#quoiroace

[inscrutable-shadow]

Coy's OC List

(for writeblr games and other purposes)

some of these will have character page links eventually (and some have character art already!) and tbh this is mostly a continuing work in progress

for a lot of characters i have to do visible age/actual age cause i'm addicted to immortal/slow-aging characters ig sue me lol

Five Card Draw

Prue Kerry - 14yo nonbinary sapphic (they/them);

Jack (Jack of Clubs) - (WA link) 19/50yo cis male heteroflexible (he/him); bard stereotype, confident, suave, likes food and sex

Ace (Ace of Spades) - (WA link) 20/51yo genderfluid bisexual (they/she); meticulous, regimented, likes sorting things, shooting things, and being left alone

Queen (Queen of Diamonds) (WA link) - 20/51yo cis female aroace (she/her); the ice queen of the Deck, cold and calculating, likes tea and being in control

Alice (Queen of Hearts) (WA link) - 18/49yo cis female quoiroace (she/her); the oil in the Deck's cogs, quiet, beaurocratic, likes organizing and writing

The Doctor (WA link) - 48/83yo nonbinary who won't tell you or me their sexuality (they/them); mad scientist archetype, likes cutting people open and crochet

Eleven DiCampo (Ten of Clubs) - 19yo cis? female lesbian (she/they); a perfect match to Jack except she has common sense, likes Harley and swimming

Harley (Ace of Hearts) - 21/52 yo cis female lesbian (she/her); elbow grease of the Deck, fun-loving but ruthless, likes pranks and fast vehicles

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Emsy O'Connor - ?yo ? ? (they/them)- their purpose is that they're an empty shell reader insert but sometimes I give them a personality by accident, they're human though

Avrae Tenebrus (WA link)- 19/1800ishyo genderfae lesbian (she/they); lazy vampire of House Tenebrae who likes mortals a bit more than she says she does Rhys Velancier - 26/513 yo cis male bisexual (he/him); excitable vampire of House Velance with a scythe and a love for tormenting humans Less - doesn't have an age, gender, or sexuality it's not exactly a creature (it/its); world-eating entity that bonded with rhys and now it only eats smaller things than galaxies (most of the time)

Thanatos Iuventus (WA link) - 31/4000ish genderqueer male homoromantic bisexual (he/him or hy/hym); even lazier vampire of House Iuventae who likes philosophy and pretending to be a therapist

The Archfey - born with the universe, all genders and none, thanatos-sexual (ae/aer); manifestation of reality itself that takes a masculine shape and enjoys hot vampire sex

Beatrice Nocta - 28/6000ish who hasn't told me anything other than (she/her); elegant vampire who holds House Noctae's seat on the vampire High Council and is often responsible for managing problematic vampires (such as Avrae, Thanatos, and Rhys), likes bloodwine, books, and peace and quiet

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quoiromantic asexual / quoiroace flag

@quoictopus

[palpablenotion]

I’ve gotten two comments so far saying that the purple ring I used is similar to the intersex ring - no one intersex has asked me to take it down or told me off for it, so this is more just trying to be sensitive to that. I’m not intersex, I simply forgot that the intersex flag had a purple circle in it and while I made sure the purple was specific to the asexual flag and not the intersex flag, I am releasing this alternative design wherein asexuality is represented by a black ring in all the representations and a purple line through the center. Perhaps this is ultimately a better representation - I find it difficult to see the purple, but we all have varying levels of color sensitivity and ultimately the ring in my original design was supposed to represent the black ring worn by asexuals.

So here’s my new design. I think I’ll get a public dropbox or something to hold all the varying designs because there are a lot and only increasing in number as the days go on.

[Image captions:

First Row

The first picture is the AroAce full flag - a stylized arrow with a dark green arrow head, a lighter green shaft, and three levels of feathers (the closest to the arrow head is white, then gray, and the farthest is black; the arrow is going through a ring - traveling from the background towards foreground and pointed downwards - and the ring is black with a purple strip going through the center.

Second Row

There are two pictures in the second row.

The first is the Ace-Grayaro - the same stylized arrow in grayscale, the head and shaft are a medium gray while the feathers are a lighter gray; the arrow is traveling through a ring (back to foreground) and the ring is black with a purple stripe through the center.

The second is the Aro-Grayace - the same stylized arrow with a dark green head and shaft and light green feathers; it is traveling through a ring (back to foreground) and the ring is in grayscale, black with a dark gray stripe through the center.

Third Row

There are two pictures in the third row.

The first is the Grayaroace -  the same stylized arrow in grayscale, the head and shaft are a medium gray while the feathers are a lighter gray;  it is traveling through a ring (back to foreground) and the ring is in grayscale, black with a dark gray stripe through the center.

The second is the Aroace purple and green -  the same stylized arrow with a dark green head and shaft and light green feathers;  the arrow is traveling through a ring (back to foreground) and the ring is black with a purple stripe through the center.

Fourth Row

There are two pictures in the fourth row.

Both pictures are representative of Quoiromantic-Asexuals and I call them my Quoiroace symbols.

The first image - the same stylized arrow with a bright blue shaft, a bright green head, and three levels of feather tufts (the level closest to the arrow head is white on both sides, the middle tuft is gray on the top of the arrow and bright green underneath to acknowledge that the Quoiromantic flag doesn’t have all three of the shared stripes - it is missing the gray - and the farthest tuft from the head is black on both sides);  the arrow is traveling through a ring (back to foreground) and the ring is black with a purple stripe through the center.

The second image -  the same stylized arrow with a bright blue shaft and head and three levels of feather tufts (the level closest to the arrow head is white on both sides, the middle tuft is gray on the top of the arrow and bright green underneath to acknowledge that the Quoiromantic flag doesn’t have all three of the shared stripes - it is missing the gray - and the farthest tuft from the head is black on both sides);  the arrow is traveling through a ring (back to foreground) and the ring is black with a purple stripe through the center.]

[tokyoghoulaspecs]

[ID: Two sets of 5 icons each of Shuu Tsukiyama from Tokyo Ghoul. The first image used is Tsukiyama with his kagune around his arm and thrusting an attack. The second image is Tsukiyama covering part of his face and looking upward, with his kagune wrapped around his arm and positioned behind him. The flags used are: quoi aroace (@/double-a-plus), angled aroace, quoiromantic, split quoiromantic and quoisexual, and quoisexual. END ID]

[ali-enby-moved]

y’know being trans/nonbinary specifically is a much bigger part of me then my attraction is

[fuckyeahasexual]

hello! I just started a new sideblog, @queer-quoiroace. Just wanted to spread the word!

@queer-quoiroace <- clickable

[just-mythyk]

Chapters: 4/? Fandom: Half-Life VR but the AI is Self-Aware - Fandom, HLVRAI - Fandom Rating: Teen And Up Audiences Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Relationships: Benrey & the Player, Gordon Freeman & the Player Characters: Benrey (Half-Life), Tommy Coolatta, Original Characters, Gordon Freeman (HLVRAI) Additional Tags: darnold and forzen are kind of there, but not as much, sunkist too, she/they oc, they/them oc, post-game as in post-act 4, except for the first chapter, acab stream doesn't happen here, gordon and the player are seperate people, gman makes an appearance, characters become real, joshua never existed, Mute Gordon, They/Themrey, bubby and dr coomer are there, but not a lot? yet?, the "cast" aren't here, post-game au? do you call it that?, half-life/valve franchise exist, hlvrai is half-life not gmod, gman is Not Good, sorry tommy, no beta we die like men, but i do edit/adjust multiple times before posting, depending on what focuses happen i'll edit main tags for characters, i am sorry if this shows up in the half-life tag, quoiroace author (this will... probably be explained by much later chapters), aroace author? Summary:

My brain really focused on some “what-ifs” and other ideas for after act 4. Some of this will probably have some ooc moments, but I think I’ll be trying my best to keep it relatively “canon personality.” With the exception of Gordon/the player, which have other ideas running through my head.

[asafetynet]

Hello! As someone who is triple A, I really love your blog! I was wondering if you know of any Aro blogs that are inclusive of aroaces and people in the aro spectrum? I want to be a bigger part of the Aromantic community but a lot of recent aggression towards aces and gray aros really stresses me the hell out

Thank you Anon! I’m also Triple A so I understand. I try to keep this blog full of positivity & acceptance so I’m glad you’re feeling welcome here. Here’s some of the blogs I follow that are aro-focused & currently actively posting. They are all good people. 

@aro-aceplace

@a-spec-tacular

@aro-ace-and-proud

@aro-allo-positivity

@religious-aspecs

@aspecpplarebeautiful

@aromantic-official

@mac-aro-ni

@aspec-appreciation

aspec-appreciation

@the-amazing-greyro-ace

@queer-quoiroace

@demisexual-kingdom

[arodabi]

So many people talk about all the labels they had to go through and how long it took them to figure everything out and it’s just so different to my experience bc i basically went cishet > cisace (bi/pan???) > nb (demigirl?????) quoiroace > agender aroace

There were times where i considered lables like pan and demigirl but i was never super confident in them and never identified with them ig. The only time i ided as smthn that i wasn’t was when i used arospec lables bc i was still coming to terms with being aro and those really helped me dip my feet in so to say, and when i ided as just nb. Like technically i still am but i like agender as a lable Way More than nb

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oriented quoiroace

a quoiromantic asexual with one or more nonrose orientations.

@quoictopus

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quoiromantic bliss

the other day i accidentally fell down a quoiromantic history rabbit hole (i was looking for something on the lgbta wiki's page on quoiromanticism and one of the sources looked interesting) and honestly, i have never felt so seen. looking back now, it makes so much more sense why i felt the way i did about aromanticism, especially in combination with asexuality.

i never, ever considered that i could be anything but alloromantic until i made a joke on tiktok in the summer of 2020 about not knowing if i'm arospec or if i only had two crushes in my life and everyone around me was a bully and not worth wasting my feelings on. i wasn't serious at all, i had previously identified as heteroromantic, androromantic, panromantic, biromantic and even bisexual when i casually forgot i was asexual for a year. but never anything that wasn't alloromantic.

it got closer and closer to ace week 2020 and shortly before that i came back into my asexuality and realised that what i thought was sexual was sensual and identified as bi ace (as in biromantic bisensual asexual) for a very short while until everything came crumbling down and i thought about my two crushes again, trying to figure out if it was a "normal" amount of crushes for a then 21 year old. i ended up identifying as greyromantic and angled aroace for a hot second, and then i learned about alterousness and suddenly nothing made sense anymore. now how was i supposed to be able to know if what i feel for my partner was romantic or alterous? so i did what every annoying baby aro does and go bother some other aros: turns out, "romance" as a social construct is actually subjective as fuck, so i decided, since everything that i personally considered to be romantic played no role in my orientation, to use the labels aromantic and bialterous (and later greyalterous). i never met another person who defined their aromanticism that way. everyone had at least some idea of what romance is.

romance and romantic feelings were very confusing to me while i tried to figure myself out. it felt like an awfully long time but i'm pretty sure all of this happened within two weeks or so, as i hate questioning and want answers as fast as possible. but during "i'm confused by romantic feelings" i never once considered quoiromanticism. i did identify as quoisexual for a bit back in 2018, but the most common definitions were "unsure if sexual feelings for others" or "can't tell sexual feelings from others" and since my quoisexuality felt so different from what i was feeling when i questioned my romantic orientation, it felt like it did not fit.

i'm pretty sure the reason i struggled so much with it was because i'm autistic and romance seemed to be such an arbitrary social construct with random rules that also vary from person to person, especially considering that queerplatonicism and alterousness existed. i always felt like romantic orientation was much harder to figure out than sexual orientation because with sexuality at least, there are many things that are undeniably sexual, but with romance, it's subjective and makes no sense. (which is funny because i'm also the person who flipflopped between 5-6 different acespec labels since i was about 14.)

the existence of alterousness and the subjectivity of romance made me realise that i could literally just decide to not frame my relationship or past crush as romantic, to just opt out of romance. and i still didn't think of being quoiromantic because my quoisexual experience was defined by confusion but i was not confused by my romantic orientation anymore. i just decided that because things i consider to be romantic play no role in my life, to reframe myself and my relationships as aromantic and (grey)alterous.

so then i identified as aroace. or aro-ace: or aro ace? because that changed all the time too. "aroace" as one word implies some kind of connection between the two but my experiences with asexuality was very different than with aromanticism. "aro ace" and "aro-ace" kept not feeling right because The Norm™️ is to write it as one word. so i flipflopped between being "aro and ace" and being "aroace", "ay" or "arose".

and then earlier this year, i came across quoiromantic probably for the first time consciously. and one of the definitions was "finding romance inapplicable" and there it was, me! i've already been saying that i'm aro in the way that romance doesn't apply to me. hence none of the favourability terms made sense to me. nothing i do could ever be romantic, because romance doesn't apply to me, so i can't be favourable or indifferent or averse to romance. though i would probably averse to someone calling my relationship, feelings or actions romantic, because again, nothing i do or feel can be romantic. and, seeing a lot of non-sam aros and unit aros, i always thought that if i was non-sam or unit a, it would be ace and not aro.

i absorbed "quoiromantic" into the deltahoard and didn't think about it all that much until the other day when i read up on quoiromantic history and it was fucking brilliant. people who i guess could be called non-sam aces (or solum aces if you wanna be cool and use my term) talked about romance and romantic orientation being inapplicable, confusing, nonsensical. and that was utterly relatable. romance is still confusing to me but i chose to not deal with it by choosing to opt out of romance altogether. sometimes people will ask me if i'm in a "romantic relationship" and i'm thinking to myself "what even is that?" and i've read and heard about people opting out of romantic orientation (such as @queerascat, i miss their content). it was then when i realised that the way i used the term "aromantic" was never to describe a romantic orientation, but my lack thereof, my lack of romance as a whole. that's why my aromanticism always felt so different from my asexuality. because it was never really an orientation. i just found a more useful framework for my feelings and relationship and use that instead. a lot of quoiromantic aces/solum aces/aces without romantic orientation seem to be "fully" non-sam, whereas i have sensual and alterous orientations that are important enough for me to label. in fact, it feels like my alterous orientation is exactly where my romantic orientation "should be". i hope to meet more people like me.

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solum ace

solum ace describes on the asexual spectrum who does not have, or does not label a romantic orientation. it says nothing about possible non-rose orientations. it's similar to non-sam ace, except it explicitly includes the possibility of non-rose orientations. non-SAM aces could fall under solum ace.

background: when i realised i was aromantic in 2020, i questioned the hell out of everything and because romance is a social construct and this incredibly subjective, i decided the concept of romance is not useful to me whatsoever. it doesn't apply to me, my life, my love, my relationships, anything. it plays no role in my life and it would be incorrect to call anything i experience "romantic" or similar. not long ago, i kind of rediscovered the term quoiromantic (many years ago i found this term defined as "not being able to tell the difference between romantic and other attractions" and ignored it because it did not apply) and one of the definition was finding romance and romantic orientation inapplicable to oneself, which described me perfectly. my romantic orientation is like my aesthetic orientation: i don't really have either, but due to amatonormativity, i do feel the need to make a statement on my (lack of) romantic orientation. "non-sam ace" is one term used by aces who don't have/label a romantic orientation, but i found it unfitting to me because a) i don't do "attraction" in general and b) i almost always see it used in a way that excludes non-rose orientations from being a possibility, and my sensual and alterous orientations are very important to me. "quoiro ace" would work, but quoiromantic has about 7 definitions and i wanted something specific to this experience, hence i coined solum ace, which is explicitly inclusive of non-rose orientations as it only makes a statement on being ace and not having a romantic orientation, and nothing else. (note: you'll still see me identify as aromantic, not because that's my romantic orientation but because i use it to mean "without romance" and still find it useful to relate to how amatonormativity harms me.)

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oriented ace

a term for aces without a romantic orientation who have one or more nonrose orientations. this can be solum aces, quoiroaces and other aces who don't have a romantic orientation but might not use these terms. the "oriented" part refers to nonrose orientations such as alterous, sensual etc. this term is not for alloromantic aces.

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loveless ace

coined with solum / quoiro / nonsam aces / other aces without romantic orientation in mind, so not really for alloaces.

[ali-enby-moved]

oh yeah for the record I’m quoiro now