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ngl having gone through like years of denying in myself that im a trans-guy and living in such transphobic home and culture, when i read something that requires male audience for an event or group and then id be like "oh, me!" and then my next reflexive thought is "youre a girl bitch" and then "oh :( right." then "no, wait no wtf"

i sometimes do that to

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not asking for advice I just need to tell someone.

my mother just drunkenly admitted to me that she thinks trans man transition for male privilege “because women have no power” and she told me “you are so powerful, don’t be a man, you don’t need to be a man”. And my friends still wonder why I’m not out to her. I’m just so fucking frustrated. She messes up my friends pronouns all the time and thinks that being NB is just a phase and keeps asking if any of my NB friends have “decided yet”. I feel like no matter how much progress I make, no matter how hard I try she just won’t get it right. And that’s what scares me.

-🥮 (so I can find this later)

:(

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How to overcome the intense dread I feel at the thought of telling my parents that I'm trans?

I've known I'm trans for around 3 and a half years. During this whole time, I've been terrified of my parents discovering. It's gotten worse in the last couple months because of a particularly transphobic conversation with my father. But two days ago, I talk with my mom and discovered that she has become super supportive of trans people. I know that my dad would never kick me out if it'd upset my mom, so I'm safe to come out. Just in time too, because it's been the plan for a long time to come out in May or June of this year. However, I'm struggling with accepting that I'll come out that soon. Despite knowing it's safe, I can't just flick a switch and undo 3.5 yeas of fear. I am NOT willing to postpone coming out past June, please don't suggest giving it more time or waiting, I will not listen. How do I overcome my dread enough to be ready to come out in May or June?

i'm not sure how to stop feeling scared, but good luck coming out!

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I really effed up. 😭 I already have short hair, but it’s been getting longer so I thought I could cut my hair. Well, that was a huge mistake. It looks terrible and I hate it so much. I hate the way it makes my face look and it’s making me dysphoric about my head shape/chin. Ughhhhh

I look like an acorn 😭 😭 😭

This is definitely the worst haircut I have ever had. I’m going to try to fix it in the morning, but I’m not sure if I can.

Sorry for the hair rant.

- a very disappointed trans demiboy

:(

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I just sometimes feel like I'm not trans enough. I never knew I was a boy, I didn't know I could even be something other than a woman and I just can't relate with a majority of trans people, it just makes me sad sometimes. Hell, the only reason I "knew" I was trans was because I got unreasonably happy at being called sir instead of miss, when one of my friends got offended on my behalf. I don't even necessarily hate my body, I'm just used to it (I enjoyed it more before puberty, though). Sometimes I just feel like a masculine woman cosplaying as trans in trans spaces, but then I get excited at the thought of starting T and getting top surgery and then just. Idk. Sorry if it's too rambly

you are 'trans enough' just because you dont relate to some other peoples experience, doesnt mean you arn't trans

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Master list of all the "our __ experience" lgbtq+ blogs

These are all the active and inclusive/friendly queer blogs I could find. If I listed any that are exclusionist or otherwise bad or are just inactive, please let me know so I can remove them. This list is intended to help queer people find active and inviting communities to participate in and feel safe in. If you know more feel free to add them in the reblogs and/or tell me them so I can add them. Please spread this around, I worked very hard on compiling this list, and this may help people find the community for them here on Tumblr.

🏳️‍🌈 Overall community

@our-queer-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Aromantic and/or asexual

@our-arospec-experience

@our-asexual-experience

@our-oriented-aroace-experience

@our-aroace-experience

@unionize-aromantically

@our-demiromantic-experience

@our-demian-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Gay/lesbian

@our-lesbian-experience

@our-gay-experience

@our-lesboy-experience

@our-gaybian-experience

@our-mlm-experience

@our-sapphic-experience

@our-achillean-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Transgender

@our-transgender-experiences

@transsexual-experiences

@our-transfeminine-experience

@our-transmasculine-experience

@our-trans-youth-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Genderfluid (and related)

@our-genderfluid-experience

@the-genderflux-experience

@our-boyflux-experience

@our-genderfawn-experience

@our-genderfae-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Demigender

@our-demigirl-experience

@our-demiboy-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Agender

@our-agender-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Multigender

@our-multigender-experience

@your-bigender-big-brother

🏳️‍🌈 Nonbinary

@our-nonbinary-experience

@our-genderqueer-experience

@our-androgyne-experience

@our-abinary-experience

🏳️‍🌈 More sexualities

@our-pansexual-experience

@our-bisexual-experience

@our-mspec-experience

🏳️‍🌈 Other/random

@our-queerplatonic-experience

@gender-envy-is

@our-unlabelled-experience

@our-xenogender-experience

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It always surprises me when people see me as a boy cause I really don't expect to pass, I look in the mirror and think I look like a girl and then I am hit with the "hey young boy" (I'm ftm by the way, this is good hehe)

-Leo

: )

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Hiking a trans pride flag up 131 peaks in the Northeast of the US, parts 79-82: Western Adirondacks!!!

Goodnow - 81/131 (this was during the eclipse):

Adams - 82/131:

Blue - 79/131:

Owls Head - 80/131:

Stillwater - 82a/131:

Rocky - 82b/131:

Black Bear - 82c/131:

Woodhull - 82d/131:

Bald - 82e/131:

Buck - 82f/131:

Lots more nature photos!!!

Thanks for reading this far :)

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Person who was going to the students union conference here again-

It was really fun and I got to meet some cool trans ppl from all over the uk and strategise with them on how we should tackle transphobia. Really hope i can go back next year

all i can say is that if you have the opportunity to go to something like that i would 100% take it

I'm glad you enjoyed it!

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My transgender experience is that I'm a guy who HATES short hair. Yesterday I cut my hair very short and I didn't really like it. It didn't feel like me (I would have short hair in 2022, and that one felt way more me than the one I have now).

Maybe I'm just a metalhead and want to have long hair like my fav bands' members (also, I find one guitarist of a certain band to be my gender envy, LOLL, IS THIS EVEN NORMAL AND VALID??? XDDD).

Long story short, I want to pass as male (I never did because of the length of my hair), but I wanna have long wavy hair 'cause it feels more like me and is a big part of my style. I regret cutting it that short. Yeah, I know it will grow sooner, so that's not a big deal, but... I still regret letting my gender dysphoria rule my style.

the eternal transmasc dilemma of hair

(and yes thats valid, dont see why it wouldnt be)

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I don’t know if I am trans. I rlly wish I was a boy but I never did that when I was younger? I was very feminine and I still am. I want to identify as transmasc nonbinary but I’m scared I’m faking it. Cuz like it’s kinda fluid and sometimes I think “maybe I don’t feel bad from she/her?” And when I get referred to as a girl, it makes me feel bad. I wish I could be feminine like a fem boy but not a girl and I thought I was nonbinary but now idk. Maybe I am transmasc genderfluid or gender faun but I don’t know and it feels bad. I used to identify as a demigirl then I found demifemme - feeling HALF FEMININE rather than half girl or something- until I switched to nonbinary then no label. I never had dysphoria as a kid, I was very fem and had female friends- still do. Yet I do now. I am really sorry if I am invading ur space or something. I hate being a girl and I don’t like it when people refer to me as a girl. I hate feeling like a girl, I wanna be feminine and wear “girl” clothes while still passing but I rarely pass. I don’t know if I am trans but i think I will try identifying as a boy. I don’t know if I am something else but thanks for having this blog!! :3 if there’s any questioning tip you have, I’d be happy to know!! Tysmmmm x3

- :3 anon

you are NOT invading this space. i dont have that many questioning tips, but you can identify however you feel. give it time and maybe it will sort it self out, thats what happened with me.

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im a fat trans guy, pre-t. I have huge thighs that no pants will hide. I try my hardest but I can lose the weight and I’ll never pass because of it. It gives me so much bottom dysphoria. No matter how many sports bras I wear (typically 6, which is super uncomfortable, digs into my skin and leaves red marks, and makes it hard to breathe and I have sensory issues with that sorta stuff), my chest will never be binded well. It makes me so dysphoric that I can barely look in the mirror. Please help. I don’t know how but help, I need any tips at all that might make me pass a bit more or make me even a little more comfortable because I can’t stand it and every time i look at myself I wanna vomit

do not keep wearing 6 sport bras, get a proper binder (you can get a free binder from here) a proper binder should be more comfortable.

guys, share passing tips, i dont have any that i can think of right now.

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I’m nonbinary/genderflor (but still call myself trans) and I really enjoy wearing feminine clothes and makeup. But I feel like I can’t because then my family will feel justified in misgendering me, and anyone I don’t know will assume I’m a girl. Being fem presenting doesn’t make me dysphoric on its own, it’s the consequences that do.

I don’t mind dressing neutral/masc, but I wish I had more people who I’d feel comfortable expressing myself around without feeling insecure and worrying if they’ll still accept me.

Thanks for this lovely blog, I’ve been wanting to just get this out to someone <3

its no problem, it sucks you cant dress how you want comfortably

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The way I came out.

(CW: slightly mentioned but not detailed family drama stuff)

When me and my mum were taking my two siblings away from my father because at the time he wasnt very accepting of anyone in the family, examples being what they wanted to be or their interests I had broken down to my mum and told her 'I'm trans' randomly.

(She told me she already knew which I laugh about a lot)

Through this, word spread around to the rest of the closer family and now I'm openly a trans boy.

I don't know how this account really works so if this is posted I want any closeted trans people to know, sometimes you come out in situations you never had time to think of. 👍

i'm happy for you!

the way the blog works is someone sends an ask, i answer it and add it to the queue

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my christian lesbian transmasc friend (who we'll call oxford dictionary to keep his name private) is annoyed because people who claim to "support and love" trans people in our school are saying "ooo nuh uh you cant be lesbian bcuz ur transmasc oooo" and stupid stuff. I personally think Oxford Dictionary can be whatever she wants to be and I love them for that. Although, we go to a very religious school and they don't even want him to be a lesbian in the first place!! They always misgender oxford and it's so annoying and sad watching her go through all that. How can I cheer them up?

i dont have any tips to help them cheer up, but for what is worth, i think they can identify however they want, and are very much a valid person

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