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I am reblogging this as much of what is said here applies to straight women that like/want sex as well. Many men assume that if a woman likes and wants sex that we have no preferences and will fuck anyone with a dick that asks. They don't see us as worthy of relationships because we like sex so therefore we will cheat on them and of course have sex with anyone that asks. They will gladly use us till they find the one they want to marry not even considering we may want to be married also. They perpetuate the idea of us being so horny we do anyone and everyone by rushing to be there to 'get some' from us and be done leaving us because after all we have no feelings/emotions and don't care and don't see how they themselves make us jaded and make men jump through hoops in order to not be or feel used. The double standard of men are studs and women are skanky whores is alive and well and if a man (NOT ALL, but again too many) perceive you as a woman that likes and wants sex then we are giving it to anyone with a dick and they can't wait to be in line to get it and will believe they don't even have to try, just say 'wanna fuck' and we will give it to them. IF for whatever reason we say no to them after saying that then WE are the bitches and are then called a whore for NOT giving it to them. So much of what is said in the original post fits a woman that just likes and enjoys sex too and it is not right for anyone be they bi, lesbian, or straight to have to be or feel used or less than worthy of love and care based on our sexual preferences. Great post and worthy of a read, something else that many or most men seem to not do.....read something. It is usually too long or these particular men think they are so great and knowledgeable that they don't need to be told this, yet they are alone and can't figure out why.

No, I Don’t Want to be Your Unicorn

If you’re a bisexual or pansexual woman on a dating site, and you’re open about your sexuality, you’re almost inevitably going to be flooded with messages from heterosexual couples asking if you’ll be their third partner for a threesome or an ongoing, non-committal sexual arrangement. Couples that do this are called “unicorn hunters” - because what they are looking for is about as rare as a unicorn - and they are the bane of bisexual and pansexual women everywhere. This is especially, especially true for women who mention that they are open to non-monogamy. 

But when bisexual women complain about being unicorn-hunted, or attempt to discourage people from doing this, we are often met with bewilderment. Most of us have even encountered people who are downright offended that we don’t enjoy this practice. After all, there is absolutely nothing wrong with polyamory, sexual experimentation or casual sex between consenting adults. So why do bisexual women have a problem with unicorn hunting? Because:

It ruins dating apps for us. Unicorn hunters generally conduct their search by creating a dating profile for the woman in the couple, and putting her settings to “woman looking for woman”. Every bisexual or woman knows how frustrating it is to match with a cute girl on a dating app and get excited about the possibility of dating her, only to get the dreaded “Hi, we’re actually a couple looking for a third…” message. It happens over and over again. The dating pool for bisexual women who are seriously interested in dating other women is already shallow - having to weed through a sea of straight couples just makes it more frustrating than it needs to be.

It’s incredibly objectifying. Unicorn hunters usually talk about looking for a “third” the way they would talk about shopping for a pet - they’re looking for a “female” who is cute and will play with both of them. There’s generally little regard for who the bisexual woman is as a person, what she’s looking for, or whether she will get any kind of benefit out of this arrangement. The straight couple only care that she meets their extremely basic specifications, which often have the bisexual woman fulfilling the role of a living sex toy. Assuming that a bisexual woman might want to have sex with you and your partner because she likes women and men and you happen to be a woman and man is like insisting that the only two gay men you know should date each other - you are reducing a human being to their sexuality alone. 

It plays into stereotypes. Bisexual women - especially polyamorous bisexual women - already have to contend with the stereotype that they are promiscuous, “easy”, sexually available and have high libidos. Being constantly chased after by people wanting casual threesomes does a lot to reinforce these damaging stereotypes. Bi/pan/poly women are just as likely as anyone else to be looking for a long-term love connection with someone they feel genuinely compatible with, and many of these women may want romantic relationships that are minimally or entirely non-sexual, or relationships that only become sexual after a very long period of getting to know one another. Getting constantly hit up for casual threesomes with straight couples can make bi women feel like no one will ever see them as a serious romantic option. 

If we wanted this kind of arrangement, we would look for it. Every bisexual woman knows that this kind of arrangement is available. Every single one of us. If we were interested in pursuing this kind of arrangement, we would make it very clear. There are websites entirely dedicated to people who specifically want “unicorn” arrangements. Unicorn hunters, however, tend to disregard whatever bisexual women write on their profiles, and constantly approach bisexual women even if they’ve made it perfectly clear that they are looking for a long-term and serious romantic connection. 

We’re not here to fix your relationship. Unicorn hunting is usually a straight couple’s very first attempt to experiment with non-monogamy, and they pursue it for very similar reasons. There is usually some kind of issue in the relationship - boredom, restlessness, one partner’s libido not matching the other’s, unexplored bicuriosity, a desire to feel more ‘adventurous’ - and they think that having threesomes or “dating” a third partner as a couple will fix this. A couple choosing unicorn hunting over an arrangement like swinging or opening the relationship is generally a signal that there is some insecurity in the relationship; usually, it means that the couple is too jealous to allow hookups if the other isn’t present, or the man is uncomfortable with any arrangement that involves his partner being with another man. Being the bisexual “unicorn” in these situations involves getting thrown headfirst into months or years of simmering issues that you won’t be aware of until everyone’s pants are already off, and then having a high-stakes sexual encounter with two people who care about the health of their own relationship much more than they care about you. Not great. 

Long-term “unicorn” arrangements usually suck for us. “We’re looking to have a long-term girlfriend as a couple” is still unicorn hunting, and it still has all the same problems associated with casual threesome hunting, plus some extra ones. Being the “girlfriend” of a straight couple means being on the bottom rung of a relationship hierarchy - the “primary” couple’s relationship with each other will always take precedent over the bisexual woman’s relationship with either one of them. The couple may set very strict rules for themselves about when they are allowed to have sex with the “unicorn” and under what circumstances, but they will typically be free to have sex with each other whenever and however they want. Moreover, the first time that one of the couple have an issue with the “unicorn” - the first time someone feels jealous, or left out, or threatened, or they don’t think that the arrangement is appropriate after marriage/kids - the relationship with the "unicorn” will be terminated in order to save the original couple’s relationship. The unicorn’s feelings and desires will always come second. Polyamorous women are typically looking for situations where they are free to pursue as many love connections as they want, in a non-hierarchical arrangement; being locked into a relationship with just two people who consider their bond to be the “primary” one is not an appealing option for the majority of bi/pan poly women. 

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Re-blogging it as I still think this is a great blog post that is informative for all.

For men who dislike women posting how bad other men are online...an EXCELLENT REPLY!

I saw this posted by OkCupidSexcapades and just had to re-post it.  I have had men confront me about posting emails, although they have no names, from men that have been assholes and rude to me as well as worse.  I have unsolicited hate emails about my profile online.  I have had men approach me as if I was nothing more than a gutter snipe or a slut here to service them.  I have had men go from saying I am so pretty and they want a date to calling me every vile thing they can think of when I reply back that I am not interested.  When I am told that posting these makes ‘all men’ look bad and women start hating 'all men’, I reply that it doesn’t.  I am trying to show them what women go through online.  They may not be that kind of guy, but there are tons of these kinds of men out there and we have to face them every time we wake up it seems.  Well, this post and reply are one of the BEST replies I have ever seen, so I am sharing it now.  

Anonymous asked:

I’m a guy who’s earnestly looking for someone on Okcupid. Blogs like this make me so angry because I’m not like these men and your blog turns girls off of online dating so they never even give me a chance

OkCupidSexcapades answered:

I honestly do understand your frustration, but it is misplaced. The problem isn’t with women who are vocal about their bad experiences with men; it is with men who treat women badly. If lots of people had a bad experience with a restaurant and posted it about it on Yelp, you wouldn't blame the customers for sharing their experience, you would expect the restaurant to improve.

It’s the same idea here: Women don’t have a responsibility to keep it to themselves when men treat them badly, men as a whole have a responsibility to improve. If you actually aren't like these men, then you should be encouraging the men you know to treat women better or, at the very least, you should be reading through these blogs so you can better understand what it’s like to be a woman in the dating world, but you definitely should not be blaming women.

Gentlemen, no one 'owes’ you sex online or offline.  If it was YOUR daughter/sister you wouldn’t like men approaching them with their penis hanging out and saying “give me a bj’ or "wanna f*ck” I am sure you would KILL that guy.  Many men joke that they wish they were women and they would be down at the docks every day looking for sex.  In reality you would not because you wouldn’t like being treated like nothing more than a piece of shit.  When women like sex we are called whores not studs.  Even when we are not looking for sex, maybe we just want a friend, it seems so many men just have one thing in the back of their mind, how can I get her in bed?  IT GETS TIRESOME AND LAME to be seen as nothing more than a hole to be used.  If YOU were seen as nothing more than a wallet and no one wanted to talk to you or do anything with you other than take your money you would be pissed off SO quickly and you would speak out about it.  

Before you condemn women you think are giving you a difficult time trying to find a partner by posting these types of blogs keep in mind that it isn’t us with the problem.  Re-read that post and think of that restaurant that you would be grateful someone told you it had bad food and you don’t want to go there.  Realize that you as men CAN help by making the asshole men learn to behave in a more respectable way rather than telling women to shut up and take it.  You wouldn’t tell your daughters or sisters to just take it, so why do that to us?  Try to understand what it is like to have this crap in our lives every day online and offline and realize it isn’t so fun.

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THE MOST POPULAR ANSWER WHEN GUYS ARE TOLD NO.... FOR PETE'S SAKE FELLAS....

I have to tell you I honestly am not surprised. Instead of just blocking and deleting I TRIED to just talk to this one. He contacted me giving me his digits and his work history as if I only care about his monetary value, but alas, I did POLITELY talk to him and asked him a few questions first off. I asked him what he thought about cheaters and had he been cheated on. His reply was he had no comment on the first and he had been cheated on for the latter. I then asked if he enjoyed it and if he wanted to be cheated on again. Come on folks, this is logical right? I mean you do want to talk to someone and not just get shut down instantly, so I did walk him through this. He replied no he wouldn't. So I then proceeded to tell him he was asking ME to cheat for and WITH him. I questioned on his lack of concern for the man I am with and how he would make that man feel like he did and destroy my relationship and not care as long as HE got laid with me??? I noted my profile clearly says I am not looking so I wanted to know if he read it or if he just chose to ignore it.

He is 53. His profile consists of only this...... "I love satisfying a woman." IDEAL PERSON: Someone that is open minded when it comes to the bathroom."

This is what he sent me after I pointed out what he was asking me to do and his not reading or ignoring the profile...

MSG: Nice paragraph, but you got me all wrong. You didn't read my profile either. If you don't want to get hit on make hook up dates or whatever you want to call it. Then you should not be on this site adult friend finder is more like adult friend get laid type of website just like Ashley's websites the same way. Instead of you always putting down men because they contact you and then you put it in their face while you didn't read my profile then you should actually delete or totally remove yourself from this website It's not impossible. And one thing keep in mind quit trying to be Dr Ruth. Lol 3/5/2023 8:36 am

NEXT MSG: And to be honest with you if you were such a happy woman that you were in a happy relationship this is actually the wrong website for you to even be on. The famous saying is you're calling a kettle black when you're doing the same thing. But the difference between me and you is I'm single you're not. 3/5/2023 8:38 am

I am no longer surprised that when told no the majority of men do this 'then get off the site' crap. It is so common and honestly stupid that I just point and laugh now. The site is an adult social network, not a free online whorehouse. So many men believe that all the women on here are free whores they just bought with their membership and don't get women can and DO have the freedom to say NO to you!! If I get 5 emails in a day I am NOT having sex with 5 different men EVERY DAY!! His flailing around trying to justify this is hilarious. I am not a kettle calling a pot black as my profile does NOT say what his does at all. I am not even looking!! I did NOT contact HIM looking to meet up.

Maybe he wants a woman open minded on the bathroom thing because he is actually a piece of shit??? I also sent him a list of the other people on here, including men, that are NOT looking to get laid with a note telling him to contact them and see what they say when he tells them they belong on another site. LOL

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WTF? This is the most DISGUSTING 'first message' I have ever received!! What type of asshole says this??

Assoles and stupidity are not just for the young. A 66 year old man 838 MILES away in another state that I NEVER talked to before sent this to me for a FIRST message, now don't puke!!

****Hi, You are sexxxy, yes I can rub one out, with the thought of suckling your nipples till they swell as if they were to pop, you sucking my large eight inch hard cock, while I lick your clit like a kitten licks up a bowl milk, pausing to suck your count now am again, slipping two fingers in your pussy to massage your g spot, you voraciously suck my balls am cock as if they were your only source of norishment.****

I just was like WHAT THE FUCK!!! What kind of special jerk thinks women want to read this shit let alone get excited and want to meet you when they read this?? I absolutely am NOT going to look at some guys ball sac and think of sucking it as if it is ANY kind of nourisment (correct spelling) nor do I look at kittens and bowls of mild and think 'oh I want that done to me'. EVERY guy that writes this shit uses the same stuff like the suckling nipples till they pop and they have these amazingly huge 8 or 10 inch dicks, slipping in 2 fingers, massaging the g-spot blah blah blah Voraciously is usually used in there, but NOT like this. This is a first on sucking balls as nourishment. EWWWWWW! I am wondering if he had a daughter would he tell her to suck balls like they are the only source of nourishment?? I BET NOT.

It gets better, his profile.... eyes rolling here.

My Ideal Person: Honest, trustworthy, loyal and compassionate... oh yeah, outgoing, sensual an horny! ! ! Seeking 50 - 70 preferably 60+ yrs, small, slim, average, athletic, petite 5' 2" - 5' 6", breast size 32/ 70, 34/ 75, 38/ 80, 40/ 85, nice ass, not into big ass, a nice dancers body, monogamous ltr sexual partner. Love receiving and giving oral, dtf, making love or just raw sex, and mutual masturbation, hard dick seeking, sweet sexxxy pussy . . . live, love, laugh (preferably a female 50 - 70yrs plus, that like oral attention and reciprocating same) Yes, we searching for each other, not giving up. Getting a hard on, thinking of YOU ! ! ! (end of profile)

WOW, talk about thinking he is at the sluts - r- us drive through!! Note the honest, trustworthy, loyal part. My profile says clearly I AM NOT AVAILABLE - DO NOT CONTACT ME FOR MEETINGS OR DATES I HAVE WHAT I WANT!" So he wants me to CHEAT on this guy to be with him??? WTF! I am also NOT petite, I stand 5' 9" tall and I defer to what woman is going to look into the mirror and say "Oh my ass is not too big YEAH ME!" or "Damn, my ass is not nice, I can't meet him, boo hoo." ??? NO ONE!!! I give him credit only on he is looking for someone 50-70 and NOT a 20something woman. That is the only realistic thing he has!! Let alone I am going to go 838 MILES to meet him?? I sure as Hell don't want him HERE!!

Fellas, take note that ignorant assholes like this is who ruin it for you! When guys like this are there and back up our message centers with this vile crap as total strangers that is why we don't read messages and/or reply. One may like this talk, but normally it is within a relationship you are already in. There may even be women that do like and want this kind of talk, but nothing in MY PROFILE says that I want anything like this. I, in fact, said I don't want to be contacted for meetings at all, not that if you want me to suck your ball sac then it is okay. Jeesus Christmas this just is so wrong on all levels.

Oh yeah, and he also had a picture of his 66 year old dick as if that would sway me. ALL MEN have a dick, not BEING a dick is the trick!!

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Why do guys post this crap and think it will get women to run to them??

I don't get it, I just don't get it. What kind of mentalitly do you have to have towards women if you think women will see a profile like this and want to meet you??

PROFILE:

Need someone who enjoys SEX LOVE giving oral

IDEAL PERSON:

HORNY WET HAIRY FUN

Seriously????? All the caps and grammer are copied exactly like he posted and he is one of many that do this shit. Women don't want to be viewed as 'horny wet hairy fun'. We pretty much prefer to be seen as a person, a human at least, not just a wet fun hole for a guy to use. He has no specifics outside of that so why not just get a hooker asshole?? What guy looking for sex wants someone that does NOT enjoy sex???? That is stupid. Of course, LOVE giving oral - okay you love giving or you want a woman that will love giving it to you? Again, now you want a suck machine that you are giving nothing back to if it is the latter. In fact, nothing in this profile says anything that would 'give' a woman anything but the feeling of being used.

Guys, ALL MEN have a dick. Quasimodo had a dick. NO ONE is fucking him!!! If you ARE a dick you will fail. Treating women like we are 2 holes and 2 tits is not going to get you anything but ignored!!! Grow the fuck up!! TOO MUCH PORN!!

UPDATE: I don't know how to add a photo to this now, but I wish I had put it in originally as you wouldn't believe what this douche bag looks like.

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Guys, talk about CHASING women away? Living the 40 Year Old Virgin honestly....

I still can't get over this. I have mulled it over for a week before writing. This is absolutely, seriously, and word for word an email and some blog posts a 57 year old man wrote on his profile. Yes, he wanted people to see them in an effort to meet a woman???? Yeah, keep that in mind and get ready. This is how to NOT meet women and how to actually CHASE THEM AWAY!!

He is 57 and lives in Nevada and wrote this..

POST/EMAIL: Needing a cock sucking slut NOW. I'm here in Reno with a fully loaded 8" multiple cum cannon for your pleasure.

REALLY?? You think calling women cock sucking sluts and want to order up one NOW followed by that absolutely hilarious description of your dick?? LOL OMFG an 8" multiple cum cannon, of course for OUR pleasure not your own... GUYS!!! YOU LOOK LIKE TOTAL FREAKING ASSHOLES WITH THIS SHIT!! Would you want men looking at your sister/daughter/mother as nothing more than a cock sucking slut to use and dispose of???? I can just see the movie the 40 YOV as the men talk one way till the women come in and they stop knowing they look like fools and assholes. I have seen so many men claim they are offering up their dicks 'for our pleasure' as if they are taking one for the team or going out of their way and stopping what they are doing so WE can have fun not them. Honestly assholes?????

Now I looked further at his blogs. This was next:

POST: I'm needing a tight TS/CD ass to pump and breed here in Reno. 57,IN SHAPE ,rock hard for your pleasure. Like to PNP and fuck for hours. Ready willing and able....clean polite and handsome Waiting on YOU.

Again WOW... the use of the word 'breed' here. A TS/CD can't breed, they can't have babies!!! Looking to a female using the word breed is just disgusting as we are not cattle nor a dog/cat you breed to sell puppies or kittens from. Of course back to the 'for your pleasure' shit. Yeah, he will get nothing out of it, it is all for us!! Blah blah blah. I think he totally blew the 'polite' part in what he stated in this post.

He wasn't done, here is another:

POST: Busting my ass to get back in great shape. Not there yet but by summer I will be back to my ideal weight. My dick was never small to begin with but as I keep stretching my leg and back muscles....it seems my cock is getting bigger. At 57 I'm feeling like how I did at 25......but with lots of experience.

OMFG this guy is an idiot!! Your dick does NOT grow from stretching your leg or back muscles. In fact, your dick doesn't grow at the age of 57!! Those things you see on TV do not make it 'grow' they only make the blood flow better so it seems harder or bigger when it is not. Guys buy that shit because they truly believe women want baseball bats rammed in our vaginas from watching too much porn! Thank goodness NOT ALL MEN are that ignorant, but too many are.

I know this is a long post, but I couldn't just omit those posts. WHY so many men do this I don't know, but it does NOT get you meetings let alone dates!!! You look like a complete and total jack ass loser especially being 57. I am not saying it would be better for a 20 year old to say this, but at least you could blame it on foolish youth and inexperience. I have no excuse I can even apply to a 57 year old jerk saying this shit, calling women cock sucking sluts, and thinking we will rush to service him. Oh yeah, it is for OUR pleasure!!! NOT!!!!! Even women that want to hear those words don't want to hear it from total strangers!! That is reserved for someone they are in a relationship with. It is NOT OUR PLEASURE to service you like a free hooker/whore. YOU are ejaculating, not us getting anything out of it.

Now before another person, keeping it polite, comes along to inform me that there are women that get off on just sucking a man - Yeah, there are, but they are few and far between and again, normally, do NOT do that with total strangers!! The ones that do that are usually hookers and want money for it, not just some woman that just sucks strangers off for 'her' pleasure. Again, think of men approaching your daughter/sister/mother to use them to get off and toss them away. You would be so pissed off you would seriously hurt that guy.

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How to spot a fake? NOT DIFFICULT!!

Yeah, I just got this message today. He is in Azerbaijan some 6007 MILES away and seriously wrote this including with a photo of some young, hot stud as if it was him. He is supposedly 34.

MSG: Hello. You have a very interesting profile, you are charming. I propose to start communication to get to know each other better. A little about myself - Sagittarius, I have higher education, I am fond of sports, I read books, I like to travel. No wife, no children. Easy going, intelligent, physically fit, with a great sense of humor, patient, reserved, can be wild if necessary, love to give sexual pleasure as much as to receive, adventurous, communicative and open-minded. I dream of starting a new life with a clean slate, with new emotions and adventures. I want a serious and long-term relationship. I am looking for a woman who will accept me for a long time, teach me how to be happy with her, raise me under herself, take care and support me financially for a while. I am trainable and adaptable, quick on my feet, obedient and loyal. Ready to move in with you at any time. If you need more pictures, email me - I have plenty :-)

WOW, what a catch right? I am going to support HIM?? He wants a long-term, serious relationship and my profile clearly states - I am not available! Do NOT contact me for meetings or dates!! Now how obvious is it that this is a copy/paste message??? NO ONE with half a brain contacts someone with a profile saying they are not looking/available and writes you have an interesting profile and are charming then proceeds to ask to get to know each other better. The most laughable part is that stuff about raising him and supporting him, being obedient and loyal as if he is a pet, and of course 'ready to move in with me at any time!!' LOL Yeah, not happening.

I can't help but feel bad that there is someone out there that WILL fall for this crap.

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I am not like the others!! Ever hear that before??

I say that because this guy sent me a message stating how he is not like the others. He wanted me to know that. Now keep in mind my profile states clearly I am NOT available. No chatting for meetings and such. I am not looking at all. He is 69 and is in another state, not even my own. This is what he wrote:

MSG: Love Ur attitude and I feel the same! ! am totally real, read my profile and decipher my contact info in it! If U can get to me, look to hear from U !! if not I wish U good luck! I do like Ur beautiful legs, nylons, and shoes! ...I PROMISE U I AM NOT LIKE OTHER SO CALLED MEN ON HERE!! EagleOne751

Nothing in my profile even hints at I want to meet someone. His message IS generic and doesn't even show he actually MAY have read my profile. So what, he thinks I am a liar? He thinks I am stupid and have low self esteem so if you give compliments I will go against my own profile and chat with you, meet you, and you will magically get your dick in my pussy???? NOOOOOOOO!!! That is actually MORE insulting to send this shit if you did read my profile and hope I am a liar and a stupid whore and would drop trow for you just because 'you are not like the other men."

YES YOU ARE LIKE THE OTHER MEN!!! I rant about the assholes in my profile that DO write me thinking they have a magical dick or something that I will just fall all over and leave my own preferences behind and let them fuck me. Sending me something saying you LOVE my profile and giving a compliment with it, but then stating EXACTLY what the others do - that you want me to read your profile, contact you, and you will hopefully get some pussy - YOU ARE EXACTLY LIKE THE OTHER MEN!! This is NOT a compliment at all.

Now as I said, I think this is a copy/paste message and had he actually READ my profile I doubt he would have sent it. I still think it just shows he is an asshole like the rest.

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For men who dislike women posting how bad other men are online...an EXCELLENT REPLY!

I saw this posted by OkCupidSexcapades and just had to re-post it.  I have had men confront me about posting emails, although they have no names, from men that have been assholes and rude to me as well as worse.  I have unsolicited hate emails about my profile online.  I have had men approach me as if I was nothing more than a gutter snipe or a slut here to service them.  I have had men go from saying I am so pretty and they want a date to calling me every vile thing they can think of when I reply back that I am not interested.  When I am told that posting these makes ‘all men’ look bad and women start hating ‘all men’, I reply that it doesn’t.  I am trying to show them what women go through online.  They may not be that kind of guy, but there are tons of these kinds of men out there and we have to face them every time we wake up it seems.  Well, this post and reply are one of the BEST replies I have ever seen, so I am sharing it now.  

Anonymous asked:

I’m a guy who’s earnestly looking for someone on Okcupid. Blogs like this make me so angry because I’m not like these men and your blog turns girls off of online dating so they never even give me a chance

OkCupidSexcapades answered:

I honestly do understand your frustration, but it is misplaced. The problem isn’t with women who are vocal about their bad experiences with men; it is with men who treat women badly. If lots of people had a bad experience with a restaurant and posted it about it on Yelp, you wouldn't blame the customers for sharing their experience, you would expect the restaurant to improve.

It’s the same idea here: Women don’t have a responsibility to keep it to themselves when men treat them badly, men as a whole have a responsibility to improve. If you actually aren't like these men, then you should be encouraging the men you know to treat women better or, at the very least, you should be reading through these blogs so you can better understand what it’s like to be a woman in the dating world, but you definitely should not be blaming women.

Gentlemen, no one 'owes’ you sex online or offline.  If it was YOUR daughter/sister you wouldn’t like men approaching them with their penis hanging out and saying “give me a bj’ or “wanna f*ck” I am sure you would KILL that guy.  Many men joke that they wish they were women and they would be down at the docks every day looking for sex.  In reality you would not because you wouldn’t like being treated like nothing more than a piece of shit.  When women like sex we are called whores not studs.  Even when we are not looking for sex, maybe we just want a friend, it seems so many men just have one thing in the back of their mind, how can I get her in bed?  IT GETS TIRESOME AND LAME to be seen as nothing more than a hole to be used.  If YOU were seen as nothing more than a wallet and no one wanted to talk to you or do anything with you other than take your money you would be pissed off SO quickly and you would speak out about it.  

Before you condemn women you think are giving you a difficult time trying to find a partner by posting these types of blogs keep in mind that it isn’t us with the problem.  Re-read that post and think of that restaurant that you would be grateful someone told you it had bad food and you don’t want to go there.  Realize that you as men CAN help by making the asshole men learn to behave in a more respectable way rather than telling women to shut up and take it.  You wouldn’t tell your daughters or sisters to just take it, so why do that to us?  Try to understand what it is like to have this crap in our lives every day online and offline and realize it isn’t so fun.

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WOW...this is wrong on ALL LEVELS!!! Where do some guys get these fucked up ideas about sex and what is 'badass' as he put it?

Seriously, as you read this, this is a REAL message from a REAL person. I won't even call him a man, and he wanted to do this to me with his friend? This is so fucked up I can't begin to find a word to describe it.

This 44 year old man just wrote to me. His handle is an instant red flag as he uses "9inchesandthk2." Keep in mind MY profile says clearly and in big, bold letters, "I AM NOT AVAILABLE. DO NOT CONTACT ME FOR MEETINGS OR DATES!" He sent me this photo and said, "This is me right now" and included that photo. He received my auto reply, which reiterates that I am not available." He then wrote, "You are quite a bitch I must say, never mind!" Well here is the really wrong part, his profile says this...

**I want to fuck a guys girlfriend or wife while my buddy gets a blow job. Then we take turns on her while her husband or boyfriend watches. I think that would be bad ass!!**

That is why he ignored my profile! What kind of a person goes around, with his 'friend' nonetheless, asking women to make their husbands/boyfriends watch them treat a woman like a whore/slut/piece of shit????? "I" am a bitch for not wanting this, even though at the time he wrote that I had not even seen his message to me as I wasn't online. That was his response to my auto reply, which I clearly wrote in it that it is an online answering machine message.

There is something inherently wrong with men that want to use women like this with a friend and make the man they are with watch them do it. Had my profile even remotely said something that would hint I was into that I could have seen contacting me, but I have NOTHING that would say, hint, or even whisper I would want that. NO MEANS NO FELLAS!!! Looking for sex with a woman that clearly is NOT available for it and trying to get it anyway is to me like being a rapist in the making. That is why I am posting his photo. This guy is totally creepy, disgusting, and should be avoided at all costs. I wrote back and told him if he had a daughter or a sister would he like THEM being treated like this by men? Would his mother be proud of him for this behavior? I hope to GOD he doesn't have a daughter. This man is SICK.

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Would you recommend that your daughter do this??

I say that because so many men use these lines, thankfully not all of you, but too many do, and I often wonder if they had a daughter would they say "do this" to them. What am I talking about?? Well this guy sent me this photo and 2 words..

MSG: Fuck buddy?

Okay, he is 37 and I am 56. He has no photo on the profile so he sent that to me, how special am I?? I am guessing he saw we were only 10 miles apart so "close" to him equates to 'easy pussy??" I am not sure why though. LOL Apparently he thinks I am a whore and all he has to do is ask if I will let him use my pussy and I will say yes. Ummm.... that isn't happening. I have never talked to him before and I am not talking to him now other than I did ask him if he had a daughter or a sister would he tell them to let some strange guy that blurts out "fuck buddy?" to go have sex with the guy without talking or anything? His profile says, "If you don't intend on meeting don't message me." Well MY profile says clearly and in huge, red letters, "I am not available. Do not contact me for meetings or dates." I am not sure where he thought he would get to be a fuck buddy with me without meeting me, but it is NOT a compliment to tell a woman that you think she is a useless whore and should just have sex with you because you asked for it. You could have a disease. Hell you could be Ted Bundy or Ariel Castro!! Why would anyone think you just shove yourself at a woman you can't even say HELLO to first and you will get sex???? What is wrong with you guys that do this??? I ask honestly, would you tell your daughters/sisters "Hey if a guy just walks up to you, you never saw him before and don't know him, but he wants to fuck you... well go ahead and fuck him honey." I am betting NO FATHER and NO BROTHER would say to do that.

I will update this if he replies!!

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What is wrong with guys?? Good men get ignored because of assholes like this, honestly!!

WHERE TO START..THIS IS SO STUPID IT IS PATHETIC!!

Yeah, this guys says he is 41, but acts like he is 4. He is also 914 MILES away in another state. He writes this to me with no prior contact..

MSG: No? As in yes!!!

I wrote back: Only if you are a rapist. Any man that can't respect a woman's boundaries or preferences is clearly violating her space and person and no one I would want anything to do with.

His reply..all four of them...

Reply 1 - are you a psychopath

8/25/2021 3:16 pm

Reply 2 - I’m not attractive? Blahahaha you are delusional. I’m gorgeous and far outta your league. But I don’t need your approval because your opinion mean ZERO lmao

8/25/2021 3:18 pm

Reply 3 - Now get outta my inbox you weirdo

8/25/2021 3:19 pm

Reply 4 - Go update your AARP or something grandma

8/25/2021 3:20 pm

Amazing, I am all those horrible things yet HE contacted me and forgot that as he told me to get out of HIS inbox. He violated MY inbox first and thought I would be okay with someone forcing themselves into my space and life. Btw he is really ugly, not such a catch as he wishes to portray himself. He also has a child!!! I can't help but think how sad that this is their role model. I wonder if guys like that are okay with men forcing them to suck their dick or take it up their butts....lol If I was so old and ugly why did he contact me in the first place hoping for sex?? What does that make YOU if you contacted me and I was so horrible??? LOL

This is why women stop answering messages on here!! A**holes like him ruin it for good men.

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TALK ABOUT NOT THE WAY TO START ANYTHING OTHER THAN YOU GETTING BLOCKED...

Yeah, this is another child. He is 25 and has never talked to me before. HIS profile says "NO MEN NO MEN" and he wants that respected, yet he ignored MY profile to tell me he thinks I am a whore without using those words and I am not impressed....please note all three messages are within a minute....Yeah, this is what happens when you idiots keep thinking with your dick and you totally have no manners at all...if you think I should expect these messages then you should expect to be IGNORED and blocked!! MSG 1 - Heyy maa you tryna have sex or what 8/17/2021 6:16 pm MSG 2 - im down to get dirty with you 8/17/2021 6:16 pm MSG 3 -I am being straight up i just wanna fuck u and suck some titties and toes 8/17/2021 6:19 pm Yeah, NOT impressed. So HE wants to use me for sex and to play with my boobs and ignore my own guy to let him do this. If you want your profile respected and don't want men contacting you try actually respecting the other person's preferences on their profile the same way you want yours respected rather than think at 25 you get to do anything you want and women just take your order. ASSHOLE!!!

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BIGGEST 'first message' fail I have seen to date. WTF????

I honestly can't say I have had a worse 'first message' in my life than this one. I don't know this person and have never talked to him before EVER! He contacted me out of the blue. He is 27 and is in Iowa and I am in Michigan. This is seriously the message and in full not edited...

Msg: For every guy that ask you for anal on here, I will take one dick in the ass. Deal?

Who the fuck writes THAT as a first contact?? I honestly had to reply and I asked why did he send that to me? If he wanted something in his butt it does not depend on my participation. I said we would never meet and it sounded childish. Get this, he replied "That's why I wrote it." I asked him if he wrote it because it sounded childish? He replied, "No, because we will never meet."

Okay, you men are having trouble enough getting women to talk to you let alone meet you and this douche bag comes alone with this???? I repeat this constantly, MEN ruin it for MEN! Women are not just being jaded for no reason. It is assholes like this sending out stupid crap as if they were a 10 year old sneaking a look at a Playboy magazine. I admit he got me to answer as it was just so beyond ignorant, but he got blocked 5 seconds after I flamed his ass for being a jerk and bothering adult women like that. Yeah, there probably is someone out there that would like this, but there is absolutely nothing in my profile that says I want this. It is just more clutter in the inbox from another douche bag taking up space that a good man/person could have occupied.

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CREEPYYYY!!! Why do men send this stuff unsolicited and as a first message??? EWWWWW!!!!

I received this message, and it is a first (now last) message as well. Why would you send this to a total stranger from 1500 MILES apart and think a woman would enjoy this? MSG: I know we both are far from one another...but I have to say... I would love to take my time licking sucking slurping swirling lapping licks around and in your love and sliding deep into your love and milk every drop creampieing you as many time I can...

Okay, I am going to start with this and finish with the content so please read all of it... A total stranger that would see you one time and you know nothing about them - they could be a Ted Bundy type or have some disease, and they want to just invade your life. I am with someone and he ignored that and didn't care if it would ruin or destroy MY relationship with this. He only cared that HE got what HE wanted. As for the creampie... there is NO WAY IN H*LL I would let a total stranger have unprotected sex with me.

Now for content - all that stupid shit over and over from men as if women like to hear slurping, sucking, swirling, lapping???? REALLY??? Do you guys have a book of terms that YOU like so you think women like this? ALL MEN can do these things; however, because you have a dick and can do those things does NOT equate to we will CHOOSE YOU!! Most women do not choose men that are assholes at the start so why do you start that way??? Yeah, I have yet to meet a woman that is not a hooker that thinks she wants a guy that doesn't care about her, who she is, what type of feelings she has, and is going to just use her and toss her in the garbage afterwards. Yeah, that is NOT happening with most women. KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE!! Nothing I have written anywhere says treat me like a skanky whore and I will let you use me like one. DO NOT SEND THIS SHIT UNSOLICITED!!! I give credit only in that he didn't send me a freaking dick pic. I am so sick of seeing giant, inflated PHOTOS of men's dicks. It is a dick.. if you ARE a dick I don't care about the first one!!!

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These are the most annoying messages!!!

I can't believe it every time I get one of these. I am not sure why so many men do this, but too many do. This happens on Twitter, Facebook, and just about all social media platforms too. This man is 1000 MILES away. Yes you read that correctly, 1000 MILES away. I will remind you that my profile says in no uncertain terms, "I am NOT available! DO NOT contact me for meetings or dates! I have what I want and am happy." The photo I have up of me says, "No longer available." That can't be any clearer right? Enter, copy/paste message guy:

MSG: So sorry to infringe on your privacy,Its said that 'A picture is worth a thousand words, but when I saw yours,it was more than words could explain.The charming profile is resistible,though a little personal message but your look tells a lot about a nice person...so i had to drop a message to the charming person with this great profile.Just want to know you better and be a friend or more. Hope to hear from you sometime.. Carlos Xxx

Okay, so he apologizes and then proceeds to ignore everything about me. If the picture is worth a thousand words the three words of NO LONGER AVAILABLE should have spoke volumes, but you see he never READ the photo or the profile obviously. He 'had to" write me and the comment of "this great profile" is just laughable. He wants to get to know me better or be a friend.. OR MORE! Of course, that 'or more' is have sex with me. It doesn't matter that "I" am not available and NOT interested in meeting someone because I am with someone, he wants to have sex with me so I therefore should cheat and be a whore. I am sorry, but to think that asking me to be a cheating whore is NOT a compliment. It is selfish and rapey to me. I did write him back before blocking him and not only pointed out how much of a fucking jerk he looked like with that, but how insulting it was to think I would go 1000 miles to let him use me like a whore. I wished him that he would find a woman he really loved and she would cheat on him and see how he liked it and that it would happen 10 fold over. I also wished him nothing but men to contact him as he specifically wrote "NO MEN" on his profile in bold caps. I have nothing against gay people, but if you go out of your way to write in YOUR profile no men and then contact someone who specifically said do not contact me for meetings or dates then I hope you get nothing but the messages YOU don't want and see how you like it.

If anyone bothered to take the time to READ A PROFILE before you say you love it they would save themselves looking like a complete and total, ignorant asshole aside from they would be rejected less. Why set yourself up for rejection like this??? NO MEANS NO!!! Don't tell me to remove my profile either just because you can't get with me. I am not signed up on an online whorehouse, it is a social media platform. One can be there for a myriad of reasons. It isn't just to find someone for sex!!

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60 years old and he uses a copy/paste message??? He obviously didn't read the profile....

I don't think I will EVER understand why so many men think women are so stupid let alone....he is in Pennsylvania and I am in Michigan. My profile IS clear stating in the very first line 'I am not available, do not contact me for meetings or dates. I have what I want and am happy.' Do you have any idea how freaking ignorant you look to send this shit to someone who is NOT available and not looking to meet anyone as they are IN a relationship?? I just don't get WHY you folks do this and assume we are all going to fall for fake compliments when it is so obvious you did NOT read the profiles at all.

MSG: WOW WOW WOW, you're such a beautiful hot woman, and no man in his right sense would go pass your profile without saying i, i know i might be late as you must have gotten a lot of attention that you needed on here, but i would appreciate if i get a reply back from you and i hope we could get to text much as i don't get on this site often, i really would be looking forward to read back from you and i would appreciate if you send me a text to this number so we can get to chat more and talk over the phone (xxx) xxx-xxxx... I would be looking forward to read from you on my phone. enjoy the rest of your day and have a lovely night rest.

So you ASSUME I am going to say "wow wow wow" because you thought I was so hot and then drop everything in my life to respond to you?? It is even on the photo that I am NOT looking and this guy has been here since 2017!!! Why he hasn't figured out that copy/paste messages don't work yet I don't know, but aside from that he is in PENNSYLVANIA and I am in MICHIGAN!!! I am not desperate for a man to the point of I go to another state nor do I want someone like that coming HERE!! I am WITH someone so your supposed compliment actually equates to you think I am a cheating whore. That also means you think you are going to get a quick romp in the hay then disappear after you got what YOU wanted. Maybe some on here want that, but I DO NOT and my profile reflects it.

You are setting yourself up for failure with this crap fellas!!!!