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Im so tired. Im tired that my language have one word for sex AND gender. I'm tired that people make a diffrence between "whats in your pants" and whats "in your brain". I don't plan on surgery down there, bc I want kids and bc i don't feel it's right for me, but it makes me feel as though people will ALWAYS have an excuse to lable me a female. They can point to my groin and go 'you are female down there!!!' As tho that makes a diffrence. Im so tired & confused & flat out done that I want to cry

People are ignorant and mean. They have no justifications for disrespecting you. What you want in life is valid. How you live your life should be given the respect it deserves. Rest dear

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I was afab and ID as agender/genderfluid (still questioning that bit) and I really wish I felt comfortable enough to dress feminine. I know I look good in dresses and I have an ideal female body, I'm just uncomfortable expressing my cuter fem side. Any tips on how to become more comfortable with presenting fem sometimes?

Reaffirm who you are to yourself. It’s okay if you spend a few minutes just talking to yourself. Being hot is being hot. Slay in a dress. Slay in something else. Both are valid. A lot of it is gonna be how you’re looking at yourself. Approach it with confidence!

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Do you know of any sources on the term "Cypric"? According to the LGBT wiki, it's a synonym for Diamoric (along with Adonian and Enbian), but it doesn't have its own page. It's just on the Diamoric page. And it's the only page that has anything about "Cypric".

I’m struggle to find anything relevant. I found a tumblr talking kind of about it. I’m gonna guess that ‘cypric’ is just an older version of the same word? Or like a rough draft that didn’t catch

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What does being nonbinary mean to you?

Not being a binary male or female. I feel like what consist of is really a personal thing, rather than a definite definable thing.

I don’t really have a complex philosophical view of gender. I’m much more concerned with supporting people within the trans community

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Have fun being flamboyant! Have fun being private! Presentation can be fun if you make it fun. It can be fun if your just looking to be sleek. The important part is being you

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Is Amante mean lover for females or males?

It appears as although it depends on the article? Idk. I barely speak intro spanish

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I have to wear a dress tonight and in slightly uncomfortable. Can I just have some validation and positive vibes? -Ash (afab nonbinary, They/them)

You are valid even if your forced to present differently! Imagine all the fooled you conned into believing your a girl! Laugh at them. Imagine the shock if they were forced to bathe in the glory of the true Ash! The mortals couldn’t handle it

(I personally enjoy pretending to be a crossdresser while being forced to present as cis)

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Is this blog truscum safe? I’m struggling to find a place where I’m accepted without people feeling the need to (figuratively) scream in my face.

Truscum are called scum for a reason. We’re gonna support all trans people

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I’m.... really confused about something and I had no idea who to go to for help. I’ll probably sound dumb but last night... I had a dream I was male and when I woke up I looked down at my boobs and I felt sick. Like they shouldn’t be there. I looked around at my (very feminine) room and my bra that was lying on the floor and I was so confused. I had to keep telling myself that I’ve always been female and that I need to stop. That I’m not a male in any way and I’ve never had to do that at all.

Sorry for being so late to respond. Dreams are weird. Has the feeling stayed with you? The value of dreams varies from person to person. Explore it if you feel like it

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SPECTRA, an LGBTQIA app is live on Kickstarter!

SPECTRA, an LGBTQIA app is finally live on Kickstarter! But what is SPECTRA, exactly? SPECTRA is an app designed by members of the LGBTQIA community for the LGBTQIA community. At SPECTRA, we believe that our community deserves a Digital Home, a welcoming space to meet our needs in a non-judgmental environment. We exist to make you stronger. We are a network of businesses and people who get it.

So, what’s our mission? We plan to become an online resource center for our community, a space where your voice will not only be heard but where your voice will also help the members of our great family feel safe anywhere in the world. Here’s what we have in mind!

A Complete Resource Center For LGBTQIA People

SPECTRA is a movement emerging from a digital platform built for iOS, Android and the web. It is a network of LGBTQIA people and their allies fighting for a more inclusive future.

Because there are so many in our community that feel insecure and unsafe in unknown spaces. Because we found out that more than 70% of LGBTQIA youth said they felt more comfortable being themselves online than in the real world. Because SPECTRA is an opportunity to use the power we have online to rally our community together and find the safe spaces for us in the real world.

SPECTRA is an excellent opportunity to create an online resource center for the LGBTQIA community, where you will be able to know where to go, where to work and even where to live. SPECTRA has been created by a union of inclusive people, employers, and places. It is a movement towards social equality and will be available on iOS, Android and the web. Because we believe in a future where everyone can feel safe in the world. We invite everyone to get involved, especially allies!

How Will That Work?

We have designed three unique features to help you find the best friendly places to have fun:

Rainbow Ratings

SPECTRA Rewards

Rainbow Maps

The rainbow ratings will work similarly to YELP but for the LGBTQIA community! SPECTRA members will be able to rate businesses on how welcoming they are. These ratings will help other members of our community avoid spaces where they could feel unsafe, and encourage businesses where they are welcomed. The ratings are calculated based on actual interactions through user-generated reviews. SPECTRA is a global app, which makes it easy to find affirming businesses all over the world.

You will be able to avoid places with low inclusion ratings. Plus, in the near future, you will be able to look for window stickers on businesses with a HIGH inclusion rating!

As for the rainbow map, we plan for it to be a resource that makes it easy for you to plan a journey. You will be able to take safe routes around your city and anywhere in the world! Every SPECTRA object is pinned to the map for your convenience. You will also be able to filter businesses by several criteria such as:

Exclusive deals

Health & Wellness

Safe Spaces

Queer Spaces

Gender neutral bathrooms

Hotels & Hostels

Crossdresser Meet-Ups

Virtual businesses

LGBTQIA and POC owned

Clothing Swaps

Private Events

Pride Events

Finally, with SPECTRA rewards, you will be able to earn rewards at inclusive businesses and gain access to exclusive deals that are only available within SPECTRA Rewards! You can earn points as you shop with our partners and inclusive businesses all over the world!

There are so many more things we have in mind for SPECTRA and we need your help to make it happen!

We Are 80% Complete!

Due to some complications and homophobic forces in the world, we had to hide for the longest time that we were building an LGBTQIA portal. This secrecy resulted in extra expenses and longer development. SPECTRA was started in summer of 2017.

We are finally coming out and need your support to complete the development and refine, test and release SPECTRA in BETA.

Our Kickstarter campaign went online on February 19 2019, and our goal pledges is at only 10,000. Thanks to our several backers we are a little over 10% of our goal! We ask for your help to bring our project to fruition and we have planned several tiers and rewards for those who believe in us!

We invite everyone on Tumblr to Signal Boost us and help us reach our goal! Reblog, like, share it with your friends! It might seem like a small gest, but SPECTRA will be a revolution for LGBTQIA inclusion!

Be part of our future today!

LINKS:

Our Website: https://www.joinspectra.com/

Our Kickstarter: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/gospectra/digital-platform-to-build-safer-world-for-the-lgbt?ref=29fd7v

Our Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JoinSpectra/

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Is there anyway to bind safely without a binder? I'm afab and my parents aren't supportive at all. But some days I really don't want to see my chest

Right tank tops and sports bras are gonna be the safest and cheapest ways. Be safe!

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Balancing your personal style and trying to pass is a struggle and you’re doing your best!

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Anxiety has an insidious way of making us doubt ourselves. It may not feel like it, but you totally got this.

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Lee says:

Here’s a transitioning starter pack for all my trans folk out there!

Transfeminine resources:

Presentation:

Tucking

Chest area

Voice

Broad shoulders tips

Hair removal

Feminine walk

Curves

Waist training

Growing out your hair

Clothing

Makeup

Passing

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Estrogen & anti-androgens/testosterone blockers FAQ

The types of surgery available

Surgery: A guide for transfeminine people

Pumping (Silicone injections)

Facial Feminization Options

Breast Augmentation

Other:

Representation

Transfeminine period dysphoria

Yes, Transfeminine People Can Get Period Symptoms

Slipping into masculinity

Women’s restroom etiquette

Transfeminine people can breastfeed

Having sex or masturbating

Transmasculine resources:

Presentation:

Binding FAQ

Clothing

Facial hair

Masculine makeup

Getting short hair / Masculine long hair

If you can’t start T

Lowering your voice

Packing and standing to pee

Passing as male

Not shaving legs

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Testosterone FAQ

Top surgery

Facial masculinization surgery

Body masculinization surgery

Hysterectomy and oophorectomy

Bottom surgery (genital surgery)

Other:

Periods and related things

Help! I need to see a gyno

Pumping

Masturbation and sex

Using the men’s bathroom

Hudson’s FTM Guide

Height dysphoria

Hip dysphoria

More resources:

What gender am I? A brief intro to questioning

Trans 101 for trans people

What is the transgender umbrella?

How do I choose a name?

How do I come out at work/school or to family/friends?

Dysphoria info and tips page

Mental health coping page

Being trans in school

Non-binary resources

Resources to send allies/friends

A page to send to parents/guardians

Convincing someone to respect name/pronouns 

Here is how to get hormones in the US

Here is how to get hormones in the UK

Here’s a US resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker 

Here is a UK resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker

What are the WPATH-SOC guidelines?

How to save money

How to buy a trans-related item online without parents knowing

I have to go swimming, what do I wear/do?

Trying to sleep when you have dysphoria

Traveling by plane

Gender neutral bathrooms

Getting insurance to cover your transition

Does transitioning help mental health?

Trans teen’s experiences with inpatient hospitalization

Trans identity isn’t a mental disorder

Being religious and LGBT

Suicide and crisis hotlines

Transgender Lives: Your Stories (to see trans adults) 

Gender neutral pronouns in Spanish

Gender Variance Around the World Over Time

A map of gender-diverse cultures

American LGBT history by the National Parks Service

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Getting a new haircut is a battle of ‘are my friends lying’? or ‘does my brain just hate me’?

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It’s cool if you deal with dyphoria differently over time. You just coming out and you a year later are obviously gonna view stuff differently

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Your gender isn’t something you should feel like you have to apologize for.