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"i refuse to use it/its pronouns for you because those are used for objects!"

it's literally standard nautical practice to refer to just about any boat or ship ever as "she". people reflexively refer to fucking boats by she/her pronouns and give them women's names. fucking boats

people refer to cars with she and he constantly. people refer to trucks, construction equipment, computers, credit card readers, cell phones, and other objects with he/him pronouns. people AGGRESSIVELY use he/him pronouns for a LOT of animals and insects. if people aren't good at sexing animals or refuse to try a lot of the time they will just use he/him. like, constantly. it's actually honestly more common to hear people use he/him for animals than it is they/them or it/its at times.

your issue isn't that it's used for objects and animals: your issue is that you're transphobic and don't like having to admit it. please just move on and stop getting stuck on it/its sometimes being used for animals and objects. we use she/her and he/him just as much if not MORE for these exact same things. calm down and use the it/its pronouns and respect its users.

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tbh i didnt even have a problem with they/them until i told some people my pronouns were it/its and nothing else and they proceeded to use exclusively they/them for me

i literally had the exact same experience beat for beat. i used it/they for a while but people were only using they so i went to it only and it still happens regardless. people will deadass look at you and go "it's less offensive if i call you they" after you've told them you literally don't use they/them pronouns. misgendering you is 'less offensive'. what?

this isn't about respect for trans people, this is about the comfort of everyone else. no one wants to accept that there really are people out there who want to be referred to by it/its pronouns like it's baffling. there is so much pushback it's unreal. and for what reason, i'll never know. it's everyone else prioritizing their discomfort over treating us correctly. their comfort matters more than ours, always

none of us care if using it/its for us makes you uncomfortable. using it/its for us does not make us uncomfortable that's why we are telling you to use that. especially when that's all we use. it says a lot about how that person thinks and how they use the word it. this sort of person generally uses it when they're misgendering people which is why they're so antsy about it

i hope people will toughen up and respect you and address you correctly. people will pick any and every hill to die on if it means misgendering a trans person.

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Yeah, I tell people on the internet that my alternate set is nullpronominal, just to try to get people to use it/its or thing/things for me. I have no opinions about they/them or he/him irl tho, mainly because those are the two that my mom uses for me :/

I used to use a lot more pronouns, but it/its has always had a big piece of my heart ❤️

Have you ever considered using neopronouns?

i have, and i do! :)

for a long time, i was using ze/hir, it/its and they/them as my primary pronouns, but people were only using they/them, which really got on my nerves. i do still use ze/hir pronouns, but i'm only putting those back on my public profiles until people start using it/its for me, because i'm tired of people running away from that pronoun set. it's the pronoun set that feels 100% accurate and people ignore it. so for now, i'm only publicly stating that i use it/its, but i do in fact also use ze/hir as well!

i have some alters that use a variety of neopronouns as well. we have some who use xe/xem and ze/zem. we have a few who use nounself pronouns, those that i know of use pup/pups, kit/kits, wolf/wolfs, paw/paws, moon/moons and doll/dolls! we actually collectively use pup/pups, but again, until people stop avoiding using our it/its pronouns, those are the only ones we're listing publicly.

thanks for stopping by, i appreciate it! i love neopronouns, i'm just so tired of people avoiding using it/its for me.

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Hi, just wanted to say thank you. People like you who use it/its pronouns and are vocal about it made including and asking for it/its pronouns for myself easier.

very happy we could help! you deserve to be able to use whatever pronouns suit you. it/its isn't offensive. its a legitimate set of pronouns that hurts no one. take care of yourself!

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i was literally about to type this exact thing up in a post: to avoid or refuse to refer to it/its users correctly is literally transphobia. to undermine an it/its user's wishes and statements about its own identity is transphobia. to police other people and tell them not to use it/its pronouns because you don't like it is transphobia. to tell an it/its user that you'll use they but not it for it is transphobia. telling an it/its user that their pronouns make you uncomfortable is transphobia.

care about other trans people, especially trans people with identities you can't relate to

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people who are against it/its pronouns are like “but they’re so dehumanising!!” well. what if I’m not human, huh? what if I don’t think of myself as fully human? what if I want to reclaim the dehumanisation I’ve been subjected to my whole life? and what if I want to be sexy about it?

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Use it/its pronouns if you wish to confuse the transphobes. Their brain freaking malfunctions!

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shout out to it/its pronouns

they're cool and may be gender affirming for lots of us

they don't have to be dehumanizing

or may be non-humanizing (like in affirming way if someone feels detached from humanity / is nonhuman / etc.)

they may be reclaiming

they may be just cool pronouns that make someone comfortable

it/its pronouns deserve respect and usage to individuals who use them

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Just in case anyone needs a short version of the long post I reblogs earlier about transmisandry.

I'm mad, and if you think someone hate-criming a trans woman is transmisogyny, but doing the same or worse to a trans man is misogyny. You are the problem.

Trans men were told that we can't say transmisogyny because we're not women, and now we're being told that we can't say transmisandry because we are women in transphobes' minds. Yet you call yourself allies or trans activists...

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it/its as in eldritch horror beyond human comprehension. it/its as in my gender is a biblically accurate angel

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Users of it/its pronouns, exclusive or otherwise! If no one has told you so today, here is a reminder that you are rad and your pronouns should be respected.

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it/its pronouns just hit different

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hey. it wants other it/its users to know that others comfort is not our responsibility. whether you/it are an average it/it's, or a 3rd person object it/it's, it wants you/it to remember that other people saying they feel uncomfortable "objectifying you" is not. our. problem.

they don't have to be "comfortable" to respect our pronoun set.

this is who it is.

this is who it/you are.

and none of us need to change for anyone else. <3

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🧑‍🤝‍🧑

It/it's users and I are holding hands rn <2

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It/its pronouns are genuinely so cool because of the versatility in their connotation. Like “silly little gremlin creature” is a valid way of interpreting it but there’s also big things like mountains and valleys and ideas and energies and celestial beings and… The Horrors

Then sometimes it’s medium things that everyone just thinks are neat like- chair. And bouncy house.

It/its pronouns are so versatile in how they connote and what it means depends on the person and I think that’s awesome.

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it/its users are so powerful actually. shoutout to all it/its users. you are like the sun and the sky and a beautiful song. whether you are human or not, no matter why you use these pronouns, your identity blurs the lines of what it means to be human, welcoming those who were once pushed out and freeing those who choose to stay elsewhere. your very existence is an act of courage and rebellion. you are all so real and so wonderful. thank you it/its users