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Trump: We are giving our churches their voices back

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Pastor Chris on Marriage

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Little Big Shots - Caleb Is Back! (Episode Highlight)

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solitude(the me moments)

It is quite essential

Absolutely crucial

To your personal growth

Inward development is nurtured

Engendered is mental aptitude

Fostering matured reasoning

So invaluable is that time

When you are free from the public

Deaf to their never silent voices

Which never cease to speak to and into you

Telling you what you can and cannot do

Precious is that moments

When…

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wearied

wearied am becoming

worried am getting

buried will be I ask

married is all wanted

carried lovingly by you I long

What I see now is sad

It leaves me mad

I start to think I shouldn’t had

lacking and empty is the fad

am known now as one who gad

then some now call me a cad

should I shed a tear

when you can’t be near

to be available to hear

attentively giving…

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#AFBV

Pink text on a black background.

Bullying is a very severe and serious issue. It’s not funny, it’s not witty, and it doesn’t make you look cool. So if you’re bullying someone right now, stop. Just stop. #AFBV

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she wouldn't let me

she wouldn’t let me

to be kissed

have I long missed

each day I get dissed

and am quickly dismissed

  to say all I feel

to express my feelings through touching

cuddling, embracing and snuggle her

she wouldn’t let me get to her

  I would stretch my hand to reach her

my arms widely open to receive

her in them ensconced

she wouldn’t let me reach her

  My left leg I would get it near her

my knees to rub her rear

my feet…

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came they and told

what we have isn’t gold

hence it can’t be sold

learned we from the smiths’ fold

the explanation was bold

warming the snowy winter’s cold

we couldn’t have it mold

  believe it not my mind spoke

receive non said my heart did poke

deceive but don’t mock

perceive it or they  will rob your cloak

give in not to the stroke

to steal they had to conceive an idea

  I had to be decisive

a…

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they waved back

bright a morning I wake up

brilliantly lit is the new day

as the golden fiery sun sheds her strength

luminous rays radiating beauty

life-sustaining energy they give

nature receives and prospers

  in the warmth of its heat

hopes and dream are comfortably ensconced

drying overnight’s tears charmingly

surreal is such beautiful experience

  to chirping robins I wake up to

so sweet the sound

how…

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Open the door

allow me in

to be permitted is all I ask

together in peace to dwell with you

to be among those counted worthy

in the land also to be honoured

a chance to be counted I seek

named to be among the elect I plead

sitting in the fore of the courts I need

with a voice that resonate authority

to be offered a platform to perform

to prove myself that am worthy

like all you I will show that I can be

without conforming I will perform

reformed I am now

successfully I have been transformed

informed much I am now

formed now is a person anew in me

free from the deformed then was me

allow me in, open the door

accept me for the change you see

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whence gone are the days of my youth

times of my purity I gambled with

the good night sleep no longer do I enjoy

all night I struggle to be calm and relaxed

haunting me are the past deeds every day

the thought of my youth days gone horrors me

then I could laugh with my heart

my eyes glimmering accordingly

sincere was my laughter

serenity ruled my soul

inner peace kept me composed

with a sound mind I chose well

hello, I love you, take care

gracefully and honestly I did compliment

a clown now I became

carefully rehearsed is all my speech and actions

to pitch and perform accordingly

counterfeit has become my personality

lost is in oblivion is who I was

redemption from these shackles is my prayer

free from this and to be again I plead

lost and unaware of love am i

fantasy is far from me

I long for the past days of real living

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Marriage Changes Nothing

I was stuck in a click-spiral, as happens on the internet sometimes, and ended up reading this list of random people’s complaints about shows. A lot of them were valid, like sudden character changes, but then I read this: 

Penny and Leonard getting married on Big Bang Theory. They have literally changed nothing about their lives or the way they relate to one another.

I feel like this had to be written by someone in my generation as I feel like the next generation doesn’t have this thought…but in case anyone does I wanted to post about it.

Marriage doesn’t magically change your situation. It’s a (rather outdated) legal document that can affect certain things, like who gets a say in what happens to your body after death, who can visit you in the hospital, tax issues, and citizenship status (if one spouse is not a native of the country where the couple lives). That’s it. Marriage will not: -fix relationship problems -make the person better (such as overcoming addiction) -solve any issues related to pregnancy -suddenly give you money -suddenly give you clarity

Penny and Leonard had setup a life that was within their financial means, near enough to their places of work, and near their friends. Getting married won’t change that. That’s why “nothing changed”. Nothing needed to change, and in cases of money, nothing could change. 

While we’re on the subject, I want to pass on a bit of advice: big weddings are absolutely pointless money sinks. I grew up in a culture that doesn’t spend a lot of money on weddings. The bride and groom are married in a church they or a family member attends (for free), usually wearing clothing they already own (or possibly rent). Someone makes a cake. Family and friends make foods to bring. Someone rents a few tables and extra chairs. A couple uncles take residence at the Alcohol Booth (to both create their own drinks and to prevent minors from partaking). Someone’s cousin is always a DJ. The venue is at someone’s house. I remember going to my first “white American wedding”, and I couldn’t believe it. The amount of money spent could have easily paid for a car and/or a good deposit on a new home (or outright purchased a home in some areas). I found out that this was the norm. People used up their savings, or the savings of their parents, and took out loans for this style of wedding. Living in Korea, I can say it’s the same type of culture here as well. 

Why is this exactly?  It’s tradition! What tradition was it for, anyway? It was basically an excuse for people living in the same village to pool their money together and have a party…something with alcohol, rich (fatty) food, and music…something different from their daily life. That’s why weddings happened. 

Does that really apply today? If you’re reading this and live in a developed nation (or even some developing nations), probably not. You can listen to music any time you like. You have easy access to food that contains too much fat and too many calories. You can grab alcohol for a low price. All the purposes of a wedding and “sparing no expense” no longer apply. You can still have a nice get-together to share your milestone, of course. Invite loved ones to your home, or meet at a place you like (a park, the beach, a restaurant, someone else’s home) and have a good time. Enjoy some food and drinks, watch a movie, play games, have fun! There’s simply no reason you need to drain your savings, your parents’ savings (if you have a good relationship with them), and/or take out loans from the bank. Just get together and enjoy the company of your loved ones.  Use that money to instead buy things that are going to last, or spend it on a trip to a country that you’ve always wanted to visit. 

I think the good thing about the next generation is that they’re curious about things, they’re angry about things, and they’re challenging things that previous generations (mine included) took for granted. Even something as “innate” to a culture as gender has been challenged, and I think that’s amazing. The pointlessly extravagant wedding culture is one of those things that needs to be challenged because marriage changes nothing. The next day, when the wedding is over, you’re still the same people living in the same place with the same job and same friends…do you really want to add pointless debt to that? 

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