I — if I wasn't careful, I could fall really, really, uh, fast [...] When you enjoy something like — like that too much, uh, it — it puts a film over you, you can't see, uh, what's really important anymore. And uh, and so yeah, that song is about, y'know, uh, wanting to be — to be more present and to live in the now and to remember the things that, y'know, truly do matter.

- Frank Iero

I left most of the filler words in so you could see how uncomfortable yet willing he was to talk about addiction. It's not easy, and sometimes it is in our blood. (Yet no one in my family will fess up to being the culprit.)