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i feel so seen!!

(twitter thread)

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i think we should normalize not only queerplatinic relationships, but queerplatonic situationships as well

why should aromantic people miss out on the emotional damage of a situationship?

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being aroallo is lowkey so embarrassing. like wdym my sexuality is whore. why

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hi guys. i find myself really funny

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unreliable narrator but it's just an aromantic writing romance

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Autoromantic culture is coming to aro places for advice and being met with disrespect and humiliation (“me when I’m schizophrenic🤪” okay damn.)

(Hope this isn’t considered a vent. If it is I’m rlly sorry and you don’t have to reply to this)

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the ableism is not cute... like oh no they have symptoms that you don't understand and scare you! have you considered that fearing new things is normal, and you are, in fact, going to be okay? maybe listening to them about their experiences, doing some research on it, idk, treating them like people with inherent value and meaning even if they scare you is worthwhile. maybe you'll learn some things! like compassion and care and distress tolerance!

in fact, let's have a little chat here: there are often 3 categories of symptoms in schizophrenia.

positive symptoms describe symptoms like hallucinations, delusions, and disorganized thoughts/speech which may also present with odd affect for the situation. hallucinations are often auditory, but may be visual or involve any of the senses. delusions describe beliefs that are persistent regardless of any evidence to the contrary, and it is not appropriate to either fully agree or disagree with them. for example, if someone believes they are being spied on, you should not act like that is the truth, nor should you totally dismiss them; instead, consider saying something like, "I don't think we're being spied on, but would you feel more comfortable if we [went somewhere else, did something else, etc]?" or establishing a plan with that individual prior to the onset of positive symptoms. It's not their fault, nor is it a moral, social, or psychological failing to be delusional. It is simply an experience that can happen to anyone in the right circumstances. Try to pay attention to how you talk about delusions - meeting them with compassion instead of disgust or fear is a great step to unlearning ableism.

negative symptoms can be remembered as the five "a"s. Anhedonia is the inability to feel pleasure often associated with depression. Asociality is the lack of desire to form and maintain relationships. Avolition is a lack of motivation and/or apathy. blunted Affect, like that seen in autism, is a lack of expression in face and speech. and finally, alogia, which is described as a "poverty of speech/content", and more or less refers to a tendency for minimal communication via words. A singular example could be someone asking "will you be providing lunch?", intending less to ask "if" and more for the individual to explain what the provided lunch is, and getting only "yes." back. any other autistic people really relating to the negative symptoms?

finally, cognitive symptoms. unlike positive and negative symptoms, these are not considered necessary for diagnosis, but they are common (~70% of schizophrenic people experiences them). typically, during the first major onset of positive symptoms, schizophrenic individuals with cognitive symptoms will experience a drop in their ability to process and understand information. It's thought that verbal memory, which to my understanding is both relating to being able to speak and recall words and the ability to understand and recall the words of others, is the most affected form of neurocognitive abilities. This is related to the common symptom known as word salad, in which folks may have extremely disorganized speech, which is characterized choppy, grammatically non-intelligible speech.

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the love was there. it didnt change anything and it wasnt even thematically relevant and honestly it kinda got annoying to the point where i wished for hatred and malice instead and it ruined the whole thing for me

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Asexual people who feel pressured into having sex when they don’t want to and queer people that are afraid or ashamed of having sex even though they want to are actually being repressed by the same societal forces but nobody seems to want to talk about that

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Anyway, fellow sex-repulsed aces with moral OCD that might be triggered by the "you MUST be horny and write porn and be sexual or else you're functionally a conservative" wave on this site, because I know it's making mine act up something fierce:

No you don't

Your discomfort with sexuality and sexual themes is morally neutral and does not make you even remotely similar to Moms for Liberty

Porn is not the only thing they're trying to censor

Porn is not the only thing they're trying to censor

One of the most challenged books of the 2020s so far is Gender Queer by Maia Kobabe, a memoir of a trans AROACE person

You do not need to write or draw things that trigger you to be a politically progressive artist

You do not need to be sexual to be a good person

You have stories that need to be told too, and your stories are as vital to fighting censorship and protecting free expression as any other queer story

We're all in this together and together is the only way we're all getting out of it

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good morning.. and in case i don’t see ya… good-afternoon, good-evening & goodnight ;) ⛏️

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Happy pride month to everyone on the aro spectrum! You are wonderful and enough and valuable to the community, have a nice day!

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Happy pride month specifically to folks on the asexual and aromantic spectrum who oftentimes feel isolated and left out of the conversation. You belong here as much as the rest of us and I hope that you are all loved in a way that is comforting to you.

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as an asexual who likes to imagine sex but doesnt actually like having sex, sometimes it just feels like sex isnt real but i wish it was. and post

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(ID: two memes using the "it's 2025 i'm done arguing / if you hate X i'm straight up murdering you" meme format. the first says "aromantics" and has a picture of the aro pride flag, and the second says "asexuals" and has a picture of the ace pride flag. end ID)

give it up for year 4 of this meme!!!

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it feels like everyone either thinks this aroace flag is either the ugliest fucking flag to ever exist or the most beautiful flag of them all

me personally i love it to death

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I don't understand people who are all like "I'm not really happy in this relationship but I don't want to be alone" like why not? Not being in a relationship is the dream. A mediocre partner shouldn't be a safety net or consolation prize, your partner should be amazing enough to beat out the really fucking awesome position of being unattached. It's fucking great. If your partner's making you unhappy then not having one is better, trust me.

Also if you're worried about being "alone" you don't need a romantic partner you need a circle of friends. Join an art club at your local library or something.

(This post is about people who are settling not people with practical concerns like 'cannot afford to live alone' or 'we're raising kids together and it's be worse for everyone to go through the mess of a breakup' or 'I am disabled and because of my country's shitty shitty support system my quality of life would tank severely and I could easily die if I break up with my partner', those are important and very different problems. Let's not piss on the poor here.)