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don't let Trump get away with saying that Israel should get to "finish the job"

some of y'all are rightfully angry that the U.S. government is enabling a genocide but at least Biden is calling for a ceasefire while Trump literally welcomes the genocide in no uncertain words

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There is absolutely no point in me talking to zionists

That's zionists and transphobes lol the two groups of people for this blog to avoid

What do they have in common let's see they don't care about the context of history if it can disprove their point, they hate violence unless it's against a group of people they dislike, and their side of the universe is so strange I shouldn't waste my time on them

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all presidents are bad presidents

biden is doing a genocide. trump would do it worse.

vote for biden

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it is cognitively dissonant to sympathize with trans men's experience of male hatred and immediately undermine that same experience from cis men

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Yeah, I guess it's okay if Trump gets re-elected instead.

The man that lead a large portion of our country into not taking covid seriously at its peak should be elected. Because your son! Because your son would be better off that way.

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As someone who is all of these, this posts fascinates me so I want to work with it a little bit. Just running through my thoughts first.

1. White allies must accept discomfort to help people like me,

2. Cis and/or het allies must accept discomfort to help people like me, and

3. Able-bodied allies must accept discomfort to help people like me. Therefore...

4. Men? Must accept discomfort?? To help people like me??? Yeah, that works too! I've even said it myself, to men, in the recent past!

I've had conversations with men where I tried to understand what they were going through and be really open about it with them and my conclusion has always been: "I'm sorry you're going through that. I'll watch my rhetoric. In turn, you must watch yours. Your feelings are valid but the fact is that women have it way worse, have so for much longer, and need your help to change that."

...and I never* got a reply from those men. Because they were being insincere and wanted to be coddled and were surprised by my calm, understanding response? Or because they didn't expect to get empathy and didn't know how to reply to it? Who knows!

It is a bigger ask to get men, half of the population, to support women, another half of the population, than it is to ask cishet able-bodied white people to be allies to minorities. The latter allows for a comfy savior complex - power can be easily maintained - while the former more readily expects a complete restructuring of life across the board - power cannot be maintained.

We have every right to be pissed at calls for politeness. Have we not spent enough centuries being told to be demure and barely noticeable to maintain the status quo? Are they not just using misogyny to try to stop us from talking about misogyny? That said, I believe that there is room for empathy. I cannot discount the suffering of people. It appears men are struggling in a specifically male way - hence the Andrew Tates of the world gaining so much notoriety. Yet this should not be mutually exclusive with the calls for feminism - because the same way misogyny hurts men as well, feminism helps men as well.

How shit is worded, however, is always gonna have assholes and I don't wanna interface with that.

people of color don't have to make white people comfortable in their fight against racism. lgbt people don't have to make cishet people comfortable in their fight against homophobia. people with disabilities don't have to make able bodied people comfortable in their fight against ableism. FUCK THE OPPRESSORS!

...but women really shouldn't be so mean to men, i mean, they're hurt by the patriarchy too, not all men, have a heart, you fascist bitch :/

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TERFs saw this post and thought it was so funny and didn't understand it as they do not understand a lot of gender things.

Latinx* people in the U.S. are ever so slightly more likely to be trans. White people in the U.S. are ever so slightly less likely to be trans.

Gender differs across cultures. If your culture has gender rules, you are less likely to feel a connection to said rules if you are less connected to the culture...as often nonwhite folks in white majority societies do. That is what I deride from this post, anyway.

t-rfs are so funny to me because when someone points out their values are eurocentric and rooted in yt supremacy - because NON WHITE COMMUNITIES DID NOT HAVE THIS SENSE OF GENDER AND SEXUALITY - they'll simply disregard everything you said because they don't wanna face the fact they're fucking racists

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A hopefully final thought on transphobic women (because calling them any kind of feminist is wrong and I don't wanna do that lol).

It is becoming increasingly clear to me that the chronically online transphobic cis woman is using random posts on social media as case studies to fuel and support their shallow ideas of gender.

I've seen so many cases of a single post being scoffed at and generalized where my first thought is, "Okay...and how does the person you are criticizing actually feel?" After considering that those posters are people with, ya know, complex lives and understandings of themselves, more questions arise like, "Are you (transphobic woman) assuming or ignoring things about them? Are you assigning them the same shallow understanding of gendered existence that you have?"

It's just odd to me that someone can be so walled off to opening up the world then call themself a feminist. Women historically fought so hard to open up our worlds...and these people want to close them up again.

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I call it something that isn't happening.

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I promise this is the very last time I ever look at the feminism tab on tumblr if the type of BS I see is gonna be so toxic and unhelpful

"omg it's so cute when a woman hates all men all the time without considering that mayhaps half the population is complex" I have heard so many reddit stories about men abruptly entering the Tate and adjacent manosphere and deciding that their perfectly acceptable relationships are not good enough due to shit misogyny and now I've seen the flip side: women entering the misandrist(?lol) 'osphere and deciding their miserable lives should... be more miserable... with more and constant anger and fear in their hearts yeah okay

"little boys are so sweet and innocent until they are socialized to be evil men" damn okay I guess all little boys are socialized exclusively by men and there's no way to stop misogyny except to preemptively prepare to hate the little boys in your life. for your protection or safety or comfort. sounds healthy!

the overlap between the people that want to build an island for women where they burn every man at the border and the people that don't like how trans and nonbinary people crumble the borders of what it means to be a man or woman... is unsurprising!

your trauma is not an excuse for the hatred and rage in your heart... it is an explanation for it. healthily moving on from trauma wrought by men does not include excising half the population. we will never be okay with such blatant division.

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TERFs will cry about teenage girls feeling gender envy for fictional men then continue the post by saying that girls can make those style choices without transitioning and still make it an attack on trans women by claiming trans women taught them that "womanhood is just a performance of femininity."

Putting aside for a second that nonbinary teens and trans male teens exist, this logic posits that teenage girls feel like a certain style of dress is exclusive to men and masculinity AND/OR that these same girls do not have women to look up to that use said style of dress. So is the issue that teenage girls are attracted to masculinity (which isn't a bad thing), that they don't have gender envy for fictional women (which has nothing to do with trans people), or that they feel that a certain style of dress is exclusively masculine (which again has nothing to do with trans people)?

If womanhood isn't just a performance of femininity, then performing masculinity shouldn't negate womanhood. Teenage girls looking up to men/not having women role models in enough spaces is not a modern problem to pretend it correlates with the past decade's rise of trans visibility. And the idea that fewer aspects of existence should be gendered aligns more with what people in the trans community and their supporters actually talk about - expanding the boxes so they're oceans instead of aquariums.

Back to the aside: how blatant that the thing these people are actually "sad" about is the fact that trans men and nonbinary people exist. So sad we're losing people on the women's team while ignoring and decrying the people we're gaining.

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okay let's see

"there's no evidence the Nazis targeted trans people specifically, only if they were also homosexual" the line between trans and gay was not as clear cut back then as it is now. it's not simple to create a modern equivalent but "burned down a sex institute doing research on intersex individuals" is pretty close. not to mention that trans people have historically been targeted for things like homosexuality, cross-dressing, public indecency, and other things gay people were also targeted for. I don't have the evidence in front of me but I'm sure a reasonable argument can (and has) been made that Nazis targeted a group of people that in modern day would be considered or at least included trans people. trans awareness exploded in the past decade and we still joke about historians calling lesbian couples that lived and died together just besties. trans history is still being understood through a modern lens.

"people want to talk about everyone being persecuted by the Nazis except the Jews" growing up, I knew nothing about anyone else that was targeted. literally was a grown ass adult when I learned anything else. Jewish people make up a majority but it is only right to acknowledge the other people too. if we are having a conversation about a group of people targeted by the Nazis, we shouldn't have to add "oh and the Jews too" if the conversation is not about Jewish people

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op turned off reblogs on this post for safety reasons but gave me permission to repost it because it's an important message.

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I understand critics of the USA not wanting to grieve Aaron Bushnell and I understand why.

As an American in the middle of tax season, it is absolutely front of mind the fact that my tax dollars have contributed to 30,000 Palestinian deaths in less than 5 months. Beyond that, I understand that the military complex of this country has caused unfathomable pain amongst many other countries of the world - including the country my parents are from.

I don't know Bushnell's background but I know my own. I saw military recruiters multiple times a year try to recruit from my high school. I knew from first day of junior year that were there a draft, some of the people around me would go to war. I had to have a conversation with my little brother about how the "benefits" peddled by the US Army were not worth trading his body into the military. Living in poverty as a first generation American, I never allowed my mind to be complicit with the horrors of war this country perpetuates and thrives in though I have not always known the extent.

We say there are no good cops because the good cops who try to fight the system from within are often fired anyway. I haven't thought as deeply about the military but I supposed it must be true there as well. There are no good soldiers; the good ones are incarcerated or dishonorably discharged or-

Aaron Bushnell shouldn't be grieved or honored for being a soldier, but for fighting for what's right in spite of that. He shouldn't get more attention for being a member of the military, but he will and he wanted us to utlize that. We should be aware of that while acknowledging that people like him have hurt countless others around the globe in the name of the USA. American soldiers die of suicide all the time. This man saw a future so bleak and understood so deeply that he'd been indoctrinated into creating it that he could only end his suffering with the pain of it in the loudest way possible.

Even if he was depressed, he used his final act as one of protest. Even if he was a soldier, he used his final act to condemn his own uniform. Don't remember him if you don't want to. Don't think of him at all. But if you ignore him and you were already standing for Palestine - sending money, spreading awareness, signing petitions, etc. - then his action wasn't meant for you anyway.

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i actually dont give a shit if hamas did everything and worse that israel accuses them of it still doesn't justify killing 30000 random civilians

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imagine knowing Nex Benedict was bullied for the way they dress and concluding that they were not bullied for their gender simply because a cop said they didn't mention transphobia specifically

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I've heard older millennial dudes in bands talk about how the term "emo" was used before the 2000s scene popularized it as something else, and it honestly ends up sounding like slang for f*g. Even if the girls weren't consciously thinking in transphobic ways, their behavior comes from a place of condemning queerness.

I'd love to live in a world where clothes don't equal gender but we don't. Those things are definitely linked.

imagine knowing Nex Benedict was bullied for the way they dress and concluding that they were not bullied for their gender simply because a cop said they didn't mention transphobia specifically