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axxidently blew up my moirails hive. how do to xome baxk from this? important xontext is that hir hive was full of trolls who wanted hir dead. just a bunxh of lowbloods, no one important, none of my moirails quads. zes still pissed at me instead of being grateful though? advixe apprexiated.

If you're going to be this reckless with your moirail's belongings, you need to have some kind of plan in place. Either you knew them well enough to know they wouldn't be upset, or you planned for them being upset and worked around it accordingly. Just blowing the place up knowing it would upset them is kind of a dick move.

However, I can recognize that sometimes violence is heat of the moment and you might not have had enough time to figure out any sort of alternative. In that case, I would try some way to make it up to your moirail-- perhaps help them rebuild the hive, or allow them to stay in yours.

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Sorry if this is insanely vague haha, but I really don't want any of my friends reading this and knowing it's me. They're all pretty nosy. Quirkmasking for obvious reasons.

I've been in kind of a weird situationship thing with this one troll and we hit it off pretty hard. I think I've got a big stupid crush on the dude too, so when they said they wanted to start taking shit more seriously and try for actually dating I was really excited. Except, not long after they said that, they started pulling away more.

I think they're probably just busy, but they haven't actually told me what's up with them or what they're up to, or if they're even still interested. It's hard not knowing what's going on, but I don't really know how to sit down and ask, especially since they've been really cagey about it when I tried being subtle. I've tried flirting more and giving them gifts, all kinds of indirect hints, but none of that's really working, so at this point what do I do?

I honestly feel like maybe I'm being led on, but I probably shouldn't just decide that without asking, especially cause they could have actual serious reasons for this. I don't want to be an idiot who starts making assumptions and ruins shit because of it.

All my friends have opinions on it but honestly none of them are helpful because it's either "Break all of their bones, I'm so fucking pissed for you that's insane I would kill them. Do you want me to kill them? We could torture them to get answers out of them." or "you just have to keep trying! stay positive!" and nothing in between or actually useful.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but in a situation like this you have to suck it up and just talk to them. Poking at them from afar isn't going to help matters if they seem to be cagey.

Asking about it might lead to a bad situation, yes, but unfortunately that bad situation is destined to happen because you will need to eventually find out what is going on. The only difference is how long you allow yourself to suffer beforehand.

Might as well rip the bandage off and find out what their deal is.

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I haven’t gotten any inboxes in a while, despite Pale Moon Night being just over the horizon. Surely you’ve not all got your shit completely figured out?

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Hi, this is the mun of @violet-varnish-vases, can you delete all posts where you interact with/post about my character? You're entitled to your opinions but as a poly person obviously I don't really want to interact with you as a result of said opinion. Thanks and lmk if you need the link to the specific ask and resulting posts about it.

[ hey there - i dont know you, and didnt know what posts or characters were yours, but someone else helped me figure it out, so those should all be taken down now. i had no idea you were hurt by them and i am so sorry that happened- please do let me know if theres anything i missed.

i hope it comforts you to know that nothing gray says on here is a reflection of my real life opinions. i myself am poly and would never intend to cause discomfort over that. gray is simply a roleplay character i write, like most alternian characters he was raised in an evil empire and has a lot of internalized issues from that that he hasnt unpacked yet.

but regardless of my intent i know that sometimes fictional bigotry can be hard to see and everyone is always valid to disengage with it if that hurts them. stay safe and i hope you have a good one ]

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me and my moirail just pulled another moirail. I know threeway dates are usually for ashen relationships but any ideas for a pale one?

What? I mean, I’m unsure why you’d come to me about this when I’m pretty explicitly a blog about healthy and fated quadratic pairings. I’m confused about the very conceptual idea of this on its face. How fucked can a troll even be that they need two entire moirails. Or is it more like your moirail needs a moirail from the stress of dealing with you? If you cause each other *that* many problems, it might do your emotional state good to just hate each other at that point. In which case my list of ashen date ideas will serve you perfectly.

But I’m getting off track— your submission didn’t explicitly ask me to judge your relationship itself, just give you date ideas. I’m wracking my thinkpan for ways to achieve this; luckily my advanced understanding of quadrants means I could probably mix and match things that usually pertain to pale and ashen dates.

Pale Date ideas that could potentially have another troll added: a movie and dinner date, or an Ice cream parlor date.

Ashen Date ideas that could potentially take a more pitiful spin (with some patience): Learning to play a musical instrument, or an arts and craft project and publishing.

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breakup with the kismesis went well 👍 not gonna send any asks here for a while because i am officially quadrantless

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Fucking hell, well, good luck I guess??

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dunno if i already said this but i did break up w my moirail. and im breaking up w my kismesis now lol

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Fucking hell. Good luck with that, I guess.

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i wanna stay friends with them though...

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There are many ways to break up whilst remaining on good terms.

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i guess they're kinda starting to do moirail stuff but also now that im talking to them a lot ive realized i straight up do not like them. but like how do you break up with a moirail...

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The same way you’d break up with a kismesis...? By just telling them and blocking their number, presumably.

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im just a little guy

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Haha. Okay, well, get your fucking moirail to act like an actual moirail already man. This is just pathetic.

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I'm back 😃

so, i have a moirail. i've been with them for a little while, and of course i care about them, but our relationship is causing me some stress right now for a couple reasons. first, i try my best to reach out to them regularly, but between all the stuff i have on my plate irl and keeping up with everyone else i care about online, i end up forgetting sometimes. i would love it if they would start messaging first, but I don't know how to ask because they're so easily upset. second, they're just not very... moirail-y with me? i have a kismesis too, and they're wonderful and affectionate with me. they make me feel happy and cared for, unlike my moirail. i want to be closer with my moirail, but it feels like i'm doing all the work for no reward, especially considering they barely ever perform as a moirail while i drop everything to help them (even to the point of neglecting my health). what should i do?

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I mean, it’s kind of your job to handle your moirail’s feelings delicately. But it’s also the job of your moirail to make you feel safe and heard as well.

So basically I have no clue what the fuck is going on here. Why are you guys even together? It doesn’t sound like you do anything pale whatsoever, so the decision to start dating perplexes me.

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Hello, I'm not going to quirk for anonymity reasons. Sorry if the text is creepy as a result.

I (bronze,) have been together with a kismesis (violet,) for several sweeps. We originally got together because we share an artistic field, and have both competed and collaborated multiple times. We've always had a contentious relationship, but I think in the more recent perigees we've drifted more and more into ashen territory.

The real problem here, at least in my opinion, is that we don't have anyone around us who would be willing to mediate- any mutual hatefriends we share have been driven off through our quarreling, and any that we have who aren't hatefriends with the other have only heard our complaints about each other and are too scared to meet in-person.

I'm mostly just asking for your perspective on how we should proceed as an unbiased outside source. What are your thoughts? Thank you in advance. ✴️

First of all, I would like to say off the bat that this sucks ass. Like, my condolences because holy shit. Driving off everyone who might be interested in you is definitely one of the top ten worst things that can happen, so great job there.

Now, about your problem. While this does suck shit in basically every conceivable way, I don't think it's entirely unsolvable. There already seem to be a few realistic steps you could take towards making this work out.

You could talk with your kismesis and see if the two of you have any ashen feelings for anyone else, and then approach them and ask them out. Although it’s not always the case that trolls who’s pitch relationships are starting to become tumultuous will seek out balancers naturally, it kind of seems like that might be what you guys are currently doing. Trust your instincts, talk things out— see who you feel drawn towards and grounded around.

You could also involve someone in your bullshit unwillingly just by letting them be caught in the crossfire, usually, but it sounds like all of your hatefriends have already managed to dodge that sort of maneuver. Unless there’s anyone you haven’t tried it on yet.

Are any of the friends who haven’t met the both of you yet very very annoyed by the situation? You mention that they’re all scared to meet the other, but are any of them maybe a good mix of scared and kind of pissed at how shitty this is in the first place? They might make a good auspistice.

My final reccomendation is one that I would usually never ever fucking recommend— think of this as a last resort for if nothing works out with your social circle. There *are* dating apps where you can go to try and find available middle leafs. Usually I fucking hate the risk and impersonal setbacks of something like that, but this may be your only option left if nothing else works.

Or, at the very end of the day, if truly there’s no possible way to fix things, you could technically just break things off yourselves.

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ooc: are quadrant-query and query-quadrant run by the same person?

[ ooc: they are not no. lol. you are watching bullshittery unfold in real time. ]

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< pussy!!!! 3<

What the hell do meowbeasts have to do with anything. I am so mad right now

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< :HOLLOW: this situation is untenable!!!! kismesis it up 4umbass!!!! 3<

Holy shit look I’m doing my fucking best without literally going online and doxxing everyone I know over this!

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Okay, now, this is just fucking insane. I do not need your goddamn sympathy, and you can stop looking down your stupidly smug nose at me twenty-four-seven.

So I'm anonymous. So I take things seriously. Some of us value our privacy! Maybe consider your fucking privilege!!!

And also, just fuck off in general and stop doing this insane shit, like do you have anything to your personality other than your one-note obsession with me?

I don't need your fucking arrogance, and my "recent posts" have been completely normal. I'm going to answer even more of the shit in my askbox and how you just how fucking easy it can be to just help people out normally. Without any of this hoofbeastshit!!

{ letsssss be honesssst with ourssselvesss. you offer an infinitely funnier and more valuable sssservicce than that other guy lol. }

{ i mean hisss lasssst few posssts have been sssoo....... lol. }

ok see this is half thumbs up half thumbs down so i guess its solidly thumb neutral i dont know if im cool with making fun of those other posts i mean actually i think im definitely not but the first half is so true

how about instead we stop talking about the other shit and make a list of shit im better at than him this is all shit youre allowed to make fun of him for ok take notes

1: im funnier than him 2: i give better advice 3: im not hiding my blood and quirk over a fucking grumblr blog so im definitely way chiller and normaler than him who even does that no one cares 4: i have more totally real degrees than him 5: think if you gave that guy a scorching adhesive pistol hed glue his hand to his crotch in under five minutes  6: im hotter 7: i could definitely beat him in a fight he seems like hed start crying the second anyone hit him back 

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Fine! If you are really *that* fucking determined to wriggle your idiocy under my chitin or what the fuck ever. If it's really that necessary for me to explicitly advise you to fuck your own chances so hard their bulge turns inside out.

Probably the best way to cause every prospective flushcrush in the area to immediately turn their sniffnode up at you and metamorphose into a vomit waterfall would be, firstly, to look like shit. This is something that you were probably born with like many other lucky trolls; but for the unluckier of you you may just have to stop grooming yourself, sleep less, frown more and harder, refuse to tame your style, and give off an aura of the tight-assiest fucking stick that could have possibly ever grown out of a spinal crevice.

Be a huge fucking emotional drain on them. Never fun to be around, always making a federal fucking issue out of the smallest, most meaningless conflicts. Blow up every little thing and then turn it around and make them feel guilty if they get frustrated with you about it.

Send insanely mixed signals. Bitch at them constantly and act like maybe you like it, confuse them into thinking you're going for something pitch and then act sickly sweet the next day. Throw yourself into an overdramatic display of being incredibly hurt or discontent if they act pitch again or confused by your behavior.

Never apologize for any of this shittiness. Or better yet, over-apologize, make yourself sound like even more of a weak and draining little shit. Make them have practically every reason to drop you. And then, somehow still get hurt when they finally do.

There. Is that fucking good enough?

Worst possible Method of flush solicitation go

i just Want to Make sure i doN't hit rock bottoM lol

What kind of bullshit is this? I don't do "bad advice". That's the stupid guy's thing.

If you're trying to trick me into saying some stupid ass shit so you can later claim to have embarrassed me online, you can fuck right off.