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long distance and little space !!

***strictly sfw, nonsexual age regression. if your blog is not 100% sfw DNI***

taking care of a baby can be very very difficult when they live far away!! even though i hate not being able to cuddle my princess 24/7 there are lots of ways to have a completely happy and healthy relationship with your baby when you live far apart!!! 

- call every night !!! my baby falls asleep over facetime with me every night!! that way i can make sure she doesn’t have bad dreams and that she gets to bed on time!! 

- we write for each other and ill record myself playing music on my ukulele and guitar while singing and ill send her the videos!! since we’re both creative people we do our respective hobbies over facetime and its almost like we’re sitting in the same room!!!!

- we have a family calendar app that allows us to set reminders and set checklists for each other!! the one we have even lets you set cute backgrounds and choose your color scheme! 

- zepeto is another app that we use !! we both created little people and then we can have them take pictures together!! it’s the closest we can get to taking pictures together and it can be v v cute !!!

- sending each other things !! my baby just mailed me one of her hoodies and a ring to match hers !! soon im going to mail her one of my flannels and a little mouse i sewed just for her with a cute fabric that she picked out !!

- some bigger things too, plans!!! we’re planning to meet irl for the first time in a few months, and then we’re also planning to get married eventually!! talking about how sweet it’ll be when we’re finally together forever is very very nice !!

- know what meds ( if any ) your baby needs to take on a daily basis, and then other meds for pain relief ( cold medicine, pain killlers, tummy meds, etc. ) if your baby needs to take over the counter meds have them send you a picture of the label so you can make sure they’re taking the right dose!!!!

- encourage them to take care of themselves, hygiene, mental health, and physical needs!! make sure theyre staying hydrated and that they eat enough!!  if your little has / had an ED this is especially important!! make sure theyre getting enough fruits and veggies and protein !! be aware of any allergies they may have and help make sure they dont come in contact w any of them!!! make sure they shower and brush their teeth and get dressed in cute clothes that make them feel good !! remember to tell them how precious and adorable they are !!!! 

- be aware of how tired they are and how much sleep they need !!! because my baby’s nighttime schedule varies a bit, and sometimes she works late or is out late with friends, we dont have a set bedtime. we always call when she gets home, and so we’ll talk for a bit and ill pay attention to how tired she is, also accounting for if she needs to wake up the next day!!!

- luckily, my sweet girl is very very good to me and never ever disobeys, so i haven’t set any punishments for her, and if she does ever do anything she shouldnt ( say bad words, watch scary shows, read big kid books, etc. ) i can almost always simply explain why shes not supposed to do those things ( give her nightmares, make her upset, etc ) she tends to understand and steer clear of those things!!! if your baby tends to be a little more wild and mischievous, you may find yourself needing to set punishments, but remember what things are off limits !!  never take comfort items, such as music, stuffies, a tv show that always calms them, a paci, etc. this will only upset them, not teach them anything. no inflicting pain, nothing sexual. examples of safe punishments: a good lecture, an early bedtime, losing dessert for a day, something short term and not unreasonable !!! 

- remind them how much you love them, shower them with compliments and attention as often as possible !!!! especially if your baby is cuddly, long distance can be very hard if they’re upset or in pain!! have them cuddle stuffies!! wrap up v v tight in blankets!!! wear the softest, warmest, comfiest clothes!! drink some juice / milk / preferred little drink !!! go through a mental list of everything that makes them happy when theyre in little space and talk them through it !!!!! 

im still pretty new at being a caregiver, but feel free to dm me if you need a hand !!!! 

- jules <3 <3 <3 

[julesnadri]

Caregivers, listen up!

🦊 DNI if nsfw 🦊

Sometimes your Little needs to be Little when you’re not in the right headspace to properly care for them. It sucks, but it happens. And it’s okay!

Instead of just shrugging your shoulders and saying, “Oh well!” there are some things you can do ahead of time to prepare for these situations!

🦊 Have a space set up for Little entertainment purposes! Colouring books, picture books, and some Little-approved snacks like animal crackers and juice boxes can last a long time!

🦊 Set up Kids Netflix or a movie somewhere it won’t bother you, like a laptop or tablet with headphones if your Little is going to be in the same room as you, or quietly on a tv if you’re planning to be in different rooms.

🦊 If you need a break during the day, send your Little for a nap, or take one yourself, or both! Everyone knows Littles need nap time (even if we hate it sometimes), and caregivers often need naps too. Plus, I’m pretty sure that’s the whole reason naptime even exists - so Bigs can get a break!

🦊 If you’re in a long distance situation, calmly explain to your Little that you aren’t able to care for them properly right now, and ask to postpone any video chat or call that might be taking place, or find a way to compromise. We may be needy, but most Littles are pretty understanding about their Caregiver’s needs, too.

🦊 If you’re in a long distance situation, you could each watch the same movie while on the phone, so that it’s like you’re hanging out together, but your Little will hopefully be distracted enough to not be too dependant! Disney and Pixar movies are great for people of all ages, so one of those might be best.

🦊 Remember to be patient with your Little. Age regression isn’t always controllable; it’s not our fault if we need to be Little when you need us to be Big. Make sure that your Little knows that they’re loved no matter what!

Hopefully this helps!

Kisses 😘

~Fox 🦊

🦊 DNI if nsfw 🦊

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🧸🙅‍♀️ Trouble Regressing Masterpost: 🙅‍♂️🧸

🍼 Regressor Oriented: 🍼

I Feel Like I don’t Deserve to Regress

How to Get Over Internalized Shame About Regressing

I have a Problem with being a Little

I Find it Hard to Regress

When it Feels Like You’ve Lost the Ability to be Fully Little

Tips for Kiddos Who can’t Regress

Tips to Get Out of Bigspace

Things that Make Me Feel More Little

Ways to Feel Tiny

How to Start Feeling Small

Things that Help Me Regress

15 Little Things to Help You Feel Small

How to Get Little on Your Own

What’s the Best Way to get Into Little Space?

Gentle Reminder to Those Who can't "Let Go" when They Try to Regress

💞 Carer Oriented: 💞

How to Make Your Little Go into Little Space

How to Help Your Little Get into Littlespace

How to Help Someone Regress

Advice for New CGs in Getting Their Little Small

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thumbsucking, pacifiers and age regression

Age regression as a coping mechanism is supposed to help you feel better and stress-free, and pacifiers/thumbsucking can aid greatly in that, by stimulating the VVC.

The VVC (ventral vagal complex) is a branch of the vagal nerve that controls sucking, swallowing, facial expression, and the sounds produced by the larynx. When the VVC and these functions are stimulated, it slows down our heart rates and deepens our breathing. Consequently, we feel a sense of relaxation, pleasure and safety.

There is nothing wrong with seeking comfort through thumbsucking or pacifiers! It is natural and common to most primates, and even though some classify it as "childish", sucking behavior can be observed in all stages of development. Also, for pacifiers, as long as they are orthodontically correct, they should pose no harm to your teeth! It's okay to need your paci or thumb to fall asleep or to regress. It's okay!

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being an angel every day is hard work

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God I really wish carrying stuffed animals around with you was socially acceptable

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Baby sign language for nonverbal littles ❤

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Tea time!

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long distance and little space !!

***strictly sfw, nonsexual age regression. if your blog is not 100% sfw DNI***

taking care of a baby can be very very difficult when they live far away!! even though i hate not being able to cuddle my princess 24/7 there are lots of ways to have a completely happy and healthy relationship with your baby when you live far apart!!! 

- call every night !!! my baby falls asleep over facetime with me every night!! that way i can make sure she doesn’t have bad dreams and that she gets to bed on time!! 

- we write for each other and ill record myself playing music on my ukulele and guitar while singing and ill send her the videos!! since we’re both creative people we do our respective hobbies over facetime and its almost like we’re sitting in the same room!!!!

- we have a family calendar app that allows us to set reminders and set checklists for each other!! the one we have even lets you set cute backgrounds and choose your color scheme! 

- zepeto is another app that we use !! we both created little people and then we can have them take pictures together!! it’s the closest we can get to taking pictures together and it can be v v cute !!!

- sending each other things !! my baby just mailed me one of her hoodies and a ring to match hers !! soon im going to mail her one of my flannels and a little mouse i sewed just for her with a cute fabric that she picked out !!

- some bigger things too, plans!!! we’re planning to meet irl for the first time in a few months, and then we’re also planning to get married eventually!! talking about how sweet it’ll be when we’re finally together forever is very very nice !!

- know what meds ( if any ) your baby needs to take on a daily basis, and then other meds for pain relief ( cold medicine, pain killlers, tummy meds, etc. ) if your baby needs to take over the counter meds have them send you a picture of the label so you can make sure they’re taking the right dose!!!!

- encourage them to take care of themselves, hygiene, mental health, and physical needs!! make sure theyre staying hydrated and that they eat enough!!  if your little has / had an ED this is especially important!! make sure theyre getting enough fruits and veggies and protein !! be aware of any allergies they may have and help make sure they dont come in contact w any of them!!! make sure they shower and brush their teeth and get dressed in cute clothes that make them feel good !! remember to tell them how precious and adorable they are !!!! 

- be aware of how tired they are and how much sleep they need !!! because my baby’s nighttime schedule varies a bit, and sometimes she works late or is out late with friends, we dont have a set bedtime. we always call when she gets home, and so we’ll talk for a bit and ill pay attention to how tired she is, also accounting for if she needs to wake up the next day!!!

- luckily, my sweet girl is very very good to me and never ever disobeys, so i haven’t set any punishments for her, and if she does ever do anything she shouldnt ( say bad words, watch scary shows, read big kid books, etc. ) i can almost always simply explain why shes not supposed to do those things ( give her nightmares, make her upset, etc ) she tends to understand and steer clear of those things!!! if your baby tends to be a little more wild and mischievous, you may find yourself needing to set punishments, but remember what things are off limits !!  never take comfort items, such as music, stuffies, a tv show that always calms them, a paci, etc. this will only upset them, not teach them anything. no inflicting pain, nothing sexual. examples of safe punishments: a good lecture, an early bedtime, losing dessert for a day, something short term and not unreasonable !!! 

- remind them how much you love them, shower them with compliments and attention as often as possible !!!! especially if your baby is cuddly, long distance can be very hard if they’re upset or in pain!! have them cuddle stuffies!! wrap up v v tight in blankets!!! wear the softest, warmest, comfiest clothes!! drink some juice / milk / preferred little drink !!! go through a mental list of everything that makes them happy when theyre in little space and talk them through it !!!!! 

im still pretty new at being a caregiver, but feel free to dm me if you need a hand !!!! 

- jules <3 <3 <3 

[julesnadri]

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[julesnadri]

thumbsucking, pacifiers and age regression

Age regression as a coping mechanism is supposed to help you feel better and stress-free, and pacifiers/thumbsucking can aid greatly in that, by stimulating the VVC.

The VVC (ventral vagal complex) is a branch of the vagal nerve that controls sucking, swallowing, facial expression, and the sounds produced by the larynx. When the VVC and these functions are stimulated, it slows down our heart rates and deepens our breathing. Consequently, we feel a sense of relaxation, pleasure and safety.

There is nothing wrong with seeking comfort through thumbsucking or pacifiers! It is natural and common to most primates, and even though some classify it as "childish", sucking behavior can be observed in all stages of development. Also, for pacifiers, as long as they are orthodontically correct, they should pose no harm to your teeth! It's okay to need your paci or thumb to fall asleep or to regress. It's okay!

[julesnadri]

Calming Things To Tell/Ask an Age Regressor During a Flashback

🌻 Hey, you're here. You're here, (insert time/location).

🌻 Hey, look at me, I'm real and you're okay.

🌻 Hey, (term of affection), I know it feels real but I'm here and it's just a bad memory. You're here.

Seriously, keep reminding us we're here and what we are doing. Remind us of the day, what's happened since traumatic experience (aka "remember, we went to Niagara falls?")

Also: if you're physically with them and their flashback isn't a violent one that they might react physically to, massaging their muscles can help them from tensing/cramping up too much.

Be kind and patient always 🌻

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