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Itd be funny as fuck if the world operated like how people with social anxiety think it does. Like what if you got on a bus and everyone was like wow look at that piece of shit loser. Get off the bus you ugly bastard

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🎇☕Pro tip: Coffee- Starbucks holiday edition❄

I don’t know about you guys, but I LIVE for holiday Edition drinks at Starbucks, then always end up having an existential breakdown over the calories (thanks, Ana). So, I’ve made a list breaking down the best way to drink your holiday faves. I’ve compared the average calories in a grande, regularly prepared drink, versus all of the lowest (still around 200) calorie possibilities (almond milk is the lowest calorie milk available. For coconut, soy, and low fat milk, add 40 cal.) Drinks marked as NON VEGAN still include dairy, no matter your milk choice.

Ps: the winner is the Holiday Spice Flat White :)  

*drink descriptions and calorie info comes directly from Starbucks*

Peppermint Mocha: “ is a classic combination of bittersweet cocoa and a lively peppermint zing with espresso and steamed milk, topped with whipped cream and melt-in-your-mouth dark chocolate curls.”

Avg. calories for a grande: (with 2% milk and whip) 440 cal

What to order:

“peppermint mocha with almond milk and no whip, please.

”Grande 16 oz: 290 cal

Tall 12 oz: 220 cal

Short 8oz: 150 cal

Toasted White Chocolate Mocha (NOT VEGAN): “highlights espresso and steamed milk mingling with the flavors of caramelized white chocolate—all topped with whipped cream and candied cranberry sugar.” 

Avg. calories for a grande: (with 2% milk and whipped cream) 420 cal

What to order: 

 “ toasted white mocha with almond milk and no whip, please.” 

Grande 16 oz: 260 cal

Tall 12 oz: 200 cal

Short 8 oz: 130 cal 

Caramel Brulee Latte (NOT VEGAN): “features a rich caramel sauce, espresso and steamed milk, topped with whipped cream and shimmery pieces of crunchy caramelized sugar.” 

Avg. calories for a grande: (with 2% milk and whipped cream) 440

What to order:

“caramel brulee latte with almond milk and no whip, please.” 

Grande 16 oz: 260 cal

Tall 12 oz: 220 cal

Short 8 oz: 150 cal

Eggnog Latte (NOT VEGAN): “This perennial holiday favorite is made with rich, steamed eggnog and our signature espresso. Then we top it off with a dusting of ground nutmeg for the perfect finish.” 

Avg. calories for a grande: (with nonfat milk) 450 cal

What to order: 

“Eggnog latte with almond milk, please.”

Grande 16 oz: 440 cal

Tall 12 oz: 350 cal

Short 8 oz: 220 cal

Gingerbread Latte: “Sweet and delicately spicy gingerbread flavors mingle with our classic espresso and steamed milk and are topped with whipped cream and ground nutmeg for the perfect holiday touch.” 

 Avg. calories for a grande: (with 2% milk and whipped cream) 330 cal

What to order: 

“Gingerbread latte with almond milk and no whip, please.” 

Grande 16 oz: 180 cal

Tall 12 oz: 130 cal

Short 8 oz: 90 cal

Holiday Spice Flat White: “Ristretto shots of espresso infused with warm holiday spices. Topped with whole milk micro-foam and finished with a “signature dot” or latte art!” 

Avg. calories for a grande: (with whole milk) 280 cal

What to order:

 “Holiday spice flat white with almond milk, please.”

Grande 16 oz: 150 cal

Tall 12 oz: 110 cal

Short 8 oz: 80 cal

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You know what really helps?

To have a word. A phrase you say to help you snap the hell out of it, stop what you’re doing and get some damn self control.

I usually say “control” or “self control” repeatedly until I realize I shouldn’t eat and I need to have self control. I promise you, this has helped me a lot on multiple occasions! If I’m right about to have a REALLY bad binge, saying this for about a minute over and over actually stops me. I highly suggest you try it too!

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How many cals do u burn while sleeping?☁️☁️

So its really easy to count how many cals u burn while sleeping. Heres how to do it!

Ur weight in lbs x 0.42= Cals/hour

So for example:

138 x 0.42= 57.98 cals/hour

So lets say u slept 8 hours:

57.98 x 8= u burnt about 463 cals while sleeping

Go get some sleep babes.Hope this helped😌💕

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Had a mom come into work tonight while I was closing out the cosmetics counter at work. She looked a little lost, so I asked if she needed help, and she pointed to all of our perfume gift packages (holiday special whatnot) and asked if I could help her pick some out for her two kids.

I say sure, ask the age range, and go from there, asking if there’s anything she wants in particular (shopping for two tweens, one 11 and the other 12).

She hesitates and goes “just…something pretty. and feminine”

And I’m like “lol wanna make them feel like princesses, I see!”

And she just lowers her voice, like she’s scared I’m going to say something rude, and goes, “My 11 year old just started transitioning, and I want her to feel pretty.”

Just about made up for the rest of my shitty night. Kudos to you, mom. You’re doing good.

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THE 16 PERSONALITY TEST is generally based on the personality indicator developed by Katharine Cook Briggs and her daughter Isabel Briggs Myers. Their development of the test occurred in the 1940s and was built upon psychological research performed by Carl Jung in the 1920s. The type test is based on a series of questions that gather information on how a person usually responds or relates to various situations.

The answers to these questions are calculated to determine the person’s individual personality type. Important insights can be gained by understanding personality type, such as optimal career choice, better romantic partnerships, and paths to personal growth.

Personality Types: Tests that sort people into 16 different types which are organized by four pairs of opposite traits. 

These pairs are:

Extraversion (E) and Introversion (I)

Sensing (S) and Intuition (N)

Thinking (T) and Feeling (F)

Judging (J) and Perceiving (P)

One of each pair is combined to create a 4-letter abbreviation for each personality type, such as:

ESFP: extraversion (E), sensing (S), feeling (F), perception (P)

INTJ: introversion (I), intuition (N), thinking (T), judgment (J)

These personality traits are grouped into four categories that describe the way in which a person interacts with the world. Everyone experiences both traits in each pair, but usually one is more dominant than the other in the 16 personality test.

Extraversion (E)

Extroverts are energized when in the company of other people, unlike Introverts who are usually reserved, quiet, and prefer to be by themselves. Extroverts like speaking their minds and thrive in social situations. They are usually popular and well-liked by other people. Extroverts may feel down and become drained if they’re not in the company of others for too long.

Introversion (I)

Introverted people are quiet, reserved, and more comfortable being alone than an Extroverted person. Introverts prefer to rely on themselves for entertainment rather than seeking interaction or stimulation from others. They are usually self-sufficient and would rather work alone than in a group. Socializing drains an Introvert’s energy, and they need alone time to recharge. Because of this they put less emphasis on socializing and social skills than an extrovert would.

Sensing (S)

Sensing individuals place great emphasis on what they see, touch and experience in the real world, unlike Intuitive people who would rather live in their imaginations. Prioritizing facts and practicality, those with a Sensing character are outward-looking and prefer not to deal with philosophical ideas or introspective ponderings. They would rather focus on what they can concretely experience with their senses.

Intuition (N)

Intuitive individuals put emphasis on imagination and ideas, rather than what is actually in front of them. They tend to prioritize introspection and dreaming, and oftentimes feel like they do not belong or live in the real world. Unlike Sensing individuals, who enjoy seeing, touching and experiencing the world, intuitive people are inward-focused and prefer living in their own heads. While Sensing people like facts and practicality, Intuitive individuals tend to lean towards allusions, read between the lines, and analyze things at greater depth.

Thinking (T)

Thinking individuals are objective, rational, and logical. Their decisions and actions are usually governed more by their minds than by their hearts. Many people often judge Thinking people as lacking emotion, but that is not true. They can be just as emotional and sensitive as the Feeling group, but feelings are not their main priority, and they can hide their emotions or prevent them from coming to the surface. They prioritize facts over feelings.

Feeling (F)

Individuals with the Feeling trait care more about emotions and expressing them than what is deemed rational or logical. However, this does not mean that Feeling types are irrational; it only means that those with this trait are more likely to express their emotions, as compared to Thinking individuals who prefer to suppress their emotions. Those who focus on feelings and expressions of emotion tend to be more open-minded, vocal, empathetic, and sensitive.

Judging (J)

Those with the Judging trait tend to strategize and plan before they act. They’d prefer a thought-out plan over going with the flow. They are organized, reliable, responsible, and have very good work ethics. They are always prepared, armed with checklists and contingency plans. They are likely to commit to future plans, but may forget to live in the present.

Perceiving (P)

People who have the Perceiving trait rather than the Judging trait value their sense of freedom. They do not want to be tied down to a specific activity or commitment if they think there is something better that is worthy of their time. They are excellent in spotting new opportunities, and they grab them whenever they can. They are good with improvisation, even in emergency situations. They take life as it comes and feel stifled if forced to stick to a schedule.

More than the Sum of Its Parts

Each whole personality type is more than the sum of its traits. In addition to each of the four main traits of each profile, further personality insights from the personality test emerge when the combination of those traits are taken into consideration.

For example, a person with the combination of Thinking (T) and Intuition (N) will behave differently than someone with the traits of Thinking (T) and Sensing (S). The combination of Thinking and Intuition reflects someone who is often in their head, thinking about all the different possible circumstances or even fantastic ideas. But someone with the Thinking and Sensing traits, who may also be often lost in their own thoughts, will be relying on their senses instead of their intuition, and their ponderings will be rooted in the current state of reality.

Test your personality and discover more about yourself. 

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when u try ur best but u don’t succeed

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What if everything turns out for the best? What if it turns out way better than you could have ever imagined?

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At 18, everyone receive a superpower. Your childhood friend got a power-absorption, your best friends got time control, and they quickly rise into top 100 most powerful superheroes. You got a mediocre superpower, but somehow got into the top 10. Today they visit you asking how you did it.

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#sad

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#wow

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Mental Illness through photos by CSPhotography.

In Order:

1.) Anxiety

2.) Depression

3.) Insomnia

4.) Anorexia

5.) Paranoia 

6.) Schizophrenia 

7.) OCD

8.) Panic

9.) Bipolar 

10.) Addiction

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16 de Agosto del 2019

No pues

Valiendo caca

Estoy ahorita sentada enfrente de una fuente que hay en mi escuela sin estar tomando la clase de francés.

Le pedí permiso a la maestra para salir unos momentos por que me sentía mal y me lo concedió.

Así que ahora estoy aquí sola, perdiendo me de una explicación que probablemente necesitaré en el examen. Supongo que tendré que ir asesorías para recuperarla.

Me siento mal. Me siento terriblemente mal.

Solo no puedo parar de pensar en cómo es que la vida se me esta llendo enfrente de mi y de como es que no la estoy disfrutando como quisiera a diferencia de las personas que me rodean.

Todos van a clases en la tarde, van a fiestas, ríen sienten, mientras lo único que hago yo es sentarme, hacer la tarea, tal vez platicar un poco ya sea con mis amigas o con mi novio ( lo cual amo hacer) y ya.

Casi no siento nada que no sea ansiedad, preocupación o malestar...

Casi no siento ganas verdaderas de reír, amor del bueno, ni entusiasmo.

Es muy raro que lo haga.

Enserio espero poder hacerlo de nuevo pronto.

No me gusta el ser así.

Creo que lo peor de todo es que aún sabiendo todo esto no tengo la valentía ni las ganas para cambiarlo. E estado tratando de hacer varias cosas pequeñas, pero no se. No me siento satisfecha.

A ver que pasa...

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15 de Agosto del 2019

Es que enserio ya no se que hacerrr

Estoy triste conmigo misma.

Soy la novia que desde siempre me han enseñado que no está bien.

Soy celosa, me awito, soy insegura y ya hasta le dije a mi novio que hablara con una TIPA para que no sea muy encimosa.

Cada vez que siento que los celos vienen a mi me siento como la persona más horrible que podría llegar a existir.

El tener esa sensación de estar ROMPIENDO MIS PRINCIPIOS es desgarradora.

Enserio

Cada vez que reconozco que este sentimiento viene a mi me dan ganas de llorar.

Yo no quiero ser así.

Y se que es algo normal; que es algo que experimentan todas las personas. Mas aún así, no lo quiero.

Cada vez que siento los celos en mi sistema, me siento TAN triste conmigo. TAN TRISTE Y DECEPCIONADA CONMIGO MISMA, como enserio no puedo describir.

Es una pena.

Pero supongo que que se le va a hacer.

Poco a poco lo iré arreglando.

Poco a poco lo iré dominando.

Se que lo haré.

No tengo de otra si quiero ser feliz.

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me:-doesn't eat for a whole day-

me:why im not skinny yet?!

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one of the most amazing things that has been said to me in therapy is that self esteem doesn’t exist.

and that floored people and the psych went onto say that what she meant was that self esteem is a concept that actually includes a vast array of things and labelling them all as one thing is really limiting and prevents actual improvement

you could have real strong pride in the things you create and hate your body

you could hate your creations but also want to share them with people

you could not hate yourself at all but not take care of yourself, engage in reckless self endangerment

thats all bundled under ‘self esteem’ but saying ‘i need better self esteem’ doesn’t mean anything

whereas if you say ‘i need to work on ways to keeping myself safe, refusing to act on destructive urges’ or ‘i want to be in a place where i believe compliments trusted people give me’

thats concrete, thats a goal.

having it said in therapy helped a lot of people in my group stop saying ‘i have low self esteem’ and start specifying about the actual issue they have