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Do you ever think that pregnant women have a "GLOW" because they literally have this ball of pure light growing inside of them? Or is that the kind of thought that only I have? 😂🤣

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We are born as light and we remain a light, and we have to constantly remember that when we are surrounded by darkness. with my free time these days Im paying attention to more women, posts and books speaking on prepartum and postpartum depression...and it's a real thing. Depression kicks in when an energy that is overwhelmingly trying to convince you that you are not the light that you are. It makes you feel like there is no solution to anything and no point of anything and and life is a never ending gray sky. To some it may be baffling how pregnancy can trigger such darkness, but with anything extreme, there is the other side of the coin ..and since a new life is the most absolutely amazing thing there is, It's only natural that with it, comes all of the thoughts on the complete opposite spectrum. I would love to say I am happy all the time, but it's not the case....my thoughts race to dark places more times than I would want to admit....but i recognize the importance of always coming back to the center, grounding myself and recognizing that I too can be engulfed in this cyclone if I do not practice constant gratitude and care. Hormones are raging and cause emotional shifts, allowing us to feel selfless and full of love, but also cause us to feel more defensive, guarded, and anxious about everything. The only way to ever "get through it" is to recognize what is happening and know that YOU ARE NOT DEPRESSED..... that energy is a separate entity clinging on to you that you CAN detach from. Depression a real thing that can be a part of your situation...but it's not you, you are light. Pure love and light.

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This is important

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I love her

I’m a yoga teacher, and I’ve been committed to this path for over 20 years. _ This was long before brands started dropping large sums of money to sponsor teachers and models, and long before yoga was a key part of the “athleisure” market. _ Now, I find that I am in the position of defending the spiritual heart of yoga. _ And I hope you’ll join me in this. _ In yoga, we are artists and spiritualists of sorts. We are not often the type of people that inherently enjoy delving into business matters and bottom lines. _ If yogis enter business, or even seek to make money off of yoga, the yoga should always come first. Any brand or brand owner that seeks to capture the hearts of yogis would be held up to the moral and ethical standards of the practice itself. _ As yogis, we strive to heighten our powers of honest introspection and reflection; we must break through blinders that block out the truth. Sometimes yoga is bad business, but still good yoga. So it is in this paradigm that I write today and possibly subject myself to scrutiny and threats in an effort to shed light on some darkness in the world of “big business yoga.” _ I’m scared—but this is too important for me to stay silent any longer. _ https://www.elephantjournal.com/2018/03/a-battle-for-the-heart-of-yoga-when-big-companies-try-to-buy-yoga-teachers-and-sometimes-succeed-kino-macgregor/ (at Miami Beach, Florida)

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Please don’t forget the human in who you interact with today. We all go through extreme times. We all have highs and lows. And each of our biggest critic is our own self. So don’t disconnect yourself from who you are speaking with. Feel what they are saying with your whole presence. We don’t need reminding of our failures and lack of. We need reminding in our potential and ways to activate it. We need more people willing to help bring people up, and less making excuses of why others dont deserve it. Someone who is filled with the most hate, needs to be administered an immense amount of love to bring out their true nature. So talk to people as if they are people and not the role they are playing. Whether it’s your coworker, your child or parent, your spouse, your bus driver or checkout cashier. Think about your rough days and the face you put on to get through them, and the moment someone was kind and understanding on that day. Your neighbor is no different. —–this is me needing a reminder

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When I dance the world makes sense....because there is no thought, no worries, no trying to make sense. Sounds are simply vibrations, and when vibrations are strung together into song and music, I feel it and they shake me in a way that makes my body flow and move in ways that can only be felt and not explained. We all do something that we simply are just able to do without trying. Some people can solve problems. Some people can write. Some people can draw. Some people can act. Some people can do it all. But when you are able to do what you're good at, do it for fun and care less if someone judges it, is the best feeling ever. I dance because this body that I am traveling in, finds peace and great joy in moving rhythmically. I don't do it to compete or get paid. I just like to dance....just do what you love, and if you want to share it I'm positive someone will find it amazing as simple as it seems to you!!!

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Finding Peace in discomfort, uncertainty, and sadness, is extremely liberating. You are conscious of your state of being, you can recognize that it is not a state that you prefer, but know at the same time that you must experience these moments and know that some things are completely out of your hands. There is no blame game on yourself or those around you, and there is no anger towards the past nor anxiety for the future. It's knowing that right now I have no choice in the way a SITUATION is, but I DO have a choice to accept it and be at peace. Suffering is choosing to deny what is, and therefore only causes suffering. Strength always comes after moments of discomfort. Your body, brain, and life situations may sometimes seem to be all turning against you and forsaking you, yet always in hindsight, it is those moments that we are most thankful for. So be there when you are uncomfortable, totally there, knowing and aware that it is happening, and it WILL PASS. 

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HAPPY NEW YEAR!

This is not a time to be snarky and laugh at people wanting change in their lives. It is a powerful beautiful time in which people’s energy is directed towards greater achievements and aim towards right action. All of the good that you KNOW YOU posses, through all of your flaws and mistakes….your least favorite person has that pureness inside as well.  All of the achievement and happiness that you desire, is all anyone wants. We forget sometimes that pulling people down doesn’t helps us climb any higher.  Goals accomplished will make us the happiest when we recognize that it is the people around us that have helped us get there, and have inspired others to get there with us. A part of true joy has never been looking over and laughing at someone else not having success. When you are filled with joy, you are consumed by it and wouldn't even think to point someone else out. If you happen to notice someone in darkness you will reach out and try to help. There is no shortage of love and peace, so keep on tapping into those sources of energy and bring some for everyone you encounter. A new year is an amazing time to be insightful and recognize once again that you have the opportunity to accomplish something you’ve always wanted to. Just like every breath you take you have the chance to make another decision. Every morning when you wake up you have the choice to make a difference with your presence. And every year, a full revolution has been made around the sun, and we are reminded once again that 365 days have came and went and we can recognize the the next lap can be even more meaningful. Set some goals, SHOUT THEM OUT INTO THE WORLD, and make them reality. While making goals for your body and material gains in the world just keep in mind that you do not have a soul. You are not your body, you are not your life circumstance, YOU ARE A SOUL, a beautiful amazing soul that can reshape that body that you have and recreate the life you are performing in. You’ve made it this far, have fun from here on out..

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Whats your story?

I bet you think you are so special. And so unique. And have gone through so much that no one will ever understand what it is like to be you. You are right. You are insanely valuable to this earth. You have experienced something unequivocal that is upmost importance to the progress of civilization. And  your presence here is so important that you need to understand that whatever you feel like you need to do to make a difference, is real and you should move forward in doing so RIGHT NOW. In this consciousness it is important to understand that EVERY single person around you has also experienced the same thing relative to their existence. The most paradoxical realization of being a human being is recognizing that you are the most important thing in your world, but also that the world is YOU, meaning everything in the world is as important as you. It’s actually inexplicable and clearly until now there are still no words to describe what we feel when we recognize this truth. Everything around us is a piece of us, and we give and take energy from every atom surrounding us. So this story that you have about your life…that i’m sure you believe is worth telling so people can understand what YOU have gone through to get where you are. No matter what battles came your way, you were able to land stronger and better than ever. A biography seems necessary. People need to hear your story. When we look through time though and flip through the greatest historical figures their biography was only written because of the lives that they changed. Each figure created a shift which allowed space for an abundance of growth through others. Seriously think about it. From athletes to prophets, the only stories that survive, are those that touched aspects of people’s lives. We get so caught up many times in what we want people to view and perceive us as and how we will be “remembered”, that we often forget what we are doing to directly affect those immediately around us…those people that would write your story if fate allowed. It’s therefore never about our stories that we want to tell. It is about the moment by moment actions and attained goals no matter what life situations were thrown at you that make the chapters write themselves. What i’m getting at here is that, yes you are amazing and deserve everything that you believe you do and your history is important. Next is, the only way that we as humans can ever feel fulfilled is if we find a purpose in this life to help life move forward into consciousness, by using what we have learned and realized what is true.  Consciousness being, the awareness that we have the ability to create change in whichever way we seek. We know for a fact what  we do out of love, and what we do out of ego (aka hate, spite, anger, jealously, control etc etc).  Explaining to people what happened throughout our lives sometimes takes time away from the opportunity to give something in that exact moment to change a life even if its your own. Let go of the past and take the next step.

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Giving thanks. 

As we go around and say what we are grateful for, in a moment we are recognizing all that we DO HAVE to be grateful for. But in the midst of our every day hustle, we get lost in the consumer, economy driven, politically controlled, power hungry world. We know that we have all that we need, but we keep getting told “YOU NEED MORE”. Every day there is something else that will make us better if we buy it. The fact is, you know, and I know there is nothing in this world that can change your habits and actions that lead to happiness, other than what you already have. What you have is the awareness that you and only you can make changes to aim for peace and harmony in your world. If you honestly believe that MONEY will make you a happy person....you will chase it forever and die with the last thought “why could I not see all that I had?”. If you think beauty will make you happy, take a look at every beauty queen in the past, they've aged and the ones that tried to hold on to it grew miserable and botched their beautiful faces trying to preserve what was not meant to stay. If you think that a relationship will make you happy,  spend time with your favorite couple for a week and see that many moments that they are together, disagreements come often, and they need space and time apart  more than you would have thought. If you believe a child will make you happy...remember that the child will become an adult and will not depend on you and you will be back where you are wondering what will make you happy, if you try to keep treating your adult offspring as a child, you will both become even more bitter and resentful. It is you...and what you have to OFFER the world.You have to embody and be everything that you want to see.  It was never about receiving. It is always about giving. When you bear your fruits to the world and offer what you were meant to, the world has this amazing way of giving you the nutrients and life support to keep harvesting what you have to offer. This cycle is no secret. Every tree, every animal, every cycle around the sun teaches us this lesson, and yet we fight to accept it.

Through mediation, and appreciation for your body and mind through a form of physical art and intellectual art we are able to truly give thanks to the universe. It starts right there with your realization that you are everything and a part of everyone, and knowing that you have these same thoughts. It is not a unique. idea of mine, because instinctively we all know the same truth. Loving your family, friends, and everyone you come across, by being kind, respectful and helpful is true gratitude. Thank you, for being you. Thank you for waking up today with a purpose. Thank you for the love you've brought to this world. 

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Role Playing

We get so caught up every day in titles we have, what we are told we are, and what we desire to be....we often forget who we are and who others are. Whether it’s the degree you hold: Doctor, Nurse, technician; Your relationship with others: boyfriend, wife, Mother, friend; Your religion: Christian, Atheist, Buddhist; Your genetic makeup: European, Cherokee, tall, blue eyed, autistic....I'm sure you get the point in what I'm trying to  say. We take all of these boxes and try to compartmentalize ourselves and hold strong beliefs because we are told, or know that we can describe ourselves with labels. We use so much energy in order to ensure we maintain our identity and that it gets the recognition that it deserves. We get furious when someone labels us wrongly, people must recognize what we believe. 

Many times we are so caught up in whatever it is that we “are”, we lose ourselves. We find ourselves one day asking, “why am I here? Why do I feel so alone? When will this get easier? Why does no one understand me?” And so on and so forth. Maybe because we hold on to so much  based on society, and our own judgmental perceptions, we try hard to believe it....leaving no space to just be what you need to naturally be. We begin to question everything. It’s kind of crazy, how we often forget that we are all the same. The status, the titles, the social class...are all made up and are concepts that we feed into. We tell ourselves that people are more more inferior or superior  than us based on what box they fit in to. As many of us know though, that when you take anyone out of their perceived persona and spend quality time with them....you realize ‘OMG THEY’RE HUMAN’. Whether it’s a doctor or your own child just having a heart to heart conversation. When you take what you believe about them out of the picture and just be with them, you may recognize that at the core, they feel much like you do.

Have you ever met someone through your friend.” Or something to that effect, for whatever reason...and your friend replies, “No, he is actually really great...you just have to get to know him”. Would it be insane to think that if you really tried to get to know anyone, you may find more that you actually like more than dislike? What about when someone pre-empts you, with the down-low on someone before meeting them. Tells you that you won’t like them, they're a bitch, no one likes them...no one even knows how they got invited. Guaranteed that you make up your mind before meeting them that you don’t like them as well..and nothing that that they the entire time with you, will please you because their presence is annoying....and this is because EVERYONE ALREADY KNOWS IT. The same on the contrary applies when someone has popularity and you find yourself wanting to be her friend as well, because there must be a good reason why everyone likes her. 

This is is just to point out how much we judge people based on what is fed to us and what we view ourselves as. Do YOU not deserve to always be treated with respect no matter what title you hold, even if no title is held at all? Is it not fair to be given a chance to befriend someone without them having prior views of you based on the past? When you were a child, did you not want your parents to understand your feelings and desires without them being upset? We all need room to be ourselves, and understand that giving room to people will allow them to be themselves and be able to be their best. Giving room, drops labels and ideas and all roles that we think we need to play. We have all been told a million times to treat others as we want to be treated but forget constantly to remember in the moment.  You can be a mother and respect everyone, you can be a doctor and see everyone as your equals, and you can be a teacher and learn from everyone as well. Just keep practicing.

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Seek and you shall find

So everyone is dumb and annoying around you, huh? No one understands. No one is doing what they are supposed to. Coworker can never do anything right? Everything about humanity is effed up starting with the person sitting right next to you. All you hear is people go on about what is miserable in their lives, and how everyone around them creates problems. Sometimes someone enjoys a vacation and that is fun to talk about for a little, until you realize you’re sitting at work and nothing is good about work...or life...other than getting time off...and now you can’t wait until your next vacation. Finally, so you can get away from these dumb annoying miserable people. 

The saying “misery loves company”, goes beyond just those surface words words which we interpret as people that love misery, love to drag others with them. Much more. If we have misery we actually seek it out, to see if anyone else is miserable with us. Sometimes we even battle with who has it worse. This is because praise is due to the person who fought the hardest to be where they are at. We all know we are doing our best, yet it is difficult to believe anyone around us is as well. We want to make sure people are aware that we are going above and beyond, yet we see everyone else as “doing their job”. Real question is: is any job worth it if you find NO joy in it and just can't wait to get home every single day. 

If you are looking for darkness and sadness, you WILL FIND IT. Shadows always come with light. You literally get to interpret everything that you come by. If you live in fear of something, you are unconsciously looking for it just by believing that it is inevitable, hence why you are afraid. If you wait for the day, it will come. If you expect everyone you come across to be stupid, you will believe that everyone you come across is stupid. You will find something in everyone that just doesn’t cut it for you. Which has nothing to do with them...and everything to do with you. What I'm relaying in this message is not an epiphany of mine. This is something we all know but fall into the loop of insanity of our daily lives and seek out things to complain about. How many people do you see (or recognize in yourself)  gossip and be engulfed in negative bitter energy, rather than sit in peaceful silence together and appreciate the beauty in that. If you make it a point to recognize something good in everyone you come across, you will see that people are in nature, good. Anything that you find yourself annoyed by in a person, first ask yourself if there is something similar about you, or that you have done that triggers this response. If not, ask yourself if it was personal. Do you really believe that people that annoy you, seek out the intention of annoying you? Maybe it is you seeking out annoyances so you can confirm  your theory that everyone sucks. If you truly want people to be better, why not lead by example?  You don't like complainers? Don't complain. You don’t like name callers (bitch. fag, idiot, fucking asshole, retard, nigger)...don’t be a name caller. Name calling no matter what the name, is all the same thing. Take whatever name you want and be offended by it...recognize that all it is, is a way to make the perpetrater feel superior/greater/righteous. You simply have to recognize when moments to make the decision to choose peace come about; and if you fall into the trap and realize you did, you are one step closer! -----if you don't think it’s that easy, feel free to tell me why. 

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I will handstand absolutely anywhere. Photo has nothing to do with the following. 

Any way today I saw my old friend Joan, and when I say old I mean she’s 87 years old. She’s pretty awesome. We were just catching up and whatnot and then she brung up the Trump topic. The dreaded POTUS talk. It’s strange because you hear everyone talking about how terrible he is and how hated he is more than anything….but the man is still sitting there in office. It definitely speaks volumes on what people are really willing to do in order to create change for something they speak and complain about a lot. People love to talk about PROBLEMS, PROBLEMS, PROBLEMS….and if a solution is mentioned by these people, it’s never something they should be doing themselves. It’s what everyone else should be doing. “But Chastity, he’s the one thats president it is his job to run the country correctly.” The truth is….we are ALL president. Each and every one of us has a choice every day to do something to change something around us…whether it is simply our attitude or our job. The thing that holds us back is our ego which carries the fear of letting go and losing materials, belongings, and the perspective that we want people to see us from.

Politics are just another divide and truth will not often arise from speaking on the topic. This is why an extremely large ego is chosen to be a leader….they want to own the title of President and obtain the power that comes with it. Okay this is super “deep” but in reality we know that nothing is really ours; not a title, not a car, not a house. You have to know this. Including your body. Wait you don’t really think you own it do you?  Ouch, sorry to break it to you but this body is as temporary as it gets baby. So if you hate it, thats okay…you only have to go for a ride in it. If you love it, enjoy and take care of the rental. The only thing that is truly ours to keep….belongs to ALL OF US. That one thing is the truth. if something is the truth, it belongs to you…and me…and him…and her. Whether you want it or not….it is yours. It is a fact. Truth does not need defending nor manipulating. It will not waiver. It is the base of what IS. It has no side. So when you find yourself choosing a side, ask yourself are you choosing the truth or an opinion. War is never right from either side, no matter what side of the wall you are on. Peace is the only thing that will bring light to the truth, which is why there is so much resistance to it. Truth hurts when you are trying to hide from it. Like a vampire from the sun. It burns because  you’ve been accustomed to the darkness and can’t handle the light. Some people will live their whole lives defending  their side….angry and bitter. Thriving in dark surroundings. Loving company that agrees and crawls to the shadows with them…even in their laughter you will find sadness. They are comfortable together because they feel protected by their company and do not feel alone; we are not meant to be alone….it is instinctive to keep energy around us. But even in hiding, truth finds you. When there is no side, and instead a quest for the truth…there is no argument nor anger. Just a real honest conversation; listening and openness. Regardless of disagreement, the need to be right diminishes.

When you bring up topics and decide to debate on something, remember that facts are the only thing that matter. The opinion of the ego that drives us, is constantly trying to create a divide…..and it is the root of all problems that we speak about. Let us do more listening than looking to be right. If you know what is real…..remember that what is real, can not be threatened. No threat…no defense necessary. If a situation that arises and you feel it needs to be corrected, an argument will waste the energy you need to go forth to help fix the situation. 

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Are you sick?

Growing when we would get sick, WE GOT ALL THE ATTENTION. Whoever caught the bug was thee baby for the day. Who ever got hurt, got kisses and hugs. It seemed like the only way for people to realize your existence sometimes was to have something wrong with you. As an adult..the state of being “sick”  offers a valid reason to not have to put on your happy face and conquer the check list for the day.  People SUDDENLY seem to have compassion and excuse you from resuming normal activities. 

But sometimes being sick, gives ourself an excuse. We tell ourselves “I AM sick”. We make it a state of being instead of something that is just happening and or something we can control. We identify with the sickness and make it who we are. Sometimes and describe ourselves as our sickness. Have you ever noticed that the people that complain about having an illness and talk about it all the time...always have more problems come up? They say things like “it’s always something with me” or “if it’s not one thing, its another”, or “I just don’t catch a break”. Whatever it is you believe.....is your truth. 

STORY TIME! Around the age 14 I was diagnosed with asthma and and chronic bronchitis. Dr.’s solution...take this prescription of albuterol and when  bronchitis gets triggered come to me for a z-pak (super strong antibiotics). I began to describe myself as an asthmatic with chronic bronchitis. Guess what? My “asthma” worsened as time went on....and every time I got ill, I said it would turn into bronchitis...and it did. Practically psychic. And if people  would dare to challenge my illness I would get defensive....started looking for reasons why I became burdened with the illness....blamed everything such as the weather, the air, anxiety, exercise, dust etc etc. Instead of really trying to understand my body and why I was “sick” I found reasons externally and labeled myself as an asthmatic. When I was educated more on asthma and what causes much of what I was experiencing, I found out how much different foods affected my system. My boyfriend who had a history of food affecting his body in many ways suggested it might be dietary. Suggested that I stop eating dairy. “Okay I don't drink milk only coconut and almond :)”. No. He said in every label, every food item, be sure there is not a trace of  dairy. “YOU MEAN ICE CREAM, CHEESE AND BUTTER TOO?!?!??!?! The horror, how could I? Thats just too much to ask.” Then I thought....wait....I literally can’t breathe sometimes, how could it hurt to try to find a real solution? Who can test what works for my body better than I can? I stopped consuming diary products completely....within weeks I noticed a vast difference in  the way my lungs functioned. Every time I accidentally ate dairy I noticed symptoms again. This is when I realized, I am NOT asthmatic. My body reacts to certain foods. I am not a victim to certain foods, nor asthma, my system is just able to work better when I find nutrition in alternative foods. This is just one specific example of an illness that a doctor saw and prescribed something for without offering further advice. This is the absolute world we live in, and even when they are really trying to help you....it’s not like you tell them everything anyway. Doctors are not magicians. 

Oh back to my actual point. If you hang on to an illness and make it your identity, no one can take that away from you. You will get the pity, and sympathy. If you want to feel good, you need to make a decision to find out what will really make you better. Many medications for todays common illnesses can only go so far. I am not anti doctor....I'm the first one to run to the doctor when something  is wrong. I am also not taking away from anyone’s illnesses and life situations. Things happen to us all..and we can cling on to it, or work it out and learn from it. If something is really wrong, it is a sign from your body to slow down and rest and be conscious of what you are doing to it. We are all created differently and handle everything differently, but our essence is truly the same. We want to feel be good and feel good. 

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FOOD  GLORIOUS FOOD! Definitely one of the worlds largest dilemmas. I mean we can go back to bible days and see struggles derived from food. Fast forward to today and there is just so much food, yet more health problems than ever because of food. Why does the thought of having a perfectly balanced diet sound easy, but every day we live, we encounter so many little choices that make it impossible?! Okay so you’ve watch Dr. OZ (who makes everything seem matter of factly easy...except dancing---> https://youtu.be/MgtNugrhyro) and every day he says something needs to be included in your diet...then you think about it and you realize in order to take in all your essential nutrients, every day you need to eat kale, palm oil, quinoa, spinach, broccoli, beans, beets, fresh juice, lean meats, coconut oil, sea salt, olive oil, turmeric, ginger, yogurt, salmon, avocados, wheat grass, flax seeds, chia seeds, walnuts, acai bowl.....okay okay ill stop. HOW DO I EAT ALL OF THIS IN ONE DAY AND JUST THE RIGHT AMOUNT SO I DON’T GET FAT? So once you tried going healthy...decided it’s just way too overwhelming...and WHY IS IT SO EXPENSIVE? It’s easier to just eat what I want, take a multivitamin and call it a day. This health craze is just a scam, and lets face it none of these foods give me the energy Dr. Oz promised anyway. I’ll save the money; besides chipotle is healthy...yeah, it has salad, and beans, and PROTEIN; plus a little sour cream and cheddar never hurt anyone...AND GUAC...so many benefits like something about good fats, right?

Okay so the thing about food is we never gave it much thought until the moment we recognized that it affects our body and how people perceive us. Once we gain the consciousness and we get told things about calories and amounts of fats and carbs, we become super alert and afraid of food. Food became the enemy (but best friend for comfort because it’s always there to make us feel good).  Food is seriously like one of those best friends that seem to always be there when you need them, but cause ALL of the drama in your life and you're always in a fight with or mad at for betraying you...but then you make up and hang out again, because it’s fun, AND ALWAYS THERE. So lets name your regular unconscious eating  “Habit” (toxic friend). You're sick of Habit and can't take anymore of her shit. You go searching for another friend and find a friendship you know can definitely work...we will call that friend “Diet”. So you go to Diet because you know Diet is consistent, and at the end of the day you can sleep well and know you don't have that extra drama in your life that Habit gives you. You are not constantly feeling like shit because Diet is predictable....but Diet is plain and  gets boring real fast, and you need excitement in your life. Diet just doesn’t give you the thrill and the rush that Habit gives you. You realize you and Diet aren't that compatible after all. You scroll through Instagram and see Habit having so much fun with so many other people and you get a little anxious so call Habit up...and so the cycle continues...Habit is back and so is all your drama. Sound familiar? If you’re thinking about an actual friend.... let’s not get into that today!

The thing about both Habit and Diet are neither of them actually make you feel good. The reason being is that you are looking to them to make you feel good. When you chase a rush, you keep chasing, no matter what kind. Be it food, relationships, or thrills. There is no secret to food. Food’s purpose to to provide us with essential elements for our body to process, so naturally we enjoy it. Finding the friend or friend that is good for you, and you can actually stomach, takes time, but you have to listen to what your gut tells you. Your belly tells you I'm so full...but your mind tells you one more bite. We know our bodies instinctively but we fight it searching for a fill. If you are looking for the magic answer....and thought at the end of this you were going to get one...think again. There is none. Every decision you make...it needs to be conscious. You need to ask yourself, why you are eating what you’re eating and at the end of the day, what does it do for you? If you are happy with your answer every time, then you are making the right choice. If you regret the decision every time, then you made the right choice still....and in time you will learn...even if it’s at the end. You did it how you wanted.

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How you see yourself. Here is me and my little rolls..hehehe. DO I love them? eh. I’d be lying if I said the first thing I thought when I saw this picture was my belly looks so good! But then I thought…who cares. Everything is set up to confuse us right now. There is a big movement with “self love”. Love yourself!….they say. No matter what size. Love yourself because you are black. Love yourself because you are short. Love yourself because you are tall. Yet there is a still consistently large amount of people creating illusions of themselves to put out into the world to draw attention and mass crowds feeding into it.  There is even a phenomenon with women that have created these illusions, gained the attention, and them come out admitting what they’ve done and draw even more attention. Nothing is wrong with any of this. People do what they need to do in a moment like all of us, searching for something more. But do these people “love themselves when showing the world a version of themselves, that is not them? Do the people that scream to the world “I LOVE MYSELF!” truly believe it, for the simple fact that it must be known? The question becomes, how do you really love yourself? What exactly are the steps to looking at every piece of yourself and saying “I love me”? The more I’ve paid attention to this topic and listened carefully to people and wise words from authors…I believe the only way to “love yourself” is to love others. The idea of loving yourself separates you from yourself. Eckhart Tolle (read his stuff!) said “you can not love yourself and be yourself”. This clicked. Once you look at every person you come across as a part of your essence, and you begin to love them, you feel the love beam back and that is what we are searching for. If you spend time creating a separate identity trying to “love you”, you literally try to create something you are not instead of BEING YOU. Spending time seeing good in a person that it is most difficult for you to see it in, will help open you up to see beauty in so much more. Instead of loving yourself, try to embody love, be love and give love. 

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Learning new things. The only way to grow and get better at ANYTHING is to keep learning with intention. No matter what your skillset/occupation/calling is, there is something still to learn. Taking the time and effort to truly educate yourself, saves you energy and creates space for more opportunities. Instead of being in a situation feeling like you're in over your head, drowning in the overwhelming realization that you have no idea what you are doing or why, having an idea of what you need to be doing to obtain the ultimate goal that you want to achieve comes from education (and I don’t mean institutional).STORY TIME: I had this flashback today of when I was four years old. My older sisters and I were playing in the pool. I, being so young and small, stood on the stairs splashing around and if was daring enough to tip toe to the last step I held tightly to the metal rail.  Once I glanced out and saw my sisters swimming and playing freely in the middle of the pool, I instantly felt held back and restricted. I called out to my sister Dominique and she came swimming like a little dolphin towards me. She climbed the stairs up to me and asked what I wanted. I ordered her, “Teach me how to swim!” She laughed and turned around and said “like this”, she jumped off the stairs followed by a little dive into the pool and swam away. HA! Well that’s simple. Why didn't I just do that in the first place? I jumped off the stairs and dove head first.......bubbled all the way down to the bottom of the 4 ft (which happens to be a liquid black hole when you are 2 1/2 feet). As I frantically flailed my entire being trying to catch some air, a lifeguard swooped my tiny body up and demanded that I not enter the pool again. What a buzz kill. 

WHY THE HELL DID I THINK OF THIS STORY?! I have no idea but a couple of insights were realized while remembering it. I for one recognized that I wanted to learn something....and folllowed an action from what I thought was a simple task. I didn't think I needed to actually work to swim. It sure didn't look like my sister was working, she was having fun! Following what looked effortless for my sister led me to almost drown. This story is not one to blame my sister for not being a good teacher and leaving me to drown. It is actually a reminder of why we go through things in life and gain wisdom from them. A four year old is eager to learn and will follow what they see.  Sometimes the 4 year olds in us do not go away. Let us be cautious of just doing something because you see it done and assume you know how. Take the time to educate yourself on whatever it is you desire to accomplish. Understand full your intention and what you want from the outcome. When you have taken the time to learn and fully understand, things come with ease and grace. Be ready to jump in and swim, but remember in order to do so, it takes understanding of how to move your entire being in order to stay afloat.