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😂😂 it’s funny because it’s so true!! 😂😂

Polya culture is copy-pasting the same message to all of your partners when something funny happens.

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😱Tony called the Endgame before Strange did! 😱

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WOW!!!!

Salty Polyamory: Of course your ex started dating that mutual friend of yours the moment you broke up!

The Scene: So you just got divorced after years of a lackluster marriage. You are licking your wounds and adjusting to the new normal, and then WHAM! You hear that your ex is already dating again. Worse, he’s dating someone you both knew for years while you were married! This OBVIOUSLY means he was interested in them while you were still together, and you are now entitled to throw a world-class spaz attack. The Salt: What did you expect? Did you REALLY think they went decades without encountering anyone besides yourself they had chemistry with? Now that you’ve set them free from their promise of monogamy, would you really expect them to deprive themselves any longer? Life is short! Also, don’t pretend you don’t also have suitors lining up at your door (who were ALSO mutual friends during the marriage).

TOO MUCH SALT! Even if he was secretly pining for this person during your marriage, now you know that his fidelity came at a price. He had to work for it; he had to watch years of his life slide by, wondering “what if.” He made that sacrifice for your sake. A “thank you” might be in order.

Dialing it back a little: Okay no, I don’t expect emotions to be level after a divorce. In time, I hope you find some peace. I understand why you aren’t there yet.

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Do good recklessly

I was in line at Aldi and this girl with two toddlers in front of me had her card declined and she looked so fucking sad and said “let me call my husband real quick” and it was only 18 dollars, so I just paid for it, and she was very sweet and then as she walked off, the lady behind me said `”You know that was probably a scam, right?” and like, even if it was, like what a sad fucking scam, right? 18 dollars at the Aldi. If you’re “scamming” me for some Tyson chicken and apple juice and cauliflower, then just take my fucking money. 

“A scam” people are fucking wild.  

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Do this four times repeatedly and you’ll be out. But how does it work? There’s some real brain science behind it.

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Neat shadows

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@kittenkatie00 I meant to do this the other night but I ran into technical issues (user error!) enjoying your snap!!

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What exactly is it? Sometimes it’s hard to identify feelers and emotions. I’m not happy with V tonight, but I’m finding it very difficult to identify why.

I recognize that Walter is the first time where I see a partner that challenges her intellect, fulfills her emotionally, and is (expectedly) a 10/10 lover. I also recognize that Walter is a person that has been in her life practically all her life, and he’s probably not going anywhere. So there’s a long-term sense to her relationship with him. I feel afraid of being second. I have a primary relationship with V and I know that I am her primary relationship, too. I fear losing that.

When I introduced myself at Poly Peeps, I said that we are separated and tend to operate as solo poly and lean toward relationship anarchy. This primary/secondary relationship stuff is not RA, so if that’s how I want to approach poly, I need to work through that. And I think I do want to strive for RA.

V and Juniper both have hesitations toward PDA while in the presence of the other. If I’m honest, I might fly off the handle seeing it, too. One of V’s fears is another South Point timeshare incident. I don’t blame her...I was a mess that night. I suggested a rule where we have a time frame: no PDA while with other partners until _____________. Maybe there’s a certain number of dates, or times that we spend together. Maybe it’s just until we have the conversation with all involved partners, and all parties feel comfortable.

We still haven’t all hung out. V invited me but I wasn’t ready. We’re planning our first RADAR this weekend. Maybe next week I’ll feel ready to go. We’ll see.

If V has in fact found THAT kind of parter...long-term fulfillment of emotional and sexual needs, I want to be happy for her. I want to be happy for her. I can choose to be happy for her.

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Colorful Creations by Adam Hillman.

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This was such a great message.

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20 Hilarious Dog Snapchats That Are impossible Not To Laugh At

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Remember to make rules that are practical, accepted, and clear. PAC if you’re a person who likes acronyms. 

Practical means that your rules need to be something you can actually do. They can’t be based on banning certain emotions or making everything absolutely even. These aren’t doable.

Accepted means that things need to be mutually agreed upon. You can’t just institute a rule. You need to have a discussion. And if one of you doesn’t want to agree to something but feels like you “have” to maybe this rule isn’t something that you can both do. 

Clear means that you need to be absolutely crystal about what the rule means. If your rule is no sexual relationships with others you need to define sex. If your rule is no dates over after 7 you need to explain whether that means no dates hanging out or no dates coming inside at all. You need to be as specific as you can.

So PAC your rules to make sure that they are healthy and followable. This can help avoid misunderstandings and broken rules.