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CW: male sexuality, porn, hetero sex

this feels like my biggest anti-feminist opinion but i am a bit sus over men who openly or proudly say they don't watch porn. just feels kinda... off? and i don't mean men who don't watch it and just... fuck and masterbate lol. but even then, actually... :/

am i the only one who feels like this? i don't want men to watch it, obviously, but on the other hand not consuming ANY sexual media is a red flag tbh. idk how to reconcile this. i guess if he fucks regularly or watches ('tame') amateur stuff on non-porn sites that's less of a red flag? obviously the normal shit on porn sites is a different, huge red flag, i don't mean that.

tbh the existence of porn in the first place feels like an affront to normal het relationships. idk how to navigate any of this when porn exists.

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bi and het TRAs are pure shit but there is nothing more demoralising than a lesbian TRA. Like.. imagine being a lesbian and getting harrassed in your local lgbtqiawhatever+ space, constantly being told that not sucking dick makes you a literal fascist, seeing politicians in certain countries make it illegal for lesbians to gather without letting men into their spaces, scrolling through tons of men in "women only" dating apps etc. And then meeting a lesbian who is happily married to another woman, doesn't know a single TiM, thinks that politics are exhausting, isn't interested in what's happening to other lesbians and then hits you with "aw well I think trans women are just as much women as we are. It must be so hard for them". I am at a point where I can't even say they don't know better or something. You have to be willfully ignorant in this day and age to have views like that as a lesbian. And yea I know many very online radfems of any sexuality like to say that lesbians like that aren't really lesbians bc lesbians are this higher feminist being (an attitude that leads to shit like political lesbianism by the way) but thats bullshit. Being a lesbian doesnt automatically come with moral superiority or superhuman insight and intelligence. Some of these women just dont give a fuck about others. They are safe, so why the fuck should they care about you? This "holier than thou" patronizing "well I am a good person for being okay with TiMs harrassing and raping other lesbians. While I keep myself far away from any situation that could reveal that I actually wouldn't suck dick to prevent a trans suicide" attitude is pissing me off.

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Women's Liberation Front does not aid women incarcerated or political prisoners.

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are there any good ecofem/environmentally oriented discord servers around. i have no friends and i would like to make some but im shy

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Sometimes I fantasize about flirting with men and taking them into the woods and then slicing their throats. I always laugh about it too bc I know that the men would be dumb enough to follow me into the dark woods just because they're obsessed with sex and think I'm going to give it to them. Am I a bad person :(

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Honestly, I don't think we should have Gendered Pronouns/Honorifics at all. Like, the amount of times in my childhood, me (a short haired dyke who always hanged out with males) have been "young manned" or even now, been "sir'ed" is kinda infuriating.

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i think im gonna die alone because i’m physically attracted to butches/transmascs but believing in gender ideology is such a turn off for me

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I destroyed my body, my childhood, and my life thinking I was a trans man. In reality all I’ve ever done is seek validation from men due to trauma and abuse. I constantly sought out any man who would give me an ounce of attention. I valued men over anyone else and ruined my relationship to get temporary validation. I’m disgusted in myself.

I’ll always mourn who I could have been if I came to this realization sooner. My body is mutilated and I’ll never be the woman I should have been. I know in the end, it’s my fault. But my hatred for men will remain forever.

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The Maria Childers case would peak every TIF and female TRA and handmaiden.

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I wish there was more unbiased information about HRT and surgeries in FTMs/TIFs, because the obvious bias on both sides doesn't help these people stay healthy and alive. No one is talking about it with their health in mind, it's always an agenda and an outrage and no one can provide specific answers and helpful information other than "do it it's good" "don't do it it's bad" and "this (good or bad thing) happened once so it might happen to you". Once again females are put last even by other females.

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This one is short and sweet and super controversial: I don't think drag is inherently misogynstic and I enjoy watching Drag Race

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Do any other women here also feel a sense of "mourning" over the relationships we could have if it wasn't for male's socialization? Knowing they could never understand us, how attached they are to pornography, their deceitfulness... I can't even daydream of the fictional ones anymore, I miss being a teen girl full of romance fantasies.

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One of my uncles is cheating on my aunt (his wife) with a young girl and my aunt still defends him. I hate my uncle so much because he never shows up for his daughters. My aunt and my third eldest cousin (her eldest daughter) suffer from OCD and anxiety. Whenever he comes home, he abuses my aunt and my cousin. One day, my youngest cousin (aunt's second daughter) found the messages between my uncle and that girl who he's cheating with. But still my aunt defended him. This is not the only reason why I hate him to my core. When I was 7-8 years old, me and my youngest cousin were playing and there was a bottle of shampoo lying on the bed. I accidentally stepped and pressed onto the shampoo that it spilled of and destroyed the bed. My uncle realised this and not only did he physically abused my cousin, but he physically abused me too. Hours of crying and years later, I still think about it whenever he comes home. I pretend to move on yet it gives me the creeps. Before her marriage, my aunt was studious and intelligent. But after marrying him, she had to reject a job as a teacher (which she got as an opportunity) because my uncle forbade her. Now, he has a government job and lives far away from his family, cheating on a young girl and suggesting to get a divorce (also, his family said that they liked the girl). Even his co-workers think that the girl (whom he lives with when he's far away) is his actual wife. When they found out who his actual wife was, they were shocked.

He left the family group we created.

This is why I always get scared of marriages.

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any other short haired & gnc dykes kind of resent how much long haired/femme lesbian art there is or am i just cranky.

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I'm stealth. I'm a major artist in a mid-sized fandom. Every time i post a drawing (usually male characters, this is a typically male-played game and has like one woman) I get between 5-10 TIFs tagging it with some flavour of "omg men" and "I'm so gay".

I'm a lesbian. I've been playing this shooter for nearly a decade. No, you're not gay. You're a straight woman. Your attraction to males was never discouraged. And I know I'm toxic but the majority of them don't even playyyyyyyyy this game....

I WISH I could tell them off, tell them to stop tagging my art with m/m ship names, tagging it as "gender" etcetera. Like shut the fuck UP. You are NOT gay. Saying you love men isn't revolutionary!! But I can't say nothing. Because I'd destroy my art career. I pull in some money through commissions. I'm just stuck being a dyke who likes guns getting her art tagged as omg I'm so gayyyyyyy by heterosexual fujos. Vent over.

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Gotta love Instagram notes. Perpetually online males lamenting, "another year alone on valentines day." Whose fault is that, lad? If you want to meet a girl, you need to leave your house. You won't be noticed by women who are completely unaware of your existence. You won't be pitied by me.

I stopped talking to most of my male friends because they jumped on the tErF hate bandwagon and constantly whiteknight for their TIM bros. These teenagers threaten to punch women, they claim that TIMs are exactly the same or better than us, and yet some how they're lonely? Date each other and quit sighing so loudly around "da terves" to try to stir our compassion. You alienated us, now you get to live with the consequences of those choices.

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So im watching that one stanford intro to human behavioural bio lecture And the professor says that women being violent, killing etc spikes during menses and i LITERALLY believe it bc one time i cut my arm so badly a chunk of it is missing JUST because i felt bad w the blood and everything. u can say pms isn’t real or whatever but it rlly can affect you (Moreso if like me you have pre exsisting stuff like autism maybe?)

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