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time to play my favorite game!

Pk;r Who The Fuck Am I (Or Am I New?)

the rules are simple

1. shit happens

2. dissociate heavily

3. i forgot

4. identity crisis

5. pk;r like 70 times until something seems somewhat correct

6. oh shit! none of them are me! pk;m new (optional)

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I LAUGHED SO HARD I HAD AN ASTHMA ATTACK???????

tumblr is basically a gay bar in a mental institute

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my favorite moments

if you ever tell me that you go to a chiro this is what i envision them doing to you

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august 15th I'm ready

what is august 15.....

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THANKS FOR THIS!!!!

As a borderline, I love narcissists so much and cannot understand why some people are like “bpd is the result of narcissists/narcissistic abuse” when the term narcissistic abuse was coined by an israel defence solider, who yes, did have npd, but he also blamed his narcissistic tendencies for three counts of securities fraud. He also believes that narcissists “cannot be healed, because they do not exist as real persons, only as reflections” and exist as a false self instead of that just being them or having these be adaptions for survival in stressful situations, all of his takes on narcissists are self-cop outs to demonise other narcissists and make him unaccountable for his actions. And you guys fell for it hard because you didn’t even know that it was made by a narcissist or even the integral history behind it like you guys seem to do with EVERYOTHER thing.

I LOVE it when narcissists are high and low, i LOVE it when they devalue people because they’re being unreasonable or ableist assholes, or even just because they’re being grating and purposefully ignorant and no one wants to say anything. You guys who hate on narcs for being disordered, ESPECIALLY if you have bpd, are just assholes, point blanc. All you want to make a group of people who are already hated on and targeted specifically because they are not your idea of perfect victims which makes you look more victimised in comparison.

TL;DR: you guys fell hard for the term “narcissistic abuse”, clung to it like a baby sloth and didn’t even know the history behind it or that it was made by a narcissist, and you guys definitely don’t know or care what being a narcissist entails or how it forms in people so maybe think twice before you flap your lips and speak up on shit you’re clearly uneducated on. Don’t throw your narcissistic siblings under the bus to get validation from neurotypicals who wouldn’t spit on either of you if you were on fire.

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OH FUCK YEAH???

someone sent us this in response to some drama going on in one of the system help blogs we run (one of the mods was asked why the blog is anti endo, explained it, got hate, I called out the anon for being parasocial af over setting boundaries)

more please :3

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not to sound pathetic or needy or anything but someone give me supply and validation please because I crashed so hard yesterday and still feeling it lowkey :/

(my father told me i'm not as important as I think to the rest of the world like. What the actual fuck)

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AAAAAAAAAAAA

OH MY GOD???!!!

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Narc Supply

a list of things that could be a narc supply! things pw npd find give them a narc high.

explaining a narc supply - masterpost - compliment generator

Personalized Praise

compliments that are personal to the person theyre directed towards

compliments that include facts or interests

compliments that are more than just the generic "i like (your appearance)"

praises about a persons skillset, created content, something they put even the slightest effort into

praises for help of any kind

complimenting something theyre good at and/or passionate about

praises for being knowledgeable about a topic

these can be very different depending on the person, some like the usual "good job im proud of you" and some prefer very high title praises like "youre a god/royal!"

Attachment / Emotional Feedback

some gain a high when they get certain reactions out of people

hate asks, love confessions

when someone has some sort of feelings towards them it helps them feel wanted and/or at the center of someones focus/attention

some prefer positive over negative feedback, some see negative feedback like hate mail as a sign they've reached popularity of some sort, some are neutral.

some narcs find people gaining an attachment to them as a supply

Break The Record

some narcs see reaching a goal as a supply

this can be reaching a new high score on a came

beating their own records

or beating other people's scores

getting ahead in a competition, even if it wasnt a competition to begin with, beating that goal they set can give them a high

Comforted

some might look for comfort media

listening to music or watching something they find comfort in

art or fanart they find comforting

comfort characters

all can help recover from a crash in a soothing way.

Perceive Me

people telling them how theyre perceived as an individual

especially if its in detail and can contain praise

knowing how one is perceived either by strangers or those theyre close with, can be someones supply

a narc supply can be anything, ranging from anonymous hate to being told someone's proud of you, to being given a little affection and even something akin to being worshiped or feared and it can be more than one of these at a time.

feel free to share any resources, tips or anything that works for you that i have not yet listed!

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what. the fuck.

uhh???

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Dear narcissist in need of supply,

You are the best.

Yes, you specifically, I'm looking at YOU.

You're not a monster, you're not evil like society makes you and your disorder out to be.

You are perfect, you don't need to change for anyone and you're important. Everyone wants to be your friend, everyone wants to be like you because you're so fucking amazing.

You deserve the spotlight.

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I'm actually kind of lucky in this respect because my girl best friend is a straight male knowing we collectively align as lesbian and he has never once made even a yuri joke or anything like that. The closest thing he's ever done to that is we're both down horrendous for Makima from CSM and we have jokingly talked about "she could do things to me idm" but other than that he knows and respects my boundaries.

He literally got into a fight with our entire friend group because they were making fun of me--lighthearted, yes, and mostly okay jokes, but they took it too far by accident and he defended me on it. There's one really queerphobic guy in the group who is my mortal enemy who he's friends with, but knowing that he and I are on terrible terms, he respects me and sometimes makes the decision to prioritize my safety and mental health over hanging out with that guy.

I'm sooooooooo glad he doesn't have my tumblr cause if he read this I would die but in another world where my sexuality was different, I could see myself with him because he's exactly what all men and people in general should be. Respect is more attractive than anything else IMO and he's genuinely one of the most respectful people I've ever met.

I love him (platonically) so very much and I feel like he was gifted to me by the gods as respite from my previous experiences with men. I'm honestly a little sad there aren't more people like him. He's like a treasure to me and I wish cishet men like him were everywhere instead of one in a million.

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this includes trans people too!!! and gnc people!!!

girls can help girls as well, it's not exclusive, but girls protect girls is a huge statement to make /pos

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i see how it is tumnlr algorithm

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siiiiiiiigh, if only parents would treat their kids with that respect

When I am appointed to represent a child, my first action is to separate them from their parents and tell them the following things:

1. I am their attorney. I do not work for their parent or the judge or the cops. I don’t care what any of those people want.

2. My job is to listen to them and try and make what they want happen in court. (At this point I make a joke about how most people want me to get them out of trouble but if someone wanted to be in trouble I would do my best.)

3. What they tell me is confidential. It goes nowhere unless they agree to it. (If old enough, I talk to them about mandatory reporters, and how I’m a mandatory non reporter.)

4. I will give them lots of advice because I’ve been doing court for a while and I know a lot about it, and they don’t. It’s all really complicated, and if they don’t understand what’s happening it’s my job to help them figure it out.

5. They will make the decisions. (At this point I usually have to reassure them that I’ll help, I’ll speak for them in front of the judge, and I’ve got their back. It’s scary to have an adult say you’re in charge, most of the time.)

6. I tell them I know it’s absolutely wild to have some stranger come in here and say “hey, you can trust me!” and that I get if they don’t believe everything right away, because I plan to show them through my actions and my words that I’ll fight for them.

7. But nonetheless, I will treat them like a person who can make decisions, because they are living their life and I am not.

I do not:

Pretend to be cool.

Try to be their BFF.

Overwhelm them with detail.

Let their parents in the room until the kid asks for them. (I provide openings for this, and ask if the kid wants their parent to help them remember and understand.)

I want to emphasize I went into this job knowing nothing about how to interact with vulnerable populations, especially children. The training was minimal, and my role means that I can literally walk into a facility and get an unmonitored visit with a minor client one on one.

In my years of practice I have never felt threatened by a child, even one that was “violent” and “unstable.” It turns out just saying “hi, I think you’re a person with thoughts” is wildly successful? Now people treat me like I have special Child Whisperer powers. My powers are that I ask the child what’s up and I’m not scared to say things that are objectively awkward. I know nothing about anything.