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Hey, I know I’m not involved with the current event going on right now, but I’m hearing mentions of it from friends and mentions of it on my dash. I just want to say that I’m uncomfortable with underage drinking, and I don’t agree with how its being portrayed and represented. It’s a real issue, and I don’t support the notion of acknowledging that its bad and continuing to roleplay it like its haha funny.  Because of this, I’m going to temporarily unfollow/unfollow entirely/softblock/etc blogs that are directly involved for my own comfort. I’m turning this into a post for two reasons. 1) so people who want to do something similar can rb this without having to fumble for words or worry about having to justify themselves and their actions 2) so people I’m temporarily unfollowing know what’s going on and aren’t alarmed when I’m not on their follows list or if I follow them back at a later date when this event is over. This post is okay to reblog. 

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The decorations, the music, the atmosphere.... Oh how wonderful... Everything was honestly picture perfect. Eira gave a small smile as she contained her excitement and kept quiet to respect the ceremony. She... was starting to feel a little bit emotional-

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Ooooh here we go, here we go- Things are finally about to start!

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Okay sooo.... I think that’s it? Looks like I’ve got everything sorted out for myself tomorrow for the wedding!

... Lets hope nobody can tell that I’ve never really been to one of these before.

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hello and welcome to “this blog still exists?” ft. this blog anyways i got back from a short vacation and im going to do some hardcore catching up and reading and maybe a bit of interaction, stick around for the wedding, and after that? idk i might fuck around and vanish

nice to see u all again tho!

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I’ve tried to gently address this situation multiple times now, so I can’t keep beating around the bush. 

Vaguing people and situations that you do not have the full context for is irresponsible and damaging to both the community and the people in it. So many times situations that I’ve been in have been taken out of context and skewed beyond reasonable belief and it’s completely ruined any and all motivation I’ve had to participate in the RPC.

I KNOW that it’s situations I’m involved in because these posts always come up right after these situations, and it’s unacceptable. If you want to talk about holding people accountable for their actions, then talk to them or be direct. 

If I’ve done something wrong, then tell me! Me wanting to try and support someone through an issue their having isn’t victim blaming or making someone else feel guilty- It’s trying to offer a support system to someone who doesn’t have it otherwise and clearly doesn’t know how to handle the situation they’re currently in. Does this mean that I agree with their actions? No! It means I want to help them and stop them from continuing those things. This shouldn’t be a line that is blurred as often as it has been in the last few months.

The amount of tension, vaguing, and actual shittalking behind peoples backs that I’ve been shown or even seen firsthand is absolutely insane and honestly worse than when I first joined this fandom and RPC. Please, for the love of god, learn how to talk to people and get both sides of the story before jumping to conclusions about things. I’ve been called everything from ableist to transphobic behind my back over my response to situations that I stepped in on- either for my own reasons or for reasons as a server mod- and nearly every time it’s been something that I put my two cents in on because it directly affects me. I’m autistic, I’m mentally ill, I suffer from chronic pain, I’m trans, I’m bi, etc, etc, etc. If I’m putting my opinion in on something, it’s not from a place of “Well I Don’t Like This Because X”, it’s because I typically have direct experience with whatever the situation is.

Stop taking what I say out of context and stop taking others words for it without knowing the intention behind what I’m saying. This is the exact reason I’ve abandoned this blog and moved on to other communities- Because I’ve dealt with people vaguing me more than I have interacted with others in a positive manner, and that is honestly fucking insane, isn’t it?

For several months we had a community that was repairing itself and making amends and coming to terms with it’s difference, and in the last three months I’ve seen that all torn down by people doing things without thinking, like vaguing, and talking behind backs, stealing character concepts, sending anon hate, and god only knows what else.

Please, for the sake of literally everyone in this community, learn how to communicate with people. Learn how to express your concerns without turning it into a big fiasco of throwing shade and insulting people. I promise you that it will make your time online in general so much better. I literally don’t know how many times I have to say this, but it’s been way too fucking many at this point.

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hey it costs nothing to be a decent fucking person and not bitch in somebody’s ask box if ur gonna be a little shit, at least do it off anon so they know who to block.

if you’re going to be mean to a person then maybe you shouldn’t follow them or look at their blogs! because wuh woh that makes you toxic for sticking around somebody that you don’t like for no damn reason

why are some people so off the shits with being rude as of late like what the fuck

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ᵗʰᵉ ᵗᵒᵃˢᵗ ʷⁱˡˡ ᵍⁱᵛᵉ ʸᵒᵘ ʷᵃʳᵐᵗʰ.

T....toast?

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hehe ur like chicken. wings.

Thaaanks? Is this a compliment?  Or is it just a really, really weird insult? I... can’t exactly tell. Are you calling me an oversized chicken? I think getting straight to the point with that would’ve like.... helped the both of us here.

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special snowflake

I guess you can say that? Although sometimes I really wish I wasn’t. It sounds like it would be kinda nice to be normal.

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wait so does this make jason honeymaren

....I don’t know who that is either.

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Yeaaah that figures.

I have two younger sisters, is that what you wanted to know or...?

whos your anna

I have no idea what you’re talking about, but I have a feeling this is another one of those “Elsa” jokes. Time go google it.

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whos your anna

I have no idea what you’re talking about, but I have a feeling this is another one of those “Elsa” jokes. Time go google it.

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dont you ever get tired of being so cold?

Actually? Yeah, yeah I do. I miss the feeling of warm sunshine on my back, and gentle breezes through my hair and feathers. I miss wearing t-shirts and shorts, I miss going swimming. 

All because I have to hide my wings.

Yeah. I’m tired of being cold.

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You can't keep drinking things away.

Wanna bet?

I know it’s obviously not the best solution, or even a solution at all, but I can’t think about the things that hurt if I can’t think.

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You should have stayed. You don't deserve a new life.

Mmmm.... I know I’m not deserving of much, I can agree with you on that...  But... Is it so wrong to want the things I shouldn’t have?

Maybe it is, but it doesn’t change the fact I still have them. But regardless, its not like I can go back. 

I wouldn’t be able to withstand going home. 

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This icy force both foul and fair has a frozen heart worth mining...

I... I don’t know what this means? Is this an ice joke that I’ve been too out of the loop to understand?