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Five stages of aromanticism

Denial: I'm just a late bloomer. Oh I just haven't met the right person. I'm not ready for a romantic relationship.

Anger: why is everyone obsessed with romance and why am I not in love yet

Bargaining: I'm going to pick someone to have a crush on. You know, like a normal person

Depression: oh god oh fuck i'm gonna die alone I'm fundamentally broken

Acceptance: WOAH being aro actually rocks #loveloses my favorite color is green now

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"You can't be a lurker on tumblr." Yes, you absolutely can. I've been quietly reblogging things since 2014 and I haven't interacted with anyone in years.

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about a month ago, my uncle asked if I had a significant other. I appreciate his gender inclusivity, of course.

I'm used to the question. it's not like it's something outrageous that he's asking. so I simply said no, that's not for me.

he looked at me and said "well, someday." not someday maybe, just.... someday.

of course I'm not quick to anger, but there's a part of me that's a little more defensive about my aroace identity. so I jumped to my defense.

my uncle isn't a bad guy, he's quite nice and tries his best to be respectful in the current political shit storm by supporting queer people. but apparently that does exclude me, an aroace.

I reiterated that I'm just not interested in a romantic or sexual partnership, and I really do not ever see that changing.

and he said something to the effect of "it's okay if you don't want that now."

and I said, "no, it's just okay that I don't want that."

and he said that I was pessimistic. as if I was secretly searching for a relationship or a partner, but was rejecting love because I could not find one.

I calmly (with all the rage in my veins) told him "no, a life without love or sex is something optimistic for me."

he had the gall to look horrified.

I'm sick of aroace people not being seen as normal human people when they don't want the outcome of their life to look like everyone else's. I'm sick of the white picket fence, I'm sick of the assumption that everyone has another half out there.

I'm whole on my own.

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happy pride month to all the

-asexuals

-aromantics

-aroaces

-aromantic allosexuals

-asexual alloromantics

-aroace flux

-people who don’t fit the traditional aspec definitions but still identify as aroace

-poc aspec people

-young aspec people

-old aspec people

-romance/sex favourable aspecs

-romance/sex repulsed aspecs

-romance/sex indifferent aspecs

-romance/sex ambivalent aspecs

-romance/sex averse aspecs

-neurodivergent aspec people

-neurotypical aspec people

-disabled aspec people

-chronically ill aspec people

-aspec people with contradictory identities

-aspec people who do not fit any of these categories listed

-you are all valid 🏳️‍🌈

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James Potter is really out there collecting trauma boys like they're infinity stones

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I cannot stress this enough: queer people don’t care if kids aren’t queer. What we do care about is queer children becoming queer adults and not dying before they get there. It really is that simple. Any additional context you’ve added to justify your bigotry is your own fiction.

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fun things to do during pride month!!

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AROMANTICISM AND ASEXUALITY ARE INHERENTLY QUEER AND DO NOT NEED TO BE PAIRED UP WITH ANOTHER LGBTQ IDENTITY TO BE RECOGNIZED AS SUCH AND YES THIS INCLUDES CISHET ASPECS

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AROMANTICISM AND ASEXUALITY ARE INHERENTLY QUEER AND DO NOT NEED TO BE PAIRED UP WITH ANOTHER LGBTQ IDENTITY TO BE RECOGNIZED AS SUCH AND YES THIS INCLUDES CISHET ASPECS

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I don't care if somebody was "born a man" or "born a woman"

We were fucking born as babies, I frankly don't care what you were "born to be," so long as you are happy in the here and now. That's what matters more, not this bioessentialist "you're born this way, and nothing you do or say matters more than how you were born"

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"You look so hot" and "You look so sexy" in the most aroace possible