#quoiromantic

[someoneq]

it's aro week!

happy aro-spec awareness week to all aro-specs including but not limited to:

aromantics

greyromantics

demiromantics

quoiromantics

frayromantics

cupioromantics

lithromantics/akoiromantics

recipromantics

apothiromantics

caedromantics

amicusromantics

vallisromantics

apexromantics

arospikes

arofluxes

alicoromantics/agnoromantics

platoniromantics

nebularomantics

aegoromantics

bellusromantics

idemromantics

requisromantics

non-sam aros and arospecs

non-partnering aros

aros in romantic relationship

aros in queerplatonic or alterous relationships

aplatonic aros

loveless aros

lovequeer aros

lovepunk aros

aroaces/acearos

aroallos/alloaros

aromids

romance repulsed aros

romance ambivalent aros

romance favourable aros

triple/quadruple a batteries (arospec acespec aplspec agenderspec)

anyone questioning if they are arospec or where they fit on it

anyone else whose arospec identity I missed

happy aro week to all <2

[genderqueerdykes]

is bullying, abusing and chasing aromantic and asexual people out of the community actually helping anyone? is it helping trans people get binders or breastforms, or find surgeons, or connect with other trans people? is it helping mspec people figure out that being attracted to multiple genders is normal and okay? is it helping lesbians and gays find each other? is it helping intersex people learn more about their conditions?

it's not. it's not helping anyone else get the resources, support and help they need. all it's doing is denying a huge chunk of the community their right to have the same things we have and want. it's not helping a single soul. it's not making it easier for anyone else to get what they need by removing these groups of people, because as queers, we all have different needs. we are here to help each other. the point of community is to help.

if you refuse to help one or two specific types of members of your own community, you are prejudiced and you are the one being disruptive to the unity and functionality of the queer community. you are the one causing problems- not the aromantics, asexuals and other aspectrum people.

[the-delta-quadrant]

i can't describe these myself, if someone can help i'll reblog that version!

[magpie-murder]

being in a romantic relationship while aromantic is like. i love you, i think as much as you love me, but i will always love you wrong. i've never felt butterflies and my knees don't get weak. i love you like i love music and the moon. but i don't know if you'll ever understand what i mean by that. i will spend every minute of my life trying to make it up to you. i love you, but not correctly. it will bother me even if you don't mind it. i will always be convinced that someone else could love you better. that anyone else could love you better. i will never know what's going on in your head or your heart— more than what happens in mine, at least. surely. i love you. i'm sorry. and mostly i'm just sorry that you happened to fall in love with something like me that cannot ever grasp the part of your soul which drew you to me in the first place. i love you

[caiiaxteiie]

this one's for my arospec homies.

[your-average-art-dealer]

Guys I just realized something

TECHNICALLY I'm aroace

(aromantic spectrum and asexual spectrum lmao)

cause I'm-

and those are on the aromantic spectrum and asexual spectrum respectively (try saying that ten times fast)

like-

mindblown

[sh1ny-r0ckruff]

reminder

shout out to all Aroflux, Aegoromantic, Apothiromantic, Aromantic, Arospike, autoromantic,Bellusromantic, Caedromantic, Cupioromantics, Demiromantic, Fictoromantic, Frayromantic, Grayromantics,Lithromantic/Akoiromantics, Myrromantic, Quoiromantic, Recipromantic, Requisromantic + more people !!

u guys are so amazing and super valid /g /pos

[sukifoof]

hi quick shoutout to fellow aros of all kinds u are all wonderful. also shoutout to fellow quoiromantics cuz what the fuck right?? every day i sit down and go What Is Romance And Why Are We All Supposed To Care So Much i am SICK !! of the amatonormativity

happy aro day <3 love loses

[cadhla182]

Pride 2023 Day 17: Nadia van Dyne!

[the-delta-quadrant]

ace, aro, aroace, quoi & apl lockscreens

[aroworlds]

I thought I might also show off some of my cross-stitch patches during @aggressivelyarospec's Aggressively Arospectacular, especially my collection of quoi, nebula and vague patches (as an aro who floats about said trifecta of identities because comprehending attraction and my relationship to it is difficult).

I do have more: these are just the patches I have yet to attach to my backpack and jacket. It's just so much less fun to sew my patches onto things than it is to sew the patches, so I have a huge backlog!

[thatqueerbat]

how do you decipher

the differences and nuances

between friendship and love

platonic attraction or affection

how do you ask

someone to explain

their feelings for you

in a comprehensible way

without making things awkward

is it just too hard to say

'hey this is how i like you'

how do you want to engage?

[thatnerdyqueer]

People get so confused when I try to explain the type/s of attraction I feel. But let me put it like this: I "fall in love" with someone's character. I don't want their body - I want their presence. I don't lust after them - I admire them. I don't want a romantic relationship - I find them fascinating. Interesting. Fun. They challenge and compliment me. They're loyal. They're funny. They're not two-dimensional, they're a well rounded character. I fall in love with someone as a character, as an arc, as a person. As a friend. People seem to read this one of two ways - it's romantic, or it's just platonic and I haven't found the right person yet. *sigh* the definition of platonic is 'deeply affectionate but not romantic in nature'. So yeah, it's platonic. It's deep. It's affectionate. It's not romantic. It's just as good though, so can we stop saying 'just'?

Like, you know when people have gay panics? I want that, and frequently experience it, but in a platonic way. As in, wow what you did was really impressive/intersting I want to get to know you and spend time with you kind of way. Not in a wow I want to kiss you way. Someday I want to meet someone in a bookshop and 'flirt' with them or whatever allos seem to think it is, and get their phone number. And then, instead of asking them to see a movie as a date, I'll ask them to come and eat pop corn with my friends and watch a movie because I think they'll find it interesting. Make no mistake - I'm aroace, but I still want my meet cute. I want a platonic meet cute where I find someone, who's character is so full and interesting and bursting with life that I get their number and send them memes and geek out with them, and get to know them and admire them until we feel comfortable around each other. I just want to live with someone. To read together, watch tv shows together, listen to music together, go to the theatre together, without them being considered 'dates'. Because I don't want them because I want their body. I want them in my life because I like their character.

And if you think about it, I'm very lucky in this way. Because, while not everyone has a super-model body, the vast majority of individuals are so bursting with life that I am very, very, likely to find people, many people, whose character I love. To be honest, I've already found plenty. But, ever the "optimist", I hope I find more :)