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“Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back, everything is different.”

— C.S. Lewis

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You're not immune to being the bully btw. You're not immune to being in the wrong

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in case you're wondering what the greatest AMV of all time is, it's this one from 2008.

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A man goes to see his Rabbi in a panic, and he gets there and he says, “Rabbi you’ll never guess what! My son has run away to become a Christian!” And the Rabbi responds, “Well you’ll never guess what! My son has also run away to become a Christian!” So the man asks the Rabbi what to do and the Rabbi says that they should pray to G-d. So they pray and tell him of their plight and G-d replies, “You’ll never guess what!”

- An old Hasidic joke that my Dad likes to tell me

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One of the funnier parts of political online-ness is seeing statements that are like "Oh so these people believe <thing> but they ALSO believe that <contradictory thing>? Make it make sense."

But <thing> and <contradictory thing> are in fact two entirely different beliefs held by two entirely different groups of people who, if given the opportunity, would kill each other with teeth.

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Think of me once in a while, take care…

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Me: we should do this thing to help with an issue

Tumblr: well actually the issue shouldn't exist in the first place, so it's pointless to try and help to make the issue less bad instead of just completely getting rid of the issue

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despair girlies

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have you considered it may not be entirely the fault of american education system but that some of you may be. stupid

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Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

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unavoidable that you will be the villain in someone else's story. You will be painted in an unfavorable light. You will be the irredeemable one. and all of this will happen despite how nice you might usually be or how kind or how respectful or how warm. and you will just have to move on.

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witch hat atelier trailer!!!! witch hat atelier trailer!!!

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You shouldn’t date or become serious friends/partners with someone if you can’t stomach the thought of being stuck in a car or train with them for 16 hours.

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paige sketch from a bit ago

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リョコ <3

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Not the type of thing I'd usually post, but I decided to redesign the main three alien designs from the sci-fi show Babylon 5! Redesigning the Narn, Centauri and Minbari to be non-humanoid was very fun, especially when trying to re-interpret their defining features.

I reimagined the Narn as coming from a somewhat high-gravity world and thus having a dense squat physique, the Centauri as being an arboreal three-legged species (of course retaining their funky hair) and the Minbari as weird caterpillar-shrimp things, still having huge bald heads lol

Just did this for fun, I promise I will eventually get back to posting original worldbuilding content, I've just been a mix of lazy and busy </3 But please do patient with me.