“What do I need to do to keep you interested in me” has been a question and an attitude that has caused me literal harm my whole life, but I keep doing it because I don’t think I’m enough to keep around without constant effort.
Something interesting I’ve learned - although I don’t know if this has a name in any other language, but in Korean this position is called “manner legs”. It refers to people stretching their legs to sink down to a smaller height so people working or filming with them could either work on their hair and makeup or appear to be their same height.