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I'm learning how to draw so that one day I will finally be able to bring my paras a little more into the real world. I tried to put my daydreams into stories but it's not that easy when there isn't really a coherent plot in my mind.

i totally understand! i’ve tried and failed many times to write my daydreams, but i can draw some of my paras really well now. it’s about accepting that you may never be able to draw or write your daydreams exactly as they appear in your mind, and understanding that what you do create is amazing either way. i wish you the best of luck <3

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ive never had problems seeing the difference between reality and my daydreams. sure, my daydreams are immersive, but the difference between the two has always been a definitive line. lately though ive been sort of forgetting that my paras are just... me? it will come as a genuine shock that my paras really arent their own people and are just me. i still can tell that theyre just daydreams, its just the fact that theyre fake. they really seem like their own people. sorry if this doesnt make sense

madd isn’t a blurred line between fiction and reality, but things can get pretty confusing when parames are thrown into the mix.

madd characters are so much different than just ocs, they’re personas you know inside and out. and, most madders tend to project problems and personality traits onto their paras unintentionally.

because they’re so different, it can feel like they’re extremely well-rounded, which i feel is a universal madd experience. i know i’ve certainly felt this way about my paras, i know what cream they take in their coffees, what their favorite time of day is, etc.

the more you indulge in daydreams the more your characters become people, which can be a good and a bad thing. it’s not something to be scared of, it’s just the natural progression of madd. however, always make sure to ground yourself to reality and have limits and boundaries with your daydreams.

once you gain enough control and learn more about your daydream’s your free to curb them or enjoy your characters and have fun! i wish you the best of luck

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Lately my daydreams are only about sexual things, and it bothers me so much because it make me feel dirty, but I can't help it. I don't know what to do, I tried to focus on other stuff but now I'm sick and I can't do much. :(

s*xual tw!:

hi anon,

i feel this is a common thing between madders to get ‘stuck’ in specific daydreaming ruts such as the same scene, or the same s*xual stuff. when paired with hypers*xuality, trauma, and other comorbid disorders this can lead to annoying and persistant s*xual daydreams.

in my personal experience it will happen every few weeks and persist, however i just don’t indulge them, and sit through them until they go away. it’s tough and annoying but ignoring them is the best option, or at least for me personally. they tend to attack during episodes of boredom so they might ramp up while you’re sick

stay strong! most of controlling madd is about persistance and self-control, it takes practice but you’ll get through it, and there’s always a whole community you can talk to <3

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Madd Music

❀ Hi everyone! I know it can be frustrating for us madders to find new music, and i know alot of us just stick to what we’re used to cause we know it works. But sometimes i think its importatnt to step out of our comfort bubbles and try new things! Because who knows- a random song could spark a brand new world or charactrer! So, ive decided to make a music list for a few different moods/types of daydreams. Feel free to listen to any of these. ❀

✿ All of these songs are from spotify. I cant guarantee that you’ll find these same songs on youtube, soundcloud ect. Also, what works for others may not work for you, and thats totally fine. ✿

Happy

Buttercup - Jack Stauber

This Love - Maroon 5

Lo Que Siento - Cuco

Arigato - Julie Bergan

Sweeterman - Zach Farache

Guiding Light - Mumford & Sons

Sunflower - Post Malone

Hymn For The Weekend - Coldplay

Warmth - Bastille

Cross My Mind - A R I Z O N A

Sad 

Mother Love - Queen

Black Flies - Ben Howard

Sail Away - David Grey

Laughing On The Outside - Bernadette Caroll

She Only Likes Me When Im Drunk - Frumhere

Lovely - Billie Eilish

Tell Me Why Im Waiting - Timmies

Unsteady (Gravity Remix) - X Ambassadors

Let Me Down - Jorja Smith

XO - EDEN

Emotional 

Let It Happen - Tame Impala

I Cant Handle Change - Roar

Alone Together - Fall Out Boy

Friends - Chase Atlantic

Picture Frames - Rei Brown

La Lune - Madeon

Beautiful Light - Uppermost

Hide & Seek - Amber Run

Lost It To Trying - Son Lux

Praying - Kesha

Badass 

Talk - Salvatore Ganacci

Welcome To The Party - Diplo

Black Widow - Iggy Azalea

Work Bitch - Britney Spears

Hunter - Ken Ashcorp

Say When - THEY.

Everything Black - Unlike Pluto

COPYCAT - Billie Eilish

Rockstar - Post Malone

Wish You Well - Amir Obe

Music For Trailers/Cinematic Music

Where I Come From - Passion Pit

Walls Could Talk - Halsey

Warriors - Imagine Dragons

War Of Hearts - Ruelle

Telling Me - Koven

Towards The Sun - Rhianna

Game Of Survival - Ruelle

Blood // Water - Grandson

Everybody Wants To Rule The World - Lorde

Blood In The Cut (Aire Atlantica Remix) - K.Flay

Summer

9pm (Sequential One Remix) - ATB

Summertime Magic - Childish Gambino

Shedontknowbutsheknows - Tove Lo

Find You - Nick Jonas

Need U 100% - Duke Dumont

Heaven - DJ Sammy

Are You With Me? - Lost Frequencies

Slide - Calvin Harris

Reality - Lost Frequencies

Hotel California - Eagles

❁ By the way, if youre a student you can get spotify for 4.99 a month! ❁

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I hate the culture that has grown around paras. It's like a weird creepy fandom. I get that talking about them is fun and cathartic, but moodboards? bios? separate blogs? PARADAYS? Wth madd communtiy? I know it's an unpopular opinion (hence anonymous confession), I just avoid and don't interact, but it makes me sad and frustrated to see the tags filled with it.

hi nonnie,

What youre saying is 100% understandable. I think, because we are such a new community we’re frantic to come up with new and exciting terms to explain our worlds. But dont fret. As we all grow and form a more stable community, alot of these will fade out of use. We just need to give it time.

However, i can understand moodboards & blogs. For some people its a way for them to understand their characters better. It can be a good way to get a better feel for your para’s aesthetic or their personality.

Dont feel sad & fustrated, nonnie. Its important we let people explore what works for them before we judge.

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As a writer with MADD, I want to write my daydreams because they're all unique and different, but I'm worried that because the main character is always parame, it's gonna look like all my stories are cringey author self inserts with no dimension, and all my main characters are just carbon copies of each other. No matter how much I try to expand my characters outside of being parames, I can't seem to get over the fear that people will criticize my stories for just being my cringey fantasies.

hi nonnie,

Im pretty sure every Madd writer has felt what youre feeling right now. I know to you, your characters may seem repetitive and such. But thats only beacuse you made them. To anyone else reading your stories, they will see your characters at face value; they dont know you personally, so how could they come to the conclusion that your paras are copies of you/eachother? 

If youre still struggling however, something i find useful is to people watch. (That sounds creepy, but its not, i promise.) If you use public transport, or live in a busy area, or even if youre at school you’ll be able to do this well. Just observe people. Watch their manerisms: how they talk, body movement, hand gestures ect. After a little while, you’ll start to get a feel of their personality.(Remember to keep note). And well, there you go. If you dont get enough from one person then you could merge a few people together to come up with something a little different. You can use these personality traits for your characters, giving them each a unique feel.

On the topic of your main parame, you wrote ‘no dimension’. How on earth could that be possible? If anything, they’ll be the most fleshed out character in your story. Beacsue you already have something amazing to work with. You! Who knows you better than yourself? It’ll feel like you’re writing a self insert at first, yes. But give your readers time to adjust to you, and they’ll love you. Remember, they dont know you personally. Its harder for them to make judgements beacuse they arent familliar with you. 

Dont be too harsh on yourself, nonnie. Good luck with the stories! <3

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Confession. I hate my madd. I hate it. It makes me feel abnormal and weird. I would prefer a quick cure so I never have to think of it again.

hi anon,

i understand, madd can feel like and be a hindrance to normal life. however, i don’t think a quick cure is available. but, there is a way out. according to several other sufferers if you resist the urge to daydream long enough it will fade, but it takes lots of willpower and hard work. i’m sure there’s also lots of others in the community who are struggling to get rid of their madd and they’d be able to share tips and help.

it’s frustrating and unfair to struggle with this and feel so far behind others, i get it, and you have a long road ahead of you to ‘cure’ daydreaming if that’s what you want, but it is possible, there is hope, and there are always other people here to help you!

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For all of you madd writers! 

Subjects You Should Study if You Want to be a Better Writer

If you’re looking to be a writer, chances are you’re already pretty good in an English or Language Arts class. But aside from studying older literature to learn from, focusing exclusively on Language Arts materials is only going to get you so far. So, here are some subjects I’ve studied that I’ve found helpful to my writing.

Psychology: Since Psychology is the study of behavior, this is a good tool to study if you’re having problems with characterization. Understanding how people act and what thought processes cause people to take certain actions. This can help you give a character a more realistic response after experiencing emotional trauma, or may just help you slip into someone else’s mindset in order to write them better.

Cultural Anthropology: This may be more vital if you write Fantasy or Science Fiction, since both genres tend to require world building. Understanding the cultural element of society, what shapes it, and how it impacts behaviors, social norms, and etiquette can make worldbuilding easier for you. 

History: If you write Fantasy, War Dramas, or Historical Fiction, the subject of history is going to be your best friend. Whether it’s pulling from real people, events, or conflicts, history is littered with a goldmine of possible story ideas.

Screenwriting/Playwriting: If you struggle with ‘show don’t tell’ or dialogue, this is probably going to be a useful skill to learn. Since films and plays tend to lack an internal narration, they’ll push you to have to learn how to convey information visually or through dialogue, taking away the crutch of narration. This can also be useful as a means of writing a skeleton version of your chapters with just basic setting and dialogue and then go in later and fill in the narration elements.

Linguistics/Phonology: If you want to create conlangs (constructed languages) for your story’s setting, then learning about the building blocks of language can be advantageous.

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intro: mod leo! 🐯

hi guys, i’m leo, i’m 15, speak english, live in the us and have madd, among other things.

i love fantasy and horror daydreams, but honestly i just enjoy having all kinds of opportunities for the worlds in my head.

however, madd isn’t always as dreamy as some portray it as :o it can be hard to deal with dark, gory, or inappropriate daydreams and feel left out. i, for one, struggle with these daily (or have them rather.)

therefore, i joined this blog to help others like me confess and feel free to get those weights off their chests in a place where they won’t be judged

we hope to see you all soon!! 🐯

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Information Masterpost (&Rules)

General

❀ Hello! my name is Jessica and i run this blog! I’m 15, I speak English, Greek and im currently learning French. I also have Maladaptive Daydreaming Disorder. I have decided to make this blog a safe space for people to anonymously send in confessions about their Madd. I’m aware we are a very small community, and that our condition is not universally recognized, so it can be hard to speak to non-madders about our experiences/issues. So, this blog is a safe space for those who have Madd to express themselves without judgement. ❀

Submissions

✿ As previously stated, this a judgment free zone. In your submission, you may write anything you like, long or short. We’re here to give advice, share tips and comfort fellow sufferers. If however you would prefer to share without our input (which we totally get- no hard feelings.), you can just put (N) at the end of your submission. ✿

Administartion

❁ This blog currently has 1 admin. If this changes in the future, this post will be updated to display the new information. Each admin has their own emoji they must add at the end of their statements/replies.

🍉 - Jessica she/her (owner)

🐯- Leo she/her (co-owner)

❁If you’re interested in becoming an admin, please dont hesitate to message me on my blog eightiesbae. ❁

Rules

❃ Please read these rules before submitting an ask. ❃

✘- Be kind. Any hateful, threatening or disrispectful messages/asks will be deleted. We are an LGBTQ+ friendly blog.

✘- Respect privacy. Dont ask very personal questions to admins/other anons.

✘- Remember, some people have triggers. If your ask contains sensitive material, please specify that at the beggining. It will also be tagged with the specific triggers.

✘- Avoid sexual material. The owner of this blog is a minor. If your ask contains heavy sexual themes we wont post it.

✳︎ Well, thats it! Thank you for visiting and reading through this masterpost. ✳︎