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Things that I, a hard of hearing person with Asperger’s, say in conversation on a daily basis:

What?

What’s going on?

I don’t get it

Wait, what did he say before that?

Why are we all leaving? Where are we going?

What does [insert teenage slang here] mean?

Wait, why are you taking a picture of that?

*randomly leaves conversation when I get bored or think of something better to do*

Basically, I’m confused all of the time. 

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I love this so much.

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Watch: Regular women and celebrities, many of whom have survived sexual assault or harassment, are banding together to tell Trump “It’s not okay”

In the cases of all the women who spoke out in the video, there was no justice. Their assaulters and harassers walked free because either nobody believed them or there was nothing they could do. The Trump tape was one of many final straws. "We’re not gonna take it any more,“ Amber Tamblyn said. “Like, for real, we’re not.”

Gifs: Humanity for Hillary

WATCH THE VIDEO

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Yup.

Allrighty then. Bumblebee Tuna

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So I went to the doctor a few months back, asking for an ASD assessment. I was told that there was no NHS funding for this in my area, so I would be referred for a psych appointment for my anxiety instead. She also said that I probably wasn’t on the spectrum because I could look her in the eye, and am in a happy, long-term relationship.

Fast forward a couple of months and the day for my psych appointment arrives. Yep, with a professional psychiatrist - one whom you would think would be well trained. And what happens? When I mention suspecting that I have ASD and would like to have a proper assessment. He says that is impossible because if I was on the spectrum: a) I would have been diagnosed at about 4 years old (even though aspergers was barely recognised in 1981, when I was four - let alone in females) b) I wouldn’t be able to talk to my kids, and c) I wouldn’t have been able to look him in the eye. 

Like, is this guy for real??? This is 2016 - and I live in London - a major world city. Surely he would have had access to some better training?? 

Of course, my verbal processing and communication skills being as shit as they are, I couldn’t think of a good way to respond in the moment - other than mention how eye contact can be learned, and that I know several autistic people who talk to their kids and their family.

Luckily I am seeing him again for a follow-up appointment in December, so maybe I’ll be better prepared this time. Although I am still a bit worried, because I’m so bad at thinking on the spot and at verbal communication.

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Love this.

Yeah, this is 100% me.

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an autism self-diagnosis masterpost

Here is an attempt at a great big list of self-diagnosis resources for people who think they might be autistic and want to know more. There are probably others, but hopefully this’ll be helpful to someone.

Wherever possible, I have tried to link to works by autistic people. This is because autistic people know how autism works much better than any allistic person can. So, if you’re wondering why so much of the list is blog posts instead of medical articles, that’s why. I do have some medical articles, which you can use at your discretion.

Finally, this is very much a work in progress, so please feel free to suggest things to add or change.

And I would like to extend a thousand thanks to mildlyautisticsuperdetectives for beta-ing this for me. Ne is amazing and you should totally check out nir blog.

Keep reading

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So i was wondering, did you self-diagnose for autism, or did you go to a doctor? and if you did self diagnose, what symptoms did you see? I don't ask this to knock self-diagnosis, but because I think I may have autism, and I want to know what your experience was like, because I respect you a ton, and i would love to hear your advice

I self diagnosed in 2014 but it was kind of a messy experience so I am still not comfortable sharing my own symptoms right yet, I hope you understand. i’m happy you asked though because i would love to help pass on what helped me. It’s the tail-end of Autism Acceptance Month too, so I have a heck-ton of resources that may help you with self-diagnosis.

thatautismfeel’s resource page

DSM-5 autism spectrum checklist

neurowonderful’s resource page

bookhobbit’s self-dx masterpost

if you are dfab, this post is important (more in neurowonderful’s post)

a post to possibly help with any rising fits of panic

There is a LOT of information, these resources lead to other resources- please don’t try to sponge it all at once, take your time going through the motions. after going through these, its important to comb through your history, your childhood, interactions with people, the way you process things, what upsets you and why, etc.. the resources helped make sense of a lot of my life, down to the very way i think and interact with the world. i stopped emotionally abusing myself by a staggering amount.

the most important part about self-dx is that it can help you find ways to work with yourself, help yourself and become more understanding of your needs especially when you are unable to acquire medical support or professional help for any reason. 

take it slowly, it’s a long process. a very long, gentle, patient process.

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when I commit to a person, I FUCKING COMMIT. if their depression, anxiety or life comes knocking, you bet your ass i’m at the door with a double sided axe waiting for a good fight. 

you cant expect people, to always be happy, even if they are in love. because life doesn’t stop for anyone. But you can be there for the good fight. 

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talent: being able to make myself upset over literally nothing

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Another Autism Feel #22

When you find posts about autism and you finally feel less alone and misunderstood.

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Brands that Have Been Asked and Answered!

Bold = No Testing Italics = Parent Company Nothing = Tested on Animals However, if they don’t offer vegan products at all, we didn’t bold or italicize since they are brands we will never support anyways!

If they are 100% vegan they are already on our Vegan List!

100 percent Pure - Doesn’t Test - Almost all products are vegan, but look out for honey and beeswax 

Acure Organics - Doesn’t Test -  Outlines their non-vegan products 

AG Hair Cosmetics - Doesn’t Test - Vegan list in FAQ 

Alba Botanica - Doesn’t Test - Beeswax is the only non-vegan ingredient you need to check for

Alberto Culver - Tests

Anastasia Beverly Hills - Doesn’t Test - Hardly any non-vegan products, here is their vegan list - check the tag for more

Aphogee - Doesn’t Test - No Vegan Products

Australis - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List 

Avon - Tests 

Bare Minerals - Parent Company Tests - No Vegan Products

Barry M - Doesn’t Test - Vegan Products Labelled Online

Bath and Body works - Tests

Becca - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List

Benefit - Tests 

Biore - Tests

BH Cosmetics - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List 

Butter London - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List 

Calvin Klein - Tests 

Chanel - Tests

Christopher Drummond - Doesn’t Test - Labels Vegan Products on Website

Clairol - Tests 

Clean & Clear - Tests

Coastal Scents - Grey Area Brand - We will avoid.

Collection - Tests 

Coloured Raine - Doesn’t Test - Vegan products labelled 

Colourpop cosmetics - Doesn’t Test -  they use one ingredients list for all products, only the ones on this list are NOT vegan.

CoverFX - Doesn’t Test - All Vegan Except for some Lip FX and Bronze FX products. 

CoverGirl - Tests 

Dessert Essence - Doesn’t Test - FAQ which products are not vegan 

Dose Of Colours - Doesn’t Test -  Labels which products are vegan 

Dove - Tests 

E.L.F. - Doesn’t Test - All Vegan Except for Essentials Brushes 

Elizabeth Arden - Tests 

Ecco Bella - Doesn’t Test - Lists which products aren’t vegan in FAQ 

Estee Lauder - Tests 

Face of Australia - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List 

Freeman - Doesn’t know what vegan means. We recommend to avoid.

Fresh Cosmetics - Tests

Garnier - Tests 

Gillette - Tests

Giovanni - Doesn’t Test - List of non-vegan products in FAQ 

Got2Be - Tests 

Gucci - Tests 

Herbal Essences - Tests

H&M Makeup - Doesn’t Test - They do not use carmine

Hourglass - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List 

Illamasqua - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List

Impulse Cosmetics - Doesn’t Test - Labels Vegan Products on Website

Inglot Cosmetics - Doesn’t Test - Provides vegan list if you email

Ion - Doesn’t Test - Labels Vegan Products with “100% Vegan”

Jane Irdale - Doesn’t Test - Labels Vegan Products on Website

John Frieda - Tests 

Josie Maran - Doesn’t Test - Labels Vegan Products on Website

Kat Von D - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List

Kiehl’s -Tests 

Kiss My Face - Doesn’t Test - List of non-vegan products in FAQ 

Korres - Doesn’t Test - Vegan list here

Laura Geller - Tests 

LaSplash - Doesn’t Test - unclear about what products are vegan, don’t trust.

Lily Lolo - Doesn’t Test - Labels Vegan Products on Website

Lush - Doesn’t Test - Labels Vegan Products 

MAC - Tests

Makeup Forever - Tests 

Makeup Geek - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List 

Malin + Gotez - Doesn’t Test - Non-Vegan List

Manic Panic - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List

Medusa’s Makeup - Doesn’t Test - Labels Vegan Products on Website

Melt Cosmetics - Doesn’t Test - Labels all vegan products on website 

Mehron - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List here 

Milani - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List 

Milk Makeup - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List

Nad’s - Doesn’t Test - Check ingredients as they use honey and beeswax 

Natures Organics - Doesn’t Test - All Vegan

NARS - Parent Company Tests - No Idea of Vegan Products 

Neutrogena - Tests

Neve Cosmetics - Doesn’t Test - Label their vegan products

NYX - Parent Company Tests - Refuses to Give Vegan List and Says to “Read Labels for Yourself" 

Nivea - Tests 

Organix - Tests

Palladio - Tests

Paul Mitchell - Doesn’t Test - Individual Products on Site Listed Vegan

Paula’s Choice - Doesn’t Test - List of non-vegan products in FAQ

Physician’s Formula - Doesn’t Test - No Vegan List but Glycerin is Plant Derived According to Email Correspondence!

Pretty Zombie - Doesn’t Test - Vegan Listed on Website 

Redken - Tests 

Revlon - Tests

Rimmel London - Tests

Satin Cosmetics - Doesn’t Test - Ingredients List

Sephora Brand - Tests

Simple - Tests

Sleek - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List

Soap and Glory - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List

Smashbox - Tests

Stila - Tests

Sugarpill - Doesn’t Test - Vegan section here 

Schwarzkopf - Tests 

Sephora Collection - Tests

Shea Moisture - Doesn’t Test - No vegan list, must read ingredients

Simple Skincare - Tests 

Tarte - Parent Company Tests - Vegan List 

The Balm - Doesn’t Test - Vegan list

Tom’s of Maine - Parent Company Tests - Labels Vegan Products

Tony Moly - Tests

Too Faced - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List 

Tresemme - Tests 

Urban Decay - Parent Company Tests - Vegan List 

Vidal Sasson - Tests 

Wet n’ Wild - Doesn’t Test - Vegan List

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I hate linguistic anthropology. Why? One of the most influential experiments in linguistic anthropology involved teaching a chimp asl. One of the most influential linguistics is named Noam Chomsky. You know what the chimp’s name was?

Nim Chimpsky.

Fucking monkey pun.

And this is in textbooks, in documentaries, everywhere. And everyone just IGNORES THIS GOD AWFUL PUN cause of how important the experiment was. But

BUT LOOK AT THIS SHIT. FUCKING NIM CHIMPSKY. I HATE THIS WHOLE FIELD.

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Definitely 0 😝😝😝

tag yourself as these. I’m 58.