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"Imagine if the images didn't load on your dash!" Heheh. You fool. I don't have to. That's my usual experience on mobile.

You know what else doesn't load? Alt IDs. Sometimes text. I blindly trust that I will like my mutuals' posts.

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hey thanks for still following even though I forget to (or don't) post a lot of the time.

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Zero sense of personal space

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I'm so picky about what I listen to while I draw, because if I hear a video essayist mispronounce the subject of the video it drives me into a frenzy and I have to stop drawing and go calm down in time out. At least try to pronounce it correctly, instead of pretending not a single person can if you're making an entire video on it. You are speaking for half an hour, usually more, on a subject that you researched out of your own volition. You don't have to make fun of words just because you struggle to pronounce them. If you can spend a week editing in four hundred slide transitions and video clips, you can take the ten seconds to use an online dictionary to hear how it sounds and practice. It's in your first language. There is no reason to make an entire video and knowingly pronounce a word incorrectly for it, then admit you don't know how to actually pronounce it. And continue to mispronounce it. It's part of the research. I'm losing my mind.

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Rising demon or falling angel?

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I caught The Sickness and it took me out so bad. Avenging Angel Mae be upon ye.

ft. Gene, her best friend.

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I don't think I shared her. This is my Pretender doll, sans dress but with her underclothes I made. She's a softbodied custom, and incredibly top heavy. Her hair's messy right now because I made it from a cheap wig post-Halloween, and it does not like being combed or brushed, but I think it adds to her charm. She's made from a broken haunted doll prop with a malfunctioning voice box. I took her apart, removed the voice box, painted her up, gave her hair, and now I make dresses for her.

One dress is inspired by on-sale Christmas ribbons and a red themed bundle, one is made from a variety pack of fabrics, and one is centered around a pin I found with scraps from quilts.

The next one is going to be grey and white with flowers and faded teal ribbon, if I can settle on a design I would like to make. I'm not a professional doll or dress maker at all but it feels nice to create.

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I made her a second dress a while ago but never posted.

I made a book and I'm putting my doll dress designs in it

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So here's what happened on Reddit:

A transmasc posted about how transmascs and trans men are often invisible, how our issues are dismissed, and how resources, especially medical ones, are almost always written with non transmascs in mind. They posted this both to r/Trans and r/lgbt.

A moderator of r/Trans responded by telling them to “stop bitching.” That’s the word they used. That’s the level of respect trans men get. Transandrophobic by the way, don't call trans men bitches.

The comment was deleted, quietly, after backlash. Then the entire post was removed. When asked why, a mod responded that the post was “playing oppression olympics,” and took the time to go through and dismiss each of the original poster’s points, including saying that trans men being sexually assaulted isn’t “unique to transmascs” and therefore not an issue, and claiming that access to testosterone isn’t any more restricted than access to estrogen, which is a straight-up lie, because T is a tightly controlled substance in most places and E is not.

The original poster was banned for three days.

Then a separate mod made a post saying, “nobody asked us our side of the story,” which is wild because people absolutely did, publicly and repeatedly. Users also started reporting that they’d had supportive comments removed or had been banned after disagreeing with the mods, some of those claims are still unconfirmed, but given the general behavior, it wouldn’t be surprising.

Then r/Trans locked down entirely. No new posts. The conversation was forcibly ended.

Some people posted about it on r/FTM, many of those posts were mass-reported, automatically removed by Reddit’s automod, or quietly buried. Meanwhile, r/lgbt also removed the original post, with no explanation.

One of the r/Trans mods eventually posted an “apology,” which was really just a soft-scrubbed PR post full of noncommittal language and distancing. They said they didn��t mean to call a trans man “a bitch,” they just used it synonymously with “complaining,” and they didn’t think about the implications until later even though the first post was about microaggressions just like the mod committed. They did not apologize for anything else, not for wrongfully banning people, not for accusing a transmasc venting like any other user of playing oppression olympics, nothing at all. They said they’re on break and can’t do anything about it. They said, and I quote, “please don’t be mad at the rest of the team.” even though the rest of the team are just as culpable for not stopping their behavior.

They also added that trans men are “a welcome part of the community” and tried to point at moderation history as proof. Because apparently we should be grateful that people occasionally get banned, every so often, for implying trans men aren't oppressed at all, wow, thanks, that is like below the bare minimum, cool.

The current state of things is: r/Trans has over 600,000 members, and trans men and transmascs were silenced, banned, and told to shut up for bringing up their own oppression. And the subreddit is locked down. There’s a mass exodus happening to the new sub, r/trans4every1, but let’s be real, the damage has already been done.

Now let’s talk about what this actually means.

This is not “just more Tumblr discourse.” This isn’t some random blog saying they don’t like transmascs. This isn’t a Twitter reply guy. This isn’t a niche zine or a spicy personal take. This is a massive trans-focused subreddit with over half a million users. It's easily one of the largest public facing trans community online, maybe even the largest, I've certainly never found a bigger one myself. And the moderation team made it crystal clear: they do not want transmascs to feel safe or welcome there.

This is what transandrophobia looks like on a slightly larger internet scale. When it’s in the hands of people who get to decide who gets heard and who gets deleted.

And for anyone who’s still stuck on “well they apologized” listen: trans men are told all the time that we’re being too loud, too angry, too entitled, too manly, too feminine, too confusing, too “binary,” too "Nonbinary", too much. We’re told that we’re “oppression olympics-ing” just for talking about our lives. And now we're getting banned and locked out of the spaces that claim to represent a huge portion of online trans people.

This isn't just online drama. This is a bellwether. And if it isn’t setting off alarms in your head, it should be.

The way transandrophobia manifests in online spaces absolutely bleeds into real life, into medical gatekeeping, into poor data collection, into the erasure of sexual violence against transmascs, into advocacy groups that write us out of the picture, into educational materials that treat us like footnotes, if they include us at all.

And if you’re sitting there thinking, “well it’s not that deep,” you’re part of the problem.

We need to start being more honest about this: Transandrophobia is real, it is widespread, and it is growing. We need to stop giving people the benefit of the doubt when they’ve shown us they don’t want us in the room.

And frankly?

We need to start making TRFs [Trans Radfems & transmasc-exclusionary feminists alike] deeply uncomfortable being open about their beliefs. We need to make them afraid to be TRFs, the way they’re trying to make us afraid to exist.

The same way we don’t coddle fascists. The same way we don’t tolerate TERFs. We need to stop tiptoeing around transandrophobia.

Because this growing wave of transandrophobia is going to kill people. Full stop.

Protect trans men. Protect transmascs. Protect your siblings; all of them!

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Revenge upon the silly @crazysnor1ax :33c you thought you could escape me?

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Revenge upon my beastie @neko-chan-13 heeheehoohoo

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A little mass attack on artfight, for a group of silly creatures! I hope they enjoy their party!

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If you want to know when my streams start, or see what I'm up to more easily or share memes, I'm on Discord!

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My Art Fight mutual Beep-b00ps's foxhunter Clestine!

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More art fight attacks! I feel like I’m sieging people with art rn lol.

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Careful! I'm going to kill you! :33c

First attack of the year! The Beasties’ (@neko-chan-13 and @remadra) beasties are hanging out :3