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I have a similar problem. My last name is also a first female name. You have no idea how frequently I'm referred to by my last name instead of my first name. It gets very annoying after about the second time.

more people with the same first name should date. i want to study the linguistical influence

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007 Fest GO!

Um. Hi. I'm Mandelbrot Fisher, or Manda Fisher, if you want to call me something that sounds normal-ish. I'm Q-branch's new health and safety person. (And I have to say you guys really need one.).

Uh ... Let's see. Stuff about me? Um. I'm not really that interesting. I'm separated, I have a son, Alexander, he's seven ... uh .... his father .... well, less said about his father. I have a BSc in Ethics, I have MPH and DPH in Public Health, specializing in Ethics and Bioethics. Got those at the University of Toronto. (Go Varsity Blues(?)). We travelled a lot. My wusband works as a day trader at Barclays and is almost certainly screwing his secretary on his desk as I type this.

Um. So I'll be around.

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Do you like to read? If yes, put your current/most recent book in the tags!

Yes

No

I used to but dont anymore

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monthly wip wednesday post

"Some mad idiots with brooms shouting in the middle of an ice rink. Some muppet must have lost the keys to the Zamboni I guess." "That's curling." James grins. "The Scottish sport of kings." "You throw rocks at each other and yell about it."

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*blink*.

Thank you for explaining much. Still trying to work out the brainmeats.

"The gap between high-functioning and low-functioning Autistic people is too wide. This is why they need to be two separate diagnoses."

There is no gap, there are people there.

There is no gap, there are people there.

There is no gap, there are people there.

There is no gap, there are people there.

There is no gap, there are people there.

There is no gap, there are people there.

There is no gap, there are people there.

There is no gap, there are people there.

There is no gap, there are people there.

THERE IS NO GAP, THERE ARE PEOPLE THERE!

MSN Autistic people exist. Separating the spectrum is to leave us behind. Stop forgetting about us.

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You forgot ea-nasir. how can you forget ea-nasir?

When you read a book regarding historical figures or events and suddenly you have massive beef with some guy who passed away like three hundred years ago

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It is important to note here that 25% of humans have no positive skin reaction to the bedbug bite. So they could be in your bed and you not be reacting at all. (They leave their droppings behind. It looks like little brown dots. Having survived more than one bedbug infestation, this is how I know both of these things, including that I am in that 25% that doesn't react.)

Ever since a few enterprising bed bugs hopped off a bat and attached themselves to a Neanderthal walking out of a cave 60,000 years ago, bed bugs have enjoyed a thriving relationship with their human hosts. Not so for the unadventurous bed bugs that stayed with the bats—their populations have continued to decline since the Last Glacial Maximum, also known as the ice age, which was about 20,000 years ago.

Continue Reading.

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There are also supertasters, which is a bit of genetic weirdness that humans have even now. I can taste the alcohol in any drink no matter it's disguised. It's really put me off drinking alcohol, eating margarine (it tastes wrong) and anything with lard. What about other cultures' versions of supertasters? I mean, the Vorta could just drink poison, that was fine, it was considered 'piquant' for I-forget-which-Weyoun-that-was-there-were-so-many-of-them.

As a side note… I am really annoyed by one thing about Star Trek.

“Replicated food is not as good as real food.”

That’s ridiculous.  In Star Trek, replicator technology is part of the same tech tree as transporters.  Replicated food would be identical to the food it was based on, down to the subatomic level. 

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seriously, wtf? as a wheelchair user, I always say I brought my own chair. this is anti-homeless architecture. do not be fooled.

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Leah Remini did a good documentary on it. Scientology: The Aftermath, I think it's called.

I'm finding it interesting that a cursory search won't give me much criticism of Scientology and its views about ADHD...

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So you're saying that the Doctor has autism with ADD, and Braxiatel is just plain autistic. Okay, I get it.

the doctor has time lord equivalent of the kind of autism where youre just not built for keeping a job and everybody can smell your Weird Brain from a mile off and braxiatel has the kind of autism where u do like five peoples worth of work at your job and everybodys like 'hes really odd and ive only actually talked to him like once and it was bizarre but i think if he left we would go out of business'

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Easy to do. I'm doing it right now.

I love scientists because they’re actually really funny people sometimes

Here’s the link

Please support scientists!!!!

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Able-bodied people (I am not an able bodied person, I have more disabilities than I can count on both hands) cannot percieve how much wheelchairs actually cost, both in time and in money. You have to make appointments. You have to be fitted for the chair. And measured. And manhandled by people. Asked all sorts of questions. That's after you get the referral for one for your doctor (sometimes you have to fight for this) and it goes through to the seating clinic itself. This could take weeks or months, during which you have to deal with something that doesn't work for you.

Occasionally you have to fight your insurance company.

There is usually a co-pay on medical equipment. For my last chair it was $3, 000. (Yeah, that was just the co-pay.). Eight years ago. So that was in 'eight years ago' money.

In July I'm getting a newer chair. This one will have a backup camera so I won't run over my spouse's toes; I'm excited about that. If some jackass tells me to take it down the stairs of a train I will run over theirs, though.

Ok so, I just remembered how people in the comments of a tiktok video were being assholes, and I want to rant now :3

The video showed two wheelchair users at a train(?), who had just arrived to their stop to find nobody was there with a ramp so they could leave the train. One of them blocked the door so it wouldn't close, and this lasted for 15 minutes. The train was stopped for said 15 minutes. There was a button by the door, that said that it'd contact the driver when pressed. It didn't. People offered to go find the driver, and they came back with the news that there were no people in the platform to put the ramp. In the end, passengers had to go out, and place the ramp themselves, before the train could carry on. The wheelchair users had warned they were coming, and asked to have the ramp put there so they could get down. The platform turned out to have workers, they all just ran away because they'd never encountered the situation in which they needed to do this simple task.

Because of the workers' negligence, the train was forced to stop for 15 minutes.

Everyone's comments?

"Why did they block the doors and stop the train? So selfish" Selfish were workers who refused to do their job.

"What if someone had needed to get to their stop urgently? They shouldn't have stopped the train" It wasn't the disabled people's fault, it was the workers who were negligent.

"Why didn't they just wheel themselves down those steps?" They shouldn't have to risk their (expensive) chairs just because people didn't do what they were paid to do.

"If I had been in that train I would've been pissed, how dare you stop it" And you probably wouldn't have even thought about fixing the problem yourself, would you?

"Entitled assholes" Ok I'll leave you stranded in a train with everyone who could help you get down outright refusing to. Let's see who's an entitled asshole now.

If someone fights for accessibility, as much as it might be a bother for you, you do not have the right to be mad at them. If someone fights for accessibility, it is exclusively the fault of a world catered exclusively for able-bodied people.

So next time you think, "hey the consequences of these disabled people fighting for their rights bother me", instead of blaming them for this, help them solve the issue. This way, next time they will not have to fight at all.

Able bodied people, go out and fight for a fucking accessible world if you're not an asshole.

[ Able-bodied people are encouraged to reblog this post, but try not to derail ]

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In my experience as a parent parenting an autistic child: This is dead true. Now, I'm a little autistic myself, but I didn't work that out until later on. We worked around our autistic nonverbal kidlet and he was fine, we could communicate with him perfectly well. (He just never slept, but that was an entirely separate and distinct problem that is now fixed.)

This may just be my experience as an autistic person, but the kids I’ve nannied whose parent’s complain of ‘bad awful in cooperative selfish autistic behavior’ are… Not like that? At all?

Like, for example, I cared for a kid for a while who was nonverbal and didn’t like being touched. Around six years old? Their parent said that they were fussy and had a strict schedule, and that they had problems getting them to eat. Their last few nannies had quit out of frustration.

So, I showed up. And for the first little while, it was awkward. The kid didn’t know me, I didn’t know them, you know how it is. And for the first… Day and a half, maybe? I fucked up a few times.

I changed their diaper and they screamed at me. I put the TV off and they threw things. Not fun, but regular upset kid stuff.

Next time, I figured, hell, I wouldn’t like being manhandled and ordered around either. Who likes being physically lifted out of whatever it is they’re doing and having their pants yanked off? Fucking few, that’s who.

Next time, I go, ‘hey, kiddo. You need a new diaper?’ and check. ‘I’m gonna go grab a new one and get you clean, okay?’ ‘Wanna find a spot to lay down?’ ‘Alright, almost done. Awesome job, thanks buddy’.

I learned stuff about them. They liked a heads up before I did anything disruptive. They didn’t mind that I rattled of about nothing all day. They didn’t like grass or plastic touching their back. They were okay with carpets and towels. They liked pictionary, and the color yellow, and fish crackers, and painting. They didn’t look me in the face (which was never an issue- I hate that too, it fucking sucks) but I never had reason to believe that they were ignoring me.

Once I learned what I was doing wrong, everything was fine. Did they magically “”“become normal”“” and start talking and laughing and hugging? No, but we had fun and had a good time and found a compromise between what I was comfortable with and what they were comfortable with. (For the record, I didn’t magically sailor-moon transform into a socially adept individual, either. In case anyone was wondering.)

I don’t like eye contact. It’s distracting and painful and stresses me out.

They didn’t like eye contact either.

Is eye contact necessary to communication? No. So we just didn’t do it.

Was there ever a situation where I HAD to force them to drop everything and lay down on the lawn? No. So the thirty second warning came into play, and nobody died.

“But they never talked!”

No, they didn’t. And they didn’t know ASL, and they didn’t like being touched.

So you know what happened?

My third day in, they tugged on my shirt. ‘Hey monkey, what’s up?’ I asked. And they tugged me towards the kitchen. ‘oh, cool. You hungry?’. They raised their hands in an ‘up’ gesture. ‘you want up? Cool.’ and I lifted them up. They pointed to the fridge. I opened it. They grabbed a juice box out of the top shelf, and pushed the door closed again. ‘oh sweet, grape is the best. You are an individual of refined taste.’ I put them down and they went back to their room to play Legos.

“But they didn’t say please or thank you!” “But you should be teaching them communication skills!” “But!” Lalalalala.

1. The entire interaction was entirely considerate and polite. I was never made uncomfortable. I was made aware of the problem so that I could help them solve it. There was no mess, no tears, no bruises, no shouting.

2. Did my brain collapse into a thousand million fragments of shattered diamond dust out of sheer incomprehension? No? Then their communication skills were fine. Goal realized, solution found, objective complete. They found the most simple and painless way to communicate the situation and then did it.

Kids are not stupid. AUTISTIC kids are not stupid.

I’m willing to bet real cash money that the real reason the last few nannies had quit had a million times more to do with their own ability to cope, not the kid’s.

To this day, that was the most relaxed and enjoyable job I’ve ever had.

And I know I don’t speak for everyone. All kids are different. All adults are different. But in my time and experience, pretty much 95% of all my difficulties with children come from ME not being understanding enough. Every single “problem child” I’ve worked with turned out to be a pretty cool person once I started figuring out how to put my ego aside and let them set the pace.

Again, not speaking universally, here. I’m just saying. Sometimes social rules are bullshit, you know? People are people

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They make you sign a waiver in case they have any slip-ups with head manipulations. And the fact that this happens enough to make you sign a waiver beforehand should tell you something. A separate waiver for head manipulations.

Yes, all things carry a certain amount of risk, I could get up and fall over my own feet. But the fact that there is a separate waiver for this thing that can make you brain dead if the person isn't extremely careful?

I walked out of the chiro's office as soon as I saw that waiver. Too much for me. Not signing that. And I willingly get large amounts of botulism injected into my muscles at three month intervals. But I trust that guy implicitly. (Yes, there's a waiver there, too. And I sign it every time. I know a lot about botox.)

I'm not posting the people being shitbags in my inbox over chiropractors but, I will say this: if you're one of the people going, "Well I've never had a bad experience, you're just fear mongering" I need you to know it's taking everything in me not to reply with "Glad you've been lucky. Hope it stays that way."

Because that's all it is, babes. Are there some chiros who lean more toward physical therapy and don't play Twister with the human spine? Yeah. Are they the norm in America? Fucking no.

This shit it not regulated. There's a reason it's $40 to see a chiro and $120 minimum to see a physical therapist. One of them has a doctorate. You are paying for the medical experience.

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As far away from that Canada goose as possible. Those things are mean.

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Pierre Trudeau famously said "the state has no business in the bedrooms of the nation." So who knows what else he got up to at 24 Sussex?

So I have a question for my followers: are there any conspiracy theories you’re 100% convinced are real