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Why Narcissists BODY SHAME You & Use Your INSECURITIES Against You

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Why people body shame?

At some point in time, have you ever thought about changing something about your physical appearance because somebody told you to? Have you ever thought that you shouldn’t eat because you’re too big, or force feed because you’re too skinny, did it ever crossed your mind that it would be better to appear physically better than to be happy and feel better? Some TV shows often joke about the physical of other people causing some people to have a certain standard which they shouldn’t have. Even people blame others for being body shamed saying it’s their fault for being out of their standard due to their weight of something else, and yes of course, it is way better if you are physically fit but it doesn’t mean you should put yourself down just because you’re not, finding a quick fix is also a bad option in the long term as this may cause you to revert back into what you were before, Instead, choosing to be consistently improving yourself both physically, and mentally to be strong against negative people who love to put shame on you.

So why do people body shame? Well, with a few reasons, body shaming is done by people who have a negative approach; could be done to you by others, and even you could be doing it to yourself with or without you realizing, intentionally or not.

Here are a few examples as to why people love to body shame:

1. HIGH STANDARDS OF SOCIETY

The high standards of society have influenced us in both good and bad ways. But to some people these influences have caused them to have high standards to both their selves and other people.

2. VICTIM OF BODY SHAMING

After being a victim of something, some people find other people to be their victims.

3. REVENGE

After being a victim for a long time, some people choose to get revenge for themselves by body shaming the people who used to put shame on their physical appearances.

4. AD HOMINEM

Some people would choose to attack a person they are arguing with through body shaming. In desperate times; having nothing to say, this is something they resort to.

5. LACK OF EDUCATION

This type of body shaming is usually experienced by adults, and teens. Coming from younger children who find pleasure in teasing others.

  6. CULTURE

Some people are so used to a standard that they follow, which makes them look down on people of their culture who doesn't meet their standards.

7. HIGH STANDARD ON SELF

Due to the negativity around or some other reason, some people may develop a high standard for their selves; causing them to push past their limits by not eating, and force feeding.

8. MISINTERPRETATION

This usually comes from concerned friends giving them a wake-up call, but unfortunately they may have interpreted it as something negative.

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There were the eating disorders (hospital admissions for which continue to rise sharply), which sintered a worldwide obesity epidemic, and the pills that helped desperate women defecate fat. Over the years these weight-loss stories moved online, resifted as empowerment. in campaigning against unrealistic body ideals inspired thousands of women, but made an equal number very cross indeed. The ideal body shape rebuilt itself before our eyes, from something made of bones with eyes to something made of bones with an arse. While the body positivity movement celebrates all bodies that go beyond what is currently acceptable, it ignores the reasons why so many people have such a tumultuous and violent relationship with their bodies in the first place. By skipping those sticky conversations, ones that reach into the offal of politics and families, and the day-to-day existence of being a fat person in the world and instead leaping straight to the friendly hashtag, complete with women detailing their own blessed journeys towards inner beauty, it heaves all responsibility for feeling better about one’s body on to the shoulders of the person within it.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/jan/12/body-positivity-has-had-its-day-lets-find-peace-with-ourselves

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The body positivity movement promotes the mind set that anyone can and should have a positive body image, despite their size, weight, looks, or any perceived “flaws,” and that we should accept others’ bodies.

Honesty is the first step toward true body acceptance and transformation.

Be open and frank with yourself about where you are and how you feel about your body.

It's fine if you despise your physical appearance.

Accept where you are at this point of your life so that you can finally overcome it. embracing and enjoying your body, try to feel grateful for it.

It's a fantastic ship and will be your constant companion for the rest of your life.

When you struggle with diet and weight, it can be second nature to shame and hate your body. But the truth is that food cravings and addiction stem from the mind. Your body is an innocent bystander, everything is all on mind. 

Don’t aim for instant body positivity. Instead, make your goal eventual body acceptance. Start small, with honesty and acceptance of where you are at, how you feel, and where you want to go. Remember that fear-based motivation is never going to “fix” you; it won’t lead to real, lasting transformation. It’s like building a house on a shoddy foundation.

https://www.recovery.org/pro/articles/body-acceptance-is-more-important-than-body-positivity/

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"Body confidence can mean different things for different people but the consensus is that it’s essentially challenging one’s self to accept (and eventually love) who you are today, just as you are, instead of the visceral need for “perfection”- Reid-Nelson

“As a woman, I have to admit that the burden of looking a certain way can feel like a weight around one's neck; it takes practice and courage to stand proudly in your own skin—and to recognize that you can be different things in different situations. And with social media being our main source of inspiration for many aspects of our lives, this need has been exacerbated. I wish I had her skin or her legs etc. could be easily repeated several times in a few short scrolls if you’re not careful” Mervyn.

Mervyn was ask “how about body improvements? Should we not be inspired by them? What if it’s for health reasons?” 

“No, not at all. Yes, make improvements, of course! But these improvements shouldn’t ideally be founded upon self-resentment or because you want ‘Sarah’s’ thighs. I hate to be the bearer of bad news (or reality) but there is always a possibility you won’t make it…and then, of course, there’s a fear that you’ll fall further back down the well of inadequacy. The goal is self-acceptance first and then improvement. Ask yourself: is it really for health purposes and self-acceptance or do I want a great bikini shot for the ‘Gram’? If you’re not making changes for the right reasons reaching these goals can also bring about a deeper sense of unfulfillment and inadequacy. Realizing you’ve climbed the wrong mountain is heart-breaking for anyone.”

https://www.forbes.com/sites/biancamillercole/2020/06/04/body-confidence-body-positivity-and-self-esteemthe-complicated-truth-behind-instagram-and-body-image-woes/

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Vivoree Esclito backs ‘no to body shaming’ calls after becoming subject of ‘It’s Showtime’

Jeline Malasig

Actress Vivoree Esclito spoke up against body shaming after being a subject of one of a noontime variety show’s segment.

The 20-year-old former “Pinoy Big Brother” housemate retweeted a 2019 post she wrote on Twitter and shared an Instagram Story which featured a text that reads:

“Don’t you dare make me feel ashamed of my body.”

Two years ago, Esclito tweeted that she was aware of people body shaming her online and appealed for them to stop doing it to others.

“Ok so I’ve seen some comments about some people body shaming me. It’s fine with me po, none taken, but PLEASE do not do it to others. Some people don’t take it the same way I do. Other’s bodies are totally NONE of your business. Be sensitive enough to know that,” she wrote.

The actress retweeted her post as the phrase “NO TO BODY SHAMING” landed on local Twitter’s top trending list Tuesday evening.

A clip from “It’s Showtime” could be seen by clicking the particular trend on the platform.

The clip features a contestant’s picture for the variety show’s “Hide and Sing” segment which acts as a guessing game.

Some of the contestant’s body features are zoomed in to allow viewers to uncover his or her identity.

When the picture of the first contestant called “Tago-Kanta Number 1” was shown, one of the program hosts blurted out Esclito’s name after seeing a portion of an arm with visible hair.

“Si Vivoree ‘yan!” Itchyworms frontman Jugs Jugueta exclaimed with a laugh.

He was immediately called out by fellow host Karylle, who said that she’s also “very hairy.”

Jugueta responded that he was just joking.

“This is not funny, this is the last time you’re gonna make fun of her,” a Twitter user who shared the clip said in response to the host’s reaction.

“I’m with this: NO TO BODY SHAMING. The world is too depressing, yet people are continuing shaming others by weight, height, and for being mabalbon. This Vivoree girl is beautiful. Every girls are beautiful no matter what. Don’t make fun (of) what they have,” another online user wrote.

Esclito likewise shared a graphic of body shaming on her IG Story.

It was not the first time that Esclito’s name was immediately mentioned in the segment as the subject of body hair surfaces.

A fan Twitter account shared another clip that featured a zoomed-in picture of a contestant’s pair of thick eyebrows.

The hosts mentioned the actress’ name without hesitation.

Esclito previously revealed that she was bullied for her appearance, particularly her facial and body hair, since childhood.

“Sobrang insecure ako [dati] sa sarili ko because of the way I look, and [the bullying I went through],” she shared in a 2018 interview with Preview.

“Pero ngayon, mino-motivate ko ‘yung sarili ko na, ‘Kailangan mag-survive ka sa mundong ito, kahit ang dami-daming negativity and ang dami-dami nang dahilan para sumuko, kailangan mo pa ring tumuloy,” Esclito added.

The actress rose to prominence after joining “Pinoy Big Brother: Lucky 7” in 2016, where she was tagged as the “Go Getter Girl of Bohol.”

She has since appeared in films and television series, as well as recorded singles, in her showbiz career.

https://interaksyon.philstar.com/celebrities/2021/02/23/186145/vivoree-esclito-backs-no-to-body-shaming-calls-after-becoming-subject-of-its-showtime-segment/

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HELP YOUR CHILD DEFY BODY TRENDS AND BEAT THE BODY-SHAMERS

 Whether it’s “size 000”, the “thigh gap”, or the “ab crack”, it seems that every few months brings a disturbing new thinness fad. How can you prevent your child from being drawn into social media’s latest body obsessions and encourage them to put their health and well-being above body perfectionism?

 The ever-evolving perfect body shape

 There have always been changing fashions in body shape. In today’s era of Twitter, Instagram, blogs, and memes, the latest body trends can spread around the globe within hours, and impressionable young people may find themselves bombarded with images of the latest “ideal”. 

Unnatural beauty standards 

The problem is that these looks are unachievable for most people. The formation of the abdominal muscles and distance between the thighs, for example, are largely determined by genetics. No amount of dieting or exercise will give your child a thigh gap, ab crack, or size 000 figure if their body simply isn’t meant to look like that. Worryingly, trends for “statement” body parts often promote thinness at the expense of healthiness, and encourage young people to become fixated on one part of their body instead of looking after their well-being as a whole. 

Body shape competitiveness

 Social media has also introduced a new level of competitiveness into body-shape fads, with people eager to get “likes”, “shares”, and approving comments on their body image selfies. And if they’re struggling to achieve the look they aspire to, there’s no end of websites, blogs, and video tutorials that promise to help them along the way. The internet is full of “inspiration” sites and apparent quick-fixes. Whatever their body obsession, there will be online content to fuel it. 

Building body confidence 

Young people are undergoing huge, often disconcerting, physical and emotional changes, so it’s not surprising their body confidence is easily weakened. It’s important we keep reminding our children that people come in all shapes and sizes, and that there’s no such thing as the perfect body shape. Jennifer Lawrence, Serena Williams, Kate Winslet, Sarah Millican, Kelly Clarkson, Keira Knightly, and Kim Kardashian are just a few of the many celebrities who have spoken out against body-shaming after having their weight scrutinized in the media. Meanwhile, the fuller-figured Adele, Rebel Wilson, and Ashley Graham have all reached the pinnacle of their profession in music, acting, and modeling, respectively. If your child is anxious about a particular physical characteristic, why not share a few of these body positive examples with them?

 Talk to your child

 Find out how they feel about their changing body. Which parts do they like most and least, and why? How do their body anxieties compare with your own? 

Acknowledge their body image concerns

 If your child is worried about an aspect of their appearance, don’t dismiss or belittle their concerns. Instead, look for ways you can help them feel more confident about their looks. For example, take them on a shopping trip for clothes that flatter them and enhance their favorite features

 Watch your language 

When you talk about people, whether in the media or your community, avoid making comments – especially negative ones – about their appearance. Instead focus on their talents, skills, and qualities. Remember that “skinny-shaming” can be just as damaging as “fat-shaming,” especially if your child has a naturally slim build 

Help them see the bigger picture

 Bodies are amazing. They enable us to run, dance, swim, and climb; they carry and nourish babies; they may serve us for 80, 90, or even 100 years. What does your child really want from their body? 

Keep track of their social media 

You may not be able to scrutinize all of your child’s social media activity, but you can ask them to show you which high-profile people they’re following on Instagram, Twitter, and similar sites. Why do they like them? What sort of images and messages are they sharing? And do their posts influence your child’s?

https://www.dove.com/us/en/dove-self-esteem-project/help-for-parents/talking-about-appearance/beat-the-body-shamers.html

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