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I think I’m probably about to be in my first sapphic relationship and I’m literally so excited 💕💕💕

[poly-newby]

I need a new url. I’ve been researching for 4 years, began actively partner seeking 2.5 years ago, and after the amazing first date I had, I’m likely about to have 3 partners (and the existing 2 relationships are years long). I think I’ve graduated past “newby” lmao

[poly-newby]

Sometimes polyamory is being excited about a first date tomorrow, upset that tentative plans with a partner fell through twice in the same week, and missing your nesting partner because you’re working opposite shifts.

[poly-newby]

🎶He was a boy, she was a girl, could this be more heteronormative?🎶

[poly-newby]

I got my second Moderna dose and I’m SO excited. The woman I’ve been talking with since January got her dose last week so we’re planning a first date for mid-April! Also, I booked a plane ticket to meet my online friend of 7 years who introduced me to the concept of polyamory. I’m so freaking excited for this spring and fall. I can’t wait to really start living again (really, more like for the first time)!

[poly-newby]

It’s always wild running into someone I know/have mutual friends with on non-monogamous OkCupid. I’m like... wait, there are this many of us???

[poly-newby]

Toxic monogamous people : I’m not jealous, I’m just territorial *proceeds to engage in controlling behavior*

Me : I don’t experience a lot of jealousy, but I can be territorial which is why my NP and I have separate rooms. That way, I don’t feel displaced from my own space when he has a partner over, and people only enter my room by my invitation.

[poly-newby]

When your meta (on your partner’s side) is in the group chat and references a conversation she had with your spouse 🥺 It makes me so happy that everyone gets along. Like every single one of us in the 5 person chat can and does have one on one conversations and it’s amazing.

[poly-newby]

Stepping off the relationship escalator really exposes each connection for what it is. Without many traditional milestones, you navigate each connection in a unique way. You don’t have the excitement of things like being Facebook official or getting engaged to cloud your perception.

[poly-newby]

Loyalty and monogamy are not synonyms. There are non monogamous people who are fiercely loyal and monogamous people who are disloyal. They aren’t the same thing.

[poly-newby]

If the corona virus ended tomorrow, what is the first thing you would do out of quarantine? Reblog and add your answer in the tags ☺️

[poly-newby]

“Human beings are immensely complicated creatures. We are one of God’s mistakes. To think that one way of doing things will work for everyone is foolish, and I’m glad you found something that works for you.”

-My dad, after I told him I was polyamorous

[poly-newby]

I got got with a monogamy hangover. A partner suggesting to be cautious about the thing isn’t a mandate. Idk if it’s a monogamous thing or a socialized AFAB thing, but I’ve gotta stop putting the wants and feelings of others above my own wants and feelings. I can be considerate of my partners’ feelings without limiting my own autonomy.

[poly-newby]

I draw out, in detail, the sprawling web of a polycule we have that includes 10 people. Then I ask if she has any questions.

Your nosy neighbor pulls up into the grocery store parking lot in her soccer mom van with 7 different rosaries hanging from the rearveiw mirror and pulls up to you with her carriage full of diet milk or whatever and tells you she saw your spouse with another person, wyd?

*This post is for non-monogamy only*

[poly-newby]

One of my favorite things about stumbling upon an all bi+ polycule is that when someone talks about their same gender attraction, we all get to be like “haha GAY”.

[poly-newby]

Sub space feels so similar to NRE to me. V v happy right now 🥰

[poly-newby]

I am literally begging, BEGGING modern media to portray healthy relationships. enough cheating. enough infidelity. enough disrespect. show me people who love each other, proper communication, and a strong mental as well as physical connection. I want plots about people who are madly in love with each other and STAY madly in love with each other. please. I am losing my mind.