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I want pancakes 😊

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Reblog this if you're a fitblr with a SW over 200 lbs and you are still in the middle of your journey. I love following inspirational people who have done it, but I want to help and be helped by those still doing it.

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Honestly. I live by this sometimes. I have done so many great things for myself by just saying the words or clicking the button. #20secondsofcourage

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success takes a of unseen effort. keep working!

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Rant

Ok so this is probably just me but I hate when people I don't really know comment on my weight. I have lost about 20 lbs over the last 3 months by meticulously counting my macros. So yes I understand that it's obvious that I'm working hard and that people want to compliment me. However, I do this for myself and I am VERY proud of myself, But I'm still hungry (for results not food... But always food). I like it when my friends or family comment, Because they know how hard I've been working so I appreciate that. But I struggle when I hear it from people who don't really know me, especially at work. I'm not a very confident person, I know that. I don't like the attention on me, So when people bring it up it makes me awkward. Can we just not say something more like "hey you're looking good" instead of "hey are you losing weight?" Because it just brings me back to how I feel about my body. And maybe it's because I'm working so hard and that comment doesn't really justify the effort. I'm not just losing weight. I'm eating healthy and crushing my workouts and trying to be as dedicated as I can be.

Am I crazy or do other people feel this way?

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Can I get some fitblr/fitness/health blog friends reblog if I can Message u lol

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This is amazing. I never really thought of this, But now I feel like sitting my sister down and telling them about it so that they know. For all of us that don't have money like celebrities do, we have to make do with what we got. And that's okay.

This weekend I was told a story which, although I’m kind of ashamed to admit it, because holy shit is it ever obvious, is kind of blowing my mind.

A friend of a friend won a free consultation with Clinton Kelly of What Not To Wear, and she was very excited, because she has a plus-size body, and wanted some tips on how to make the most of her wardrobe in a fashion culture which deliberately puts her body at a disadvantage.

Her first question for him was this: how do celebrities make a plain white t-shirt and a pair of weekend jeans look chic?  She always assumed it was because so many celebrities have, by nature or by design, very slender frames, and because they can afford very expensive clothing.  But when she watched What Not To Wear, she noticed that women of all sizes ended up in cute clothes that really fit their bodies and looked great.  She had tried to apply some guidelines from the show into her own wardrobe, but with only mixed success.  So - what gives?

His answer was that everything you will ever see on a celebrity’s body, including their outfits when they’re out and about and they just get caught by a paparazzo, has been tailored, and the same goes for everything on What Not To Wear.  Jeans, blazers, dresses - everything right down to plain t-shirts and camisoles.  He pointed out that historically, up until the last few generations, the vast majority of people either made their own clothing or had their clothing made by tailors and seamstresses.  You had your clothing made to accommodate the measurements of your individual body, and then you moved the fuck on.  Nothing on the show or in People magazine is off the rack and unaltered.  He said that what they do is ignore the actual size numbers on the tags, find something that fits an individual’s widest place, and then have it completely altered to fit.  That’s how celebrities have jeans that magically fit them all over, and the rest of us chumps can’t ever find a pair that doesn’t gape here or ride up or slouch down or have about four yards of extra fabric here and there.

I knew that having dresses and blazers altered was probably something they were doing, but to me, having alterations done generally means having my jeans hemmed and then simply living with the fact that I will always be adjusting my clothing while I’m wearing it because I have curves from here to ya-ya, some things don’t fit right, and the world is just unfair that way.  I didn’t think that having everything tailored was something that people did. 

It’s so obvious, I can’t believe I didn’t know this.  But no one ever told me.  I was told about bikini season and dieting and targeting your “problem areas” and avoiding horizontal stripes.  No one told me that Jennifer Aniston is out there wearing a bigger size of Ralph Lauren t-shirt and having it altered to fit her.

I sat there after I was told this story, and I really thought about how hard I have worked not to care about the number or the letter on the tag of my clothes, how hard I have tried to just love my body the way it is, and where I’ve succeeded and failed.  I thought about all the times I’ve stood in a fitting room and stared up at the lights and bit my lip so hard it bled, just to keep myself from crying about how nothing fits the way it’s supposed to.  No one told me that it wasn’t supposed to.  I guess I just didn’t know.  I was too busy thinking that I was the one that didn’t fit.

I thought about that, and about all the other girls and women out there whose proportions are “wrong,” who can’t find a good pair of work trousers, who can’t fill a sweater, who feel excluded and freakish and sad and frustrated because they have to go up a size, when really the size doesn’t mean anything and it never, ever did, and this is just another bullshit thing thrown in your path to make you feel shitty about yourself.

I thought about all of that, and then I thought that in elementary school, there should be a class for girls where they sit you down and tell you this stuff before you waste years of your life feeling like someone put you together wrong.

So, I have to take that and sit with it for a while.  But in the meantime, I thought perhaps I should post this, because maybe my friend, her friend, and I are the only clueless people who did not realise this, but maybe we’re not.  Maybe some of you have tried to embrace the arbitrary size you are, but still couldn’t find a cute pair of jeans, and didn’t know why.

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I personally feel like this needs to be reblogged because I've been there. And I think it's so hard for individuals in this situation to even realize it's happenning. This kind of treatment of others is not ok.

Emotional Abuse

The following are associated with emotional abuse:

- Withholding love, affection and attention

- Ignoring, or refusing to communicate with, them

- Threatening the individual

- Abandoning, or threatening abandonment

- Fits of anger and rage

- Engaging in chronic deceit

- Criticizing, belittling, ridiculing or demeaning the individual

- Negatively labelling the person

- Controlling their life and ordering them around

- Minimizing their opinions, and ignoring the person’s wishes, needs and preferences

- Gaslighting, and denying the individual’s reality

- Isolating the person from their family and friends.

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Omg I love this ❤

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If you're trying to lose weight remember that:

your problem areas won’t be the first to shed that weight, it will be either your face, your hands, your ankles etc

when you lose weight, you realize that you and shrek are very much alike, we have layers (of fat). you will not instantly lose weight on your belly, hips, thighs, arms, where ever it is that you’re trying to specifically lose weight from, you will lose weight all over, this is why it’s hard for us to notice weight loss

the last place you gained fat on is the first to lose that fat off, the first place you gained fat on will be the hardest to lose that fat off

don’t listen to the scale, those few pounds that never seem to leave or you have gained are probably muscle growth, get yourself measuring tape to calculate your weight loss

you see yourself every day, be aware that it’ll be hard for you to notice any difference, but trust me, everyone around you is seeing it happen

weight loss takes time, don’t give up so quick

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Yes!!!!

Truth: I gained 20lbs in 6 months. I’m over 20% body fat. I have cellulite and a pretty decent belly pooch. Clothes don’t fit right. I’m uncomfortable in my skin 75% of the time. My legs are so pale that they could blind you in the sunlight. I have stretch marks EVERYWHERE. My stretch marks are also bright purple.

I really hate my body. It’s something I’ve always dealt with, but lately I’ve been trying more and more to appreciate the little things, like:

My eyebrows are amazing. The color of my eyes change and that’s beautiful. I LOVE the freckles on my face and body. Hell, I wish I had more freckles. I have a beautiful smile. My tattoos are Fucking awesome and badass. I can rock a pixie cut pretty well. My nose piercing works really well on my face. My legs allow me to walk all around the city. My arms allow me to carry ALL the groceries. My stomach holds all my favorite foods inside.

It’s so easy to zone in and focus on all the things you hate about yourself; it’s so easy and so detrimental. Take those negative thoughts, acknowledge them, and counteract them. Weigh those thoughts down with positive affirmations and suddenly life is a little bit sweeter, the sun shines a little bit brighter, and you become a little bit happier.

Staying positive and moving forward ✌🏻

(Also these pasty-cellulite-thunder-thighs got me through a 202lb back squat last night so hell. fucking. yes.)

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So I feel like I got my very own crossfit badge today at the gym. Got this bad boy doing toes to bar, thankfully on the last round so I finished the workout. Now to clean it up and get ready for deadlifts tomorrow. On that grind!

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Reblog if your a kinda "meh" FITBLR

You know, sorta bad ass on occasion when your not swamped with life stuff. You want to prioritise it more but things keep getting in the way. You’re super jazzed about fitness but sometimes it doesn’t go to plan.

Sometimes you’re a fitblr, sometimes you’re a shitblr and that’s OK. Reblog if your you’re proud of the fitblr days and meh about the shitblr ones.

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