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Just anti things: calling a fictional character "minor-coded" for hating vegetables like a 65-year-old man didn't use his public platform as President of the United States to rant against broccoli.

this just in, dean winchester is minor coded therefore destiel is cancelled for being problematic

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Someone who's allegedly "against" shotacon mentioned, in a comment of mine, a very specific pedophile IRL who made videos of his victims. If you search the clearnet for that name, you won't find anything. You have to search the darknet for his alias to find anything, and what you find is the CSEM he made of himself and his 16 month old stepson (since he distributed hours of it for free all over the place on there).

I know this because I work in criminology and he came up in my research.

How does this person know his name? How do they know the alias a pedophile who produced CSEM only used on the dark net when distributing videos of his crime?

I know they wanted to shame me for writing a 16 year old dating an 18 year old but while I do feel sick, it's not about myself right now.

that’s incredibly disturbing but unfortunately it wouldn’t be the first time an anti was far too familiar with irl csem

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Just asshole things: describing an actress as "putrid" and "vile" and claiming she should be blacklisted for *checks notes* starring in a film the OP personally didn't care for

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Sorry to ask this. I was going through a blog when I saw a callout post. I checked it out of curiosity. One of the things that was pointed out was : "when they were 31, they had sex with a 18 year old -they are a teenager!- and it's predatory! I (the writer of the callout) am 21 years old and even I don't have sex with 18 year olds because they are very young and it's very predatory!"

So, idk how to feel about that? Especially as someone who has never been in a relationship. I'm 20 years old, soon I'll be 21. Looking at myself at 18 and the future 21, I really didn't change that much? Physically or mentally. Yeah 18 is young but so is 21?? I don't think it's predatory, am I wrong?/serious question

And for the first part, yeah a 31 year old being with a 18 is weird for me, but aren't they both adults? They also said it's because 18 year olds lack experience, which can be true but that's assuming they have never been in a relationship before(with people their own age or similar). So, it can be weird but predatory? Is it?/serious question

I'm sorry if the questions are upsetting &/or weird but I really don't have anyone else to ask- parents are out of question, they literally think you should teach people about sex right before marriage- and I don't trust most online spaces. There's also zero books about such things in my country because "protect the children!!". So now we have an adult(me) who was raised to never ask question about these things and now is confused as hell. Hmm.....

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It's all hogwash.

On average, I would assume that a 31-year-old having sex with an 18-year-old is a bit of a creep. However, it would depend entirely on the circumstances. Is this 18-year-old a naive high school student? Or are they someone who's been working a job for several years? Maybe the older person is their coworker whom they got to know.

A 21-year-old and an 18-year-old can be weird in the US if they only just met and one is a high school student while the other is a university student. But what if they met in some very different context where they're more in the same stage of life? Sure, I side-eye upperclassmen who start dating freshmen the first week of their freshman year, but what about later on in the year? What if both of these people aren't students at all and are, again, working a job together?

"You're mature for your age" is a line that creepers feed to younger people, but it can also be true. Some people just get along better with older partners.

We shouldn't be too draconian about any specific rule. You can only judge by the real circumstances of a specific set of people.

Predators are defined by their behavior, not ticky-box demographics. There is no absolute that lets you detect them and protect yourself. People wish there were because they would feel safer. That's what this kind of post is about.

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after several discussions that left me baffled, let me throw this out to the masses: do you look at ao3's icons when you're looking for a fic to read?

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Fandom Problem #4403:

Do fanpol know that most "normal people" are capable of watching / reading problematic or questionable content, properly identifying certain parts are problematic or questionable, going "yeaahh that part was a little yikes" then continue on watching / reading as normal without having a meltdown over it or accusing the author and every other person who's read / watched and enjoys it an any capacity of endorsing every single action and idea presented in the work?

Sometimes its necessary to go "yikes" and then move on with your fucking life. If the "yikes" is TOO Yikes for you to continue on, that's totally fine, but don't act like everyone else having a higher Yikes tolerance think everything is absolutely fine.

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Why do you believe that people have such fragile morals they will be corrupted by a piece of fiction?

Are your morals that fragile?

Why do you believe that reading fiction about harm will cause the people who read it to do harm?

Are you that easily willing to harm people?

Why do you believe that writing or reading nasty fiction will cause people to think that it's alright to hurt and abuse people?

Are you that easily corrupted and changed by fiction?

Why are you worrying that reading fiction will change a person's morality like some kind of evil spell?

👉 You sound like a baptist preacher claiming Pokemon will make children worship the devil.

👉 You sound like a Victorian phrenologist claiming that reading novels will cause women to lose their virtue.

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gotta love it when people are so upfront about hating trans men /s

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So obviously the underlined bit is why I shared but I'll tell you what the whole thing was something else

(TW Nazi Mention)

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"oh itd be illegal in real life though!!" yeah. a lot of shows have moments like that too. and theyre not always shown to be explicitly negative, are seen as funny, or are even seen as attractive. but people are yknow. expected to know that certain things aren't okay irl. because they expect them to be adults with critical thinking skills.

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You know what the anon option is for? (✿◠‿◠)

For shy people who are too scared to talk to their favourite blogs. (◡‿◡✿)

Not for you to act like a piece of shit. ✿◕ ‿ ◕✿

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Since we talked about how fandom ingores Dean is a creep i just wanted to say that's so fucking stupid like why Dean "fans" are his fans at first place they hate his realitionship with Sam and shouldn't talk with him anymore (they are always crying about wincesties but they always erase or kill Sam to make Dean happy with Cas like so you admit he loves Sam more and he would not be with Cas if Sam is here!?) or when he loves woman they call it ooc ( that's like one of the biggest parts of his character) they like nothing about him they only like the "housewife, feminist, gnc Bi king Dean" that only exist in their head. I even saw a argument about saying Dean loves Sam more than cas is creepy because Cas is "canonical" love intrest and if Dean loves his brother more than "love of his life" it would be creepy like WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. I mean we alredy knew that they don't really care about platonic realitionships but at least they were trying to look like they care. They straight up saying romantic realitionships are more important than platonic ones

you’re right and you should say it anon

tbh fandom dean feels more like someone’s oc that vaguely resembles Dean (actually fandom Dean is more like Sam bc for some reason Dean fans love giving all of Sam’s traits to Dean and then complaining that Sam is boring but whatever 🙃) which is a bummer bc dean is actually a really interesting character? I mean not as interesting as sam imo (but I’m a bit biased since I’m a samgirl through and through). and yeah as an incest shipper (and taking off my shipping goggles as someone who just loves rich, complicated relationships between siblings in fiction) Sam and dean’s relationship is just *chef’s kiss* there’s just so much there to explore I’ll never understand why you’d throw that away for destiel (plus imo sam has way more chemistry with castiel but I’m biased)

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JAT: enjoying "problematic media" is a form of self-harm

ugh yet another word that they want to ruin the meaning of

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TFW you wanna reblog a stimboard of something related to your hyperfixation but it's ruined by a DNI banner and one of them includes your other special interest as a fandom DNI...

Man I just wanted to reblog a cute stimboard...

ugh

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deinosaur and owl vid (blogs) sound like conspiracy theorists to me. One keeps yapping about the consent of children being violated and made up a 16 year old who is impregnated by a 37 year old man (that’s… oddly specific, and which children anyway?)

and the other thinks a non profit company with transparent bank statements who keep a large sum for themselves is either paying bail for the fictional proshippers that went to fictional jail, lands in the pockets of the site’s volunteers, disregards the fact that this is not just illegal but would make ao3 quickly lose their non profit status (and considering how many years ao3 existed and held donation drives we can see that this is just willful imagination) and also implied that every proshipper is friends with Neil Gaiman

strange

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This isn't to say they won't be ace when they're older, but it's painfully obvious some of the anti kids rallying against romantic shipping and claiming to be ace and shippers are aphobic if they like x ship as romantic are just still in their "ew gross" immature phase about adult relationships

"12 years old!! love mincraft :)" hmm yeah I wonder why adult characters kissing grosses you out?

I thought sex scenes and love stories was "gross" too at that age. Then I grew up.

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