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🌧️ involuntarily/negative regressing megapost 🌧️

i hope this might help regressors identify their feelings or for others to pick up on these behaviours when they see it. of course, everyone's experiences are different so if this isn't something you relate to, it doesn't make your experiences any less valid! 🩵

🩵 big feelings

it starts off with an intense, overwhelming negative emotion: stress, frustration, sadness, exhaustion, overstimulation, etc. for this post, im going to use a very common trigger for me - social conflict.

🌧️ communication difficulties

as an autistic person i find it very hard to read tone, and so arguments (even joking ones!) can cause me to become overly emotional and regress. the first thing to go is my ability to communicate properly! responses will get slower and shorter.

🩵 confusing reactions

as communication skills and emotional regulation slip away, my behaviour becomes more erratic - this includes going quiet, giving emotionally intense responses or even trying to walk away. to other people, this can be difficult to understand and might make the situation worse.

🌧️ the 'bad behaviour' spiral

though it's not my intention, responses appear combative, immature or moody. short answers or lack of answers may appear passive aggressive, overly emotional responses can seem like an attempt to guilt trip, and trying to leave can look like storming off. i feel ashamed of my childish responses, and i begin to sink deeper.

🩵 the break

eventually, the mask completely slips. at this point there's crying and attempts to hide or isolate. behaviour is pretty much infantile and i have no choice but to let it run its course.

💧a personal example 💧

a few years ago i was venting about my day with a co-worker. he began to offer solutions which i rejected and he criticised me for this: i immediately saw this as a conflict and got anxious. as i panicked my sentences got shorter, which he picked up on and questioned. the more my behaviour became childish, the more negative i felt and the more those behaviours happened. eventually i burst into tears and was trying to get him to hug me. i ended up leaving work early to go home and hide under my covers. it was very embarrassing and unhelpful!

🌀 i involuntarily regress - what can i do? 🌀

it's called involuntary regression for good reason, sometimes it just can't be helped! but it's good to understand your triggers and spirals, so that you can plan ahead.

🩵 understand your triggers - if you've regressed this way before, what caused it? is it a place, person, situation? why could it be causing your regression?

🩵 think about the basics - is there a need you've been neglecting? although it can sound dismissive when your feelings are so intense, you might need to do something simple. have you been eating nourishing food and staying hydrated, taking your medication, sleeping well, taking breaks and going outside, keeping ourselves and our home clean? these things can really affect how we feel!

🩵 be prepared - explain to those around you that your trigger may affect your behaviour and that it's not something you do intentionally. express what you'll need to do if this happens, and ask that they be patient with you. it also helps to have items such as fidget toys, sensory chews, communication cards and noise cancelling headphones with you, just in case.

🩵 communicate - in the early stages, it's important to explain how you're feeling and what you need! some helpful things to say might be:

'can we take a little break? im feeling overwhelmed'

'if i start giving short answers, it's because im overwhelmed, please be patient with me'

'i need some time to process this information'

'can you speak slower?'

'i'd like some alone time'

🩵 having a (self) care plan - if you end up regressed, it's good to have things in place! i don't have a caregiver, but if you do, reaching out for help is a good start! if that's not an option, keep a box of regression supplies, comfort items and mental health paperwork in a place that's easy to access. having an exit plan, including giving a reason for needing to leave or arranging a way to get home, are super useful things to keep in mind.

🩵 forgive yourself - it's not the end of the world. regression can be a very embarrassing experience, but it's not causing any harm. show yourself kindness.

🩵 getting help - if you find that regressing is interfering with your daily life or becoming common and disruptive, reach out and search for mental health resources or support. it may be a sign of an underlying situation that needs attention.

🩵 reflection - once it's over, consider how things went. are there behaviours you regret or things that could have been better? you might owe people an explanation or apology, but remember, this doesn't make you a bad person! like everyone else, you just had a rough day.

☔ how can i help someone involuntarily regressing? ☔

🩵 dont panic!! freaking out, asking a bunch of questions or drawing attention will only make things worse. if someone isn't responding to you, try asking simple yes/no questions that they can nod or shake their head to.

🩵 try not to take it personally - it might be difficult but involuntary regressing can be extremely overwhelming. being on the receiving end of short answers or unusual behaviour can feel uncomfortable or even hurtful, but try to remember that this person isn't in a clear frame of mind right now. being aggressive or defensive will only escalate things! only shout if you absolutely have to, for example, a potentially dangerous situation

🩵 be patient and reassuring - speak gently and slowly. offer reassurance and explanations on what you're intending to do. some helpful things to say might be:

'nobody's upset with you/you're not in trouble'

'i'll stay with you for as long as you like'

'take your time'

'youre not in any danger'

🩵 express your boundaries - it's okay to say no! if a regressor is doing or saying something that makes you uncomfortable, you have every right to tell them that you don't like it, even if they're in a bad headspace.

🩵 check in/ask questions - if you feel comfortable doing so, check in on them and ask how you can support them better if this happens again.

regression can be a fun, healing experience - but it can also be frightening and humiliating, both are completely valid. when you're online, it's easy to forget that regressing isn't always a cute, sanitised aesthetic experience. there's nothing wrong with you and it's going to get better.

thank you for reading! feel free to reply with your tips, thoughts or questions 🩵

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Been getting more aggressive lately, not intentionally... I need to regress and I know that but... how do you make yourself regress before it happens involuntarily? Age dreaming into regressing doesn't really work for me, I can't force it...

I just don't want to keep going like this cause it's going to result in a blow up and impure regression.... I also can't really discuss it with my partner (my own insecurities, nothing against/having to do with them directly). And if it does go south I really won't be able to explain to them....

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agere polls -`♡´-☆

reblogs are appreciated for sample size! you can find all of my polls tagged with #sxfts polls!

(poll submissions are open, just send me the question and up to 12 answers!)

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cowboy qpp x knight qpp

<3

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Henry and William still made the original Springlock suits, they hired Edwin to make safer Springlocks for them as well as help them with their new project, it's unclear if any of the animatronics we see made by Edwin were ever actually used, since the location itself looks abandoned and unused. I think it's likely Henry and William decided to continue the project without Edwin, with Henry making the animatronics instead. That's why Freddy's doesn't open until around 1985, because there were major set backs in Edwin not completing their work. Henry still made the animatronics to be clear, this doesn't change anything about what he said in FNAF 6.

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you guys know you can get USB connectable CD, dvd, and blu-ray players right. and you can buy external hard drives with crazy amounts of space for an amount of money that would make the average person from 2009’s head explode bc of how cheap it is. and if you do this and get ripping software such as handbrake for CDs and DVDs and makeMKV for blurays you can both own a physical copy of whatever media you want and make it accessible to yourself no matter where you are. do you guys know this

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Reeaallll quick mini post (will be adding to the intro after) I do NOT take commissions especially via my replies.

If you're an artist who's getting replies on your posts about commissions don't interact especially if the people asking only have a pfp on their blog, not titles, no posts, and their likes and following are visible. Those users are just going to scam you, delete their replies and report their accounts as scam/bots.

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"Hey Indie how many ponysonas do you need?"

Yes.

In order we have Silver Page (who is actually a member of our system, see more from that in our system blog @th3-n0sta1gic-hiv3 or more from him and I directly at @the-bird-brains). Next we have Starbright Shine (Starlight Glimmer kinsona). Toxic Charm, my first attempt at a ponysona that Silver didn't highjack. Next is Inky Solo, a joke OC/sona (think goober sona) that's an ink pony. In fifth we have Eclosion (Chrysalis kinsona), yes I kin Starlight and Chrysalis... it's a thing and definitely doesn't help any self loathing. Next is Block Party, my agere ponysona (the cow in my pfp was my normal ageresona then became a member of the system, their name is Lumen). And finally we have Vanilla Extract, my current pony sona... Who also doubles as my form in headspace (go to the the-bird-brains blog for more in depth info on that).

there was also our first ponysona, who Silver highjacked before getting his current form, but that OC took off story wise and was replaced with Silver due to not aligning as a sona anymore.

Anyways yay pony sonas, love them so much!! I just wanted to make a post with all of them since the last blog got axed and it's been so long.

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cataloging all my mlp toys i bought 2nd hand

i was able to pretty much tie them back to what sets they came from and what accessories they are missing

except this one 3.5 minty figure

she's sitting on a pink platform thing that looks like it clicks onto something like a playset but i cannot for the life of me find where she comes from

minty my girl, you are truly an enigma

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I have a collection of Pleakley's costumes

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Thinking about Lilo & Stitch makes me really appreciate certain things about the original + the series. Almost every single named [human] character in the movie isn’t white: the only exception being Mertle, y’know, the bratty little girl we’re not supposed to like.

Besides all of the racial representation, Lilo herself is very much a neurodivergent icon, and her portrayal as the protagonist is amazing considering how characters like her are typically either sidelined or depicted in ways to make them less sympathetic/human (modern media does at least a slightly better job at adressing that kind of thing tho).

So all of that is great, but to anyone that hasn’t seen Lilo & Stitch: The Series, it also does some extremely refreshing stuff.

Pleakley gets tons of validation to dress in drag, everyone always referring to Pleakley as “she” when dressed up as “aunt Pleakley.” There’s even an episode that tackles Pleakley dealing with the pressures of his family that wants him to marry a girl and settle down to have a “normal life.” After the episode's shenanigans, there's a realistic depiction of the misunderstanding of a heteronormative/traditional parent with their non-traditional child: Pleakley's mom says that she just wants her children to be happy, but when Pleakley says that he is happy, she thinks he's only trying to console her as she insists, "How can you be happy? You aren't even married." But Pleakley finally gets it through to his mom when he says, "I don't want to be married, mother! I'm happy just as I am."

After getting to meet all of Pleakley's ohana throughout the episode and hearing from Pleakley himself -after all of the previous misunderstandings- that he really, truly, is happy, she's finally starting to understand.

Even though his mom comments as they leave that she wants him to “try wearing men’s clothes more often,” she still does walk away accepting that she simply doesn’t understand her son's way of thinking. It’ll definitely be hard for her since she’s so much more “traditional,” but she’s finally coming to grips with the fact that her son is who he is, and likes being that way, so she’ll love him regardless. She's trying her best.

The portrayal of people with physical disabilities is also great. It’s not because there’s one recurring character with some condition, but almost because there are non-recurring characters. It isn’t in every episode, but here’s an example: they want to show someone at the park playing fetch with their dog for just one shot. They could very easily have it be any a random person, but they decided to make it a lady in a wheelchair. There's another episode where Nani's friends from highschool show up and one has forearm crutches, but not just because she had some recent accident. No one in the episode questions her condition or feels the need to point it out, the only comment on it being that the friend will use the crutches to lightly bonk the others' arms, and Nani jokes, "You are still deadly with that thing."

The fact that they include characters with disabilities when they "don't have to" makes it that much more normal. These people aren't some special case or the main highlight of the episode, they're just another person. They're normal.

There's so much that all of the original Lilo & Stitch media did right, but now the name will forever be tainted with the association of the remake, which I'm sure will have absolutely none of the tasteful writing and ideas of anything prior to it.

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Agere Community, Can We Have A Word?

I've been noticing an issue recently of padded age regressors being thrown under the bus. It's important to make the distinction between people who regress differently to you and creeps we don't want in agere spaces. They are not the same thing.

I suppose what I'm saying here is that accusing regressors who need nappies of being ABDLs or DDLGs is a really nasty thing to do and only perpetrating stereotypes surrounding adults who need nappies for medical reasons. Just because an adult needs them doesn't mean it's a bedroom thing.

Please be kind to ALL disabled regressors, even those whose disabilities are stigmatised or misunderstood 💚

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Age regression can be sexual. just block the sexual tags? Maybe don't police how other people use their coping mechanisms and / or reinact trauma in a controlled enviorment?

You’re wrong. Point blank period.

The people who are sexualizing age regression are not regressors themselves. These people are participating in age play and ABDL. They are posting sexually explicit material in a community where minors are present, which is absolutely vile and disgusting.

And for your information, I do in fact block the sexual tags the fact of the matter is they keep making more so no matter how much I block they keep popping up and forcing everyone to see their disgusting behavior.

Source: Link Age regression has not, nor will it ever be sexual. Clearly, you aren’t a regressor yourself. Rather someone apart of one of those kinks and your offended that I’m not beating around the bush and telling you to leave us the hell alone. And honestly, what I have to say to you is this. Stay out of our tags. It’s a basic boundary of everyone in this community and you decide to send me a passive aggressive ask when I decide that I don’t wanna be polite anymore. Literally everyone here will tell you the exact same thing.

Do not bring your kinks here. If you wanna do that stuff stay in those specific tags. Do not tag your inappropriate content with age regression related tags because it’s not what it’s for. There are minors here and they will always be a welcome part of this community. You however are the absolute worst and give us a bad reputation because you can’t just stay where you are relegated.

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blocking, muting, deleting, unfollowing is self care.