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the world may be a dark place sometimes but there are also 1200 year old paw prints from a happy kitty cat out there

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and mtf are hyper homosocial. they hang out with eachother and other nerdy men. those who actually socialize with women are outliers. its because AGPs are just autistic men. transmen are just autistic women, too. weird sexuality and object relation disorder makes people trans, not actual resemblance to the other sex.

mtf literally only relate to other mtf. they adore other mtf. their whole subculture centers around eachother. they are quite literally some of the most male-centered males imaginable. they don't feel like women, they feel like men who want to be women, evidenced by their best friends in the whole world being other men who want to be women.

Has anyone else noticed the fact trans exists further demonstrates how similar other trans people are to their sex? Think about it. Every trans person says "I don't feel enough like a girl/boy" but then there's literally a giant community of other males/females also saying "I feel this way." Meaning... If you feel like you're trans you're relating to other people of your sex having the same experience of feeling outside it. Which is also why transmascs stick together and transfems cloister into their own spaces, arguably with their own social rites and "culture" to the point of polarity and contention debating who has privilege over who with both still wishing the struggles of their sex were recognized e.g transmascs insisting misogyny happens to them.

Because it's a collection of females relating to being "weird females" and vice versa. Not actually the opposite sex. The fact people trans at all shows it's possible, in fact, for a "woman to feel she's a man" so on which they imply never happens to "cis" people. But there is no separation between cis and trans, it's all your average person who has a thought or feeling that makes them feel out of step with others. There is simply variable experiences within the sexes. Being trans is merely the political state of active upkeep and identification with the label.

It happens at an overwhelming rate to where there's enough in the world to drown out the voices of those who try and draw attention to this fact. But people can have these feelings and not be "trans" or pursue transition. And people can have them and transition; but not be politically trans or aligned to the agenda of grooming others into dissociating from their bodies.

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reddit refuses to allow any gender critical feminist content on the site (i am site-wide IP banned for "transphobia", btw), but will allow subreddits where women's private content is stolen and their intimacy violated against their will for thousands of male perverts to see and masturbate to.

just, reddit. fucking reddit moment.

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Throwaway. Although my husband will probably see this here anyway. Maybe this can be the conversation starter?? I don’t know! I just need to get this out somewhere and have people validate that my feelings aren’t crazy!

I’m sorry if this is all over the place. I am a mess. My (F33) husband (M36) is the most wonderful and caring person I’ve ever met in my life. I thought. Almost overbearingly sweet. He’s always concerned with how I’m doing, how I’m feeling, how is my mental health. He’s an excellent father to our two children as well. I had a difficult birth with my first child. My hospital experience was bad. I felt traumatized afterwards. When I got pregnant with my second, I knew that, barring any issues, I wanted a homebirth. My husband was all for it. He’s a nurse, so I felt doubly safe with him plus my midwife to support me. The midwife filmed and we also had a professional photographer taking pictures. Everything went great. It was so emotional and beautiful. I’m trying not to give too many details away since it’s apparently available to ANYONE for their viewing pleasure right now.

I have been pretty possessive of that birth tape. I never uploaded it anywhere. After I downloaded it onto my computer from our camera’s sim card, I uploaded it to a USB, deleted it off my computer, and I keep it in a little “hope chest” to watch when I’m feeling sentimental. It is so beautiful and important to me, and I wasn’t interested in sharing it. I have several friends who put their whole birth on YouTube, but I wasn’t interested in doing that. My birth didn’t need to be shared with the world. It didn’t need to be a teaching moment. It didn’t need to exist to make others feel better. After my traumatic first birth, it was mine and i cherished it. My husband didn’t feel the same way and sometimes had light arguments with me about it. He was never pushy, but several times, when I would watch it, he would comment “this is such an excellent birth video! You are so happy and calm! I really think you should post this. Homebirths get such a bad rep and this could put so many women at ease.” I would tell him absolutely not. This is private. Stop pestering me about it. Its my body. He eventually dropped it and hasn’t brought it up since.

My husband and I have never been controlling. We don’t have the passwords to each other’s phones. I’ve never felt the need to check each other’s phones or computers. I trust him implicitly. Well. I did anyway. I know he has a reddit. We both reddit pretty often. But i don’t know his profile or what he does on here. Idk I’ve just never thought about it

A few days ago, I was in one of my parenting subreddits and came across a disturbing thread about birth videos getting posted nonconsenually in a birth fetish subreddit. I thought to myself, that is exactly the reason I didn’t want to post my birth video. The commenter posted the link to the fetish sub and I’ll admit curiosity got the better of me and I went to look. I wanted to know if any of my friends videos wound up there so that I could tell them.

Well their videos DID wind up there. Every single one. The sub has several vast g drives linked to birth videos. But then I saw it. MY FUCKING BIRTH VIDEO. It looked like it had been a YouTube video at one point?? Idk I don’t understand how this works. I cant find it on youtube anywhere, so idk. I’m so fucking ashamed and horrified. There is a closeup of…well EVERYTHING down there in a fucking fetish site. My baby taking his first breaths. Me breastfeeding. It doesn’t even cut off after the birth. It shows my baby getting weighed, and just…held. If this is a birth fetish sub, why does it feature so much of just…my CHILD. This seems like waaayyyy more than just a birth fetish thing. Idek how to report the video. I reported the post and reddit says it doesn’t violate anything. I am bawling as I type this. Like wtf. Only ONE person knows where that tape is: my fucking husband. I don’t even know how to broach this subject with him.

“Hey did you fucking violate my privacy and post OUR BABY’S BIRTH ONLINE, or did you submit it straight to a fetish site, because that’s where it is right now.”

I don’t know what to do. I can’t believe I even have to have this discussion. Wtf even if he didn’t submit that video straight to the fetish site, he uploaded it somewhere else where they found it, and now his actions have led to THIS situation. He exposed ME to perverts online. He exposed our newborn infant to perverts online!!! Our marriage will NOT survive this and I am a wreck. I should have known he had SICK intentions when he was being so weird about wanting me to post this. WHY? WHY WOULD HE DO THIS?? I’m not even that angry about those sickos seeing me, but every time I think of my sweet little baby’s face in there…I feel like I’m going to throw up. Surely this is illegal?? Surely newborn babies can’t be featured in content that people are…sexualizing!!! Can they?? I’m also just….absolutely gutted by the fact that so many other women have had this special moment bastardized by that sub. How many of them are in my shoes? Or my friends shoes. I’m horrified. Do I press charges against my husband?? I can’t believe this is how my family is going to end. What will I even tell people. What will I tell my kids!!? Idek what to do!!

TLDR: Husband posted birth video online and it wound up on a fetish site. I don’t know what to do.

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i hate how often men think its gay when a male is submissive or prefers women more "masculine"...i'm 100% straight i just want her to take the lead and to defy gender roles...

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i honestly rly wonder how sexuality feels for normal men. like, being able to enjoy phallic sexuality and penetration. i don't get it. its so alien to me.

the real reason i medically transitioned was aversion to male sexuality and the penis. i've always been highly GNC in the sense of fitting in better with girls, but i also don't believe that makes me actually a girl or needs medicalization. i just always found the male sex drive & penis disgusting, the goal was to get rid of them and replace them with structures analogous to a vulva & clitoris. the neovagina isn't the same as an actual vagina, but it isn't just a hole. it has a neo-clitoris and nowadays most results can orgasm (only botched surgeries cannot).

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For trans woman

As a trans man, I have one piece of advice for trans women.

You should be hang out with cis feminists and actively participate in the women's rights movement with them.

That's the only way to make yourself "feminine" in a politically correct way.

Ironically, most of trans women are extremely reluctant this behavior. your that irresponsible act is truly "male socialized" behavior.

You know this best. If you know it, take action.

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i mean, i agree. i don't think i'm actually a woman either. i regard sex dysphoria as a mental illness, i just don't think it can always be treated with therapy.

i'm not saying you or i is a woman, we aren't. just that if you can't at all socially relate with other people who share your biological makeup, its a pretty confusing experience. my self-concept as a woman on the grounds of female social groups is imo bc of being raised in an extremely homosocial generation, i don't think i'm actually a woman and view transsexualism as a mental disorder. i think i always would've felt physical sex dysphoria tho, its rooted in my sexuality, but the mental disorder doesn't make me a woman, obviously.

i'm a "gynosocial male" so to speak, i do not believe i am female or a woman. eradicating male sexuality and testosterone-driven libido was necessary for me to be happy, but that does not make me a woman either.

i was more talking about social issues. biological issues are simple, we are both male. males with odd sex phenotypes, but nonetheless.

Some trans women would say I was "lucky" which makes me a bit uncomfortable. I don't feel very lucky because my identity creates dissonance with my outside. It's the same sort of problem. Which is why I'm kind of in a category of my own and don't id with trans. Trans women relate to the struggles of other trans women i.e going through male typical puberty, deeper voice, too tall etc when they wish to have female typical traits. But I never went through that as I was born with a feminine phenotype so they couldn't comprehend what that was like and relate to me. And trans men relate to other trans men in lacking comprehension of the male social world and having to teach themselves what's socially typical or expected to fit in. But I already had those instincts. And so they don't relate to me on being viewed as a guy by most people. When I tell people I'm a guy (online), they usually believe me. People are inclined to think I'm an egg or slightly effeminate before they assume afab.

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i will never stop talking about how any transwoman or dysphoric male who isn't self-hating would never ever use this slogan.

not even male dysphorics who just want to live our lives happily and peacefully are considered. only those who enjoy performing erotic fantasies for other men. trans activism is so degrading to me as a dysphoric transitioned male, honestly.

when i speak against doll culture i become the hag, the karen, the buzzkill feminist. its tiring.

i've had so many other transwomen tell me that i'm just bitter that i can't be pretty like them.

i would never want to be them.

i don't want to be a sex doll. i want to be me. self-respecting, strong-willed. i want to be like my mother.

“Save the Dolls”

Interesting turn of phrase, isn’t it?

A doll is a toy, something designed to be abused, neglected, discarded, or even destroyed whenever and however the user wishes.

This slogan makes trans women seem even less feminine because most real woman do not refer to themselves as or enjoy being called a “doll”.

Although, most dolls are pretty fragile and most are female……in fact, the majority are fragile fake women.

“Protect the Fragile Fake Women”

Wow, I guess it actually makes sense.

Also, where are the transmen (I.e. women) represented in this slogan?

Oh, look at that……….They aren’t.

Shocker.

Negative comments and reblogs will result in a block, thank you and goodnight.

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This book should be considered a radblr staple!

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at the end of the day they want a vagina because they want to be female and "gender" is all a cope to deal with the inability to change sex

at least one of us can say the quiet part out loud

if a vagina isnt female why do transwomen want them so bad

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i feel like the term "liberal feminism" should be done away with. because its not a type of feminism. "pseudofeminism" or "faux-feminism" would be more accurate, tho a term that specifies that this is men defining what women's freedoms are would perhaps be more poignant, i don't know how to write that out in one word.

imagine if someone said "black people actually liked being slaves" and someone regarded this as a vein of race activism. claiming that women actually like being "sex workers" (read: sex slaves) is not a form of feminism, it only manipulatively calls itself such. saying that someone whipped and beaten down enough to have stockholm syndrome and feel they enjoy their oppression is actually fighting for their rights is to mask the true nature of what's going on. there is no such thing as a feminist who supports "sex work", only a woman who is so beaten down that she cannot see outside the veil of men's oppression of women.

libfem should be called pseudofeminism or feminism on men's terms. "women's freedom" using men's definitions of women's potential. not allowing a woman to define herself independently of male sexuality. its all a psyop, it needs to be called what it is.

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strongly pro-choice myself. but men who physically attack women will always be disgusting. always. no matter the context.

why can i remember two separate incidents where a man beat a woman because he was pro-choice and she was pro-life and despite people preaching “no uterus, no opinion” leftists cheered on and praised this man for punching a woman he disagreed with

btw i am exceedingly pro-choice. i just don’t think we should praise men for beating women because she has a different opinion regarding abortion. i pray yall see why i think that’s wrong.

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"gay" is used as a pejorative for GNC boys even when we are heterosexual. its a way to reinforce patriarchy. if you aren't a masculine man who dominates women, your role is to be a dominated pseudowoman by a masculine man.

the homosexualization of feminine boys is a way to assume that male dominance is never questioned. it naturalizes that rejection of the male gender role leads to the affirmation of it in other men.

male gender nonconformity and transsexualism is accepted by the liberal pseudofeminist left, only on the grounds that we affirm and submit to male masculinity.

since i openly state allegiance with the radical feminist project to dismantle male dominance entirely, i am despised by the antifeminist left. they try to tell me that radfems hate all male people, that i'll never be "one of the good ones", just as a means to try and force me back into their sex abuse rings. to tell me that my role is gazed upon pretty thing that men desire, and i will never be anything more.

i would like to think of a term for the sexual oppression of males who reject manhood. i do not like "transmisogyny" due to both its association with transgender identified male sexual rights activists, and the fact that of course misogyny means hatred of female people so this is not a form of misogyny. but what should i call it? i don't know.

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"Taking in trans “refugees from masculinity” is also doubleplusgood. This is why Liberals back the modern transactivist colonization of womanhood. “Transwomen,” who I will henceforth refer to as trans-identified males, or TiMs, aren’t regarded as colonizers; they’re refugees! And womanhood isn’t even inhabited, not really. Womanhood is a “land without a people,” because women aren’t viewed as people. We’re an open space for men to define.

What is the difference between a refugee and a colonist? A colonist has guns and the backing of another state.

Unlike yesterday’s transsexuals – those “refugees from masculinity” – today’s TiMs have penises and the backing of Liberal Patriarchy.

My trans pals of the 90’s didn’t have today’s backing of Patriarchy. It was riskier to be trans then, even among Liberals. They more resembled refugees, and I welcomed them. They also either didn’t insist they were women, or if they did insist they were women, they ‘disarmed’, if you will, by actually going through genital surgery. Today’s TiMs proudly keep their penises and testicles and demand to have them acknowledged as “female body parts”."

-Nina Paley, Gender Colonialism

i feel that the need to be a refugee from masculinity will always exist, because it feels that men simply don't change. they'll bring their violent masculinity and violent sexuality into everything and terrorize the vulnerable. violent, sexually perverse, masculine men will colonize "woman", they will colonize "trans", they will colonize "gender nonconforming".

it feels that men don't change, *especially* when they are allowed to have strong homosocial bonds. that's why trans activism is the leftist manosphere.

"Without patriarchal gender enforcement, TiMs wouldn’t be spearheading the further colonization of women. So men simultaneously threaten TiMs, and demand the protection of TiMs as “the most oppressed.” That male-imposed marginalization is what drives the whole project.

Trans people themselves are a tiny fraction of the population. So why are language, laws and institutions being changed just for them? Because it’s not just for them, it’s for all men. TiMs are the “settlers” of the latest patriarchal colonization project."

the goal of leftist anti-feminist trans activism is not to protect vulnerable male people by considering us "women", it is a project to eliminate all vulnerability protections for women. they bring up vulnerable transwomen who would be victimized in male spaces, but we're just being used as a manipulative argument when the actual goal is the opening of women only spaces to any man, the elimination of women only spaces entirely. they don't care if transsexuals like me get raped: they only care if "TERF" policies are what led to it. the moment i'm victimized by a "queer" man or a violently paraphilic trans identified male, no one cares.

the male world has opened a space for feminine males, but its not a pretty one. we are expected to serve as "sex workers" under the new-age male-led liberal pseudofeminist regime. womanhood is an open space for men to define, and they define it quite degradingly. when they force feminized males into that role, we're degraded as well.

to open up the category of refugee from manhood to any man is just a covert way to destroy any female boundaries, not caring about the vulnerable male people who are also harmed in the process either.

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interesting

i 100% agree with all the self-abuse in the mtf community. it needs to end and they rly need to learn to see value in themselves, and i think unlearning patriarchal ideas of being "real men" or "real women" could help with that. the sexual masochism of the trans community very much reflects self-hatred.

i've met a lot of girls who have similar interests to what you describe tho, and i fit in better with the girls than the boys (bc i can't fit in with masculine competition). women are pressured all the time to just be a pretty face and it takes a lot to resist it, to resist this mold of patriarchal objectification and blaze your own trail. its why i relate to radfems even tho i'm male. transwomen are also pushed to be pretty faces, trans culture pushes that, it pushes self-sexualization and feminine masochism. asserting yourself in the world as a woman is inherently less respected than as a man, women are expected to be just a pretty face. and yes the more "feminine" (physically) a man is, the more similar disrespect occurs.

one of my feminist friends argues that the "sex worker" is just the modern feminine mystique. i could not agree more. inherent to this self-hating male syndrome (hating selves for having unmasculine male bodies) is the belief that female people are lesser, just pretty faces, just a sexual topic. hence why i argue that feminism can help transsexual males, perhaps it could also help you with self-esteem?

i also don't relate to all the whining about scaring women. as i've said i don't have a DSD, but i'm 5 foot 4 and petite.

Some trans women would say I was "lucky" which makes me a bit uncomfortable. I don't feel very lucky because my identity creates dissonance with my outside. It's the same sort of problem. Which is why I'm kind of in a category of my own and don't id with trans. Trans women relate to the struggles of other trans women i.e going through male typical puberty, deeper voice, too tall etc when they wish to have female typical traits. But I never went through that as I was born with a feminine phenotype so they couldn't comprehend what that was like and relate to me. And trans men relate to other trans men in lacking comprehension of the male social world and having to teach themselves what's socially typical or expected to fit in. But I already had those instincts. And so they don't relate to me on being viewed as a guy by most people. When I tell people I'm a guy (online), they usually believe me. People are inclined to think I'm an egg or slightly effeminate before they assume afab.

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i would like to add that these are beth elliott's current views:

she also signed a letter by post-op trans activists to exclude non-op transwomen from michfest.

a lot of older mtf activists believe in some degree of gatekeeping (i agree). that if any transwomen should be considered women it should only be those who transition "all the way". many believe that you should need to fit in with women, understand that a penis is something women are reasonably fearful of and so self-exclude from many spaces if you have one, learn women's views. inclusion is about fitting in, not a right. many older transwomen oppose the behaviors of new, entitled, woman-hating trans activists.

agree or disagree, this should be known. i'm tired of the lives of these older transwomen being used as pure political fodder with no mind being paid to the nuance of their lives and opinions.

also from elliott's autobiography:

also, from beth elliott's outwords archive interview:

she has stated publicly on numerous occasions that she does not want her story to be used to push against female boundaries and does not want to be used as a historical note for "anti-terf" activism. respect her wishes.

wait confused could you say your take on why terifsm is an alt right psyop? like explain it more? (if ur ok w that ofc)

as an old - the feminist blogosphere in the naughts/most of the 2010s was trans positive or at least mostly trans neutral

drama would come up around Michfest and there was a big deal when Mary Daly died but otherwise the feminist sphere was primarily focused on actual feminist issues - eg that’s where the momentum for #metoo built up

there was a lot of work to go after fucked up media, shit like “yeah it’s normal for feminists to listen to Eminem” would have got you a pile on in a comment section

we are currently in a “backlash” phase and the only way to get traction as a “feminist” is to agree with the viewpoints of the regressives taking power

this was also explicitly planned out on places like 4chan’s /pol/ - they figured out far more effective strategies for stifling genuine feminist discourse by adopting the guise of them

you can see a lot of this in the overlap between TERFs on here and KiwiFarms users

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I don't really care if rapists can be rehabilitated or not, they don't deserve to be.