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quoimodal

quoimodal is a term for people who have one or more of the following experiences regarding gender modalities (such as transgender, isogender, cisgender etc.)

- not understanding gender modality/ies

- disidentifying with gender modality/ies

- finding gender modality/ies inaccessible, nonsensical or inapplicable to oneself

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loving quoiro

a quoiromantic who considers love to be important to their identity.

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autiquoiro

when your quoiromanticism is affected by your autism.

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quoirose flags

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solum

a term for someone who has neither a sexual nor a romantic orientation. they may or may not have nonrose orientations.

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loveless quoiro

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lovequeer quoiromantic

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oriented aroquoix

an aromantic quoisexual with at least one nonrose orientation. @quoictopus

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oriented quoirose

a term for quoiromantic quoisexuals who have one or more nonrose orientations. @quoictopus

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aroquoix flags

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oriented quoiroace

a quoiromantic asexual with one or more nonrose orientations.

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dammit i missed the survey

Sorry. ^^; I’m sure others will make similar ones in the future.

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solum ace

solum ace describes on the asexual spectrum who does not have, or does not label a romantic orientation. it says nothing about possible non-rose orientations. it's similar to non-sam ace, except it explicitly includes the possibility of non-rose orientations. non-SAM aces could fall under solum ace.

i did not make aro without sexual orientation or a "neither sexual nor romantic orientations apply" version of this because those are not my personal experiences. but anyone who feels like they resonate with this idea could use solum aro or simply solum, but i will not coin words or make flags for concepts i don't personally identify with, unless requested.

background: when i realised i was aromantic in 2020, i questioned the hell out of everything and because romance is a social construct and this incredibly subjective, i decided the concept of romance is not useful to me whatsoever. it doesn't apply to me, my life, my love, my relationships, anything. it plays no role in my life and it would be incorrect to call anything i experience "romantic" or similar. not long ago, i kind of rediscovered the term quoiromantic (many years ago i found this term defined as "not being able to tell the difference between romantic and other attractions" and ignored it because it did not apply) and one of the definition was finding romance and romantic orientation inapplicable to oneself, which described me perfectly. my romantic orientation is like my aesthetic orientation: i don't really have either, but due to amatonormativity, i do feel the need to make a statement on my (lack of) romantic orientation. "non-sam ace" is one term used by aces who don't have/label a romantic orientation, but i found it unfitting to me because a) i don't do "attraction" in general and b) i almost always see it used in a way that excludes non-rose orientations from being a possibility, and my sensual and alterous orientations are very important to me. "quoiro ace" would work, but quoiromantic has about 7 definitions and i wanted something specific to this experience, hence i coined solum ace, which is explicitly inclusive of non-rose orientations as it only makes a statement on being ace and not having a romantic orientation, and nothing else. (note: you'll still see me identify as aromantic, not because that's my romantic orientation but because i use it to mean "without romance" and still find it useful to relate to how amatonormativity harms me.)

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quoiromantic asexual / quoiroace flag

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quoirovague

when your quoiromanticism is affected by your neurodivergence.

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LOVED THE SURVEY : )

That’s great! I’ll be sure to let the author know. :)

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Now announcing the launch of the Quoi Identity Survey.

The purpose of this survey is to investigate the identities, demographics, and community involvement of those who affiliate with the quoiromantic, quoisexual, or quoigender umbrellas. Quoiromanticism is a concept that originated from a disidentification with romantic orientation, due to the specific intracommunity norms of the asexual community. The same principle has since been applied to gender and sexuality. However, you do not need to identify with a specific term in order to participate in this survey. If you are unsure whether you are part of the intended demographic, you are invited to err on the side of yes.

Click here to take the survey. It will remain open until April 7th.

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