recovering-radqueers

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Anonymous asked:

i think the anon that posted about seeing their old carrd going viral would be very happy to know that Lrentrycarrds deactivated recently. finally, no more people learning about and recruiting themselves into radqueer spaces. twitter has too many impressionable users, i get worried sick when someone brings up pro-contact communities on there. apparently the account owner was actually just bigoted too *

(Anon in question)

That's good to know! I really dislike accounts like this anyway. -Mod Ally

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Anonymous Said: (please keep this anon again!!) i figured i'd give you an update - the advice you gave me really helped, and the part is doing *much* better now! i'd also just really like others to know that hey, you can do things too - you aren't stuck in one place forever! you got this.

I'm really glad to hear that!! Shout out to you and the part, I'm so glad things are better. -Mod Ally

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but I always thought you were cool

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Terribly sorry for not answering questions right now! I've been very distracted by different issues happening in my life. Please know that you are loved and valuable, and you matter.

-Mod Ally

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timmy turner is anti radqueer!

for @free-willowmates

-mod charlie

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Pinkie Pie is anti radqueer!

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Is it OK if I request anti radq miché (regretevator) & eevee (pokemon) icons if that's ok???

I couldn't find images of Miché and it seems like the creator doesn't want the OC in the game anymore, so here is Eevee at least:

All Eevee from Pokemon are anti radqueer!

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Anonymous Said: umm hi im . im just kinda here to rant because ive held it in for a few months and i just . think maybe sharing it could help move past the embarrassment . input is fine , i feel like a jerk if i ramble and others feel obliged not to say anything ynkwo

so i was . apart of the community in like . early 2022 and left around mid 2023 probably (apparently some headmates still engaged with the community until 2024 but i dont remember this) and i never deleted anything from that era , my account is still existant , and until a few months ago , my carrds were still . available / not deleted

i think my worst nightmare happened , and i . Like. i was on twitter and i saw this viral post from an account making fun of bad rentrys and carrds , on my timeline. my heart fucking Dropped. i knew it was one of our old carrds, i couldnt remember writing anything on it but the background was so fucking familiar . i Knew it was ours.

hundreds of likes. tons of comments, a horrific amount of qrts. i knew nobody /knew/ it was me, but i felt like i had just walked into school naked. my skin felt raw. i felt like. like a lamb who just got skinned. a mutual of mine qrted the post, saying how disgusting the carrd was. how racist it was . how . Everything. it was

i figured out the log in into that carrd account, sure enough, it was in fact our carrd. i deleted everything. all my old rentrys and carrds related to my old account are gone. but . i went to delete the account ,and i saw someone in my dms, asking to be friends . and idk. i never actually had friends in the community, and . seeing someone asking to be friends just kinda. put me to a halt. i know realistically that i'd never rejoin the community because of one person , but i know us in 2022 only wanted friends in the community. i havent deleted my old account yet

2022 was the hardest year in a while for my mental health , and i joined the radqueer community because of that feeling of . community. like they'd accept me even at my worst , cuz i never felt that way anywhere else before. i confused my headmates identities for transid identities, and i never made a single friend in the radqueer community. i felt so alone in a community where "we're the only ones who will accept you for who you are" was [basically] the motto .

i wish i could defend myself against the carrd on that post. scream that itwasnt my fault , but it fucking was . i went back to the post of my old carrd just now and i genuinely cant even look at the carrd for more then half a second . and i hope thats . Proof . that im . not that same person anymore? but i just dont know how many people outside of recovered radqueers that would ever think of it the same way . im afraid that if i told someone i am a recovered radqueer, they'd only think i'm still that same person

i think there would be so many more recovered radqueers if . people outside the community weren't so violent. i think its why i still feel the way i do like i said in the previous paragraph . the amount of death threats i got , and i've seen others get while in the community; it made me feel unsafe. i think i would've left sooner and more comfortably if someone came to me in genuine concern , but i know it could be hard for some people to be able to feel concern for someone in that type of community

i mean , for the most part . my opinions have changed on radqueer topics. 'for the most part' sounds awful but i dont know what else to say about it . like you guys do on this aaccount ; finding alternatives for transid terms , and i think thats a beautiful idea that i fully support and recommend ,

i don't even know what to consider myself . for that stuff i said before, i feel uncomfortable calling myself an anti radqueer , because i know when i was in the thick of the community , as soon as i'd see that term , i felt nervous . it's a term that still makes me feel on edge. but im not inherently pro radqueer either . but saying im . radqueer neutral . feels like, a betrayal to either party?

to this day , this is actually the first time i've . self identified myself as a recovering radqueer . like, here in the ask box . i didn't want to send an anonymous ask here for a long time because the idea of there being no /actual/ anonymity via the anon button still makes me queasy , and so whoever is reading this ask with my actual account name attatched is the only person who knows this . hi admins .! thank u for all that you do<3

uuhm i think i shall go now , i am So so sorry for the long message..!!! i think i had a lot more to get out of my system then i realized . oi am So sorry

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Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing your story. And I'm sorry about not having an actual anon button, I've just seen a lot of radqueers send absolutely vile anon hate.

Your experience sounds really awful. I can relate to loneliness, so I definitely understand how painful it must've been. I think the RQC has a major problem You're allowed to feel grief and shame and still be a different person now. The fact that you deleted those old posts, and that it physically hurt to see them, shows how much you’ve grown.

It makes perfect sense to feel conflicted about labels like “anti-radqueer” or “neutral,” honestly. You get to move at your own pace. Labels are just tools, not boxes you have to stay in! If it's something you currently only dip your toes in/occasionally call yourself, there's nothing wrong with that. And yeah, unfortunately the anti RQ community does have an issue with being really agressive right now. I get why, it's mostly a community made up of angry traumatized people, but I think that in all that anger, people forget that there are plenty of innocent people who turned to the RQC because they were lonely and wanted a sense of belonging. It's not easy, but I hope you can try to tune out those particularly aggressive people.

That being said, I'm proud of you for calling yourself a recovering radqueer for the first time, because it sounds like it's going to be a step towards you moving forward without carrying the weight of your past forever. Please take care of yourself, okay? You deserve to heal and move forward without carrying the weight of your past.

I hope life is better for you nowadays! If you need any help finding places online where you can make friends, please feel free to ask. -Mod Ally

don't worry about venting or rambling! it's what we're here for :D - mod charlie

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i’m proud of you for facing the days you really don’t want to face

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Anonymous asked: hi, do you think we could get some dissoprince icons for silver spoon (III)? If not, just anti-rq icons for him is fine, thank you in advance friend

Silver Spoon is dissoprince and anti radqueer!

Separate versions with each flag are under the cut:

-Mod Ally

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holding yourself accountable and tearing yourself down are two different things

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Invite links to the Recovering-Radqueers community are open again! Click here to join.

Things have been quiet in there lately, but we would still love to see new people posting and talking about their experiences.

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Helloooo :3!! I saw u were doing some requests for anti rq pfps so can you do Hunter from the owl house? :o

Hunter from The Owl House is Anti Radqueer!

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(ignore how empty this blog is, I just didn't feel safe sending with my actual main even if I could request it being posted on anon)

I do just want to, first off, say thank you for this blog existing, I think the resources and posts it holds are really important.

Second of all, I wanted to share something: I'm someone with atypical dysphoria (and really bad atypical dysphoria in categories I'm frankly ashamed of experiencing), and I witnessed one of my favourite spaces, with people I really trusted, on the internet go from being anti-radqueer to frankly pro-radqueer in pretty much every way but name. And it happened so slowly, and they were so kind and trustworthy that I frankly didn't realise what I was agreeing with until they turned around and basically supported pro-contact discourse stances.

It's been really hard, to both realise how fucking radqueer that space had become and also come to terms with the fact I was basically peer pressured into becoming one myself. I have a lot of shit I found myself agreeing with because I trusted these people, that I now need to unlearn and it's so upsetting and frustrating frankly. And, of course, it's especially hard for me because I have severe atypical dysphoria and I trusted these people so much because they accepted that!

I guess what I'm saying is that unfortunately there's always a chance that the people around you will dip into bad shit, and there's nothing you can really do sometimes other than get the fuck out of there. There was no way in hell I was going to be able to tell anyone in that group that their beliefs nowadays were concerning at best, so I had to do what was best for me. Don't feel like you have to stay around people who are becoming increasingly concerning, no matter how much you trust and like that space. Keep yourself safe, put yourself first.

Thanks so much for this ask, I think you put things very well here.

I'm really sorry the space you were in became so gross. It's really disturbing to look back on, I bet. But, the good news is that you've gotten out of it now. I hope you recognize how big of an accomplishment that is, BTW! It's very hard to have to leave a space you're used to when it turns into something harmful, but it will always benefit you in the long run.

Thanks for the compliments, we're trying our best over here. I hope you have a good rest of your week! -Mod Ally

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Happy Monday, everyone! This is a video by a YouTuber who is a big inspiration for me, as he is a prominent scambaiter - someone who seeks out scammers to pretend to fall for the scam to waste their time.

In a future post I want to highlight a few specific videos of his and draw a parallel to anti radqueer topics. For now, feel free to check out this first scambaiting video on his channel and laugh at it with me. -Mod Ally

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BTW, if anyone has a specific identity label they're looking for help with in regards to dysfirming or non-harmful transitioning, you can send us an ask and I'll try my best to help you out! 🫂 -Mod Ally

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hi :( i need advice . i really really wanna start a f u l t . im not gonna, i KNOW everything thats wrong with that - but oh my lord it is tempting. i crave having leadership over people and getting to make the rules. its so hard to ignore. what should i do

So I have a couple ideas on how to help sort of replicate that leadership feeling

Roleplay groups, Look into roleplay groups on places like discord, roblox, forums, animal jam, etc. or you can always create your own, and give yourself ( or ask for ) a place of power within the hierarchy of the group , Becoming a king or queen, Being apart of the parliament (if they have one), Becoming a mayor, etc.

The Sims 4, Having entire control over a simulated word, You can choose how NPCs look, how your character acts, how their homes look etc. And it even goes down to their likes and dislikes, what pronouns your sim uses and so much more

I would also recommend character AI , having a fake character (one of your choosing or making) to follow orders, This is a bit similar to roleplay except not interacting with a real person or real people

These are my ideas, if anyone has any other ideas make sure to comment or send me a ask,