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I'm sorry it's taking me so long to get to individuals wanting interviewed! I'm not sure if my situation is stressing me out, or if my medication is acting up! all I know is that my social battery is gone...

I can't promise it will be soon, but I can promise that I will get to you!

Hey! if you're interested in being interviewed for your multi-spectrum identity (specifically orientation for now), I believe you have a story worth sharing!

The last two questions are all about how to contact you so I can interview you! I have Discord and Zoom. I can work with most time zones.

So you know who I am: I'm a it/thing trans man, pansexual, aromatic, autistic with a special interest in identity💕💖

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critical mass of transandromisia among cis people reached

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if the only time you talk about trans men and their issues is a gotcha statement for bathroom bills, you're not the ally/activist you think you are.

if the only time you talk about intersex people and their issues is a gotcha for the sex is binary argument, you're not the ally/activist you think you are.

trans men and intersex people are more than just your token and deserve to be treated better.

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I was recently told that this counts as a trans allegory lol

I've been slowly coming up with the religious stories for my fairy religion. This is a very trans story that fills me with a lot of joy. And I feel like it's a perfect story to share during pride month!

Tade is a man who lived a simple life, with a wife and two kids. The day he died was a sad one, but a start of a new life in Hîda.

Tade ascending to Tuark. His soul shifted from his mortal form to the spiritual one as he climbed the great tree.

By the time he reached the top he was surprised by what he looked like. Mud clinging to every surface of him, he hollered. "Why? Why must I look like this?"

And the great voice of Hîda answered. "What lays upon you is the manifestation of your yî, walk up to the water and be cleansed."

Eyes wide open he sees many in a similar state, some worse, some better than he, all dirty. A beautiful soul walked up to him sparkling clean in white robes. They requested him to follow so, thus he did.

"What yî did I commit?" They shook their head to Tade's question. "I don't know nor do I need to." They placed him under a fountain that poured from above a mirror.

They began to scrub and scrape away at the filth. For days this went on, for days they cleaned but slowly a woman appeared in the reflection. Tade began to cry, for she would never admit her desire in life that reflects back now.

She cried for the little girl who just wanted her mother's approval. She cried for the little girl who was told she must be a boy. And for a moment, she cried tears of joy.

With the desire to spread the same joy, she volunteered to clean a soul. She saw what seemed to be a mountain move, and realized it was a soul in mud.

She scrubbed and scraped at the mud. Days turned into weeks turned into months, but she never grew tired. Over time others came to help.

Slowly, the mountain crumbled, revealing a young woman. She recognized the face from her younger years, this was her mother. The one who told her she couldn't be who she is.

Remembering what the soul that helped her said, I don't know nor do I need to. She gave a smile and walked away to the next soul.

Years have past, when she decided to move on she followed her map of Hîda to the center where souls leaped to the next life. There she found her mother again, they talked as they waited in line for their turn to leap. Slowly the mother realized who she’s been speaking to.

The mother apologize for the wrong she has done, Tade simply responded. “May you not repeat the same mistakes in the next life.” The mother nodded before falling back to the world. Tade following after. They were born as twin sisters, Hîtu and Mîda, with a story of Hîda.

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Hey, when my hormones stabilized, I became aropan, so second me update!

I completely forgot I made this post. Otherwise, I would have mentioned it sooner lol

Update on meself!

Hello, despite identifying as bellusromantic abro-aceflex for two years, I think I'm arohet now...

Since I started testosterone; every time I take a shot, I start experiencing sexual attraction, which slowly fades throughout the week but doesn't go away before the next shot. I'm on the lowest dose right now and expected to have it raised in July, so this may stop fading in the future.

I don't plan on stopping testosterone! I've been the happiest I've ever been!! Just having testosterone in my veins makes me feel more euphoric💖✨️ I'm just confused as well...

I'm not confusing libido for sexual attraction.

I know the difference: libido is when the engine can run, sexual attraction is when it has a direction it's going.

What I'm confused by my many questions. Will autism keep me from enjoying sex? Would bottom dysphoria get in the way? Why am I experiencing sexual attractions? What else will change besides the expected?

I'll always be an ally to the asexual community. It sucks that I have to leave it, but that's just how new chapters go.

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I'm just going to say if your opinion is that people who disagree with you should die, you're not a good person, individual, being, anything.

And if you'll go to when you see someone who disagrees with you, is that they should off themselves or be murdered; I can only assume you don't know enough about the topic to make an argument.

This goes for every fucking group. Because if you can't have a civil conversation on the topic, why are you talking about the topic? Just block anyone in the group you disagree with or learn tolerance.

If their opinion is that someone should die, sure, point out their bigotry, but you can't change someone's mind once they got to that point, so block them.

I shouldn't have to see images of a group of individuals being beheaded, hung, or killed in some way to learn about that group of individuals.

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Actually making your selfinsert overpowered and friends with all your faves and a hybrid of the coolest species and in a relationship with your crush and the long lost sibling of the villain is called having fun and its cool as fuck

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This is my exact opinion about dnis that I never was able to word correctly! They make no sense. I protect my peace by just not exploring who left a note in my post. If they are an ass directly to me, somebeing I care about, or a community I'm a part of or support. I block them.

I might try to change the mind of someone who comes across the post, but at the end of the conversation, I'm most likely going to block them.

The block button is to protect your peace, DNIs are just to show who you're angry at. Put who you support and maybe who you're against instead of a dni. It makes so much more sense.

"READ MY DNI" no. use your block button like an adult. i'm not scrolling through the many-paragraphs-long pinned posts of every blog i reblog something from. if you insist certain types of people aren't welcome in the notes of your posts then it's your responsibility to curate that. or choose a closed social media platform like facebook or instagram. or go and live in a barn away from humanity if you really don't like sharing the world with people who are different from you

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And they always come to the defense of trans women, but rarely the defense of trans men!!

I'm sick and tired of seeing this!

You can't say you support trans people unless you support all trans people!!! That includes trans men/mascs! We're part of the trans community too!

The man hating has gone way too far!! No one should hate men for just being men. We should hate men for being assholes/abusers just like anyone else. That's what equality means!! Cuz guess what? women are just as likely to be assholes/abusers. They're just less likely to be reported as such and convicted as such!!!

If you think the numbers are correct with how shitty any judicial system is, especially nowadays, you're under educated, and I feel sorry for you!

When sexism is involved No One Is Safe and no one is treated correctly. Saying women aren't abusers is sexist towards women! And is usually coupled with victim blaming.

And before anyone says, "testosterone makes you more violent!" Any hormone can make you more violent. Testosterone has a chance of increasing aggression around a peeking point, but so does estrogen and adrenaline! it's because of society and how we raise our boys. It's correlation, not causation.

Did I go off topic? kind of, yeah, but it's all true!!

Some men become more aggressive because of testosterone, but as a trans man, who's on testosterone, it's not always the case. My family has reported that I'm more gentle now that I'm on testosterone.

interesting how kim petras, hunter schafer, and vivienne wilson have incredibly lucrative careers that are actively bolstered by and/or entirely based on their identities as trans women, meanwhile elliot page and cavetown had had their careers tanked and entirely delegitimized, respectively, on the basis that they are trans men.

why does the queer community refuse to rally around trans men/mascs? why do we feel such a need to squash their joy? why do we refuse to uplift them in the same ways that we do any trans woman/femme that pops up on our feed? why do trans men/mascs have to earn our support, or prove they need/“deserve” it, while we freely and automatically give it to trans women/femmes without a second thought or a single exception?

we need trans solidarity NOW!!!

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"we need more weird queer people!!" y'all can't even handle trans men/trans mascs

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I just had to explain to my mother why a Chinese person would be writing a werewolf story??

I explained it with Americans' fascination with Asia and how we write stories about any Asian culture. I don't know what I would have done if that didn't explain it well enough to my mother...

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Honestly, I think violent protest is the only way to truly scare the government into complying, as long as we're destroying only government property!

Not every protest should be violent, but when they start cattling, when they start firing, when the few willing to show up out of the military shows up; "respectful protest" is out the window.

Yes, it historically doesn't give you what you want in the long run, but it can change things and stop things in the meantime.

interesting choice of photos. no clarification that before things escalated ICE was cruising around in military vehicles firing warning shots at people literally just walking by and hit protesters with vehicles. the protests turned violent when the national guard showed up.

here is a video from two days ago I screen recorded from a news report:

to be clear i'm not denouncing violent protests. just pointing out the narrative is already being twisted.

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Reblog if you stand against order, civilization, and goodness itself

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You CANNOT separate art from the artist when the artist is still alive and producing new media to profit off.

So on that note, do NOT watch the new Harry Potter series. Do not hate watch it. Do not watch it because “it’s going to be my childhood remade”. I do not care. Do not watch it. This is a direct move to erase the original trio who have all stood against jkr.

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terms that have cropped up to discuss transandrophobic discrimination:

trans broken arm syndrome

similar to fat broken arm syndrome; the way that doctors blame medical problems being experienced solely on testosterone or estrogen

tomboy breaking

an umbrella term for tropes that force gender nonconforming female characters back towards femininity or womanhood, usually to "bring out the true woman underneath all that masculinity" in order to sexualize them

reproductive detransition or corrective-rca / detrans-rca

similar to reproductive coercive abuse; a method of forcibly detransitioning a trans man/masc person by having them carry a child, reproductive detransition and corrective-rca would be if a trans man/masc person does not want to be a seahorse dad and detrans-rca is if the trans man/masc person does want to be a seahorse dad

malgendering

can also happen to trans women; when people only call trans men/woman by their gender to insult or belittle them (eg, "only a woman would be stupid enough to transition to be a woman", or "trans men really are men because this one mansplained to me" when said trans man was talking to this person about his personal interests)

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People asked questions about my not-not-not audition pitch for Link in the Legend of Zelda movie.