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Every so often sometimes I’ll see posts pop up on my dash talking about the scene in ESB where Yoda and Obi Wan are trying to keep Luke from flying off to Bespin after Han and Leia and everyone’s always lauding Luke for being a “TRUE hero who sticks it to the meanie evil Jedi who just want him to blindly obey their evil oppressive orders and let his friends die >:(”

And it’s like. Okay. Okay, that sure is a funny way of saying “Luke blatantly ignoring his masters trying to tell him not to walk into the Obvious Fucking Trap Vader is purposefully using his friends’ pain to set for him, walks smack into it anyway, fails to rescue one friend and needs to have the other rescue herself and then HIM after he gets his arm amputated and loses his lightsaber and nearly dies” but OKAY.

o k a y . . .

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I will honestly never forgive y’all for going crazy over kylo ren. like u literally had poe and finn and u chose kylo. that’s like saying u would fuck jar jar binks over anakin or obi. rip to ur taste in men but I am different

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What is Asexuality?

Asexuality is a sexual orientation, like heterosexuality or homosexuality, etc., but instead of being sexually attracted to men or women, asexual people are sexually attracted to no one.  This doesn’t mean we all hate sex or avoid it, it just means we don’t find people sexually attractive.

What is the Asexuality Archive?

The Asexuality Archive is a collection of all things Ace.  In these pages, I hope to provide a comprehensive and uncensored look into what asexuality is, what it means to us and how it shapes our lives.  My intention is to provide information that is approachable and informative, whether or not you’re asexual.

Projects:

What is Asexuality?:  A companion site, dedicated to providing information about asexuality in multiple formats, including pamphlets and slideshows.

Asexuality: A Brief Introduction: An informational book about what asexuality is, what it’s like to be asexual, and what people should know about asexuality.

An Asexual’s Guide To…:  A series of in-depth posts on topics that are typically wondered about, but are rarely explored in ace circles.

The Comment Section:  A series of posts that explore troublesome comments left on articles about asexuality, and tips for responding to them.

Articles and Information:

Asexuality 101

Asexuality in the DSM-5

A Parent’s Guide To Asexuality

Under the Ace Umbrella: Demisexuality and Gray-asexuality

Things That Are Not Asexuality

Possible Signs of Asexuality – Part 3: About Others

Possible Signs of Asexuality – Part 2: About Sex

Possible Signs of Asexuality – Part 1: About You

Asexuality: Myths, Misconceptions and Other Things That Are Just Plain Wrong

Q & Ace: An Introduction to Asexuality

On the Existence of Asexual Men

A Bit of Attraction

An Asexual on Sex

Asexuality and Celibacy: What’s the difference, anyway?

Asexuality in the World

The Great Chicago Conspiracy

(in)Visibility Activist

Hey you! You wanna help change the world?

How Come You Haven’t Cured Cancer With All Your Free Time?

Cake

Black Rings

The Asexuality Flag

That word… I do not think it means what you think it means.

Tim Gunn on 29 Years of Celibacy

Mario: Secret Asexual?

Nikola Tesla

Isaac Newton

An Asexual’s Guide To …

An Asexual’s Guide To … Having Sex

An Asexual’s Guide To …

An Asexual’s Guide To … Orgasms

An Asexual’s Guide To … Anatomy

An Asexual’s Guide To … Arousal

An Asexual’s Guide To … Masturbation

An Asexual’s Guide To … Female Masturbation

An Asexual’s Guide To … Female Anatomy

An Asexual’s Guide To … Male Masturbation

An Asexual’s Guide To … Male Anatomy

Ace Images

Ace Pride Countries

Ace Pride Canadian Provinces

Ace Pride States

“I Am Asexual” Flag Animation

Asexuality for the Atari 2600

The U.S. of Ace

Ace The Ghost: A Story Of Awareness

There Are Several Hundred Asexuals In This Picture

Asexual Propaganda Poster

“Hey everyone! I’m asexual.”

Not Broken. Not Alone.

Ace Toothpick Flags

An Ace Bracelet

Achievement Unlocked

It’s Okay To Be Alone!

Late Bloomer

Asexual: Deal With It.

The Asexuality Flag

Asexuals Don’t Exist?

Asexuality Cheat Sheet

Just because it’s a stereotype doesn’t mean it’s not true…

“Amoeba Love”

Totally ace shirt.

My closet is ready for AAW.

Nikola Tesla

Isaac Newton

Multiple Choice

Asexual Life

The Great Chicago Conspiracy

An Ace At Work

Social Anxiety and Asexuality

Who Cares About Asexuality? (or: Why Visibility Matters)

Asexuals on Coming Out: Advice

Asexuals on Coming Out: Experiences

Possible Signs of Asexuality – Part 1: About You

I am Asexual

“Attraction, not Action”

Asexuality is Nothing to Hide

Asexuality and Me

An Ace At Work

Social Anxiety and Asexuality

Asexual Intercourse

Who Cares About Asexuality? (or: Why Visibility Matters)

…And Then What?

Living Alone

Forward Advances

AAW Day 7: Assorted Bits of Ace

AAW Day 6: Masturbation

AAW Day 5: Love

AAW Day 4: Porn

AAW Day 3: Attraction

AAW Day 2: Sex

Asexual Awareness Week Day 1: Asexuality and Me

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Love, Romance, and Other Relationships

What I’ve Missed Out On Being Single

…And Then What?

Possible Signs of Asexuality – Part 3: About Others

Forward Advances

A Bit of Attraction

Sex, Masturbation, and Other Activities

Asexual Intercourse

Possible Signs of Asexuality – Part 2: About Sex

“But asexuals can’t masturbate!”

AAW Day 6: Masturbation

An Asexual on Sex

“Don’t you all hate sex?”

Quick Questions

How Old Do You Have To Be To Know You’re Asexual?

Is “Asexual” Another Way To Say “Celibate”?

Is There a Cure for Asexuality?

How Do I Tell If Someone Is Asexual?

Can Asexuals Fall In Love?

Can Asexuals Have Children?

Can Asexual Men Get Erections?

Do Asexual Men Exist?

Can Asexuals Masturbate?

Can Asexuals Have Sex?

What is Asexuality?

How Do I Become Asexual?

The Comment Section

The Comment Section: An Exploration of Negative Remarks on the Huffington Post Series About Asexuality

The Comment Section: It’s All Too Complicated!

The Comment Section: Everything’s Political

The Comment Section: Nothing Bad Happens

The Comment Section: I’m Not A Doctor, But I Play One On The Internet

The Comment Section: What About Me? ME ME ME!

The Comment Section: So What? Who Cares!

The Comment Section: I Know More About You Than You Do!

The Comment Section: You’re Not One Of Us!

Ask An Ace Guy

People aren’t born sexually attracted to others, so when is “too young”?

What are your thoughts on aesthetic versus sexual attraction?

What’s the hardest part about running a website about asexuality? What’s the best/worst response to your website (or book) you’ve received?

Do you ever have sexual fantasies?

How do aces/aros identify a lack of something?

Since you discovered what asexuality was, and came to understand what it meant for you, have you ever felt conflicted about it?

You’ve talked publicly about a lot of sexually explicit issues. How did you get to be so comfortable doing that?

Any movies or books with ace characters in them? Do you have a fav?

I’ve had crushes in the past, sex repulses me, do you think I may be asexual?

Are women more or less interested because you’re asexual?

North American Asexuality Conference

NAAC2015 Conference Takeaways

NAAC2015 Roundup: Day 2 Unconference

NAAC2015 Roundup: Session 4 — “Q & Ace”

NAAC2015 Roundup: Session 3 — Ace Content Creation

NAAC2015 Roundup: Session 2 — Articulating Asexuality

NAAC2015 Roundup: Session 1 — How To Handle Detractors

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Source

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This Biology Teacher Disproved Transphobia With Science 

ALSO:

Sex redefined

“The idea of two sexes is simplistic. Biologists now think there is a wider spectrum than that.”

More on anti-trans arguments as bad science

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This is like 4 years old now, but I have a detailed outline. Luke's nightmare is the Sequel Trilogy, Leia's is the Expanded Universe, and we (by which I mean I) are going completely off the rails of expectation. In the most fanon ways I can think of.

Leaning towards doing it as a comic rather than a fanfic.

Opinions would be appriciated.

I've tried writting it, but I have struggled.

The only acceptable ending to the Sequel Trilogy.

After 2 hours of awful and the destruction of the entire galaxy, Luke Skywalker wakes up on Endor, two days after the destruction of the second Death Star having a terrible nightmare.

He decides to never leave Han and Leia and no one is ever alone or abandoned, or dead, again. They travel around the galaxy in the falcon, fighting the good fight as a team against the shadowy remnants of the empire which get more and more pathetic as they go.

Also, I appear to be writing this Fanfic. 

God help me.

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i think what bothers me most about the anti argument of “if you’re ACTUALLY writing to vent your trauma, then why do you need to share it” isn’t even how like, grossly victim shaming that is because it’s really abhorrent to tell people that their trauma is unattractive and shouldn’t be shown to other people;

it’s that it completely ignores what is cathartic about sharing your fucking feelings. we are social creatures. when we are sad, or in love, or angry, or happy, or have any strong feelings, we want to share them. and arguing that it’s inherently evil to want to share painful and difficult feelings just because YOU have decided that it is is so fucking ugly of you. not everyone processes things by journaling or writing to themselves, or meeting with their therapist.

some people find healing and catharsis through sharing their experiences and saying “here, here is something beautiful that i was able to make from something ugly, and i’m proud of that.” some people find value in themselves again by realizing that other people who have been through the same things still have value, too, and they find those people by saying “hey, this is what my experiences are.”

to suggest that someone deserves to sit with their experiences alone because their way of coping and connecting with others COULD be misinterpreted or make other people uncomfortable is disgusting. therapy isn’t a fix all for everything, you don’t magically become healed from all trauma and have the answers to all things coping just because you’re in therapy. talking to people you trust isn’t always an option because some people don’t want to disclose their trauma to people that they know, and they may only feel safe disclosing to people who have no way of knowing who they are in real life.

i’ve been to lots and lots of therapists over the course of my life, been in and out of psych hospitals, and whaddya know, i even have a degree in psychology now! and you know what psychology DOESN’T say?

you know what not a single one of my therapists has ever told me? “don’t share the parts of yourself that hurt because they might hurt someone else.”

you know what they HAVE said to me many times? “when you share with others, you have to remember that not everyone can handle the same things you can, so be mindful of that.”

and that is not AT ALL the same as your “stfu and don’t show this to other people” argument, especially when someone is sharing on a platform like ao3 that intentionally makes it so that we can cater the content we see to our specific needs and wants and comforts, which allows us to be extremely mindful of others. and breaking down the tag system- which is literally the key feature that allows us to be able to do that- is not an act of protest; it’s throwing a tantrum because you don’t want to take personal responsibility for the content you consume on a website that nobody is forcing you to be on.

i started writing fanfic when i was a teenager in the first place BECAUSE my therapist encouraged me to do it, and she encouraged me to share it online, because it made me feel fucking proud of myself. it helped me make friends in an environment that i felt comfortable in for the first time. it gave ME control over my narratives.

so i don’t want to hear this “well if it’s REALLY to process your trauma then go to therapy and don’t share it online” bullshit. because that proves you sincerely have no idea what the hell you’re talking about and why what you’re saying is significantly more psychologically damaging to someone who is trying to express themselves in a way that they feel comfortable with.

it’s really, really ironic that people are using 1984 to wreck the tagging system, because antis are the ones wanting to punish people for thoughtcrimes and pretend that every person who has ever had an intrusive thought/ fucked up fantasy/ dark interest and has written or read about it is an irredeemably guilty evil maniac for doing so.

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about to post something really great

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GROGU + Troubled Birds Memes [insp] ↳ Din’s Version

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It’s like in the great stories. The ones that really mattered.

Full of darkness, & danger they were.

And Sometimes you didn’t want to know the end.

Because how could the end be happy?

How could the world go back to the way it was,

When so much bad happened?

But in the end, it’s only a passing thing - this shadow.

Even darkness must pass.

A new day will come.

And when the sun shines, it’ll shine out the clearer.

Those were the stories that stayed with you, that meant something.

Even if you were too small to understand why.

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since i’m on a han kick rn, i wanna talk about something i’ve noticed that goes against the Womanizer Trait everyone assigns him, which is that han is the first one to get attached between him and leia

first of all, we never hear about han sleeping around or having “conquests” in the movies. i can’t speak much to the eu, but in the ot, the only thing he’s cocky about are his skills as a smuggler and pilot.

in empire strikes back, he’s the one who gets huffy and stomps off when leia doesn’t proclaim her love for him as he prepares to leave hoth. repeatedly, he tries to get her to admit her feelings for him, and is hurt or bothered by the fact that she doesn’t say it. my favorite moment of theirs is in return of the jedi, when han is jealous of leia’s vulnerability with luke and not him, he gets upset and storms away again.

and then, in a moment i will always love, he takes a deep breath and realizes it’s not leia’s fault that he’s jealous, and that she’s clearly upset and needs him to be there for her. and so he puts his own hurt aside to be whatever she needs. that’s so goddamn mature, and it shows how much he’s grown over the course of the trilogy.

which is why i think him saying “i know” at the end of esb is so important for han and leia, and really good insight on harrison ford’s part. leia has spent the past movie pretending not to care about han, and when she’s about to lose him, she panics, telling him he was right and she does love him. han doesn’t tease or dismiss her, and he also doesn’t assert his love for her, because it’s been clear the whole time.

instead he says the kindest thing you can say to someone who’s about to lose a loved one worries they didn’t do enough to show how much they care (i’m speaking from experience here): he reassures her that he already knows.

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EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As someone who has read a good chunck of "legends", the Expanded Universe has plenty of issues but it is miles above and beyond better than this antithetical disney nonsense.

why would the skywalker saga end with a palpatine

my main problem with disney’s sequel trilogy, which i haven’t seen other people talk about, is that it didn’t follow the skywalker family. it’s called the skywalker saga for a reason. other than the theme of democracy, star wars has been about family. it’s literally been about family ever since the biggest plot twist of all time that is “i am your father”. of course, the main antagonist was ben solo...but that’s it? i genuinely think the main reason he has so many followers is that he’s the son of leia. he’s a skywalker. people wanted him to have redemption because of where he came from--i honestly believe if he wasn’t related to anyone, he wouldn’t have such an enormous following because whether you like it or not, he was an awful person. he was. i’m not writing this to say the st should have followed ben solo, i’m saying the st should have followed the rest of the skywalker family. anakin’s lightsaber had no business calling out to a mf palpatine. i said what i said. ultimately, if the main protagonist isn’t a skywalker, why should i give a fuck? rey was boring as hell and i know so because they literally gave her everything and she was still boring. and for those saying she’s a symbol that you don’t have to be related to someone important to be a hero...first of all, that’s what a side character is for (obi-wan, yoda, mace, i could literally go on for pages). second of all, disney never even cared about rey because they were literally going back and forth between her being a palpatine or kenobi while F I L M I N G the rise of skywalker. why would you make the main protagonist of the st someone random who has nothing to do with the skywalker family and have people question their lineage the entire time. it's supposed to be about the skywalkers. i guess the skywalker family just couldn't handle their own shit so here's some random girl named rey who fixed everything :D the end! it's fucking gross. disney honestly should have had rey as luke’s daughter off the bat, which would explain why she was so powerful *cough with no training cough*, and finn as a stormtrooper who went rogue then learned the ways of the force to become a jedi as the co-protagonists. that would have worked. i haven’t even read any of the eu/legends novels but from what i’ve heard, they sound way better than that dumpster fire of tros where a palpatine buried anakin's lightsaber in sand and stole his name.

but that's just my opinion.

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you know, 2020 was bad. but i feel like 2021 has just been weird

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“The bank effect and the big boat blocking the Suez“

text version under the readmore

Keep reading

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Marie Kondo really isnt fucking around

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Encouraged by a friend to share this today, I present Mistr3ssquickly’s Solution to the Sequel Trilogy: It’s Better Than Canon.

Convince me that doesn’t ring true. I’ll wait.

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This exactly. I have some mild social anxiety, but I also started reading fanfic as a teen, when home computers were relatively new, and none of us really had this thing figured out. I felt like I had to comment, but I didn't have much to say more than, "Thank you this is great," and a few of the times I tried to say more, it wasn't always taken the way I had intended, and sometimes authors or other readers twisted things so they could make their own points, or have more bombastic things to say. I don't remember which fics they were, or even which screenname I was using at the time, but every time I comment, I remember the way others have treated my words. Because of that I usually don't say much other than "Thank you, this is great," even if I want to say more. In the past parts of the Fanfic community left me feeling that I should shut up and let them do all the talking, and unlearning that is hard.

So this thing with commmenting on fic has been going around a lot lately. The you should comment because you are consuming content for free, argument vs the you don’t have to comment if you don’t want to, argument.

I think a lot of authors are taking this the wrong way. The idea behind “you don’t have to comment” is not telling readers they shouldn’t comment. It’s not even telling them “only comment on things you really like” or even “commenting isn’t a big deal”

The point of this argument is to obsolve readers of guilt if they have social anxiety, lack the spoons to comment, don’t feel comfortable enough in their language skills to comment etc. it is nice of readers to comment, just like it’s nice of writers to provide content for free.

No one is saying “don’t comment”. What we are saying is, “don’t feel guilty if you don’t feel like you can comment. Do what you can. I would love to hear from you, but I do not look down on you if you don’t comment.”

You know what often happens to readers who feel pressured to comment but have anxiety about it? They just stop reading your fic because it makes them feel guilty and anxious. I for one, don’t want my readers to feel that way. And I certainly don’t want them to think I don’t value them as a reader just because they don’t comment. The kudos button still lets me know that someone liked my fic.

The only way to avoid the toxic environment that is so commonly associated with fandom is to come into it with 0 expectations. You can hope, you can desire comments and feedback and specific kinds of content...and might be disappointed....but if you don’t expect anything from your readers or your creators then you will not become upset or resentful when things don’t go the way you wished. You’ll even be pleasantly surprised when they do.