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Once Parizad said:

“Shakal o soorat insaan ka pehla taruf hai, insan ka dusra aur asal taruf uske alfaz hain. Apna dusra taruf mukammal karlo, itna mukammal ke loug tumhara pehla taruf bhool jaen.”

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To all the boys out there :)

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Adulting advice: if you think you can’t do a thing because you tried it as a child or teenager and you sucked really badly: try it again.

You may not notice it, but as an adult you continue gaining motor skills, insight, problem solving skills and above all patience and resilience in the face of failure. Also puberty can be a nightmare. For some of us it’s just harder to do things when we’re full of insecurities, low impulse control and focus, heightened emotions, etc. A thing that was hard for 15 year old you might not be hard for 25 or 35 or 45 years old you.

I thought I was the absolute worst at sowing because I tried to learn it in my teenage years and failed spectacularly at the most basic tasks. Turns out I just didn’t have the patience and focus for it yet. I tried it again recently and it didn’t take long at all to learn how to make my own clothes. (And oh my, being able to make any outfit I want in any fabric is a queer superpower.)

It really sucks that we’re told quite early in life what our talents are and we end up assuming that there are some things we’re just not good at, when the truth is that learning as an adult is just completely different from learning as a child.

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The older you get the more you will realize that your friends are people who have made mistakes and bad decisions and even just fucked up and hurt people.

And obviously your boundaries with your friends are completely up to you but you do need to recognize that if you cut off everyone who has done something wrong, you’re going to end up with no friends (and you yourself will have also fucked up in your life, and not lived up to those impossible standards either).

I’ve found it’s much more constructive to learn how to say “hey dude, that was massively fucked up of you,” because most people are really willing to say “yeah, it was, I need to work on it/not do it again/apologize and make things right” ESPECIALLY if they are hearing it from you as their friend.

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It’s always “why did you go out in the storm” and “your soaking wet” and never How was the storm The storm looked fun was it fun

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Disclaimer- this is just a venting out post alright

I caught a glimpse of her after 2 fucking years. Fun fact I was more excited about the fact that I might finally have my goodbye after all these years or a closure, but yeah was high expectations, I actually froze when I saw her first this morning, her eyes are still the same, her smile and also the fact she ignored me like she ignores my texts, even though I just wish her well, I tried so much to speak but I couldn't utter a single fucking word or even properly look at her eyes, those eyes where I have been lost always, I wished for a goodbye, but yeah I'll take her sole glimpse as a goodbye, and will always wish for the fact I meet her again in this lifetime.

I was actually in a mirage thinking maybe I've moved on, but maybe I've not, I've tried to love other people, but I'll never be able to love someone the way I still love you, and the sheer fact that those people actually know that how much I actually love you ( they think loved you).

I'm still in the mess of your love, and you don't even acknowledge the fact that I existed, and this might be the sole reason that I'm so not over you, I want you to be back at my life so much, maybe you can talk a bit, but yeah you won't, I am nothing for you just a senior as you mentioned in my slambook,but yeah haven't forgotten your promises of always keeping in touch and the verses you said that no one can love you like I did, I still take pride in that and you don't even say that we were there, but the words you said to me is the proof that you know who I am, and this always keep my glimmer of hope of maybe reconnecting with you again, hopes is all that keep us afloat.

Still not over you Rags, I don't know if I ever will, and I don't want this to be the last time I see you, I miss you, I know this won't ever reach to you, but yeah take care and Love more than anyone Rags.

- still in love with you ( your Jaan )

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hey gang absolutely tmi here but I just had some of the worst sex of my life in some dude's jeep and afterward he told me i remind him of his dad and i left my underwear and a single sock in the back his car. so. So!

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Is there something deeply evil living within me or am I just up past my bedtime

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something truly horrific about clicking an article about a national or global tragedy only for a pop up to say you only have 3 more free articles this month and then each paragraph of the piece is divided by picture ads for skin creams while a video of a car commercial plays automatically in the corner no matter how far you scroll

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i mean this in an entirely platonic, slightly powerhungry way, but i love when people call me the friendly "boss." like "you got is boss" or "whatever ya say, boss." it's so fun. like we're in the worlds shittiest cartoon mafia

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Not every story is about seeing yourself in it. Sometimes it’s about learning to see other people too.

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