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turned off reblogs lol, no accountability ever from any biospawn

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being an adoptee and being a fucking bigot to lgbt especially trans people is disgusting.

you expect adoptees a minority to be raised up without raising up others? Doesnt even have to be related to adoption in anyway.

the true adoptee community welcomes queer, lgbt, and especially trans people.

Bigotry with Bigotry doesn't do shit, fucking idiots.

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what is with white people and treating transracial/international adoptees like "exotic goods" their fucking disgusting.

the only thinking theyve done is that they """can handle not have a biological child"""" without any research on how adoptees feel and the trauma that goes along with it. The thoughts of if bio parents contact/want contact, if the adoptees do. Adoptees are not a blank canvas, no child is, but the way people always think of adoptees as such, is disgusting.

my only disagreement is the gay being bullied as i feel thats inventible and saying gay people shouldnt adopt will always sound off. Queer people are allowed to have children too but i agree the better option would be doing an instate/in country adoption.

What is it with prospective adoptive parents asking for adoptee perspectives and then flipping out when it's an answer they don't want to hear?

If you are sincerely interested in how a child might be impacted by international interracial gay adoption you wouldn't threaten to go "low contact" with someone who earnestly answers your question.

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mhmhmgg thought i reblogged this already

isn't it so bizarre how most of adoption just falls on you, as the adoptee, to try and figure out what it has done to you, how to deal with it. neither adoptive nor birth families seem to really understand it and expect you, as the adoptee, to be the one to magically put things together like a jigsaw, it find all the pieces and force yourself into one space or the other and magically expect you to fit. and it's all entirely 100% up to you, like that family here won't help you and family there won't either. they won't understand it. it's all entirely up to yourself.

this thing has happened to you and it's your problem trying to fit it together, it's your job to make it make sense. it's your fault that this happened to you and you have to meld it in together. this happened to you and you have to live with it. what the hell lol

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hi! adoptee here, their are a lot of wrongly used terminology here along with a bit of offense content.

1. Diluc's feelings about Kaeya's birthday are honestly quite gross. If an adoptee chooses their gotcha day (the day they were (usually legally adopted) is just quite weird and insensitive. Unless you are trying to write him as not understanding Kaeya's feelings on adoption its still quite odd.

2. The term is adoptive siblings. Not "non biological"

Our terminology is incredibly important to us and should be known. Adoptees are a minority group and using the proper terminology is a must.

Making headcanons about adoption without proper research about adoption as a whole, and possible input from MULTIPLE adoptees (no echo chambers) is important. Adoption is traumatic for many.

Our trauma deserves to be properly researched. We are not just a fictional thing to write about. Please do proper research on terminology especially but research in how adoptees feel. Especially transracial adoptees, their opinions are incredibly important and need to be uplifted whenever possible.

Please do not write about a traumatic event, a minority groups trauma and identity without proper research into terminology, and how adoptees feel. Adoptees can feel an infinite amount of ways, but do some research instead of assuming how we feel. Most peoples interactions with adoptees is in fiction, and these topics deserve to be written with care.

RAGBROS HEADCANONS

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isn't it so bizarre how most of adoption just falls on you, as the adoptee, to try and figure out what it has done to you, how to deal with it. neither adoptive nor birth families seem to really understand it and expect you, as the adoptee, to be the one to magically put things together like a jigsaw, it find all the pieces and force yourself into one space or the other and magically expect you to fit. and it's all entirely 100% up to you, like that family here won't help you and family there won't either. they won't understand it. it's all entirely up to yourself.

this thing has happened to you and it's your problem trying to fit it together, it's your job to make it make sense. it's your fault that this happened to you and you have to meld it in together. this happened to you and you have to live with it. what the hell lol

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if your not adopted I don't wanna hear your take on fictional adoptees tbh!!!

Wonderful day to be reminded that even adoptee-centric tags, such as #adoptee voices, are overrun by non-adoptees. I don't care for your fandoms or blorbos, I want to see posts and blogs by other adoptees and all I get are AUs, headcanons, and character design "adoptables".

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Hey, here’s a concept. What if we stopped saying “but autistic people CAN do all those things” (erasing high support needs) and instead started saying “not being able to do those things doesn’t impact someone’s value as a person nor does it make it okay to commit eugenics”.

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the best part about being adopted is that you can say amyone is your bio family. I can say dio jjba is my biological father as a joke and have it make sense

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tumblr nevee pinged me but this amazing thank u op. Perfectly written, id compliment it more if i didnt have a migraine 😭

going to ruffle a few feathers with this one

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treating adoption, a real and often traumatic experience for "blorbos" is so offensive on so many levels. The romanticization of adoption on this post is extreme. Gross.

Every poll on this blog is about fictional characters only. This request was sent to us and we made a poll in response to it. Send any Blorbo-related question you want to our inbox and we’ll make a poll on which people can vote with their own Blorbos in minds

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no Offense but I think Most people know how marriage works and that your becoming a couple/partners and not siblings. It also has nothing to do with found family as marriage is.. Not found family it's marriage?

going to ruffle a few feathers with this one

edit: please stop liking and reblog this post, its important since people are extremely disrespectful to adoptees and other groups by calling them found family. thanks.

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just saw someone on Instagram say adoption isn't normal and it was gods will to make that child an orphan. What what the fuck.

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Please stop trigger tagging with #epilepsy tw/cw/warning/etc.

I need every single person to understand how horrible tumblr’s tagging system is

I go into the tag for epilepsy and its all flashing lights. We can’t use our own tag because people without epilepsy fill it up with improper warnings.

Use ‘flashing’ in place of ‘epilepsy’ in your tags. You aren’t warning people of epileptics, you’re warning us of flashing lights. Please please tag properly. Epileptics say this endlessly and constantly and it’s ignored. You are risking lives by doing this.

Here’s proof of what I mean:

THIS POST IS 100% OKAY TO REBLOG, I ENCOURAGE PEOPLE WITHOUT EPILEPSY TO ESPECIALLY DO SO!

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Dual ITALIAN US CITIZENSHIP- POSSIBLE ORIGINAL BIRTH CERTIFICATE NEEDED FOR ADOPTEES

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!!!! THIS

I hate that every single adoptee has to preface with "I am grateful for being adopted" before critiquing the industry. Adoptees don't owe you gratitude.