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The people's princess

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I have a small son, and because I do not want to raise a sad beige baby but simultaneously do not want to have in-depth discourse about gender with every single person who stops to look in the stroller, I dress the baby mainly in traditionally masculine baby clothes. This means a lot of green and blue, a lot of vehicles and predator animals (esp dinosaurs??).

However, as a gift to our future selves, I am making it a point to take photos of him as well as the two of us together wearing traditionally feminine colors and prints - pink and purple, flowers and fruit and prey animals. So if someday it turns out I actually have a daughter, we will have photos to share that don't involve in-depth discourse about gender with every single person who sees them. (And plenty in plain solid colors, white and grey and green, so if I have a child who wants to have baby photos that don't involve dysphoria, I'll have those to give them.)

Idk. I definitely won't be able to do this forever, eventually he will have his own opinions about what he wears and gender and everything under the sun. But right now, I have a little baby, and I don't know who he's going to be someday. So I'm trying to keep his options open. Because I love him, or her, or them. Whoever you end up being, kid, I love you and I want you to be happy. Also you look so freaking cute in your onesie with the peaches on it. So, so cute.

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The trick is to be more curious than you're scared.

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Today I encountered an especially pathetic Italian greyhound. His owner told me that a gust of wind once blew him into a lake.

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some words you can only spell on autopilot. once you stop to think about it you've already lost the fight

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I hope you get 100 dollars. I want everyone reading this to get 100 dollars

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I need games to stop trying to get me to block or parry. I will solve my problems with my face or die trying.

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Oh yeah. This. This is what I’m talkin about

The sentry suit?? With the brown hair?! YES MAAM?! This is literally the best he’s ever looked

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Hey, don’t cry. Free online database of Japanese folk lore

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‘am i Having A Brain Problem or Being a Shithead’: a short procrastination checklist

aka why tf am i procrastinating on The Thing (more like a flowchart, actually)

lots of people who have executive function difficulties worry about whether they’re procrastinating on a task out of laziness/simply wanting to be a jerk or mental struggles. this checklist might help you figure out which it is at any given time! (hint: it’s almost never laziness or being a jerk.) (obligatory disclaimer: this is just what works for me! something different might work better for you.)

1) do I honestly intend to start the task despite my lack of success?

yes: it’s a Brain Problem. next question

no: it’s shitty to say one thing & do another. better be honest with myself & anyone expecting me to do the task.

2) am I fed, watered, well-rested, medicated properly, etc?

yes: next question

no: guess what? this is the real next task

3) does the idea of starting the task make me feel scared or anxious?

yes: Anxiety Brain. identify what’s scaring me first.

no: next question

4) do I know how to start the task?

yes: next question

no: ADHD Brain. time to make an order of operations list.

5) do I have everything I need to start the task?

yes: next question

no: ADHD Brain lying to me about the steps again, dangit. first task is ‘gather the materials’.

6) why am i having a hard time switching from my current task to this new task?

i’m having fun doing what i’m doing: it’s okay to have fun doing a thing! if task is time-sensitive, go to next question.

i have to finish doing what i’m doing: might be ADHD brain. can I actually finish the current task or will I get trapped in a cycle? does this task really need to be finished?

the next task will be boring/boring-er than the current task: ADHD brain. re-think the next task. what would make it exciting? what am I looking forward to?

I might not have enough time to complete the task: ADHD brain wants to finish everything it starts. (if task is time-sensitive, go to next question)

i just want to make the person who asked me to do it angry: sounds like anxiety brain trying to punish itself, because I know I’ll be miserable if someone is angry at me. why do i think I deserve punishment?

no, I seriously want to piss them off: okay, i’m being a shithead

7) have I already procrastinated so badly that I now cannot finish the task in time?

yes: ADHD brain is probably caught in a guilt-perfection cycle. since I can’t have the task done on time, i don’t even want to start.

reality check: having part of a thing done is almost always better than none of a thing done. if I can get an extension, having part of it done will help me keep from stalling out until the extension deadline. i’ll feel better if I at least try to finish it.

no, there’s still a chance to finish on time: ADHD brain thinks that I have all the time in the world, but the truth is I don’t. 

reality check: if i’m having fun doing what I’m doing, I can keep doing it, but I should probably set a timer & ask someone to check on me to make sure I start doing the task later today.

8) I’ve completed the checklist and still don’t know what’s wrong!

probably wasn’t honest enough with myself. take one more look.

if I’m still mystified, ask a friend to help me talk it out.

hope this helps some of you! YOU’RE DOING GREAT SWEETIE DON’T GIVE UP ON YOU

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Thunderbolts* *New Avengers (2025)

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Mr. Pascal, I’m kindly asking you to let us BREATHE

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lets stare with mama

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Thunderbolts* The New Avengers (2025) Dir. Jake Schreier

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Happy Bob 🙂

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Cucumber.