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Updated Library For Kinksters

I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…

Aftercare

Aftercare 101

Aftercare For Dominants

Coping With Emotional Subdrop

Dom Drop

How To Make A Sub Drop Kit

Online Aftercare

sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare

Subdrop and Aftercare

Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

Consent & BDSM

Guide to Consent

Doms, Daddies & Masters

7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom

12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive

25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles

30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman

45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For

50 Rules for Daddies

100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess

101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)

Alternative Names For “Daddy”

Alternative Domme Titles

Aspects Of Control

Asserting Ownership - Rules

Daddy Up!

Defining A Daddy Dom

Dominants Need Training Also

Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles

Help For New Doms

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive

How To Be A Good Dominant

How to Find a Submissive

Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man

New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom

Observations On Doms By A Submissive

So you want to be a Dom?

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her

Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know

The Dom Commandments

Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective

What does the title Daddy mean?

What is a Daddy Dom?

What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?

What It Means To Be A Dominant

What Makes A Good Dominant

Littles, Subs & Slaves

6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant

7 Common Types of Submissives

10 Tips For Living With A Sadist

10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive

11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant

26 Baby Girl Jobs

50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy

A Bottom’s Responsibility

A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive

A Man Who Knows You…

A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom

Acid Test For Subs

Ask A Million And One Questions

Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective

Baby girl or little? A brief introduction

Care and feeding of Daddies

Characteristics Of A Good Daddy

Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner

Feminist Submissive

Finding Your Dominant

Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By

Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls

How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.

“How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.

How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?

How To Find A Dom

How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom

I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy

Novice Submissives

Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK

Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’

Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.

Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts

Submissive Pride

Submissive Traits - Intelligence

Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me

What is a Little?

When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.

Why I call him Daddy

Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope

Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans

The Long Distance D/s Relationship

Mental Health

BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers

Body image & BDSM

How to Get Over Feeling Sad

Is BDSM normal?

Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!

Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship

Meditation And Mindfulness

On Cutting

Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories

Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction

Tips for Recovering from Codependency

What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)

Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Relationships

10 Habits of Happy Couples

10 Top Communication Mistakes

10 Types of Emotional Manipulators

12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget

50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”

BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End

BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways

Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective

Communication Is Key

Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships

Daddy Doms and their little girls

Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More

Date Night In A Jar

DD/lg In Public

D/s and Domestication

Factors That Make A Relationship

Finding Love When You Least Expect It

Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests

How To Be Present In Your Relationships

How To Build A Healthy Relationship

How To Get What You Want In A Relationship

How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”

How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level

Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship

Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship

Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait

Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore

Searching for a D/s partner?

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships

Stop Arguments Before They Start

The Rewards of a Submissive

Types Of Relationship Insecurity

Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship

What Is Real Love?

When He Doesn’t Call

Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Safety

Another life ruined because of the morality police

Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!

Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t

Limits in BDSM

What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

10 Steps To Self Care

10 Ways To Be Happy

10 Truths To Live By

Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive

How to be Yourself

How To Deal With Your Enemies

How To Ignore Haters

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Slut Shaming Explained

Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?

Sex

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

Basics of Breath Play

D/s or Kinky Sex?

Fetishes Explained

How To Make A Girl Squirt

How To Tell Your Son About Sex

Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality

Sensual Biting

Sex: Myths & Stereotypes

Sex: Practical Details

Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control

So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women

Squirting Educational Video

Squirting Notes

Toys

Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs

BDSM on a budget

Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

Age Play: A Short Guide

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Introduction To BDSM

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Some Thoughts On Rules

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Topping from the bottom

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can you recommend authors and/or fics for shiita

Hi there anon 👋🏻,

Thank you so much for asking about ShiIta/ItaShi!! 🥺😍😭

My idiot fangirl heart is soooooooooooooaring bc I 💖💖💖 THIS SHIP TO THE MOON AND BACK!!!

There is so much phenomenal content for this pairing, so I’ll leave you with a preliminary list of fanfics/series that will hopefully be enough to get you started. 🤗

I’ve read the following stories more times than I can count!!! 😍😍😍😍

Second Chance ‘verse series by jinkandtherebels (this is the author and the series that got me stupid for ShiIta in the first place - there are no words to describe how much I adore this author’s writing!!!) modern AU; high school to college AU; coming of age story; 80′s romcom that I can’t live without!

Western AU series by jinkandtherebels (wild west cowboy AU - I will read this until I’m old and grey!!)

21st Century Love series by jinkandtherebels (modern AU; all the fluff you’ll ever need AU!)

Chrysanthemum in the mirror, moon on the water [鏡菊水月] by xochisui (samurai AU, Edo Period Japan AU, too gorgeous for words AU)

King & Lionheart (are still only men) by xochisui (beautiful non-massacre AU featuring Hokage Itachi!!)

The Babysitters ‘verse series by Kuriquinn (brilliant modern AU from one of my all time favorite authors - the Master!!)

Something Bigger than the Sky by mihail_jeevas (Star Trek AU, scifi AU, Shisui as Kirk + Itachi as Spock = a match made in fanfic heaven!!)

Almost was Good Enough by Quillslinger (modern AU - this author’s writing leaves me awestruck every time I read this, no matter how many times I come back to it)

Breathing Glass by blackmajjicduchess (stunning exploration of ShiIta’s relationship within a D/s dynamic; I’ve never read anything like this for any pairing to date - it is hauntingly beautiful, but please be sure to read ALL of the author’s tags before proceeding)

Next Steps by Rhoen (canon divergent)

With or Without your Blessing by Rhoen (canon-divergent)

Metamorphosis by Rhoen (modern AU)*

    (*Privately, I like to think of these three one-shots as Rhoen’s sublime hat trick: each fic portrays ShiIta’s bond and devotion to one another in such beautiful ways; I love reading them back to back even though they’re not related stories…)

Hearth by altraes (canon divergent; I love how this non-massacre story is told with a focus on Shisui; it’s such a heartwarming read!!)

I’m embarrassingly excited just typing this post~ 😅 

Please remember that this preliminary list is just meant to be a jumping off point; it’s just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to this pairing!!

I hope this is helpful, and Happy Reading! 📚  

xoxo, Birk ✌🏻💕

P.S.  Just in case you happen to be a silent reader:  In exchange for these recs, if you enjoy any of the stories I mentioned above, can you please remember to leave the author a substantive review or at the very least - a quick 2 second “thank you for the food” to show your appreciation for their hard work?

From what I can tell, the content creators for this pairing make up a smaller community, and these authors really don’t get the recognition and appreciation they deserve….😔 I think every review and message of thanks is greatly appreciated!! 🙏🏻✨

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Artist: 당고ᴰᴬᴺᴳᴼ | Permission granted by Artist

Reblog, don’t repost!

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Gabriela Mistral, from a letter to Doris Dana c. January 1950 (translated by Velma García-Gorena)

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Yukio Mishima~

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Yukio Mishima~

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Mitski, “I Will” // David Hockney - Domestic Scene, Los Angeles 1962-1963

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698

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melancholy

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☀ ☾ (2/∞)

Plus a bonus Sasuke;

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I rewatched Spirited Away but this is a Naruto Blog

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“521″ (Chinese number slang for “I love you”) by YOU (柚子) [this is pronounced like “yo”, rhymes with go). Artist allows credited, unmodified reposts for noncommercial purposes under Creative Commons BY-NC-ND-2.5.

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Sasuke's "naruto smile" is a beautiful expression

he is in love, yes. hes been in love with the same person his whole life

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is anybody else in that weird state where quarantine is a blessing for half of you and your mental state and the other half of you and your mental state is being completely obliterated and destroyed. bc same

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sasuke has never been able to take anything lightly in his LIFE

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sasuke after his revenge bender ends and he kills itachi: wow that was embarrassing . now whats next. *pulls out sheet of paper that lists out kurapikas arc step-by-step* oh right politics!

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