npd-advice

[npd-advice]

rbing this here to say that between me doing this and blue never being on anymore this blog is probably dead enless somebody else wants to mod sorry!!

here is my dog loafing as compensation ^_^

feel like i should say am not dead!!! i just locked in to coding/modeling and setting up streamlabs and kinda lost interest in scrolling when i could be working on things

[npd-advice]

read what that other anon said about therapist not believing them... ive literally experience THE SAME THING with countless different therapists.

all of them always always tell me "your too nice to have npd!" , "no no no sweety, dont worry, npd's have no self awareness and your aware so you cant possibly have npd!" , "npd's DONT want to get help so you cant have npd!".

the stigma / demonization of npd's is so irritating... i want HELP. i have NPD and i am aware i have it and i really want help!!!! being told i dont have it because im "nice" is just insane?????? do you NEED to be a "abusive mean horrible unaware person" just to have NPD? its ridiculous.

ides of march npd stigma edition when

[npd-advice]

thank you anon ^^ I'm doing pretty good but trying to limit social media for my own sake (as if I have anything other than tumblr and discord..)

Not asking for advice, just want to say hi to the new mod Ranpo! I hope you have a good time and to Mod Blue I hope you are as well as you can be, I hope irl stuff gets better

-💚

waveing at you waving at you thank you!!

(sending this to blue for her part)

[npd-advice]

Hi, so I deal with a lot of paranoia around other people since I believe most people are bad in some way and untrustworthy and scary, I'm pretty sure it's a mix of NPD (the whole "I hate nearly everyone because I'm better than them) with social anxiety, but it's severely affected my social life. How would you recommend trying to get past this, especially as this is also something to do with people around my age and younger?

-💚

I won't make any assumptions about any medical availability, but I will say that being put on mood stabilizers did help me out a lot when I was younger. And as I got older, it helped my personality actually flesh out and properly develop (and apparently it developed wrong. whoopsies.)

Other than that, I'd start small. If you're a student, I'd start with talking to people in group projects. Otherwise it's kinda hard for me to say cause I.. don't really talk to people a lot offline LMFAO

There should really be a friend-making app for neurodivergent people... like a platonic tinder for the people too cool for neurotypicals

(If anyone in the notes has anything to add, please do!)

[npd-advice]

tw: ableism, child + spouse abuse, domestic violence, vent, traumadumping lol

waow... it's a hard pill for me to swallow but... i think i also have npd. i have a hard time swallowing this pill bc i already have so many mental and physical disabilities. some diagnosed, some not. i feel like an attention seeker over this

i originally followed this bc im a fellow cluster b girlie (bpd) and i wanted to help out my friends who felt isolated bc of npd and wow... contents of this blog mightve helped me as well. i reflected a lot and realized so many things about myself. im also a narcissist.

i think it was around when i was always called special or golden as a child, i wasn't like any other children. im diagnosed autistic at a very early age around 3-5 bc i was nonverbal. i was smart according to the adults, but really i think i was just another hyperfixated kid who happens to like obscure topics. they would love to go "you're not liike the other autistics!!!" "you're not (r slur!!!)" "you're special!!!" "you're high functioning!!!!". they also thought because i am """high functioning""" i never really got treatment/medication for the symptoms that are harder to manage. because i'm ""smart"" and ""strong"" as they said. they made me feel like a big fish in a small pond, but in the end, i'm not really anyone special. i don't think i am any different from other autistics, too. we have the same struggles in the end.

i've also been raised through spanking or yelling as discipline, and because of that i thought i was better than other kids because i can go through this unlike them. this persisted until adulthood to which i think that my ex-friends are weak compared to me bc they didnt go through my anime villain story

i think it got worse in my teens when my second father was battering my mom, both mentally and physically. i was always there to defuse it by trying to explain my mom's pov to him, and when i did my mom would often compliment me and she would call me mature, better than my age, and smart. she said that if i was in her place i would've handled it better. she would also glaze over my skills i have and go "oooghh my kid is so talented!" i think i started having an inflated ego from there. before i knew it, i became very prone to comparing myself with others. my inflated ego is what saved me from being traumatized. then once i'm off the inflated ego trance i get sick lol

at this point it's better to accept that my narcissist tendencies is a part of me i can't really remove, but i can work with. i developed these tendencies to defend myself from trauma, abuse, and pain after all. but damn this realization is. something! man i have a lot to unlearn. this is a heavy pill to swallow, even if im a bit cathartic rn too

this ask hit home lowkey. I feel you anon.

You're always welcome here, and I hope this blog can help you ease into it and learn more! NPD is super stigmatized so we all gotta stick together <3 sending you nothing but love, anon

[npd-advice]

[TRIGGER; drug mention] Has anyone with NPD had positive results with using shrooms, or other drugs to achieve ego death? I am looking into it seriously because i'd like to treat my NPD as soon as possible and I feel after the research i've done this might actually help me positively.

Has anyone with NPD after trying shrooms find that their envy has gone away? Is it easier to interact with people in a positive manner? Does comparing go away?

Thank you! Sorry if it is a weird ask but I am genuinely curious.

I have 0 experience with nonprescription drugs so I hope this reaches the right audience

Notes???

[npd-advice]

[TW: Drug / Shrooms mention]

Not necessarily advice but maybe it is interesting / helpful to others, i've been looking alot into psychedelics / shrooms and i've come across people who mention that they used to excessively compare themselves to others and be very ego driven, and after taking shrooms it has practically disappeared completely. Ofc like, this stuff should be researched beforehand and taken seriously before considering doing but I thought it might be really helpful to NPD's who are struggling! Just know there IS hope and there are ways to help relieve you of your symptoms if you are hurting.

I personally plan on trying shrooms myself in order to help cure my NPD symptoms, as well as my PTSD and lack of concentration. If it turns out to help me i'll definitely let you guys know, since I know how difficult having NPD can be. I'm honestly willing to take this huge risk since I am so sick and tired of having envy and "being the best" dictate my entire life and effect my relationships... if I can truly let it go entirely I think i'd feel so free.

Anyway yea just thought i'd put my thoughts out there...

thank u anon!!! good luck!!!!

[npd-advice]

sorry, just adding on since my last few posts got reblogged

i’d assume this goes without saying, but some people may not know, seriously do research before taking ANY psychedelics.

if schizophrenia or delusion related disorders run in your family, psychedelics can unlock that shit and there’s no going back. if you have them already, it will make them worse.

obviously it’s always a risk but if you’re gonna take one, be educated! drugs, even natural ones, aren’t the end all solution. brains are sensitive. drugs can be both helpful and harmful (dialectics y’all!!)

you can also look into legally getting them (through special access plans, etc.) or ask your general practitioner (or anyone in the medical field that could help) for advice or tests if they’re chill

- dyingprayer

!!!!!

[npd-advice]

[TRIGGER; drug mention] Has anyone with NPD had positive results with using shrooms, or other drugs to achieve ego death? I am looking into it seriously because i'd like to treat my NPD as soon as possible and I feel after the research i've done this might actually help me positively.

Has anyone with NPD after trying shrooms find that their envy has gone away? Is it easier to interact with people in a positive manner? Does comparing go away?

Thank you! Sorry if it is a weird ask but I am genuinely curious.

I have 0 experience with nonprescription drugs so I hope this reaches the right audience

Notes???

[npd-advice]

[TW: Drug / Shrooms mention]

Not necessarily advice but maybe it is interesting / helpful to others, i've been looking alot into psychedelics / shrooms and i've come across people who mention that they used to excessively compare themselves to others and be very ego driven, and after taking shrooms it has practically disappeared completely. Ofc like, this stuff should be researched beforehand and taken seriously before considering doing but I thought it might be really helpful to NPD's who are struggling! Just know there IS hope and there are ways to help relieve you of your symptoms if you are hurting.

I personally plan on trying shrooms myself in order to help cure my NPD symptoms, as well as my PTSD and lack of concentration. If it turns out to help me i'll definitely let you guys know, since I know how difficult having NPD can be. I'm honestly willing to take this huge risk since I am so sick and tired of having envy and "being the best" dictate my entire life and effect my relationships... if I can truly let it go entirely I think i'd feel so free.

Anyway yea just thought i'd put my thoughts out there...

thank u anon!!! good luck!!!!

[npd-advice]

wouldn't it be funny if getting supply was as easy as going to buy some vitamin gummies or something

(said in the voice of someone who doesn't know how to get supply. dont really have any social circles so this is like deprivation hell)

kinning a popular charater rules for this B)

i dont think i can tell you to just get lucky but being cringe can help!! something about how its accosiated with authenticity and not having to be suble or act cool is how i got a friend??unlabled???? relationship where i get called cute like its my name

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https://www.tumblr.com/npd-advice/777601733324111872/this-isnt-explicitly-npd-related-but-i-thought

I have these urges/thoughts too and they’re quite consuming and that’s why I think the things I’m about to say are funny because they are top blanket advice for almost anything but really, going for a walk and writing shit down, or drawing if you want to do that. It’s a really good idea to have a journal/sketch pad that’s just for you to be honest and messy in in which you can write and draw anything down. Just write and/or scribble down what you’d want to say/do to them, doesn’t matter how violent or scary or gorey it all is, doesn’t matter how much you’d not want for other people to see it. Maybe have a lock on it like a diary or something lol.

If you think you’re going to say/do something hurtful in that moment you could maybe excuse yourself to take a moment for yourself where and whip out the journal or type something into your phone if you don’t have the journal. But having the journal does help, physically writing stuff down gets out way more emotion and you may end up writing something you didn’t expect/it going in a different direction than you initially started in.

Wish my answer wasn’t so NHS sounding lol I would be so mad if someone else said it to me but that is a key thing for me at least

link

anon your so real

daydreaming really hard and walking in circles also works!!

[npd-advice]

Not asking for advice, just want to say hi to the new mod Ranpo! I hope you have a good time and to Mod Blue I hope you are as well as you can be, I hope irl stuff gets better

-💚

waveing at you waving at you thank you!!

(sending this to blue for her part)

[npd-advice]

how do i tell the difference between good and bad?

Good and bad is honestly much more flexible than people want to admit, in my opinion. What might be "good" to someone might be "bad" to someone else, and vice versa. I typically say I'm a bad person just because I reject and don't fit into conventional morals.

I sorta just base it off of level of harm, I suppose. Unless it severely harms someone physically or mentally, I tend to not think too hard about it.

(If anyone in the notes has anything to add, please do!)

[npd-advice]

how do I make online friends who I won't ghost😭😭

talking to people is easy, but then something always just changes and no matter how much I want to stay their friend I end up never talking to them again??? its a problem because i desperately need new people to talk to.. i literally have 2 people I talk to online and it's not enough for me at all

I feel like I've tried everything?? Adding new people to groupchats, making plans for the future, exchanging as many socials as possible, and I still like Lose interest or something. Goddd whyuuu I just want to socialize

!! i have a similar problem and parallel play useally works ! soemthing like gaming - art showing off - pet pictures - etc that doesnt need alot of thought in an interaction and/or can be done impulsively

stonehearth might be a good game for that people will generally take it as playing together even if your on opposite sides of the map solostyle the whole time (could also interprete yourself as god or some other magic powerful force) i also used to have a friendship that was almost compleatly upkeeped by hanging out in mostly silent calls (we didnt stay friends but it wasnt related to not talking!! looking back she probably had bpd but neither of us knew what pds where and ended up hurting each other through that)

alot of me and blues interactions are hey look at this thing [uncapptioned image/ the jugemental lizard] and reactions to the thing!!

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a while ago i got a new therapist and she learned that i very heavily suspect i have npd (i did not tell her. that was my mother. without my consent! yay!! /s) and, a few sessions in, we were talking about my grandiosity and lack of empathy. to keep it simple, she told me it was a result of my childhood and my trauma, and she does not think i have npd. she didn’t outright say it, but she thinks that because my symptoms are trauma responses, i do not have npd. which is literally not how that works, npd is caused by trauma, we all know that. in the moment i accepted what she said to preserve image, and said that i wasn’t more than 40% sure. even though i’m more like 98% sure. and that was that.

i really would like to bring it back up with her, because i would like the possibility of me having npd to be properly explored, and also - for my own pride - i would like her to acknowledge that npd is, in fact, caused by trauma. and my experience is consistent with that. i would like advice on how i should bring it up, without looking insane.

Ooh another case of therapists not listening to their clients... it seems to be pretty common with cluster b, I've seen.

Yeah no your therapist is wrong, NPD quite literally is caused by trauma most of the time. Even a quick Google search can prove that (not the AI response, because nobody should trust AI.) I'd probably ask her why exactly she thinks it isn't NPD despite you displaying key symptoms, and also why she thinks NPD isn't a disorder typically rooted in trauma.

Any input from the notes would be greatly appreciated.

[npd-advice]

[TW: Drug / Shrooms mention]

Not necessarily advice but maybe it is interesting / helpful to others, i've been looking alot into psychedelics / shrooms and i've come across people who mention that they used to excessively compare themselves to others and be very ego driven, and after taking shrooms it has practically disappeared completely. Ofc like, this stuff should be researched beforehand and taken seriously before considering doing but I thought it might be really helpful to NPD's who are struggling! Just know there IS hope and there are ways to help relieve you of your symptoms if you are hurting.

I personally plan on trying shrooms myself in order to help cure my NPD symptoms, as well as my PTSD and lack of concentration. If it turns out to help me i'll definitely let you guys know, since I know how difficult having NPD can be. I'm honestly willing to take this huge risk since I am so sick and tired of having envy and "being the best" dictate my entire life and effect my relationships... if I can truly let it go entirely I think i'd feel so free.

Anyway yea just thought i'd put my thoughts out there...

thank u anon!!! good luck!!!!