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"they deserve to die" is something you should never hear a leftist say. if you do, run

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every fucking day goyim on my dashed board say "sorry yall. I fell for another antisemitic conspiracy theory again :/ welp! what can ya do :/"

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Alright I saw an anti cross-tagging and I gotta say something:

Shipping characters together is NOT for education. It should not be educational. The whole point of shipping is to explore relationships in fiction.

Not every fictional story is educational. In fact, it's really worrying when someone solely uses fiction to dictate their morals.

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i actually do think individual human lives are unfathomably valuable

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is the tgirl wearing a collar doing it because she has a fetish, or just because it's a cute accessory? is the gay man in leather and a pup mask actually being "indecent" or is he just dressed up like a dog because it's fun? are drag queens doing it because crossdressing is sexy or because drag is an expression of who they are as a person? does the furry walking around in full suit have a boner under their outfit or do they just like cosplaying as their cute cartoon squirrel oc?

you will never know. you can never tell. sometimes even the people doing these things won't have an answer. is it a sex thing? is it kink? who fucking knows! there is no line! public expressions of sexuality aren't immoral to begin with, but if you make any attempt to suppress them, you have to decide what is and isn't allowed, and you are going to get it wrong. there is no way to untangle kink from personality and hobbies and interests. kink does not even necessarily involve sex. sometimes it's just self-expression and vulnerability and sharing a particular dynamic with another person. sounds a lot like (checks notes) literally every other human experience that exists.

i'll say it again: the person wearing a leash in your vicinity is not sexually assaulting you. they're just wearing a leash.

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My philosophy for queer labels goes like this

1. Anyone who in good faith uses a label is fine to use it for themselves

2. There is no way to always tell who is using it in good faith

3. Act like everyone is using it in good faith.

4. …including assholes clearly IDing to be an ass. Treating them like they mean it is a quick way to make an asshole get yuckied out and knock it off. If they seem to be committed to the bit, maybe they really mean it

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Yes yes, we know you love the freaks and hate people who are puritan but are you normal about paraphiles. Does your community of freaks still have freaks? Do you still shun and blindly hate people "worse" than you? Is there still a form of attraction that makes you just as bad as the people you hate? Are you normal about paraphiles?

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Just a reminder that ableism against personality disorders, especially cluster b personality disorder, is alive and well.

Not having empathy doesn’t make someone evil. It doesn’t make them an abuser. In fact, people without empathy are better in certain vital positions. We’re better at being first responders, 911 operators, and other tasks that would overwhelm empaths. We work better in critical situations than empaths do.

Thinking that any disorder makes someone evil is ableist. And when you take into account the sexist bias in diagnosing women with BPD and the racist and classist bias in diagnosing POC and prison inmates with ASPD and NPD? It’s not only ableist, it’s all kinds of -ists. Plus, it’s really rich for someone who claims that empathy is what makes someone good to have so little empathy for people with disorders that are literally trauma-based.

So yeah if you see someone being a dick to people with PDs? Say something. Because they’re definitely not going to listen to us.

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DNI if you’re a bad person. This will certainly filter out bad actors, who both self-identify as such and respect the boundaries of people they are bad actors against. This will certainly not alienate people who have internalized shame or feel like outsiders in community spaces.

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I am getting increasingly annoyed with the "everyone wants enbies to be androgynous!!1!!" posts. Like yes sure feminine/masculine enbies probably do get some shit for that but yknow what being androgynous has gotten me? Kicked out of restrooms, harrassed in the street, and unable to exist publicly without constantly defendimg myself. Turns out that being openly trans sucks no matter what, huh?

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*white knuckling the bathroom sink* do NOT infodump ppl about the fact that the first spn fic was a wincest one and that it was posted mere hours after the pilot and that the founder of ao3 was a wincestie and that the first fic on ao3 was wincest too and that the omegaverse as we know it was created by wincest shippers for jared/jensen fics *pointing at myself in the mirror with a shaky hand* ppl will think you're weird and off-putting you need to control yourself–

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"I like to write about it in fiction" does not mean "I desire it to happen in real life", and never has.

What you want to write about doesn't necessarily mean anything about you, besides that you want to write about it.

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i need everyone to understand that not all medication stigmas are equal or even comparable.

yes, you can experience stigma for going on adderall for your adhd, and you can be prevented from accessing that systemically because the medication is so stigmatized. the premise in a lot of psychiatric structures is often that you should be able to function without your adderall or your anti-anxiety meds, and so you must be forced to do so.

those exact same structures and people are likely to force a psychotic person to go on antipsychotics, because the stigma against psychotics is a stigma against us being unmedicated. we are seen as inherently needing medication, as being dangerous and violent without it.

those two things coexist! some pathologies structurally force individuals slapped with those labels into unwanted medication, and some pathologies structurally prevent individuals slapped with those labels from accessing desired medication. not all medication stigma is equal or comparable. when you see a post offering positivity for people who are unmedicated, it's targeted towards groups of people who are forced on unwanted medication, which is a demographic that exists!

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Wanted to make a separate post for the term from the last post.

Anti-phys

(plaintext: anti-phys)

The physical medicine counterpart to anti-psych. This movement is for informed consent, supports use of medications, including both preventative measures such as vaccines and treatment measures ranging from meds like antihistamines and NSAIDs to opiates and narcotics when needed, and is against gatekeeping of care and hierarchical power structures in medicine that leave chronically ill people disenfranchised and vulnerable.

Anti-phys as a movement does NOT support anti-vaxx, anti-medication, homeopathy, or other misinformation-based ableist movements which harm disabled people. It also fights the sanism that causes doctors to write patients off as "psychiatric cases" - in essence, modern day madness diagnoses - in order to refuse needed care.

It aims to concurrently build a better, more egalitarian medical system while also taking steps in our current one to ensure as few people as possible fall through the cracks as the shift to the new system eventually occurs. It is first and foremost a movement that prioritizes those with physical disabilities and chronic illnesses, and is necessarily intersectional with the anti-psych movement.

I'd like to bring in people more experienced and capable than me to this conversation to build up this concept more. Feel free to add to this. Current medical professionals who are committed to deconstructing power imbalances and injustices within our system may add on, but do so with care. This is a conversation about oppression of disabled people, by disabled people.

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“trans men don’t experience misogyny because they’re men thus cannot experience women’s oppression”

I hate to tell you this but even cis men experience misogyny if they step a toe over the line of what our incredibly sexist society sees as “proper” for a man. You really don’t think that a man with interests or expression the world sees as “female” aren’t treated with violence?

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My philosophy for queer labels goes like this

1. Anyone who in good faith uses a label is fine to use it for themselves

2. There is no way to always tell who is using it in good faith

3. Act like everyone is using it in good faith.

4. …including assholes clearly IDing to be an ass. Treating them like they mean it is a quick way to make an asshole get yuckied out and knock it off. If they seem to be committed to the bit, maybe they really mean it

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