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Cancel culture made it hard to detect the bigots

We’ve seen how brands like Victoria Secret that model “thin white women” be widely criticised. In fear of being cancelled, fashion houses have now included plus size models in their shows. However this is actually a false inclusion. It has come out that that most of the fashion houses don’t sell their pieces in plus sizes but made custom ones for the models in their shows. Sneaky right?! How we can see this covert fat phobia can be seen through the tiktok “that girl” trend. Instead of selling us the “thin white women” people and brands are now selling what it takes to get there. Since it is unacceptable to openly want to be skinny, its become a trend to want to eat healthy. - My point is that “clean” eating is a myth. 

Maybe I’m just a pessimist but that’s just some food for thought.

Book references ( I HIGHLY recommend) 

Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia by Sabrina Strings

Belly of the beast by Da’Shaun Harrison 

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On photodumps

Photodumps are just a low maintenance way of telling people your life is glamourous

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#ihatesocialmedia #maybe

... maybe it’s just an existential crisis but like I think too much on the matter. All this to say that I won’t delete the apps because I NEED to keep knowing how social media is messing up my perception on things. I can’t get off because then things will just happen and I won't know why they’re happening. also I’m nosy...

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Screw Romantics, I’m Talking Friendship Break Ups

 - A Eulogy to Our Friendship 

Today the acoustic version of “So My Darling” by Rachel Chinouriri finally came out. If you don’t know it, get to know. The song so vulnerably expresses love for the ones closest to you, in the case of Chinouririri, her friend. This sparked something I just can’t ignore. The love and loss of friends as you grow older.

I myself have mourned three types of friendship loses at the green age of 20.  

·      The first is the one caused by an act of scathing betrayal. (yes I am quite literally the most dramatic person in the world, but then again this is my truth).

·      Second is the one, a blindsiding lack of effort

·      And the third and last, which seems the hardest to accept, is the friendship that dies a slow death. I think this one is just as lethal as it sounds. It is drawn out and slow and usually unravels as you realise that you could possibly no longer be compatible.

I think what gets to me is that friendships are relationships that you choose to enter and they lack formalities more associated with family and romantic relations. How is it so that you wouldn’t go months without speaking to your family or partner but don’t give the same courtesy to your friends? I mean I can go months without contacting friends and I don’t even know why.

With a boyfriend, you go into it knowing there will be one of two outcomes. You know you’re either going to get married or get heartbroken which I think almost makes it easier, its predicable on some level.  

But I go into every friendship thinking that this person will be the maid of honour at my wedding or the single rich aunt to my kids.

No one prepares you for heartbreak when it comes to friends. With your closest friends you never have to wonder if they’re “the one” because how could they not be. Unlike boyfriends there’s never a logical reason to think that that relationship will end. You picture going with them in all seasons of life. And maybe that’s why the relationship is able to go so deep in the first place, you’re not thinking about the odds of your relationship lasting.

According to the friendship report by 21 you have established who your friends are, because following that age you are chasing other virtues such as procreating, romantic relationships and career endeavours and land up with little to no time to give of yourself.

I’m turning 21 in two months and I can truly say I’ve met some of the people I’ll be friends with for the rest of my life, a lot of them moved to the Cape right out of high school which was hard but easier to accept because that was just one of the steps I was prepared for when leaving high school. Now that I am 20 not all my friends are the same age, they’re moving away now. Not without guilt I feel myself thinking that they’re moving someone negates or denounces our friendship. No one prepared me for this part.

I have made dearest friends with people out of high school and lost the very same from my life. Not from a lack of trying. *yes, I am salty* I have learnt so many things about myself from all these people that have come and gone and even more from the ones who stayed and love just as hard as I, the ones who I will never break up with.  I can definitely say “better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”, even though that shit still hurts like a mother trucker.

So goodbye to the ones that have come and gone, I hope the friendships you’ve made since and chose to keep are a reflection of growth and not my worth. I wont text or call but I love you forever and I am routing for you in silence.

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Are Wired Headphones back in or “Try-hard” ?

If you are like me and always find yourself trying to go against the grain, I am sure you are absolutely familiar with the Lily Rose Depp wired headphones aesthetic. But the trend forecasts are reading that we have officially entered the “Wired Headphones as a vintage accessory Era”. I mean it’s been hiding in the AirPods shadow for 2 or 3 years now, but I think it’s truly back in full force and making a statement against minimalism and capitalism.

The theory that stands is that wearing wireless headphones destroys the aesthetic of listening to music.

I truly believe that we are entering the trend cycle of 2010s fashions and aesthetics, essentially, we’ve circled back to the Tumblr era! It feels like a contracted nostalgia cycle that mirrors the contracted trend cycle. Social Media allowed us to tear though y2k and early 2000s fashion vigorously. So now not only are the 2010s nostalgic in a weird way but it is also the only thing we have left that hasn’t been chewed up and spat out by the micro trend cycle moving so fast.

Listening to music was literally an aesthetic of the 2010s, where iPod and Tumblr were in. and now that 2010s Tumblr culture is having a huge revival, it makes sense that wired headphones will be a part of that.

Also, there is obviously something so enticing to us commoners about watching celebrities cosplay as humble peasants.

Wearing wired headphones also says “I prefer the simple things in life” …like Adam Sandler dressing like a homeless man, we all know money can’t buy you fashion but there’s something so humbling about watching him walk in those pants that look like he picked them up at Good Will for 2$, looking almost disheveled. (A side argument, is Adam Sandler fashion the equivalent of the “Model Off Duty Aesthetic”, perhaps a discourse for another day.)

It’s also like the weird 2020s equivalent of being into vinyl records because they were cool and aesthetic, essentially abandoning the fast life which is exactly why the headphones are making a return too.

So the question remains, are wired headphones making a return and should I be buying into it? 

*she asks knowing that she will because she doesn't have AirPods anyways*

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Lorde makes me think like I'm on Pure Heroine

This is my official dissertation on the evolution of Lorde and how she became a satirist and absolutely CONSUMED MY BRAIN.

In Liability by Lorde she says, “they’re all going to watch me disappear into the sun” and I saw a tiktok the other day saying that in this new album she talks about the beauty of stepping into the sun and how she realized that maybe some of the scariest/loneliest roads we take in life are the ones that will make us the happiest and most fulfilled.

What I think this creator is talking about is that she used wellness culture to cultivate her new self and her new music. However, although at surface level this may be the case, I do believe that Lorde is a satirist and intentional or not this was all a part of her plan…. The plot always THICKENS.

Spiritual and wellness social media accounts often glamorize the state of enlightenment, and that life can be peaceful and that you won’t have problems, but that’s literally IMPOSSIBLE and I think the subtle art of not giving a fuck puts it well. It reads “therefore our problems are recursive and unavoidable: the person you marry is the person you fight with, the house you buy is the house you repair, the dream job you take is the job you stress over. Everything comes with an inherent sacrifice, whatever makes us feel good will also inevitably make you feel bad, what we gain is also what you lose, what creates our positive experiences will define our negative experiences. And this is a difficult pill to swallow, we like the idea that there’s some form of ultimate happiness that can be attained, we like the idea that we can feel fulfilled and satisfied with our lives, we like the idea that we can alleviate all our sufferings permanently, but we cannot! If I ask you, what do you want out of life and you say something like I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like, your response is so common and doesn’t mean anything. Everyone enjoys what feels good, everyone wants to live carefree, easy and happy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships that look perfect and make money and be popular and well respected and admired. Everybody wants that and it’s easy to want that. But a more interesting question is what pain do you want in your life” what pain are you willing to experience alongside all the happy things you want. And I truly think Lorde discovered that.

Although I do believe that Lorde’s break from social media allowed her to fully fall into wellness, through that journey she realized just how ridiculous and “whatever you’d call a person that can’t read the room” Wellness truly is. The whole lead up to the album release and the album itself truly pertains to that.

In the leadup to the album release, there was a “leaked” piece of Solar Power. I don’t think that this was accidental, it was a Marketing Strategy.  She used the media and how she understands it to play the part in how her album was to be perceived. To gain traction…

Lorde believes that social media is insane and how we use it to get all our information is insane, it literally rots our brains.

Not only is the song Mood Ring a satire but the title ITSELF. The way she says “plants and celebrity news are the vitamins I consume” – because we’re all mindful and trying to take care of ourselves yet we literally live for ENews and celebrity gossip which is obviously bad for you. The contradiction is what makes it satire. She goes on to say “I want to go away” like to the east and “love and light” she’s literally satire-ing on how people think these superficial things can help them find themselves. And how they market wellness is that doing these things is not only good for yourself but good for the people around you… however we are also conscious of the implications of us traveling to mostly eastern countries. OR EVEN MOOD RINGS THEMSELVES – they were probably mined by kids who get paid less than peanuts just for you to say that you’re “spiritual” or whatever the f you think it makes you.

Truly it is so scary that the most conscious minds about economic imbalance, climate change, social injustice are the same minds that promote over consumption, and just exist in a patriarchy happily.

In conclusion this really has nothing to do with Lorde herself but rather how perplex the brain is… I AM A CONFUSED BEING…. My brain hurts and I would like to cry…. but not for too long because there are worse things happening in the world and I am lucky to be alive.

P.S. Ignorance is bliss and If you’re too open minded you’ll blow your brains out!