#it/its

[traaansfem]

Hi! I noticed you have multiple sets of pronouns in your bio - are there any in particular that you'd like to hear more often?

That's a question that I find interesting and a bit tricky to answer, if also fun and a bit infodumpy.

So, I generally prefer She/Her pronouns, but I wobble on the position of the other ones in preference on a given day- my preference for pronouns can be She(70%)/Sin(20%)/It(9%)/They(1%) on one day and She(65%)/They(30%)/It(2.5%)/Sin(2.5%) on the next. So, really, whichever is the funniest option in a given situation, really :3

My gender is weird catfluiddemigirlthingflux when you smoosh everything together (gender labels are not a lossless form of informational transfer), so rigidity is not something I tend to practice. I do practice silly tho, so if Sin pronouns make a joke easier to land ("did it hurt when you fell from heaven?" "No, I didn't fall from heaven, Sin did." *vague gesture at me*), then go for those. Same with It/Its, great for purposeful ambiguity with jokes.

Or just whatever causes the most confusion. Rotating labels on some form of a pattern is also fun, particularly if you encode a message in them (I will not find the message because I do NOT have cryptography brain, but it is neat :3).

Anyway, thanks for asking! But the general trend is She 1st, It/Sin 2nd, and They 4th, although sometimes They moves into 2nd. It/Sin are usually pretty close in preference. So, uh. Yeah, She/Her is usually good.

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[stormywormy]

girlthing coded? uh yeah, i sure hope it does

[wolftheghost]

please respect it/its users. its not really hard, we get it if you slip up sometimes. its still not that fun to get they/them'd or other pronouns if you dont use them

use the pronouns someone chooses.

[pansyboybloom]

much love to it/its and neo pronoun users who know they can never use their pronouns in person, who never have them used irl, whose gender expression and identity are only respected online. i see y'all and i love y'all

[smoov-criminal]

did you know that if you use neopronouns, it/its, and/or nounself pronouns you're one of the coolest people on the planet

[identitty-dickruption]

people who are against it/its pronouns are like “but they’re so dehumanising!!” well. what if I’m not human, huh? what if I don’t think of myself as fully human? what if I want to reclaim the dehumanisation I’ve been subjected to my whole life? and what if I want to be sexy about it?

[ghost-of-hiraeth]

"we need more complicated queer identities!"

You can't even handle it/it's pronouns

[pastacrylic]

[almost-correct-quotes]

"we need more weird queer people" most of you can't even handle nonhumans

[rosedominatesyou]

The printer at work has been so finicky lately that I’m convinced it’s doing it on purpose now. Why do you keep telling me a paper is jammed when it’s not? You just want me to open up your back panel and reach inside, don’t you? It’s craving my fingers going deep inside and wiggling them around in there? You need a proper inspection? Hm?

[iamfabiloz]

I think it/its and neopronoun users should get a free hot meal and a kiss goodnight and also should rule n take over the world tbh

[autismvampyre]

i fucking HATE when people have a moral objection to it/its pronouns and refuse to use them based on principle

"oh but it's dehumanizing!" THATS THE POINT. that's literally the fucking point. i personally use it/its pronouns because as a neurodivergent person i feel a disconnect to other neurotypical people. i don't feel quite human, and not in a bad way, just in a "im not quite human" way. some people straight up just don't identify as human, and thats fine too. it's their business.

"it makes me uncomfortable" ok. and?? that's not my problem. if my queer identity - that does not fucking affect you - makes you uncomfortable; that's a YOU problem. can you imagine if we gave every transphobe a pass on misgendering because using the correct pronouns "made them uncomfortable"?? i see a lot of fellow queer folk using this excuse to not use it/its pronouns as if its not the exact same talking points used by bigots.

not everything that makes you uncomfortable is automatically evil and bad. i feel uncomfortable wearing lots of colour, does that make it morally bad for other people who do like colourful clothes to wear what they like? no! that would be insane. people are gonna do stuff that personally makes you uncomfortable, that doesn't make it automatically bad. if someone peacefully existing and using it/its pronouns makes you uncomfortable then that seems like something you have to work on to get over, because people are not gonna stop existing in the way they feel most comfortable with just because you dont like it.

TLDR; get over yourself. you are not the center of the universe and someone else using it/its pronouns DOES NOT AFFECT YOU.

[ihhfhonao3]

People who try to justify queerphobia by saying that we have mental illnesses/are delusional are so stupid because not only are you being queerphobic but you’re also implying that the disabled are undesirable and it’s okay to hate on them which is blatant ableism!! I am going to rip out the entrails of anyone who says shit like that!!

[joyful-soul-collector]

(for the purposes of this poll, order of pronouns doesn't indicate preference)

Yes there are 64 genders and every time this is reblogged we add 3 more to piss off the transphobes

[a-sip-of-milo]

I wish more people stopped seeing it/its pronouns as inherently negative.

[pansexual-pied-piper]

Something abt it/its pronouns really makes ppl lose the ability to think huh

Oh they make you uncomfortable? Well no you're not saying that your comfort is more important than other people's pronouns, you're just... not gonna use them. It's fine if you use something else instead, right?

Oh you don't want to assume they're being used in a dehumanizing way, really, you're just checking? Dang I guess there were no context clues at all that could have told you that it's much more likely that that's simply its pronouns. You just had to be certain, it's not like you're actually accusing somebody of dehumanizing another person.

Well no you're not interrogating it on its pronouns, you're just checking that this isn't internalized transphobia / exorsexism / misogyny / ..., gotta make sure this was an informed decision, right? And who's better qualified to decide whether it chose those pronouns for a good reason than you, after all?

And that's the nice options.