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hjordisylva (2017, then in mid-2018 went off tumblr for a year after Oauth bought it and deleted all old posts when came back in mid-2019) > exdysf-feminist (August? September? 2021)* > dead-blog-blog-dead (early spring 2022, logged in just for one reblog and for the rename) > now-at-ex-radfem-notebook

Yeah. Meet me over at @ex-radfem-notebook.

I was debating if I should do this, but ultimately decided that yeah, I will — referencing this blog in various ways can come in handy. And:

I likely will be accused that I sprung out of nowhere, that the blog is a sockpuppet.

If I just say on the ex-radfem blog that this is my old blog, they might say I just found an abandoned radfem blog to point at.

I even had a thought that some might say at this post that I’ve hacked into an abandoned radfem blog….

But ok most probably it’ll be just accusations that I had never actually been a radfem. Yeah yeah yeah. I once too believed that ex-radfems never actually were radfems.

No, actually, I am ready to address your accusations directly if you want to make them, just do it there, I hope to log out of this acc and never log back in after I post this post.

Currently in active drafting for two big responses there, finally getting active. But still don’t expect systematicity.

*actually I wanted to make it exdysf-exrad, but at that time I had only just stopped identifying with the movement and didn’t want non-radfems think I made a complete 180° and radfems to completely disregard things I say.

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URGENT!! THIS IS MY LAST CHANCE!!!! (This is the post to boost!!)

My health is actually failing. I’m not being dramatic when I say I could die If I don’t get the medical help I need.

I suffer from chronic illnesses (a rare version of MTHFR HOMOZYGOUS, HIT, DEEP VEIN THROMBOSIS, AUTOIMMUNE DISEASE + more)

and I am disabled and trans. I am jobless due to my illnesses and I am currently without any necessary resources to survive, be healthy, stable, or safe..

I have a rare blood clotting disease that causes me to be at the HIGHEST RISK possible to have a heart attack, aneurysm, or stroke. This disease has also resulted in multiple major surgeries, and countless other major procedures that have left me with debilitating chronic pain and other disabilities (limited use of my dominate arm, and even tasks like sweeping leave my arms in immense pain). I have two stints in my chest keeping my main vein open to my right arm so the blood can flow to it. And it still has trouble flowing back which causes swelling and excruciating pain in my arm. The main vein in my chest has been patched and dissected from a vein from my thigh because the veins in my right arm and chest are so damaged they weren’t able to save much. I had to get a rib removed because it was pinching my vein and causing clotting during which damaged a lot of muscles in my chest and shoulder causing even more chronic pain. They also wired my chest shut.

So I NEED to have access to good health care. I’m chronically ill with horrible and scary diseases. I’ve already almost died three times, and have been on my death bed twice.. I’m in and out of hospitals constantly, they don’t have the resources to help.

I NEED HELP. I NEED TO LEAVE AND MOVE IN ORDER TO SURVIVE!!! Please fucking help me!! Boost my links, donate whatever! I’m grateful for anything !!

I don’t want to DIE I’ve been fighting for my life since I was 16. I’m taking my health seriously and using the little bit of energy that I have to get shit done.

I’m honestly only asking for the bare minimum of what I need to move, for Rent, & basic necessities.

I’m trying to move to Colorado to escape (my abuser and stalker that I have a really traumatic history with. Violence and including assaults) I’m stuck in my hometown right now in northern MN. Where I’m at right now IS NOT safe for me and I NEED to leave..

My friend in Colorado has a place that I can move into ASAP, I just need first and last months rent. I have to move this month or she has to find a different roommate because of her own financial situation, so this is my ONE and only lucky chance!!

I NEED to move to Colorado for access to better health care (to keep me alive), and for my own safety.. This is VITAL for my health (mentally and physically).

PLEASE DONATE OR BOOST MY LINKS!!!!!!

https://www.paypal.me/YvesOrage

https://venmo.com/code?user_id=2272988271476736476

NOW IS THE TIME TO SHOW YOUR SUPPORT AND BE AN ALLY !!

ALSO PLEASE READ AND SHARE MY STORY/LINKS!! REPOST, & REBLOG!! Copy and paste my links & story & share on ALL your social media’s (twitter, Facebook, tumblr and Instagram!!!!) it helps me so much !

USING PayPal/Venmo IS A DIRECT WAY TO HELP ME!!

https://www.paypal.me/YvesOrage

https://venmo.com/code?user_id=2272988271476736476

If you donate, message me so I can thank you personally !!! Thank you ♥️

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URGENT!! THIS IS MY LAST CHANCE!!!! (This is the post to boost!!)

My health is actually failing. I’m not being dramatic when I say I could die If I don’t get the medical help I need.

I suffer from chronic illnesses (a rare version of MTHFR HOMOZYGOUS, HIT, DEEP VEIN THROMBOSIS, AUTOIMMUNE DISEASE + more)

and I am disabled and trans. I am jobless due to my illnesses and I am currently without any necessary resources to survive, be healthy, stable, or safe..

I have a rare blood clotting disease that causes me to be at the HIGHEST RISK possible to have a heart attack, aneurysm, or stroke. This disease has also resulted in multiple major surgeries, and countless other major procedures that have left me with debilitating chronic pain and other disabilities (limited use of my dominate arm, and even tasks like sweeping leave my arms in immense pain). I have two stints in my chest keeping my main vein open to my right arm so the blood can flow to it. And it still has trouble flowing back which causes swelling and excruciating pain in my arm. The main vein in my chest has been patched and dissected from a vein from my thigh because the veins in my right arm and chest are so damaged they weren’t able to save much. I had to get a rib removed because it was pinching my vein and causing clotting during which damaged a lot of muscles in my chest and shoulder causing even more chronic pain. They also wired my chest shut.

So I NEED to have access to good health care. I’m chronically ill with horrible and scary diseases. I’ve already almost died three times, and have been on my death bed twice.. I’m in and out of hospitals constantly, they don’t have the resources to help.

I NEED HELP. I NEED TO LEAVE AND MOVE IN ORDER TO SURVIVE!!! Please fucking help me!! Boost my links, donate whatever! I’m grateful for anything !!

I don’t want to DIE I’ve been fighting for my life since I was 16. I’m taking my health seriously and using the little bit of energy that I have to get shit done.

I’m honestly only asking for the bare minimum of what I need to move, for Rent, & basic necessities.

I’m trying to move to Colorado to escape (my abuser and stalker that I have a really traumatic history with. Violence and including assaults) I’m stuck in my hometown right now in northern MN. Where I’m at right now IS NOT safe for me and I NEED to leave..

My friend in Colorado has a place that I can move into ASAP, I just need first and last months rent. I have to move this month or she has to find a different roommate because of her own financial situation, so this is my ONE and only lucky chance!!

I NEED to move to Colorado for access to better health care (to keep me alive), and for my own safety.. This is VITAL for my health (mentally and physically).

PLEASE DONATE OR BOOST MY LINKS!!!!!!

https://www.paypal.me/YvesOrage

https://venmo.com/code?user_id=2272988271476736476

NOW IS THE TIME TO SHOW YOUR SUPPORT AND BE AN ALLY !!

ALSO PLEASE READ AND SHARE MY STORY/LINKS!! REPOST, & REBLOG!! Copy and paste my links & story & share on ALL your social media’s (twitter, Facebook, tumblr and Instagram!!!!) it helps me so much !

USING PayPal/Venmo IS A DIRECT WAY TO HELP ME!!

https://www.paypal.me/YvesOrage

https://venmo.com/code?user_id=2272988271476736476

If you donate, message me so I can thank you personally !!! Thank you ♥️

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not everything bad that happens in the world is because of an oppressive conspiracy actually

“the 40 hour work-week is deliberately designed to keep workers exhausted and downtrodden –” no the forty hour workweek was negotiated by labor power to block the eighty  hour workweek. “american food is full of corn syrup in order to make people obese and sick and weak and unable to revolt against the government –” there are a lot of reasons why Corn is the way it is in the US and this is not any of them. “the concept of ‘coming out’ is a straight conspiracy designed to murder queer people –” please stop

stop assuming that every bad thing that exists is the result of active malice. there is so much in the world that’s bad just by accident, or as an unintended consequence of something else – maybe even something with good intentions. please don’t turn yourself into a conspiracy thinker just with shinier woker labels

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in 2018, a seventeen year old black girl from kenosha, wisconsin named chrystul kizer was charged with first degree murder after killing the man who trafficked and raped her. he had previously been arrested in connection to the abuse of a dozen underage black girls but allowed to walk without bail. this is the same justice system that freed kyle rittenhouse

here is chrystul’s gofundme to raise money for her defence. 

here is a change.org petition asking that all charges be dropped.

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URGENT!! THIS IS MY LAST CHANCE!!!! (This is the post to boost!!)

My health is actually failing. I’m not being dramatic when I say I could die If I don’t get the medical help I need.

I suffer from chronic illnesses (a rare version of MTHFR HOMOZYGOUS, HIT, DEEP VEIN THROMBOSIS, AUTOIMMUNE DISEASE + more)

and I am disabled and trans. I am jobless due to my illnesses and I am currently without any necessary resources to survive, be healthy, stable, or safe..

I have a rare blood clotting disease that causes me to be at the HIGHEST RISK possible to have a heart attack, aneurysm, or stroke. This disease has also resulted in multiple major surgeries, and countless other major procedures that have left me with debilitating chronic pain and other disabilities (limited use of my dominate arm, and even tasks like sweeping leave my arms in immense pain). I have two stints in my chest keeping my main vein open to my right arm so the blood can flow to it. And it still has trouble flowing back which causes swelling and excruciating pain in my arm. The main vein in my chest has been patched and dissected from a vein from my thigh because the veins in my right arm and chest are so damaged they weren’t able to save much. I had to get a rib removed because it was pinching my vein and causing clotting during which damaged a lot of muscles in my chest and shoulder causing even more chronic pain. They also wired my chest shut.

So I NEED to have access to good health care. I’m chronically ill with horrible and scary diseases. I’ve already almost died three times, and have been on my death bed twice.. I’m in and out of hospitals constantly, they don’t have the resources to help.

I NEED HELP. I NEED TO LEAVE AND MOVE IN ORDER TO SURVIVE!!! Please fucking help me!! Boost my links, donate whatever! I’m grateful for anything !!

I don’t want to DIE I’ve been fighting for my life since I was 16. I’m taking my health seriously and using the little bit of energy that I have to get shit done.

I’m honestly only asking for the bare minimum of what I need to move, for Rent, & basic necessities.

I’m trying to move to Colorado to escape (my abuser and stalker that I have a really traumatic history with. Violence and including assaults) I’m stuck in my hometown right now in northern MN. Where I’m at right now IS NOT safe for me and I NEED to leave..

My friend in Colorado has a place that I can move into ASAP, I just need first and last months rent. I have to move this month or she has to find a different roommate because of her own financial situation, so this is my ONE and only lucky chance!!

I NEED to move to Colorado for access to better health care (to keep me alive), and for my own safety.. This is VITAL for my health (mentally and physically).

PLEASE DONATE OR BOOST MY LINKS!!!!!!

https://www.paypal.me/YvesOrage

https://venmo.com/code?user_id=2272988271476736476

NOW IS THE TIME TO SHOW YOUR SUPPORT AND BE AN ALLY !!

ALSO PLEASE READ AND SHARE MY STORY/LINKS!! REPOST, & REBLOG!! Copy and paste my links & story & share on ALL your social media’s (twitter, Facebook, tumblr and Instagram!!!!) it helps me so much !

USING PayPal/Venmo IS A DIRECT WAY TO HELP ME!!

https://www.paypal.me/YvesOrage

https://venmo.com/code?user_id=2272988271476736476

If you donate, message me so I can thank you personally !!! Thank you ♥️

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Hey! Sorry if this doesn't fit the focus of your blog, feel free to ignore. But I'm wondering if you can talk about ways non-detrans women can support detrans women? And especially if you had any insight into ways radfems/GC feminists specifically tend to 'get it wrong'. I want to be an ally to detrans women and I feel like some comments I see from other radfems seem kind of shitty toward detransitioners but I feel like I'm not informed enough to speak up/call it out.

Thanks for the ask and the consideration! Often what is missing is that very consideration, awareness that detrans women are whole people who are worth treating with basic respect. The problems I see really often stem from treating us like symbols. Those projected symbolic meanings can be dehumanizing whether they are intended to be positive or not. We're not weird martyrs, we're not broken or ruined, we're not tragic catastrophes, we don't enjoy being compared to mass transit wrecks or cautionary tales; we live in our bodies as they are and typically already have a lot of social stigma to resist about our appearance (in ways that are not easily shared with most other women, who have a different bag of rocks in that regard); we don't welcome your pity or ridicule--no one would.

We are women who have a particular experience in common, and while it may not be a very typical one, we are not some separate exotic species you cannot fathom. Some women have experienced rape; all women have experienced rape culture. Some women were raped as girls/by family members and that is its own unique, specific experience. You might, as a woman who has experienced rape culture in a more general sense, be capable of digging deep to make connections and grow your empathy with that specific experience, but you wouldn't then say "well, all women have been incested." Likewise, some women have experienced gender troubles serious enough that we've transitioned to an extent; all women have traumatic experiences with imposed gender roles, limitations/expectations (1). Dig deep, make connections, grow both your empathy and your political framework from that empathetic connection-building. But realize how dismissive it sounds to say "well, all women have gender dysphoria."

Also, I appreciate your drive toward solidarity with detrans women but I hope it also extends further, to those who have "incorrect" identity paradigms in your social circle. Often the same people who dis us also make a habit of mocking transmen or genderqueer/nb-identified female human beings for sport. There is a genre of person who who does both of these things all while self identifying as “radfem” (and if I may throw their own words back at them: identifying as something doesn't make it so). Being a radical feminist means aiming for the liberation of women as a sex class, regardless of their individually-held identity politics or how they name themselves. It also, in my experience, involves treating other women with respect. When that is missing, there is something else going on under the name of feminism, and it's always good to ask--what cultural work is this behavior actually doing? And who interests is this serving?

If your interest is in women's liberation, how does it serve that purpose to identify an "acceptable female target" (2) to scapegoat for your frustrations about patriarchy? Even if that identified target is acting as a "token torturer" (3) in a given situation, how would the way forward (from any kind of feminist perspective, let alone a radical one) involve a practice of creating group cohesion by belittling and mocking her as a representative of a group of women you've deemed bad/impure/fallen/crazy/damaged goods/pitiable --with a particular focus on mocking their bodies? Or treating living women as an Exhibit A to be exploited for the sake of your own political opinions, with no thought that the woman herself has a richly informed opinion of her own, and perhaps it is worth a listen?

The “ally” language makes me nervous because of what it has so often come to mean. You do not have to agree with every detrans woman’s takes--this isn't about toeing some line or taking dictation, and that would be impossible, as we don't agree with each other and hold multiple conflicting and mutually exclusive opinions. But if "allyship" matters to you, then the best thing to do is hear us out--including the ones you disagree with--and see if you can get to a place where our ideas are at least comprehensible. Where you understand where it comes from and can see the sense in it, get the internal logic from within her particular context. Be willing to bridge and translate--make that effort.

And you don't have to be particularly "informed" to interrupt group-bonding-via-disrespect. You can always say, "This doesn't feel right to me," or ask, "Whose interests is this serving?" But I will warn you that I've gotten precisely nowhere with interrupting this kind of thing in people whose sole purpose for being on the internet seems to be exactly this: trashing acceptable female targets for sport while pretending there's some political virtue in doing so and calling it “feminism.” They aren't going to stop. I gave up on them many years ago. I focus instead on the women who are doing something I believe in.

I guess I've been focusing on the way of "getting it wrong" that involves bad internet behavior, but I also think it's egregious to make us a symbolic "cause" and cast yourself as the hero by doing activism that my entire cohort of detrans women, at least, see as extremely damaging--here I'm thinking of women who have taken it upon themselves to harass patients at gender clinics, allegedly in solidarity with women like me. Nobody I know among detrans women would want that. We did not ask for that. We would never! It is a horrific proposition, modeled after anti-abortion tactics, and represents yet more of the damaging consequences of right wing infiltration into some feminist groups. I’m sure that none of the people doing that are aware that years ago, a detrans woman did some amazing direct action involving her former clinic. First she tried meeting with them about her experience. When they wouldn't listen to her, she made artwork confronting her former "care providers" and telling her truths. She wheatpasted that art all around the clinic. It was extremely badass. She didn't harass the current patients, for fuck's sake! But some people just need to be the big hero in their own minds, and get lauded by their internet buddies, they can't be bothered to understand why it might be important to...you know...have meaningful connections/input from the people they think they are "saving." Some self-identified GCs/radfems seem into creating dismissive, thought-stopping cliches about detrans women/transmen/etc. For example, dismissing us as “denying biological reality.” In fact, most detrans women I know were doing the furthest thing from that when we transitioned. We were painfully and acutely aware of our biological reality the entire time--this was part of what pushed many of us into transition in the first place. For another example, anytime I would say something that wasn’t extremely in lockstep with the rhetoric du jour in some internet so-called “radfem” circles, I would routinely get accused of “still being trans” in some way. This was bizarre, as I had detransitioned 10+ years before these interactions and in no way had a self-concept as anything but a woman. But that was an easy thing to say to get people to dismiss me. I’ve found the lens of “sex, not gender” that I saw articulated by radical feminists to be very valuable and because I take it seriously, I don’t think we should be dismissing anyone female in a conversation about patriarchy/women’s liberation. So it never made sense to me that this kind of accusation worked that way, resulted in being dismissed, in groups that supposedly shared that lens.

I’ve also noticed a lot of arrogance coming at detrans women whenever we might attempt to correct a misconception--really often we’ll get told we just don’t understand ourselves or we are in denial. Pretty patronizing. And it only happens when we try to add any nuance to a conversation or deviate from the “script” of thought-stopping cliches. As long as we’re being mouthpieces of the cliches, these kinds of accusations are notably absent...so, that is transparent as hell and it sure is not respect.

There’s also the tendency among some self-identifying “gcs/radfems” to claim they can always tell who is male or female and bizarre ideas about what constitutes “male traits.” Like. You’re going to be more accurate if you are looking for sexed traits, not gender markers, but some people really are ambiguous, and especially now that we’re bio-hacking sexed traits--you just cannot always tell sex based on appearance. Some of us pass successfully. Yes, really. I am confident that I have a way higher accuracy in reading ambiguous people’s sex than average, but I cannot “always tell” either. So I know these clearly clueless people definitely can’t.

Now that I’m listing peeves, it’d be nice if people would stop acting like “therapy” is some magical solution we were all cruelly deprived of, that would absolutely have “saved” us if only we’d had access--rather than realizing that the DSM and its priests have always been part of the pathologizing/normalizing context that created our conditions in the first place. Like, I also think there is a problem with hormone dispensaries having zero standards of care in practice, and I’m not denying the usefulness of therapy to some people under some circumstances and for some purposes--but the assumption that it is The Answer to trans/detrans issues and represents our “salvation” is way, way off the mark. Social/cultural/economic/political problems are not solved in the psyche of the stigmatized person.

All this kind of stuff has leaked offline at this point, but a whole lot of these issues are created or made worse by an online context--I’d strongly encourage you to build offline radical feminist community and organizing bodies. Refuse any right wing connections--keep it absolutely autonomous and female-focused. Not just what you resist, but what you stand FOR. Probably the single most important thing you can do is to resist right wing infiltration/co-optation and try to help repair the damage it has caused. And don’t contribute to the weird, fundamentalist behavior I described, the trollish targeting of groups of women, replete with thought terminating cliches and zealotry--which made fertile ground for that kind of infiltration in the first place.

I hope this helps. I appreciate your question.

Notes: 1. The limitations and expectations framing comes from Nedra Johnson's lyrics in her song August Moon.

2. "Acceptable female targets"-my thinking on this phenomenon was deeply informed by the writing of former tumblrer lavenderjanestrikesback.

3. "Token torturer"-this concept comes from Mary Daly, Gyn/Ecology.

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Feminist action speaks louder than words on tumblr. Just wanting to throw that out there

Doing stuff irl when possible is extremely fulfilling. I love when I get opportunities

If you're able to, donate some reusable menstrual products to your local women's shelter. I donated a couple menstrual cups and a couple packs of cloth pads recently and was told no one really thinks to donate reusable products

They're grateful for disposables, too, but reusables are almost never thought of

I'm going to make an in depth post about period poverty in the future but for now that's my advice!

In the pandemic you have to think a bit more outside the box when it comes to irl activism 💜

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Feminist action speaks louder than words on tumblr. Just wanting to throw that out there

Doing stuff irl when possible is extremely fulfilling. I love when I get opportunities

If you're able to, donate some reusable menstrual products to your local women's shelter. I donated a couple menstrual cups and a couple packs of cloth pads recently and was told no one really thinks to donate reusable products

They're grateful for disposables, too, but reusables are almost never thought of

I'm going to make an in depth post about period poverty in the future but for now that's my advice!

In the pandemic you have to think a bit more outside the box when it comes to irl activism 💜

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good evening ladies

i am making a collection of articles/tweets/posts that use gender neutral language for women (like menstruator, vagina-haver, etc) but not for men.

examples:

if anybody has other links/screenshots with language used like this, itd be great if you could send me them or or reblog this post with them. or if someone else has already done a masterpost about this topic lmk!

thank you!

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Very very glad you listened!!

so i wasn’t aware that us radfems had issues? hesitancies? with asexual people. and i’m curious as to why. /genuine

I fully believe there are human beings on this earth who do not desire sex at all for any reason, whether they’re just disinterested in sex, sex repulsed, celibate, whatever. in that way I absolutely believe asexuality exists.

could someone provide some sources of “aphobia” that asexuals face? i’m not trying to be mean or baiting here. but i think the sexual choices one makes (or doesn’t make) are private and personal, and i don’t think there’s discrimination towards that in the same way that, for example, an LGB person could be fired from a job.

in addition, unless an asexual person is romantically attracted to the same sex, i don’t think they can call themselves LGB (because for me, being a part of our cOmMuNiTy is being same-sex attracted, and no other factor).

as i said, i’m not trying to be hurtful, but i’m curious. and i’d love to discuss with other feminists/ssa people.

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I was listening to the podcast Overheard this morning about women going to space. And it made me realize a language trick used to belittle women even when it seems like they’re praising women. Here it is:

In the episode, they’re talking about how women do on the physical tests that were used to screen the first class of male astronauts (these exams were done at the same time period). And it gets to one specific test: sensory depravation. In a sensory depravation scenario, males lasted 3 hours but there were women going to 10.5 hours - more than 3 times the length. And the podcast says: “This shows women were just as suitable as men” or “equal in suitability”. Something. But they were saying that, after showing that women were much better at this one text and passed the others, that they were equal to men. Equal? When you’re three times better?

Women’s achievements, no matter how significant, are used to say we’re /just/ as suitable as men /just/ as equal. No, we’re demonstrably better in this and so many other situations. Better! Language in this way shows that no matter how fucking Amazon a woman or women as a group are, we are stuck at achieving the consideration of equal to any given man or group of men and can never be considered better - even when we are.

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“The high mortality rate and the way it wears on your body makes life in prostitution pretty short. So there’s always demand for more and more people in prostitution. If there were women coming by the millions to the sex industry you wouldn’t need to drag them out of Eastern Europe. I mean, why would you do that? It’s not logical. If there were thousands of women lining up outside brothels saying “Please, let me in to work!” why would the mafia need to drag them across Europe or across the world — there’d be no point. Trafficking exists because there simply aren’t enough women who will go into prostitution willingly. If you want a prostitution industry without trafficking it would have to be a very small industry. You can’t separate prostitution from trafficking. You would have to decrease demand to such an extent that very few men were actually buying sex. Then you could perhaps be certain that women were there “voluntarily.””

Megan Murphy interviewing Kajsa Ekis Ekman, author of Being and Being Bought: Prostitution, Surrogacy, and the Split Self (2013)

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talking about 9/11 with white people who weren’t personally affected is literally one of the most frustrating things ever because they won’t stop talking about their experiences (even if their only connection is being in the same country during the event), but when i, a middle eastern person, try to contribute to the conversation, i can’t get a fucking word in.

like what the fuck, if nothing happened to you on that day – which, you know, thank goodness – why the fuck do you insist on dominating the conversation? my daily life is still being affected by this even now, over ten years later.

but you’re not interested in hearing about how my fifth grade health teacher never again called on me or the arab girl in my class. you’re not interested in how whenever my family travels, all fourteen of us (a number that used to include young children) get “randomly” searched. you’re not interested in the fact that when i was asked to buy a propane tank for a barbecue, i spent the rest of the day stressed out and worried that the attendants at all the stores visited to inquire were all going to think i was making explosives (all stores in the neighborhood mysteriously were out of propane tanks in the middle of summer). you’re not interested in the fact that whenever my cousin prepares to fly on his own, his mother calls him to make sure he’s clean shaven so he doesn’t look “like a terrorist.” you’re not interested in the fact that when i was you’re not interested in the fact that i once witnessed a whole family of white people bypass the x-ray scanner for the old fashioned metal detector, but when i asked for the same treatment, i was denied; when i pointed out the (many) signs claiming that i had the right to refuse going through that machine, the tsa agent who mere seconds earlier berated me for my request went conveniently deaf. you’re not interested in hearing about how my sister was told “sorry about your leader” when osama bin laden was killed.

i could reference personal anecdotes until i went blue in the face.

there are countless people who have stories like this, stories that are grotesque and demeaning and terrifying. these are everyday occurrences.

but you’re not interested in any of that. frankly, you’re not even that interested when middle eastern and muslim (and sometimes non-muslim desi) people are subjected to extreme violence or killed. you guys got over chapel hill pretty damn fast. if you noticed it at all.

you don’t give a fuck about us, or our ongoing 9/11 stories. you just want to tell me about how horrible it was, sitting in class and listening to other kids get their names called on the pa system.

but i totally get it. it was really hard for you.

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Resources for Telemedicine Abortion Care

content from @queen-mayhem - with her permission, I removed it from the original thread because there was an anti-choice douche on there that I don’t want to give more attention.

Anyway Texas ladies, you can get an abortion via telemedicine here. For $110, a medical provider will prescribe you the necessary medication (mifepristone + misoprostol) and advise you on how to acquire and use the pills safely.

These medical providers are European, so they are not subject to Texas laws and cannot be sued.

The new Texas law does not allow anyone to sue the woman who sought an abortion, so you can’t be sued.

Which means this is still a perfectly legal way to get an abortion in Texas.

 Aid Access provides telemedicine abortions for $110 and they will help you out if you’re struggling to afford it. They are heroes. You can support them by buying their merch on Zazzle here.You can also make a direct donation via bank transfer using this information. 

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While this last addition is good I also want to add.

Women who just have higher thestosterone, are intersex, or transition aren’t more aggressive and violent than other women. And vice versa.

The reason men do not want to change is simply because it benefits them. And also, gender socialisation is not just something that’s forced on you, it’s everything you experience in society related to your sex. I’ve seen some recently claim that female socialisation exists but male doesn’t — because they don’t realize the full meaning of the word.

And now goes a thing I’ve wanted to write separately but since I’m here I might as well do it now so it won’t get eaten by exdyf again:

The specific of sexual oppression is that except for restricted spaces men and women are always large parts of each other’s lives, and so, while every kind of oppression is internalized by every person on both sides, here oppressors and oppressed are always in contact so 1) every oppressor is an active oppressor 2) it might get ingrained more deeply.

And basically any difference between human beings always resulted in one group declaring itself better than the other and beginning to oppress, destroy and exploit it.

Which doesn’t mean that’s how it should be.

Radfems, do you believe men are inherently like this (misogynistic, more violent etc) or is it purely due to socialisation? Like do you think it’s partly/fully biological or partly/fully learnt behaviour and socialisation? I’ve never been able to get a good understanding of what the general belief is, if there is one. It may be due to the fact that there is no general belief or it could just be people using the term “inherently” loosely