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Transandrophobes idea of a perfectly 100% always passing trans man is completely reliant on nobody ever ever EVER figuring it out. It requires a fully transitioned, stereotypical cis man look all the way to his genitals and it requires all people (including doctors) prior to the transition to NEVER speak of him being trans.

Do people even understand how unrealistic that strawman they invented is?

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The argument of "trans men have privilege when they pass" is also so asinine because privilege isn't just "other men treating you nicer" it's getting unbiased and unrestricted medical attention, it's lower or no statistics of corrective sexual assault or impregnation, it's not having actual laws passed against your existence, it's not having to worry about passing in the first place, it's having historical figures retain their identity and not erased in some girl power misgendering bs, it's having your identity celebrated instead of treated like a loss of something pure.

If you think male privilege is just being treated like "one of the guys" in day to day life, you need to relearn a lot of things about privilege before you try to have these conversations.

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hot take enby & intersex people dont deserve to be misgendered in the process of looking for hrt resources because you guys wanna make e and t the "girl" and "boy" hormones and only think about perisex peoples transitions

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>pericis feminist: if [issue] affected men it would be free/easy to access/not made to be an issue

>look inside

>it does affect men and the men it affects are largely treated like shit by the establishment

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TOP SURGERY GFM

Hi all, I have a GFM for the expected out of pocket costs of my top surgery- what insurance won't cover and hospital stay. As many of you know I am disabled and can't work and well, governmental aid isn't looking too likely in this climate. If you have the ability to, or know someone who does and would like to make a difference in someone's life, I would appreciate passing it along!

Thank you!

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Today’s gender: fifteen stars

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anxious to even be making this post but i am just so scared and upset. a lot of people think this is just a "trend" going around on tumblr, reddit, or even tiktok but its genuinely not. the friends in my trans social circles are apparently saying disgusting things about trans men now too. please stop telling people that this is just an online situation because it's most certainly not. ive had disgusting things said about me to my face simply for being trans from other trans people. im tired of being labeled in derogatory ways simply for setting boundaries or for not feeling safe around those who hate trans men like myself. i genuinely feel uncomfortable in almost all trans spaces not just because of the name calling but because i know with absolute certainty that this community wouldn't be there for me or my trans brothers if we needed help. it seems like a lot of people would rather watch us drown while calling us "whining little theyfab bitches" instead of throwing us a float. i am tired.

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One weird experience of transitioning is failing at ur assigned gender role the whole time and everyone constantly deriding you for it but then u come out and it's like we lost a beautiful gender conforming warrior today. Must grieve for my wonderful child who pissed me off by being ugly and weird since day 1

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Today’s gender: fog coming in off a large body of water, curling up and over land and trees

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every day british actors wake up and think to themselves fuckkkkk i HAVE to help the incredibly bigoted woman make more money so she can funnel it into killing trans people i have to do it bro if i don't do it i will die

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if you tell an indigenous trans man to cut his long hair so that he "passes better" then im tying you to an anchor and dropping you in the middle of the ocean

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I think a lot of people who make mpreg jokes do it because they consider pregnancy something that 'tames' a person and 'knocks them down a peg'. They think pregnancy is something that marks a person as inherently submissive. Getting pregnant means being submissed to them.

They also think that male pregnancy is a feminist concept not because it recognises trans and intersex men as men, but because something 'feminine' and 'submissive' is forced upon a man. Because that's what pregnancy is to them - something that is done to a person. They think pregnancy is emasculating. Remember this meme?

To people like this it's a feminist line because a woman dominated a man by impregnating him. This is an incredibly fucked up and misogynistic view of pregnancy, and it also reveals the shallow understanding of feminism a lot of people have: masculinity is dominance and femininity is submission, so the idea of a man in a feminine position is inherently feminist, because he is submissed. Especially if he was put in this position by a woman, because then the switch is complete - the woman is the dominant one by forcing him into something.

And yes, I said the idea of a man in a feminine position is inherently feminist to them, NOT the man himself. The feminine position he is in makes him an object to be viewed and discussed, not a subject with thoughts and beliefs. The pregnant man is not a feminist, he's a feminist concept. That, I think, is the core of the problem with mpreg jokes - to people who make them, a pregnant man is an idea, a symbol, a fictional situation, instead of a real human being. They ignore the existance of actual men that can get pregnant in favour of the idea of them, because the first one has agency, and the second one has no agency (because he exists in their head). To people like that, pregnant men = blorbos jokingly impregnated by defying biology, or blorbos in omegaverse AUs, not the living, breathing trans and intersex men. They imagine pregnant men for many reasons: as a sexual fantasy, to make a joke, to declaw and tame them, but never to actually consider what it's like for real life men with uteruses. Pregnancy is just another situation they can put their blorbos in, not a real thing some men go through. So there's no space in their minds for the discrimination we face in gynecological and prenatal care, or the fear of being forcibly impregnated as a way to detransition us. Pregnant men are theoretical to them, just like catboys, so they get annoyed when we remind them that we exist and shoo us away claiming they're not talking about us.

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Can't believe it needs to be said but:

- It is true that the right wants left wing infighting because that makes it easier for them to subjugate minorities

However,

- Queer people coining new terminology to describe their own oppression is not queer infighting! To say so is incredibly disingenuous. By that logic, the coining of transmisogyny in 2007 was also queer infighting.

Labelling the existence and use of the term transandrophobia as queer infighting is horrifically transphobic. It dismisses the oppression of trans men and transmasculine people as just "infighting". Dismissing it as such is transparently just a way for people to plug their ears and continue to not listen to transmascs on transmasculine issues.

Queer infighting is not created by the existence of different queer people and queer theories - infighting is something that large groups are prone to that are exploited by those on the right wing. This is not unique to the queer community.

Right wingers don't create queer infighting, they exploit existing queer infighting for their own ends. Don't get it twisted and stand by your transmasculine siblings.

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If you as a trans man, transmasc, or queer masculine person uses transandrophobia to post, please make sure to boost poc voices in this tag!! Same for anyone who regularly post or boost the tag really. It was coined by a poc and absolutely should have our voices heard and I feel as if many of us end up being shoved down or white washed by the way people speak in the tag.

And boost that its and intersection of the *fear* of men and how that can be weaponized at different class levels!!

Those are two very important points that I feel are being blurred in this tag nowadays and it would really I think help with the confusion

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OH MY GOD.

one of my favorite books:

the description does not do it justice.

it is. SO good. and it's written in verse! it's such a beautiful story and the familial/societal transphobia is portrayed really well (nothing violent or super bad though). the two MCs relationship is complicated at times but so good and gentle and feels very real. you can tell a trans person wrote this book with how accurate the descriptions are. also, tumblr is mentioned in the first few pages.

i can't fully describe how much i love this book. just. everything about it is perfect. and i should read it again, i think.

You know what I wanna read?

Books with trans characters-particularly trans kids/teens-who are pre-transition. Like, the ones where they have their families with varying levels of support and can start blockers/hormones/social transition are great, and there's the ones where they CAN'T transition due to their culture/legal situation/etc-those are all good stories that need told, absolutely-but I want to read about trans people who COULD transition, who want to, but can't because they don't have the support/resources. Like, I want to read about trans people who have to improvise ways to cope with dysphoria, whose stories don't revolve around trying to get support from their family to medically transition. I want to read about your typical coming-of-age book where the main character is trans and out at school, presenting as their true gender etc. but as soon as they get home they start getting deadnamed and stuff and there's just...nothing they can do about it. They can't be stealth, can't escape the weight of being trans, even if they pass people still HAVE to know because their parents don't accept it. I want to read about the journey of being trans, about people with trans bodies and experiences that aren't just "in this universe transition is readily available and not more than a small administerial hiccup to pass before you can unlock Transphobic Comments and Being Stealth"

of course all these types of stories are important and amazing to read, any aspect of representation is imperative, but I feel like we could broaden it a little bit by considering the experiences of trans people who don't have the option to be who they are in more capacities than legal/social consequences or coming out stories.

I don't know if this makes sense but yeah. more trans rep across the board. please?

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I just realized…I’ve never been referred to with he/they pronouns. Literally ever. Only she/her. Brb gotta throw up

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Transmasc lesbian culture is people who have never studied linguistics in their lives telling you that your usage of words is wrong because it makes them personally feel uncomfortable

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